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Maybe This Isn't The Hobby For Me

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Hi all, first post so please be gentle!

I've been thinking of getting into this hobby for a long time and have spent several years plucking up the courage to actually take the plunge. I've organised three punts this year, one (an outcall with a Manchester agency) fell through when the girl was no-show and the agency hadn't rang me to cancel or organise someone else.... the other two have been incalls in London.

On both occassions I've found that nerves got the better of me and I couldn't "perform". I ended up with very lacklusture erections that made it impossibile to do anything. I've never had the problem in my personal life and despite actually getting quite at ease and having a lovely chat I never actually managed to "rise to the occassion". I really can't see what I could do differently.... is it just time to accept that there is something deep-seated that will not let me enjoy a decent punt?

Both girls I've been with have been very attractive - and the second one especially was exceptionally attractive and I had a lovely time with...albeit unable to actually do very much.

Does anyone have any tips? or am I doomed?

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Hi all, first post so please be gentle!

I've been thinking of getting into this hobby for a long time and have spent several years plucking up the courage to actually take the plunge. I've organised three punts this year, one (an outcall with a Manchester agency) fell through when the girl was no-show and the agency hadn't rang me to cancel or organise someone else.... the other two have been incalls in London.

On both occassions I've found that nerves got the better of me and I couldn't "perform". I ended up with very lacklusture erections that made it impossibile to do anything. I've never had the problem in my personal life and despite actually getting quite at ease and having a lovely chat I never actually managed to "rise to the occassion". I really can't see what I could do differently.... is it just time to accept that there is something deep-seated that will not let me enjoy a decent punt?

Both girls I've been with have been very attractive - and the second one especially was exceptionally attractive and I had a lovely time with...albeit unable to actually do very much.

Does anyone have any tips? or am I doomed?

No, you not doomed mate, you just need to find a decent escort, just because an escort is really good looking does not mean it's money well spent if she is not really bothered about your requirements. If she has a good personality and acts really horny and full on, you will get turned on, it's natural. If she just goes through the motions, you wont get horny, its quite obvious.

You could extend this out of punting as well, i have slept with a couple of lapdancers, both were shocking fucks, rough wild sex was off the agenda as they did not want to get sweaty or have a strand of hair moved out of place. I had erection problems with them!!

Its a difficult skill finding good quality escorts, if you on the other site, id say look for the girls with a few field reports (not FB as that too easily manipulated) but actual field reports that go into a fair bit of detail by different punters. When i have done that, it usually leads to a good punt, but it is time consuming having to find them and read them.

But dont lose hope mate, you just nee to find a decent escort.

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You say "nerves got the better", but what was the worry. Was the anxiety about performance or something else, worry about the unknown anxiety, I worried about the legality early on unless you can elaborate on that underlying worry we cannot really help by guessing. You have kind of hinted the girls might be too attractive? Did you consider "them out of your league", then choose a girl next door working girl. I agree with snogman; attitude and experience is much more important than being a '10' for working girls.

There are a few things to remember

You made the decision to punt,

You also make the decision to do what you want.

You get to define the measure of success.

The w/g has choosen to be there,

You are not there to please her, she expects you to be clean and respectful, that's easy.

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No, you not doomed mate, you just need to find a decent escort, j

Just because an escort is really good looking does not mean it's money well spent if she is not really bothered about your requirements.

But dont lose hope mate, you just nee to find a decent escort.

very true words, a good escort is one that has standards and wants to know what turns you on, and does exactly that.

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Hi all, first post so please be gentle!

I've been thinking of getting into this hobby for a long time and have spent several years plucking up the courage to actually take the plunge. I've organised three punts this year, one (an outcall with a Manchester agency) fell through when the girl was no-show and the agency hadn't rang me to cancel or organise someone else.... the other two have been incalls in London.

On both occassions I've found that nerves got the better of me and I couldn't "perform". I ended up with very lacklusture erections that made it impossibile to do anything. I've never had the problem in my personal life and despite actually getting quite at ease and having a lovely chat I never actually managed to "rise to the occassion". I really can't see what I could do differently.... is it just time to accept that there is something deep-seated that will not let me enjoy a decent punt?

Both girls I've been with have been very attractive - and the second one especially was exceptionally attractive and I had a lovely time with...albeit unable to actually do very much.

Does anyone have any tips? or am I doomed?

I could have written this myself, almost word for word. Out of 3 punts, I've had problems each time. Although I don't feel nervous, and I get hard from the start of the meet, I've found I wilt once we've started penetrative sex, or just before. No problem with the escorts' attractiveness or attitude. I'm assuming that there's nothing wrong with the plumbing, as I normally wake up with a very hard erection; it seems to be something psychological.

What I'm planning to do is see the last escort again for a few more times, rather than chop and change. For the OP, perhaps you might book again with the second one you saw, as you had a good time with her otherwise.

I've also started taking Korean Ginseng. It's supposed to help, and I think there have been a few low quality studies that confirm that. Even so, I find it seems to have a positive effect on my mood, which can't be a bad thing.

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Hi all, first post so please be gentle!

I've been thinking of getting into this hobby for a long time and have spent several years plucking up the courage to actually take the plunge. I've organised three punts this year, one (an outcall with a Manchester agency) fell through when the girl was no-show and the agency hadn't rang me to cancel or organise someone else.... the other two have been incalls in London.

On both occassions I've found that nerves got the better of me and I couldn't "perform". I ended up with very lacklusture erections that made it impossibile to do anything. I've never had the problem in my personal life and despite actually getting quite at ease and having a lovely chat I never actually managed to "rise to the occassion". I really can't see what I could do differently.... is it just time to accept that there is something deep-seated that will not let me enjoy a decent punt?

Both girls I've been with have been very attractive - and the second one especially was exceptionally attractive and I had a lovely time with...albeit unable to actually do very much.

Does anyone have any tips? or am I doomed?

You come on to a punting website and say you do not think this is the hobby for you.... okay. Then you state your reasons why...fine.

Problem is we don't know the dynamic of any of your punts so we are not really in a position to be able to give good advice except to draw from our own experiences.

All I would say to you is to study the website of the ladies you would like to see. Read the blurb - see what she says, and don't be too picky. If you go for model girl looks, you maybe are concentrating your efforts on looks alone and not much else?

I see nervous clients - we all do, and they are lovely. The lady who does not recognise this - or is simply going through the motions anyway might not pick up on your nerves?

Choose your lady with care, and if in doubt ask on here. Good luck!

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Choose your lady with care, and if in doubt ask on here. Good luck!

My advice would be to look far an experienced escort in her 30's.Tell her that you are very new and nervous. Book an hour and let things unfold slowly. There's no need to rush or feel that you must come quickly, or twice or even at all. Let the lady take the lead and enjoy her skills.

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Think of your first couple or so punts (or the cost) in a similar way you might have to pay a joining fee to become a member of say a golf club or other exclusive organisation. Once you've been initiated and go with the mindset that you are going for a fun time your nerves will vanish - honest !

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My first two times were hopesless too. Same problem as you.

Once you get confident though and relax a bit - things will go well.

Keep trying.

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Took me a few before I actually managed anything worthwhile... Then maybe another couple after I had an absence from punting for a while. You'll get used to it honest.

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Hi all, first post so please be gentle!

I've been thinking of getting into this hobby for a long time and have spent several years plucking up the courage to actually take the plunge.

On both occassions I've found that nerves got the better of me and I couldn't "perform". I ended up with very lacklusture erections that made it impossibile to do anything.

Its not only about sexually penetrating someone, a lot of the time punters go for the thrill of giving and getting a massage with some oral either way, and a very happy ending.

When you start putting pressure on yourself then your asking for trouble, as not always does everyone rise to the occassion.

Take it easy and just enjoy, there are no right way and wrong way to go about this business, its about enjoying yourself.

Hope this helps.

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Up until earlier this year the idea of punting had never seriously crossed my mind. I had my first punt back in April and that came about because of a series of coincidences. With no idea of how to go about it I googled. Trawled through many websites and then settled on two ladies who seemed to be my cup of tea. Visited the first one and for several reasons had similar problems to you. I had the second visit already arranged so I just shrugged it off and went to see the second lady a few days later. Again there were problems for several reasons. Undeterred, I went back to the websites and selected a third lady. This is when I got lucky. On a scale of 1 to 10 the first two were down near the zero. The third lady is up at the top of the class. It wasn't entirely successful but I was happy enough to go back and see her for round 2 a couple of weeks later. Round 3 has also now taken place but I have also seen other ladies as well. Anyway, the second time I saw her she told me about (a) the purple site and (B) this site. I've used the purple site (but not exclusively) but have only in the last few days started to us this site properly. You seem to have found this site and decided to take advantage of advice from much more experienced men and ladies than me. I wish I has done the same. It would have saved me a lot of time and money. I'm not saying that I could give you better advice than other people but if you would like to send me a message so we can share experiences then please do so. I'm confident that I have now sorted out the type of lady who would provide me with the enjoyable experience I require and I'm confident that I've learned from my mistakes.

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I was extremely nervous when I started this lark around ten years ago at the age of 54. I was exceptionally lucky in finding a lovely 'young mum next door' type who put me at my ease almost immediately. I didn't cum until my third visit but things got better and better from day one.

My advice is to follow spklors advice and importantly RELAX.

If after ten or so punts with a selection of girls you are still not a happy man then I reckon that perhaps this business isn't for you and you might find better ways to spend your hard earned cash.

Good wishes though and I hope you spark gets properly kindled soon

Uncle Pokey

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I am an older punter but very fit. I jog and go to gym regularly and am not overweight. I always pass my annual medical. If I go for a massage with happy ending there are no problems. Equally if I take myself in hand, which I rarely do, there are no problems.

But when I go for Full Service sex I have to use Viagra prescribed by my GP / Doctor. So nothing physically wrong but I suffer from anxiety that I cannot or will not be able to perform on cue. It is not very " natural" making an appointment, driving through traffic, finding parking. Then you meet a stranger albeit an attractive lady and you have 30 minutes or 60 minutes to perform. It's all too much for me and I cannot gurantee an erection. With Viagra I have stonking grat erections and always come. The side effects are facial flushing and a headache after, but well worth it. Go see your GP. He will not be embarrassed and nor should you. He will give you a check up and a private patient prescription for which you pay about £5 per tab.

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Could it be nerves simply from being around a gorgeous woman? It happens to lots and lots of men you know, especially newbies. First time I got on a bike I fell off and bruised my bum, second time I fell of and cut my face, third time I actually managed to get to bottom of the road without hurting myself so I just kept getting back on and now I really enjoy the ride, so can you if you stop putting pressure on yourself.

Go see the second lady again and don't put too much expectation on yourself with regards to actually getting it up, maybe you could spend sometime giving her pleasure and taking that pressure to perform off yourself, ask her what she likes and what really turns her on, then do it for her, believe me you'll be rising high in no time.

I know this is easier said than done but stop worrying about it, I bet a lot of the men here have had similair problems at some point if they are being honest.

Good luck.

Holly x

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I am an older punter but very fit. I jog and go to gym regularly and am not overweight. I always pass my annual medical. If I go for a massage with happy ending there are no problems. Equally if I take myself in hand, which I rarely do, there are no problems.

But when I go for Full Service sex I have to use Viagra prescribed by my GP / Doctor. So nothing physically wrong but I suffer from anxiety that I cannot or will not be able to perform on cue. It is not very " natural" making an appointment, driving through traffic, finding parking. Then you meet a stranger albeit an attractive lady and you have 30 minutes or 60 minutes to perform. It's all too much for me and I cannot gurantee an erection. With Viagra I have stonking grat erections and always come. The side effects are facial flushing and a headache after, but well worth it. Go see your GP. He will not be embarrassed and nor should you. He will give you a check up and a private patient prescription for which you pay about £5 per tab.

Don't on any account try to self prescribe any of those over the counter remedies from "health" shops. You can't be sure what's in them and how they may react with any prescription stuff you are on.

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Its not only about sexually penetrating someone, a lot of the time punters go for the thrill of giving and getting a massage with some oral either way, and a very happy ending.

When you start putting pressure on yourself then your asking for trouble, as not always does everyone rise to the occassion.

Take it easy and just enjoy, there are no right way and wrong way to go about this business, its about enjoying yourself.

Hope this helps.

Good advice. Relax and have fun.

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I am an older punter but very fit. I jog and go to gym regularly and am not overweight. I always pass my annual medical. If I go for a massage with happy ending there are no problems. Equally if I take myself in hand, which I rarely do, there are no problems.

But when I go for Full Service sex I have to use Viagra prescribed by my GP / Doctor. So nothing physically wrong but I suffer from anxiety that I cannot or will not be able to perform on cue. It is not very " natural" making an appointment, driving through traffic, finding parking. Then you meet a stranger albeit an attractive lady and you have 30 minutes or 60 minutes to perform. It's all too much for me and I cannot gurantee an erection. With Viagra I have stonking grat erections and always come. The side effects are facial flushing and a headache after, but well worth it. Go see your GP. He will not be embarrassed and nor should you. He will give you a check up and a private patient prescription for which you pay about £5 per tab.

I'm glad that you've found a solution, but I didn't think that Viagra would do much for perfomance anxiety?

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If i just booked an hour and spent 30 minutes exploring her body myself, perhaps that would help me to relax and perform? Before going down the Viagara route. Being a virgin i find it very difficult to pluck up the courage to ask.

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If i just booked an hour and spent 30 minutes exploring her body myself, perhaps that would help me to relax and perform? Before going down the Viagara route. Being a virgin i find it very difficult to pluck up the courage to ask.

I'm sure it would help your confidence.

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If i just booked an hour and spent 30 minutes exploring her body myself, perhaps that would help me to relax and perform? Before going down the Viagara route. Being a virgin i find it very difficult to pluck up the courage to ask.

Believe me Dare81, whilst you may be a bit (ok, a lot) embarrassed to ask, the vast majority of escorts would not be at all phased by such a request. Gird your loins and ask away. If doing it over the phone is too bloody terrifying, try it via email.

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If i just booked an hour and spent 30 minutes exploring her body myself, perhaps that would help me to relax and perform? Before going down the Viagara route. Being a virgin i find it very difficult to pluck up the courage to ask.

I would leave out the 'V-iagara Falls' route personally :(

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