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Hi All,

I’ve been a long-term follower of the forums and finally plucked up the courage to make a post. First up just wanted to say a big hi to one and all.

So here’s my situation that I’m hope to get a bit of advice for. I do have a habit of rambling on a bit, but hopefully a bit of background will help.

I’m 30 and a virgin. To be honest it had not bothered me much in my twenties, as I was an athlete to a good standard, good group of friends and just generally content in life. However, from there I suffered quite a bad injury that put an end to competing. In the same week I had a big falling out with my best friend that we never resolved and really from there I’ve been on a bit of a downward spiral of reclusiveness. From there I’m a bit more of a shy person and this aspect to my life has bugged me a lot more.

Fast forward to now and this forum and I’m hopping to get some advice about making my first booking. I’ve done plenty of research and have found an agency I’m happy with. So I guess if you where in my position how honest would you be. I kind of wanted to contact them to explain that I’m a virgin and would be very nerves (hopefully not ramble on as much). This way if I’m not comfortable with their response I can always cancel, and kind of hope that the person i see would take this into account. Or the aspect that is playing on my mind is that because of this I would get taken advantage of during the booking, through crap service, make me feel uncomfortable etc.

For the booking itself, the agency does a minimum of 2 hours, which I’m happy with as this would calm me down a bit and hopefully enjoy aspects of it. I’m booking up a hotel, as I would feel more comfortable away from my own location. Also I was going to book a separate woman for the following day as again I’m hoping to be a bit more relaxed. After all it should be something you enjoy. I’m sure I have lots of other questions, which I can either not think of or seen how much I have already written.

Many thanks for taking the time to read my post. Advice on the question and anything else would be great.

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Be honest. What harm can come of it?

Though, if I were in your shoes, I think I'd sooner see an independent. Unless you are in the Shetlands, there are bound to be a good number of sexy, switched-on indies about you who have considerable experience with first-timers. Importantly, you can have direct contact with her prior to the meeting.

With an agency you are dependent on an intermediary (who may or may not be a money-grubbing scumbag with zero interest in your situation).

Good luck.

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First of all my best advice, though I accept I don't know the circumstances, is to really try and make up with the best friend. Life's too short to lose good friends believe me

Otherwise best of luck for your specially event. Take it slow maybe have a drink in the bar with the lady first as you've for two hours to fill. She'll know exactly what to do and you're going to have a ball. Not sure about doing again the next day but if you do then best of luck for that too

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Hi ya Socks30...Welcome :)

Its a shame about the sport injury and loss of a good friend also...

There will be many who will be able to give better advice than me but from reading your post one questions arose.

Are you going to see 2 ladies in 2 days? Or have I mis-read your following comments?:

'Also I was going to book a separate woman for the following day as again I’m hoping to be a bit more relaxed'

Hope things work out for the best!

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Hi All,

I’ve been a long-term follower of the forums and finally plucked up the courage to make a post. First up just wanted to say a big hi to one and all.

So here’s my situation that I’m hope to get a bit of advice for. I do have a habit of rambling on a bit, but hopefully a bit of background will help.

I’m 30 and a virgin. To be honest it had not bothered me much in my twenties, as I was an athlete to a good standard, good group of friends and just generally content in life. However, from there I suffered quite a bad injury that put an end to competing. In the same week I had a big falling out with my best friend that we never resolved and really from there I’ve been on a bit of a downward spiral of reclusiveness. From there I’m a bit more of a shy person and this aspect to my life has bugged me a lot more.

Fast forward to now and this forum and I’m hopping to get some advice about making my first booking. I’ve done plenty of research and have found an agency I’m happy with. So I guess if you where in my position how honest would you be. I kind of wanted to contact them to explain that I’m a virgin and would be very nerves (hopefully not ramble on as much). This way if I’m not comfortable with their response I can always cancel, and kind of hope that the person i see would take this into account. Or the aspect that is playing on my mind is that because of this I would get taken advantage of during the booking, through crap service, make me feel uncomfortable etc.

For the booking itself, the agency does a minimum of 2 hours, which I’m happy with as this would calm me down a bit and hopefully enjoy aspects of it. I’m booking up a hotel, as I would feel more comfortable away from my own location. Also I was going to book a separate woman for the following day as again I’m hoping to be a bit more relaxed. After all it should be something you enjoy. I’m sure I have lots of other questions, which I can either not think of or seen how much I have already written.

Many thanks for taking the time to read my post. Advice on the question and anything else would be great.

Welcome to the forum socks30. :) My advice is locate a rated Indie and tell her your situation. You will also be able to speak to her direct to answer your questions. If me i would book an hour and see how i got on, two hours with someone you dont rate is a long time. Good luck on whatever you decide on and i hope it goes well. :)

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remember there are no guarantees with this lark. But also remember if a punt goes badly it doesn't matter except for your lost cash. But then you don't punt with cash you can't spare do you?

So find a lady you fancy. go see her, have fun. Hopefully come out walking on air.

It isn't rocket science.

GO FOR IT!

Then remember to start thinking of punt no 2....

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I don't think you've mentioned where you are at, so suggestions about particular ladies aren't going to be helpful. I'd second, however, the advice above as to starting with an independant non-teenage lady, rather than an agency. Whether agencies are greedy scumbags or not, the most frequent comment about them that I've noted is that "special requests" (dress, make-up, particular sex activities) simply don't get passed on.

Search among the recent FRs here, using your preferred town, then go to the web-sites - a goodly few ladies expressly state that they make shy virgins especially welcome!

Good luck!

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I think you might be better off with an independent escort, as at least you can call her up and talk to her rather than talk through a third party as you never know with the agency if they actually will tell the escort everything you have told them, then you both will be thrown in at the deep end as she may not be prepared as you are hoping she will be, where as if you talk to an indie she can put you are ease or politely say no sorry :) But i hope it goes well but 2 hours is a bit long for someone you haven't even met, especially in your circumstances :)

Panda -x-

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Do parlours not generally cater for men with no experience like me then? Rush in and rush out kind of thing with very young ladies involved?

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I cant say but i talk to a few other escorts and one of them constantly complains about her agency as she constantly turns up to bookings and it turns out the guy has requested a certain type of look and they simply dont tell her, so im guessing if some cant tell about an outfit, will they really tell about the experience of the punter? thats why i like being an indie, its easy, you can have direct contact with the client and find out everything to make it a good time for everyone involved ^_^

Oh and this whole younger escorts are crap and older escorts are better is a bunch of crap, im 22 so i fall into the younger lot and i have never had a complaint, so not all of us younger escorts can be bad right? o.O (rant over) lol

Panda -x-

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Thanks for all the responses. It’s great getting advice and opinions from people who know the industry a lot better than me.

To be honest I didn’t think it was going to be an issue about using an agency. The one I found has been mentioned on the forums (elitecourtesans.co.uk) and have only read good things about them. Also the two women I would like to see (2 in two days) I fancy and from their twitter accounts they come across as down to earth people who would be easy to get along with. I’ve had a look on ‘the other site’ and no one has really caught my eye. Just to confirm I would not be going to a parlour as it would be an outcall.

I guess other aspects that have been raised such as length of the booking (two hours). I kind of see it as an advantage, as I would imagine I would be very nerves so will give me a chance to relax and have fun. I’m sure in the future the purpose of a booking might change its focus but first time, I see it maybe in a slight naïve light.

Thanks again for all the advice. I think I’m right in saying that the view is to be honest with the agency, as hopefully this will help the experience of the booking.

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Welcome to the forum Socks30, and although new here myself, I have "been around a bit"elsewhere, and can only agree with the other advice given to you by others on here already. A good Independent ( check her feedback and field reports ) of around your own age or slightly older than you would be my recommendation. ^_^

Search among the recent FRs here, using your preferred town, then go to the web-sites - a goodly few ladies expressly state that they make shy virgins especially welcome!

More excellent advice, which I suggest you follow. :)

Do parlours not generally cater for men with no experience like me then? Rush in and rush out kind of thing with very young ladies involved?

Not quite like that, Dare81, but parlours are not everyones first choice, and probably better left until after you lose your virginity to an older Indie who does not clock watch and will be more likely to cope with a first timers nerves. As already mentioned by dudley, many of these ladies have plenty of experience with first timers and often even advertise that fact. :)

In deference to MissPanda, I would point out that older is not necessarily better, and if you're young yourself, you may be more at home with some-one around your own age. Try to find out as much as you can about your intended lady by exchanging e-mails and hopefully talking to her on the 'phone to see if there is an empathy between you :wub: , but at the same time be careful not to over-do this, as she may write you off as a time wasting 'phone wanker :angry:

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Welcome socks30.

If you have done your research and know what you want then excellent! Indie, agency, parlour and walk up all have their place - the key advice beneath all the advice is to do what you want - it is your punt not ours. You have heard the risks with agency. But there are advantages too. Like young versus old - as BBJ says, there are things to look for, but both can be excellent for some men.

I confess I remain amazed at the -none for 30 years and then 2 in 2 days- plan. It is your punt but really? Why not give it a week or more to reflect on the experience and make the 2nd one special too?

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Welcome socks30.

If you have done your research and know what you want then excellent! Indie, agency, parlour and walk up all have their place - the key advice beneath all the advice is to do what you want - it is your punt not ours. You have heard the risks with agency. But there are advantages too. Like young versus old - as BBJ says, there are things to look for, but both can be excellent for some men.

I confess I remain amazed at the -none for 30 years and then 2 in 2 days- plan. It is your punt but really? Why not give it a week or more to reflect on the experience and make the 2nd one special too?

Two hours is a good choice for a virgin though? I have booked two hours because i thought it gives me the best chance to relax and actually do anything. The nerves are tremendous on my part though.

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Hi socks30,

Perhaps you could put up where you are based and how far you could travel. If you did that, I'm sure you'd get some good recommendations - there are a lot of very helpful folk on here.

As someone who was in a similar situation to you, albeit probably a lot older, I'd say 2 hours with the right escort would work - that's what I did on my 2nd punt, with someone who advertises that she welcomes less experienced clients.

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Thanks again for all of the responses, its been a big help and made me think a bit about what the best option is. With this in mind, it would be great to get recommendations on independents that you think would suite my situation. I know this advice was given from the beginning, and particularly for my first booking it seems like the better option. I would be located in Bath and would look to do an outcall as i would feel more comfortable in my own surroundings. I think as has been suggested around my age would be great, so maybe between 25 and 39yrs. In terms of preference i prefer a toned figure, but apart from that i would imagine it is best to find the right time of personality.

Many thanks again

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I thought i would be proactive and do some research in to independents that i would be interested in booking. This comes from the aspect that for a first timer it seems best to have direct contact with the person i would be seeing. Relating to what has already been said, it would be great to get feedback and advice on the people i have listed below. Also any additional recommendations would always be welcome.

Purple site

Chloe xox

Hot Bristol Kristina - Would have liked to make a booking, but unfortunately she is away when i would be looking for a booking. But thought it helpful for reference.

lulu7

http://www.escort-oxford.com/

Noticed that the copy right on the page is 2010, so not sure if she is still active?

For reference the booking would be an outcall in Bath. Preference would be 24 - 37yrs, with a toned figure and be ok with a first timer.

Many thanks again for all the advice, I'm sure i will be nerves just making the booking but it does help getting all the feedback.

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Welcome on board Socks30

You already have much good advice so I hope whatever you have planned goes well. Come and tell us all about it in due course.

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Hi socks , I really wouldn't do the two in two days if it were me . If it all goes well , you have a great time , you don't need to jump straight in again a day later . You can reflect on the first punt for about a week minimum I would think as posted above . Good luck and have a great time .

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Here's another thread about someone wanting to see Helen in Oxford, which probably won't help as it didn't reach any conclusions - but bless me I searched for it, so I'm copying and pasting it:

She looks hot, I'd book her - but I veer towards impulsive and am quite partial to a blond...

Oh and +1ing what everyone else said - go indie, have a chat - then feck it, just go and pop your cherry.

Have fun...

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lulu7

Is that blonde, slim, Lulu7 c. Devon?

If I could get over my peculiar aversion to booking a hotel a few miles from my house in order to arrange a meeting, I would book her in a heartbeat. Looks lovely and is, I suspect, pretty amenable...which is half the battle. Only seen one slightly negative comment IIRC - on a P'Net field report : she struck a fellow as being somewhat airheaded...but a little airheadedness far from means she lacks patience, good humour, a little kindness etc (That is to say all those things that might be helpful here.)

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After the recommendations on here about finding an independent for my first time, Lulu was my first choice. For me, she looks stunning in her pictures, lovely eyes and a warm smile, exactly the type of person i would choose. With that in mind i plucked up the courage to send my first message. Explaining that i'm very new to this etc etc and would be looking to make a booking in Bath. She was very quick with a reply, which was a very kind message but also apologetic in that the distance would be to far for her to travel. I thanked her for letting me know and again received a lovely message in reply wishing me luck in finding someone. Although only a brief conversation, thought she cam across as a genuine kind person.

To be honest a bit gutted at the moment. I emailed another person this morning and have not had any reply. I guess with this one i might be jumping the gun a bit though. Another profile i did find was;

cute-kinky-katie - She also mentioned new comers welcome.

I don't know at the moment. Still really keen to go ahead, hotel is all booked just struggling to find the right person. I'm sure down the line the process will becomes a lot easier.

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Hi All,

Apologies for bumping an old post, but I just wanted to say a big thank you to the community for helping me pluck up the courage to make my first booking last night and am final no longer a virgin.

The lady I booked was fantastic, felt very relaxed in her company and just generally enjoyed the time spent together. I think a big thing to come from this is my confidence seems a thousand times better.

I guess the first time is always a bit odd, as you are full of nerves. I really enjoyed the kissing and OWO, but picking up from another topic ‘average time to shoot’, I really struggled with this. Guessing it was as much first time nerves, but in short looking forward to my next punt when maybe I can relax a bit more and be a bit more confident during the booking.

Again, big thanks to the community.

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glad to hear it worked out well for you mate

hear's to many more!

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Hi All,

Apologies for bumping an old post, but I just wanted to say a big thank you to the community for helping me pluck up the courage to make my first booking last night and am final no longer a virgin.

The lady I booked was fantastic, felt very relaxed in her company and just generally enjoyed the time spent together. I think a big thing to come from this is my confidence seems a thousand times better.

I guess the first time is always a bit odd, as you are full of nerves. I really enjoyed the kissing and OWO, but picking up from another topic ‘average time to shoot’, I really struggled with this. Guessing it was as much first time nerves, but in short looking forward to my next punt when maybe I can relax a bit more and be a bit more confident during the booking.

Again, big thanks to the community.

Great to hear that it went so well. Any chance that you will make out a field report?

Here's to the next one!

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