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Going Further Than You Imagined

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When I embarked on this hobby just under a year ago I assumed I would be content with meeting a lovely woman for sex, perhaps including oral both ways, and maybe an erotic massage (which is where I started before I graduated!).

In reality, I have begun to explore other aspects of sex which had been pure fantasy before, including a couple of threesomes and anal. I have been bowled over by the enthusiasm the WGs I have met have had for kissing. I have now made a booking which will push the boundaries a bit further: starting with some anal play on me and perhaps going on further from that. I guess it's all about exploration but I will be nervous and excited at the same time.

I'd be interested to read others' experiences: have you gone further in this life than you expected? What has taken you by surprise? Where are your boundaries and can you conceive of going beyond them? It would be interesting to read of SPs' experiences too: have you gone further than you imagined when you embarked on this career?

I still cannot imagine myself in a more extreme bdsm scenario or a party with other guys around. In unguarded moments I sometimes wonder whether these limits are equally flexible, however....

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Without doubt. My sex life before punting was very bland and when I started out on this, like you, it was massage with a wank to finish and even when I first had sex with a WG it sort of happened as I went with the flow of the occasion. Similarly RO, one time the girl was just so lovely and irresistible I just went down there and licked for England! So anal, rimming both ways, OWO & CIM, watersports (including taking some in mouth) all just came along without really planning them. Not sure there's anything left I'll add to these now though but a threesome is starting to sound good!

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When I embarked on this hobby just under a year ago I assumed I would be content with meeting a lovely woman for sex, perhaps including oral both ways, and maybe an erotic massage (which is where I started before I graduated!).

In reality, I have begun to explore other aspects of sex which had been pure fantasy before, including a couple of threesomes and anal. I have been bowled over by the enthusiasm the WGs I have met have had for kissing. I have now made a booking which will push the boundaries a bit further: starting with some anal play on me and perhaps going on further from that. I guess it's all about exploration but I will be nervous and excited at the same time.

I'd be interested to read others' experiences: have you gone further in this life than you expected? What has taken you by surprise? Where are your boundaries and can you conceive of going beyond them? It would be interesting to read of SPs' experiences too: have you gone further than you imagined when you embarked on this career?

I still cannot imagine myself in a more extreme bdsm scenario or a party with other guys around. In unguarded moments I sometimes wonder whether these limits are equally flexible, however....

I just wanted a basic fuck in my early punting days, kissing was very rarely on offer then. Then it became on offer with the arrival of EE WGs as did more extensive services, god bless those EE WGs.

I then started to explore what interested me sexually, BDSM among them, that was a not my bag after a while, and i tried everything that interested me at least once. I am now at the stage where the only thing i would like to do for longer than i have before is a Reverse Gangbang, i have done this by chance at a few parties but not for long enough.

Punting has enabled me to fulfil fantasies and even do things beyond my fantasies in fact. So yes i have gone further sexually that i ever imagined, and in the main its been bloody good fun. Parties offered me a new aspect to punting which i never thought wold interest me for a long time, how wrong was i. Just proved to me i never know until i try.

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I think, in the right frame of mind and with the right person most people will push their boundaries at some point. I also think everyone SHOULD experiment at some point! It's marvelous fun and can lead to discovering things that will make you feel amazing!

I know in my personal life I have done things that a few years ago I would have said 'No bloody way!' to! I have also had clients who over time have become intrigued with things they have never done before and we have experimented. I think feeling comfortable with your sexuality and with the person you are with knowing that if you hate it you can say No! and stop without feeling like you're letting someone down is important. On the other hand sometimes it is easier to discuss the more kinky things with a stranger especially a WG who is unlikely to be shocked!

So, if you're harbouring a secret desire go on, do it!

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I was only ever intending to have one punt, of normal straight up sex. But inevitably, I went back to the same escort a few weeks later and things just went on from there. That was over 2 years ago and since I have done so much stuff that I would've only dreamed of before...threesomes, anal, being rimmed. And plus it's given me the chance to have sex with a lot of different girls, most of whom I would never be able to get close to in the 'real world'. Thankyou ladies! :)

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Like most guys I started with rub and tug in massage parlours in London many years ago.Since then I have tried O, A, FFM, BDSM, parties, voyeur sex, outdoor sex and a few which I have forgotten. On my list still to try are FMM, a visit to a sex club and multiple partner parties.

If I survive I will have to choose a favourite but till then I will keep on experimenting.

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I can echo a few other guys comments I think!

Initially just oral, straight sex (mind with some canny positions I hadnt tried before) Also CIM was a lovely expoerience!

Then tried anal for the first time. No way could I have done that with my wife or a GF!!.

I have had a finger up my bum, and watched a girl peeing (not really tried full WS!.)

Love Rimming

Not really fancied bdsm - but Rosina can get pretty close to it as I recall!

So yes - thanks girls..you really have broadened my horizons....and continue to do so!!

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Absolutely!

What I have found is that someone will say to me, 'Can we do x, y or z?' And I will think...... 'Oh okay, if you want to, have no intrinsic objection I suppose.' And then do new things, strapons, watersports, whatever and think 'Wooooo, this is EXCELLENT fun!'

I think feeling comfortable with your sexuality and with the person you are with knowing that if you hate it you can say No! and stop without feeling like you're letting someone down is important. On the other hand sometimes it is easier to discuss the more kinky things with a stranger especially a WG who is unlikely to be shocked!

So, if you're harbouring a secret desire go on, do it!

Spot on Lydia. The number of times I have heard "Oh I couldn't possibly tell my wife/gf that I like ........"(fill in blanks with something that is awesome fun).

I think this world is a real Pandora's box. Or like eating from the fruit of the tree of forbidden knowledge. Suddenly your curiosity is aroused, all your notions about what is normal, what is allowed, what is acceptable, are thrown up in the air. And you are in a strange new world where you can experiment, you can play, you can explore where your own boundaries lie. Your REAL boundaries, not the ones imposed on you by external influences, churches and the media and government and all the institutions that try to control us and make us live in fear of ourselves.

Porker Paul's tagline rings very true here. We do indeed stagnate when we don't access that playful part of our nature. And given the responses so far Bewilder, the answer to your question is going to be a resounding YES! With an attached 'and its been bloody fantastic.'

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Interesting replies: thanks everyone! The other point I should have made is that, for me, it hasn't just been a question of descending into further depths of insane depravity but also (mostly) enjoying the experiences each encounter offers more than the last. At the same time, I've found longer bookings more satisfying because they allow more time to relax and explore.

So, bearing in mind Lydia's comment about being comfortable with the person you're with, I am looking forward to my first overnight later this week with a lady I like and whose company I enjoy. This won't happen too often, I guess, because in the end most constraints are financial!.

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I had certainly gone further than I imagined I would, and enjoyed it thoroughly. The problem is now I can't go back. GFE now just bores me to tears. Ah, lost innocence.

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We always learn something new each day....I was quite lucky to have enjoyed many sexual encounters and was open to my own curiousty (yes I know it killed the cat)...so all in all my sexual lifetime has been somewhat of a whirlwind of very very very goodtimes indeed....have I tried everything, nope....but there's still time....

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it hasn't just been a question of descending into further depths of insane depravity

This is a very potent comment, as it brings the "morality" issue into the equation. As far as I am concerned nothing that two (or three) willing people decide to do with each other in a sexual context is insane or depraved. The moral crusaders have been trying to make us feel guilty for far too long. Forget morals and do as you wish to do with willing partners. Safe, sane and consensual are the by words for good sex.

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I've done all kinds of things I didn't do in my personal life before becoming an escort.Sploshing,taking facials,duos with another lady and hiring a male escort to take part in a cuckholding mmf meet with a regular client.

Its not just punters that further their boundaries...lol I have to say I've done things in the past year and a half I never thought I'd do and for the most part its been great!

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I may have a strange sexual development. First I thought that sex only involves penis-in-vagina-contact, and that French kissing is only Deep French Kissing, DFK. From porn and from subjects about sex on other forums, I learn that there is way more than those two things.

I learned that you (being a man) can get a blowjob (only it doesn't arouse me that very much) or give oral to a woman. That oral was only tongue-fucking, but it could also be clitoral stimulation and other areas of the vulva.

French Kissing is more than just sticking your tongue in other's mouth as far as possible (which isn't even enjoyable to him/her, who you are kissing). An escort, porn and websites taught me a lot about kissing techniques. For example, I could stick my tongue out, and the escort writes letters with her tongue tip on my tongue blade (I mean the large area behind the tongue tip). Or I hide a candy (which doesn't melt too fast) and she must find it with her tongue, that kind of kissing games.

Also that a WG can have her own sexual desires, and that she can enjoy sex with her client (in some cases, not in all cases though, I guess). It isn't only my desires that count. I am open for WG's desires, which means that I sometimes do what she wants. Besides kissing, that is also a thing that can be in GFE sex. If you go to a street hooker, it is only getting a blowjob and/or fucking, and that's it. It is just not the kind of sex I am looking for.

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This is a very potent comment, as it brings the "morality" issue into the equation. As far as I am concerned nothing that two (or three) willing people decide to do with each other in a sexual context is insane or depraved. The moral crusaders have been trying to make us feel guilty for far too long. Forget morals and do as you wish to do with willing partners. Safe, sane and consensual are the by words for good sex.

Paul: I agree completely. Just to clarify, my reference to "insane depravity" was an attempt at humour and not a moral judgement!

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sometimes it is easier to discuss the more kinky things with a stranger especially a WG who is unlikely to be shocked!

Sadly, this is true for many.

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Sadly, this is true for many.

And works both ways. As a working girl i find I can talk about things sexual to clients because we all sing from the same hymn sheet so to speak

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I had certainly gone further than I imagined I would, and enjoyed it thoroughly. The problem is now I can't go back. GFE now just bores me to tears. Ah, lost innocence.

It depends on the lady giving the GFE. I started out earlier this year in exactly the same way. I was lucky in that very soon I found a lady who's GFE is, in my opinion, absolutely wonderful. Since I last saw her some time ago my experiences have been considerably expanded and enhanced. I've done things that at the beginning of the year I knew about but had never considered experiencing. One thing just seems to lead to another. As long as you discover it's something you both enjoy then why not indulge yourselves.

An ordinary submissive lovey-dovey GFE no longer interests me. So why will I be visiting this lady again in the not to distant future? Because her GFE is not ordinary. Two main reasons. Firstly she is very proactive and secondly she is bloody good at what she does. I'm sure she knows who she is !!

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I think, in the right frame of mind and with the right person most people will push their boundaries at some point. I also think everyone SHOULD experiment at some point! It's marvelous fun and can lead to discovering things that will make you feel amazing!

I know in my personal life I have done things that a few years ago I would have said 'No bloody way!' to! I have also had clients who over time have become intrigued with things they have never done before and we have experimented. I think feeling comfortable with your sexuality and with the person you are with knowing that if you hate it you can say No! and stop without feeling like you're letting someone down is important. On the other hand sometimes it is easier to discuss the more kinky things with a stranger especially a WG who is unlikely to be shocked!

So, if you're harbouring a secret desire go on, do it!

Excellent point Lydia ( TMA - LS ). This year I have discussed with various ladies various thoughts that i would never even discuss with my best friend. He and I go back to schooldays and share lot of knowledge but no way could I discuss some of the things I've talked about with you ladies. It's the intimacy of the circumstances that allow you to do it. Despite the fact that you are, presumably, naked being able to discuss the subject as if you were having a coffee together in a cafe and talking about holidays etc.

I'd like to thank the various ladies I have met over the last few months for the opportunity. I fully intend to take advantage even more in the future. I also find that I get immense satisfaction from satisfying the lady's desires as well as my own.

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I think this world is a real Pandora's box. Or like eating from the fruit of the tree of forbidden knowledge. Suddenly your curiosity is aroused, all your notions about what is normal, what is allowed, what is acceptable, are thrown up in the air. And you are in a strange new world where you can experiment, you can play, you can explore where your own boundaries lie.

I agree with every word LovelySlut. I couldn't have put it better myself. Well, thinking about it, I probably could but I wouldn't dare tell you for fear if what you might do to me. Oops. I just have !!!

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It depends on the lady giving the GFE. I started out earlier this year in exactly the same way. I was lucky in that very soon I found a lady who's GFE is, in my opinion, absolutely wonderful. Since I last saw her some time ago my experiences have been considerably expanded and enhanced. I've done things that at the beginning of the year I knew about but had never considered experiencing. One thing just seems to lead to another. As long as you discover it's something you both enjoy then why not indulge yourselves.

An ordinary submissive lovey-dovey GFE no longer interests me. So why will I be visiting this lady again in the not to distant future? Because her GFE is not ordinary. Two main reasons. Firstly she is very proactive and secondly she is bloody good at what she does. I'm sure she knows who she is !!

I guess I haven't found this lady yet, but I'll keep looking.

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