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Should I Choose An 'older' Escort?

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I have been checking out a few sites in and around my area and was wondering if choosing a lady of around 30-35 would be a wise choice in my case? I have no sexual experience at all (age44) or dating. I tried a place where the lady was in her early 20's and nothing happened. Perhaps a relaxing time with someone slightly older may help? And perhaps at an apartment rather than an agency with other girls around. I have been laughed at since the age of 13 basically and have no looks and that is being kind.

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Hi,

It sounds to me that you would really be better trying with a lady of the age you mention or even up to your own age or more.

Moreover a friendly independent girl with her own comfortable place would be a vastly superior choice as against a seedy parlour with other guys coming and going and perhaps a gaggle of women discussing the merits or otherwise of their day's clients.

It may help to ask on the 'Requests for Information' Board on this site for some recommendations from other members here if you will be prepared to say your general location.

Uncle Pokey

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I have been checking out a few sites in and around my area and was wondering if choosing a lady of around 30-35 would be a wise choice in my case?

Very good idea, indeed. Mention your area, and I'm sure you'll get helpful suggestions - you could do some searching PNet's database of Field Reports, or even you could (I make this suggestion with all due diffidence) search on the purple site, which allows not only location, but also a bracket for the lady's age.

Good luck!

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Parlours are not seedy, in my experience, for a newby they are by far the cheaper option, many independants are merely girls who were too hopleless at the job to build up a clientele in a parlour where there was a bit of competition. Independants essentially rely on clients who are too timorous to risk being seen walking into a parlour. Before you find the right girl/woman you might have to visit a few. Best start with someone over the age of 27 in my opinion

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Independants essentially rely on clients who are too timorous to risk being seen walking into a parlour.

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I get a little fed up when I read threads like these because I like to have fun too just like the younger ladies. I am not social services. I like to see the nervous clients because they are lovely but I like to see a cross section of men. I do this because I like it, not because I have a vocation to help the needy :)

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I get a little fed up when I read threads like these because I like to have fun too just like the younger ladies. I am not social services. I like to see the nervous clients because they are lovely but I like to see a cross section of men. I do this because I like it, not because I have a vocation to help the needy :)

You are a rarity then, shame more girls not like you. You would do even better business if you toured methinks

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My advice would be to find an indie in preference to a parlour; less stressful.

Go for someone who is 35+ or maybe even over 40. The precise age is immaterial but don't even think of a young lady. You will feel very self concious about the age difference.

Tell her your situation so she knows you are inexperienced. She will not make fun, nor treat you as a "challenge".

Book for an hour and take things slowly. Start by chatting a bit and let the lady make the pace. Don't worry about coming fast, or even at all. Lots of foreplay, mutual undressing, cuddling etc and it will feel natural when it is right.

Good luck.

As others have said put in a request for info and let us know roughly where you are and you will get lots of well meaning advice.

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the lady was in her early 20's and nothing happened.

This is not clear - with more back ground we might be able to help. I think you need a BETTER lady. Could be older. Older ladies are great. Or maybe younger. They can be great too. I think you should go for what you want, and not what others think you want. It your case I would guess that an older indie would be right, but that is a guess - depends on what you want and what went wrong last time.

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Parlours are not seedy, in my experience, for a newby they are by far the cheaper option, many independants are merely girls who were too hopleless at the job to build up a clientele in a parlour where there was a bit of competition. Independants essentially rely on clients who are too timorous to risk being seen walking into a parlour. Before you find the right girl/woman you might have to visit a few. Best start with someone over the age of 27 in my opinion

Apart from Parlours not necessarily being seedy i disagree with you. In my area of London they are far more expensive than many Indies who offer the same services. This idea that Parlours are a cheap option has long ago vanished from my punting area. So in your area they are the cheap option if you say so but they arent in mine and perhaps the OPs.

As to Indies relying on timorous punters, some punters might be but i am not and neither are many punters i know, trust and/or respect. Parlours apart from HOD SK have priced themselves out of my interest.

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Very good idea, indeed. Mention your area, and I'm sure you'll get helpful suggestions - you could do some searching PNet's database of Field Reports, or even you could (I make this suggestion with all due diffidence) search on the purple site, which allows not only location, but also a bracket for the lady's age.

Good luck!

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Apart from Parlours not necessarily being seedy i disagree with you. In my area of London they are far more expensive than many Indies who offer the same services. This idea that Parlours are a cheap option has long ago vanished from my punting area. So in your area they are the cheap option if you say so but they arent in mine and perhaps the OPs.

As to Indies relying on timorous punters, some punters might be but i am not and neither are many punters i know, trust and/or respect. Parlours apart from HOD SK have priced themselves out of my interest.

I have clients who also have been parlour visitors, and a few who travel from areas where parlours and independents are plentiful. Men choose to visit individual ladies for more reasons than simply pricing, location or simple apprehension of situation.

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What a bizzare view on why independents are so... In my experience, most independents started off in agencies, parlours or working flats, and left when they felt they had learned the ropes and enough about being more confident about being self employed, not because of competition...there's competition all over the Internet. I chose to be in a working flat for four years before becoming independent.

New guy, hey you sound a bit down on yourself! There are plenty of kind and considerate ladies who will be patient with you, just take your time researching, you have waited this long, so don't rush into anything. Research as much as you can, read here, but remember to read between the lines too, big pinches of salt with some stuff here. Welcome to Pnet too. : )

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I have been checking out a few sites in and around my area and was wondering if choosing a lady of around 30-35 would be a wise choice in my case? I have no sexual experience at all (age44) or dating. I tried a place where the lady was in her early 20's and nothing happened. Perhaps a relaxing time with someone slightly older may help? And perhaps at an apartment rather than an agency with other girls around. I have been laughed at since the age of 13 basically and have no looks and that is being kind.

Yes.

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I have emailed a couple near to me (North Herts) and they replied stating that "I do not offer sex". I explained my situation on the email and what i was expecting. Is this wrong? Do i have to wait until i actually get to the place before mentioning anything explicitly to do with sex?

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I have emailed a couple near to me (North Herts) and they replied stating that "I do not offer sex". I explained my situation on the email and what i was expecting. Is this wrong? Do i have to wait until i actually get to the place before mentioning anything explicitly to do with sex?

Sounds very odd to me, which ladies have you been contacting?They aren't massage & HR only are they?

I know there are some who say they refuse to discuss services, or think it's illegal to do so (which it isn't) but wouldn't have said this is the majority.

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I have emailed a couple near to me (North Herts) and they replied stating that "I do not offer sex". I explained my situation on the email and what i was expecting. Is this wrong? Do i have to wait until i actually get to the place before mentioning anything explicitly to do with sex?

Sounds very odd tome.Which agency did you get their details from? I would suggest that you do a search using the facility on here. You are more likely to find what you seek here. Also look through the Field Reports here. you can search by town.

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I have emailed a couple near to me (North Herts) and they replied stating that "I do not offer sex". I explained my situation on the email and what i was expecting. Is this wrong? Do i have to wait until i actually get to the place before mentioning anything explicitly to do with sex?

Emailed a couple of whats ? If you mean escorts, that sounds like a bloody odd reply to me. Escorts offer sex for money quite openly. It's not illegal in the UK and there is none of this cloak and dagger "you are paying for my time and companionship only" bollocks here. Having mentioned a location, perhaps you'll get a couple of recommendations by PM. I'll send you one in a minute.

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I have no sexual experience at all (age44) or dating.

Incredible. No sexual contact and not even a date at the age of 44? Yet you have such narrow age paramiters regarding a ladys age!.

I think before anyone could give you any useful advice you should really explain how you find yourself in such an unusual situation regarding your lack of contact with the opposite sex.

How you have managed to remain virgo intacta for all these years?.

Putting my well earned cynicism aside and without wishing to sound insulting or derisive, Just what itch are you asking for help to scratch? Is it sex or is it help with interacting with women?

Have you just been released from some institution, Just been defrocked from the catholic Church?, Do you have personality issues?

Without giving anyone a clue as to how you find yourself a real life Timothy Lumsdon how can you you expect all the sexual health professionals onboard HMS Punternet to diagnose and treat your problem?

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Dare81, the best advice I can give you is get yourself along to Shanelle of St Albans

.... she will show you a very good time indeed!

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Incredible. No sexual contact and not even a date at the age of 44? Yet you have such narrow age paramiters regarding a ladys age!.

I think before anyone could give you any useful advice you should really explain how you find yourself in such an unusual situation regarding your lack of contact with the opposite sex.

How you have managed to remain virgo intacta for all these years?.

Putting my well earned cynicism aside and without wishing to sound insulting or derisive, Just what itch are you asking for help to scratch? Is it sex or is it help with interacting with women?

Have you just been released from some institution, Just been defrocked from the catholic Church?, Do you have personality issues?

Without giving anyone a clue as to how you find yourself a real life Timothy Lumsdon how can you you expect all the sexual health professionals onboard HMS Punternet to diagnose and treat your problem?

I don't think he needs explain anything at all, this isn't a completely unheard of phenomenom and I have met more than a couple of men who've never had any form of sexual contact(including kissing) in their 30s, 40s and even 50s shock horror. They could have been fibbing, if so they were flipping good actors.

It happens.

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Incredible. No sexual contact and not even a date at the age of 44? Yet you have such narrow age paramiters regarding a ladys age!.

I think before anyone could give you any useful advice you should really explain how you find yourself in such an unusual situation regarding your lack of contact with the opposite sex.

How you have managed to remain virgo intacta for all these years?.

Putting my well earned cynicism aside and without wishing to sound insulting or derisive, Just what itch are you asking for help to scratch? Is it sex or is it help with interacting with women?

Have you just been released from some institution, Just been defrocked from the catholic Church?, Do you have personality issues?

Without giving anyone a clue as to how you find yourself a real life Timothy Lumsdon how can you you expect all the sexual health professionals onboard HMS Punternet to diagnose and treat your problem?

Why am i a virgin? Well if you saw what i look like you wouldn't need to ask that question.I have been called ugly since the age of 13 through to the present day-from school, college and work. Women ignore me or hurry along when i used to go out to bars (in my 20's) so i tend to ignore that scene these days. The wife of a friend told him that the only way i would ever have sex is to pay somebody-that was 15 years ago and i have only just begun to think about it in the last year or so. I guess to try and experience the act before i die. I also have the misfortune to look around 25,26,27 which doesn't exactly help. On a scale of 10 my looks are about 1. That is the reason.

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I've just checked the purple site for escorts in the 41 - 45 age range within 20 miles of the SG1 postcode. I've come up with 39. Go through all the profiles, check field reports on there and on this site and then get in with it. Be prepared to make mistakes. Accept that you'll probably feel in some instances that you didn't get what you were looking for. You may decide it's not for you. Better to have tried and failed than never to have tried at all.

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What a bizzare view on why independents are so... In my experience, most independents started off in agencies, parlours or working flats, and left when they felt they had learned the ropes and enough about being more confident about being self employed, not because of competition...there's competition all over the Internet. I chose to be in a working flat for four years before becoming independent.

New guy, hey you sound a bit down on yourself! There are plenty of kind and considerate ladies who will be patient with you, just take your time researching, you have waited this long, so don't rush into anything. Research as much as you can, read here, but remember to read between the lines too, big pinches of salt with some stuff here. Welcome to Pnet too. : )

Dude if you are anywhere near London go see Dolly!

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Why am i a virgin? Well if you saw what i look like you wouldn't need to ask that question.I have been called ugly since the age of 13 through to the present day-from school, college and work. Women ignore me or hurry along when i used to go out to bars (in my 20's) so i tend to ignore that scene these days. The wife of a friend told him that the only way i would ever have sex is to pay somebody-that was 15 years ago and i have only just begun to think about it in the last year or so. I guess to try and experience the act before i die. I also have the misfortune to look around 25,26,27 which doesn't exactly help. On a scale of 10 my looks are about 1. That is the reason.

My advice is use the information you have been given on here and get punting. I was hit by every branch on my way down the ugly tree but punt without problems, i am a 0 out of 10 on that scale. The great Shanelle of St Albans, Danish Pia and Pinkcupcakes aka Natasha are three lovely WGs i can highly recommend to you, all based in Herts. :)

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