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................................... and don't be ruled by the trouser snake!

The appointment goes like this:

I phone to make an appointment for the following day at 11am. “Fine, you can come earlier if you want – 10.” “No; 11’s OK.” I ask for approx directions and she says she’ll text them.

She texts the post code.

I text: “Got that. I’ll text tomorrow at about 9 to confirm and ring when I get there.”

She texts: “OK.”

The following day:

I text at 9:20: “Hi. Are we still OK for 11?”

She texts at 9:21: “Sure, unless you want earlier time.”

I text at 9:26: “No, I’ll ring when I get there.”

She texts at 9:29: “OK.”

She texts at 9:45: “ETA?”

I’m getting a bit nervous about this time business so phone her and ask if there’s a problem with time. She says no and 11 is confirmed. She asks me to text when I’m 10 min away. Seems odd, but OK, so I set out.

I text at 10:50: “Be with you in 10 min.”

I arrive at 11 and phone. She’s not ready – she’s been out shopping. She’ll ring me in 5 min.

I’ll admit that this makes me angry, and I just KNOW that this is not going to work out so I decide to drive home.

She texts at 11:15: “Ready for you.”

I’m driving and don’t reply.

She texts at 11:22: “Sorry if you got fed up. I got held up in traffic a little.”

Well, whether she did or not is immaterial. With the amount of exchange we had she should have allowed a comfortable margin to be ready and waiting by 11. Was she really held up, or had she re-scheduled another punt and was ‘tidying up?’ Who knows, but on balance I’m glad I jumped ship.

What would you have done?

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Mildly irritating but I probably would have given it 15 mins if I wasn't on a tight schedule. These things happen occasionally and I've previously had to text ahead to say I'm going to be late because of traffic and if it's okay.

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I sympathise, the same has happened to me on a number of occasions. Behaviour like that does not engender confidence. Like you I opt for "Mission Aborted".

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................................... and don't be ruled by the trouser snake!

The appointment goes like this:

I phone to make an appointment for the following day at 11am. “Fine, you can come earlier if you want – 10.” “No; 11’s OK.” I ask for approx directions and she says she’ll text them.

She texts the post code.

I text: “Got that. I’ll text tomorrow at about 9 to confirm and ring when I get there.”

She texts: “OK.”

The following day:

I text at 9:20: “Hi. Are we still OK for 11?”

She texts at 9:21: “Sure, unless you want earlier time.”

I text at 9:26: “No, I’ll ring when I get there.”

She texts at 9:29: “OK.”

She texts at 9:45: “ETA?”

I’m getting a bit nervous about this time business so phone her and ask if there’s a problem with time. She says no and 11 is confirmed. She asks me to text when I’m 10 min away. Seems odd, but OK, so I set out.

I text at 10:50: “Be with you in 10 min.”

I arrive at 11 and phone. She’s not ready – she’s been out shopping. She’ll ring me in 5 min.

I’ll admit that this makes me angry, and I just KNOW that this is not going to work out so I decide to drive home.

She texts at 11:15: “Ready for you.”

I’m driving and don’t reply.

She texts at 11:22: “Sorry if you got fed up. I got held up in traffic a little.”

Well, whether she did or not is immaterial. With the amount of exchange we had she should have allowed a comfortable margin to be ready and waiting by 11. Was she really held up, or had she re-scheduled another punt and was ‘tidying up?’ Who knows, but on balance I’m glad I jumped ship.

What would you have done?

For me there is a reason i book punts at the times i do so if the time gets changed after its been agreed i would be very suspicious if the WG was a newbie to me, that suspicion isnt conducive to me having a fun time nowadays so i would cancel and go elsewhere, if i miss out on a gem by doing so my bad luck and the WG may be genuine but the risk is too high for me now.

I would say though that i used to think with my dick, its really not a good idea, its also what bad SPs rely on punters doing. :)

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T'is same for us. I am sure I have turned down or cancelled perfectly nice guys but if my instinct gets a whiff of twattery or timewastery then I won't see them. As Smiths says, he might miss some gems, I might miss some lovely clients, but when it comes to my time, sanity and safety I have to use my instincts.

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For me there is a reason i book punts at the times i do so if the time gets changed after its been agreed i would be very suspicious if the WG was a newbie to me, that suspicion isnt conducive to me having a fun time nowadays so i would cancel and go elsewhere, if i miss out on a gem by doing so my bad luck and the WG may be genuine but the risk is too high for me now.

I would say though that i used to think with my dick, its really not a good idea, its also what bad SPs rely on punters doing. :)

Exactly so smiths. I could have added that the lady concerned has been around for many years with a string of FRs. Most are good but she has a higher than average number of bad ones - about 25% - and her (lack of) punctuality is not unknown. The frame of mind she put me in was not conducive to a good punt, so perhaps a cautionary tale on how not to treat a would-be client!

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T'is same for us. I am sure I have turned down or cancelled perfectly nice guys but if my instinct gets a whiff of twattery or timewastery then I won't see them. As Smiths says, he might miss some gems, I might miss some lovely clients, but when it comes to my time, sanity and safety I have to use my instincts.

That's fine, Lydia, but not quite the same thing. Being turned down for (from the punter’s point of view) no apparent reason is one thing, but accepting a booking and then being flaky about punctuality and thinking it doesn’t matter is quite another.

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That's fine, Lydia, but not quite the same thing. Being turned down for (from the punter’s point of view) no apparent reason is one thing, but accepting a booking and then being flaky about punctuality and thinking it doesn’t matter is quite another.

No, the point I was making was about instinct.

The lady in your case was shoddy and unprofessional in her conduct.

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No, the point I was making was about instinct.

The lady in your case was shoddy and unprofessional in her conduct.

Sure. Perhaps I should have used my instinct and, on the basis of her quantity of bad FRs, not made a booking in the first place. Shows that the trouser snake does still rule sometimes - even in old lags like me!

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It's not unusual in my experience to get a "can you give me 5 mins" message when arriving on time. I usually agree to wait. Normally it is only 5 mins and everything is fine. Occasionally 5 mins stretches to 10 and by the time it reaches 15, I am on my way home. In your case Calynx, what with the poor FRs and the odd texts beforehand, I would have probably done the same thing.

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I think it depends how much you were looking forward to seeing her . If it was me and I really wanted to see her , I would have given her more time . It was only 15 mins . I have waited longer many times .

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I've been delayed twice. Once I was 15 minutes late. My fault for believing the AA route planner gave an accurate time. I now allow more leeway just in case. The lady was very good about it and I still got the full time. The second occasion wasn't my fault. I had allowed sufficient time ( an extra hour for travelling ) but didn't expect to be stuck on the motorway for two hours because of a crash. I was therefore an hour late. Fortunately the lady wasn't expecting anyone else that day. She was very understanding and really felt very sorry for me. I took a taxi from my hotel, paid for the hour I had booked, and three and a half hours later she very kindly drove me back to my hotel. My lucky day though I didn't think so when I was stuck on the motorway. Heart of gold doesn't say enough about the lady. I'll be down her way again before Xmas and will definitely be seeing her again. Not because I expect the same again but we because we did have a good time together and I want to see her again. Also, because I feel it's the right thing to do, I will be booking and paying, for a longer session.

I've never had a problem with a lady cancelling or being late. I was going to arrive quite early on one occasion and when I phoned she asked if I would drive a little slower because she was a bit behind in her preparation. I arrived exactly on time and she was ready ( and very delectable ).

Because I do have to travel fair distances I would be prepared to hang around for a reasonable amount of time. Life is never straightforward and I would always try and give the benefit of the doubt to the lady and I would hope she to me. It all depends on the circumstances at the time.

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As a rule of thumb, I don't go to wgs who are shifty on the phone. To me, there is no point, just say if you're available or not and don't beat around the bush.

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I think it depends how much you were looking forward to seeing her . If it was me and I really wanted to see her , I would have given her more time . It was only 15 mins . I have waited longer many times .

That's where we differ. I went with that expectation (her good FRs were very good!) but past experience has taught me that once I’ve gone off the boil it takes a lot of heat to rekindle things and then results in a mediocre punt. I’d rather cut my losses and risk – as smiths says – missing a gem.

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I've been delayed twice. Once I was 15 minutes late. My fault for believing the AA route planner gave an accurate time. I now allow more leeway just in case. The lady was very good about it and I still got the full time. The second occasion wasn't my fault. I had allowed sufficient time ( an extra hour for travelling ) but didn't expect to be stuck on the motorway for two hours ................................................

This may sound two-faced but I think the situation where the punter is late IS different. He’s travelling to a strange location, perhaps along an unknown route whereas the WG is repeating a frequent journey (if any). But more importantly, the WG is providing the service, the punter is buying it.

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Im the sort of person who always arrives early, and then walks away knowing that I will be there in plenty of time, and has a brew in the local cafe whilst waiting.

If a set time is agreed upon, then it should be kept on both sides, we spend long enough in queues waiting for service, that is part of the norm really but we only accept it because we think we have to.

In parlours where the turn over can be vast, then I can accept a 10-15 minute delay in my booking, but I find it hard to accept with an Indie who has agreed to a certain time, and phones at the last minute to say she is running 15 minutes late, I usualy travel by public transport so its hard to just walk away, but I think that this is very rare, so i tend to accept it.

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This may sound two-faced but I think the situation where the punter is late IS different. He’s travelling to a strange location, perhaps along an unknown route whereas the WG is repeating a frequent journey (if any). But more importantly, the WG is providing the service, the punter is buying it.

I don't think you're being two-faced. I think your complaint is perfectly justified. Although I've fortunately never had that happen to me I have met one or two ladies who haven't left a very good impression on me and in hindsight I think that they would have not thought twice about handing out the same treatment that you received.

I just wanted to point out that there are some quality ladies out there. Two sides to every story. Bad WGs. Bad punters. That's people in general.

Deal with each situation on it's own merits. That's all anyone can do and hope you make the right decision at the time.

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Some wgs only travel to their flats if an appointment is arranged and therefore can

be held up in traffic as can the client but the lady should give herself a whole lot more time

to arrive with time to spare to prepare herself.

I don't work like that. I go to my in call place more or less at a set time each day (mid morning)

and have no excuses to be running late. I make sure I do not accept an appointment unless I know

I can be ready in time. The only time I ask a client to wait in his car until I say ok

to knock is when perhaps I have had a tiny hold up of a couple of minutes within my flat which could be anything from me

slopping toothpaste down my catsuit or having someone phone me at just the wrong time and I have to

politely get rid of the caller.

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i dont see what the fuss is about, you wanted to see the girl and she maid you wait , so what? if youve got something more important to do then go do it, if not and you got the whole day then go see the girl , i dont se why some posters are acting all superior " oh im not going to wait for her" that's plain bullshit , ive had to wait upto 40 mins to see a girl and when i got there she deeply apologized and we had a great time, these things happen shes not going to be waiting on you shes there to make money and if another punter comes before you then live with it , we are paying for sex so we don't need this high and mighty attitude thats probably why so many of you complain and bitch about WGs you act like you're above them ,so no wonder you get a bad service the fact is you should be grateful for what you can get, if you could pull girls like that in a club, bar etc then you wouldnt need escorts

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................................... and don't be ruled by the trouser snake!

The appointment goes like this:

I phone to make an appointment for the following day at 11am. “Fine, you can come earlier if you want – 10.” “No; 11’s OK.” I ask for approx directions and she says she’ll text them.

She texts the post code.

I text: “Got that. I’ll text tomorrow at about 9 to confirm and ring when I get there.”

She texts: “OK.”

The following day:

I text at 9:20: “Hi. Are we still OK for 11?”

She texts at 9:21: “Sure, unless you want earlier time.”

I text at 9:26: “No, I’ll ring when I get there.”

She texts at 9:29: “OK.”

She texts at 9:45: “ETA?”

I’m getting a bit nervous about this time business so phone her and ask if there’s a problem with time. She says no and 11 is confirmed. She asks me to text when I’m 10 min away. Seems odd, but OK, so I set out.

I text at 10:50: “Be with you in 10 min.”

I arrive at 11 and phone. She’s not ready – she’s been out shopping. She’ll ring me in 5 min.

I’ll admit that this makes me angry, and I just KNOW that this is not going to work out so I decide to drive home.

She texts at 11:15: “Ready for you.”

I’m driving and don’t reply.

She texts at 11:22: “Sorry if you got fed up. I got held up in traffic a little.”

Well, whether she did or not is immaterial. With the amount of exchange we had she should have allowed a comfortable margin to be ready and waiting by 11. Was she really held up, or had she re-scheduled another punt and was ‘tidying up?’ Who knows, but on balance I’m glad I jumped ship.

What would you have done?

...That's good ...Jumping ship

Even though I probably would have taken the 'I've started so I will finish' approach.

Although it is very close to trouser snake it is not exactly quie the same phenomenon - more that sometimes it is hard(er) to pull out or away from an act which one has invested in :unsure:

Edited by Superego

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What would you have done?

If I didnt have anything planned after the booking I probably would have waited.

If there was no contact for a long time before I turned up or when I arrive then I'd have walked. If I turn up and theres no answer, call and no answer Id give 5 minutes after phoning for her to reply... otherwise Im away.

If she contacted me to say she was late. Okay shes late..so I'll give her the benefit of the doubt.

Whether she was shopping or the reason for being late doesnt matter to me, its not my business. (I know that It could be very well be her boyfriend was hanging around so she couldnt sneak off, her friends who doesnt know what she does phoned and she couldn't just hangup, host of reasons that could be translated as "late...shopping").

The only thing Id want to know is if the booking is still on ... albeit a little later..

If I know whats going on that then I'd wait...

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If something seems odd whether as a punter or WG I go with my instints, sometimes theres just to much messing around.

Specially the fact you arranged in advance, I mean dont get me wrong I love to shop, but surely she should know to prioritise when the booking had already been made.

Cx

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................................... and don't be ruled by the trouser snake!

The appointment goes like this:

I phone to make an appointment for the following day at 11am. “Fine, you can come earlier if you want – 10.” “No; 11’s OK.” I ask for approx directions and she says she’ll text them.

She texts the post code.

I text: “Got that. I’ll text tomorrow at about 9 to confirm and ring when I get there.”

She texts: “OK.”

The following day:

I text at 9:20: “Hi. Are we still OK for 11?”

She texts at 9:21: “Sure, unless you want earlier time.”

I text at 9:26: “No, I’ll ring when I get there.”

She texts at 9:29: “OK.”

She texts at 9:45: “ETA?”

I’m getting a bit nervous about this time business so phone her and ask if there’s a problem with time. She says no and 11 is confirmed. She asks me to text when I’m 10 min away. Seems odd, but OK, so I set out.

I text at 10:50: “Be with you in 10 min.”

I arrive at 11 and phone. She’s not ready – she’s been out shopping. She’ll ring me in 5 min.

I’ll admit that this makes me angry, and I just KNOW that this is not going to work out so I decide to drive home.

She texts at 11:15: “Ready for you.”

I’m driving and don’t reply.

She texts at 11:22: “Sorry if you got fed up. I got held up in traffic a little.”

Well, whether she did or not is immaterial. With the amount of exchange we had she should have allowed a comfortable margin to be ready and waiting by 11. Was she really held up, or had she re-scheduled another punt and was ‘tidying up?’ Who knows, but on balance I’m glad I jumped ship.

What would you have done?

I think she should have told you 11am was not okay for her - end of.

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I always try to be at my apartment at least 30 minutes before an appointment, this way I know I'll be ready when the client arrives plus if he's early it's no problem. I have had quite a few cases of clients turning up late due to traffic problems. Someone earlier mentioned Route Plannners, these work on the basis that when you are on the motorway that you will be able to travel at 70 MPH and when on ordinary roads at 30 MPH, they don't take into account road works, waiting at traffic lights and roundabouts etc.

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If something seems odd whether as a punter or WG I go with my instints

Do you punt often then Cara :) ?

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