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Hello,

I had an incident yesterday that somewhat upset me.

I was in London for the day and I researched a few WGs in London on purple site that I wanted to meet. I saw one that I really liked the look of, by the user name "Blonde doll".. Blonde, gorgeous body, pale, nice heels, nice feet, good figure just my type...

I rang her when I got to London at 1pm. She picked up the phone and I asked her if I can come see her at 7:30pm, she said a cold "yes" and I said which tube station do I need to get off? She then said "Finchley road" And I said ok cool, see you then. She said bye and immediately hung up (20 second phone call, literally.)

It sucked because I always request girls to wear heels when I meet them because I really like how they look on women. But she hung up before I was finished. I didnt mind but it signaled either a bad attitude or she was busy. I didnt really mind either way but I just hoped she was a nice girl.

Anyway, it came to 6:45pm and I was with someone and knew I was going to be late. I text Blonde doll saying I was running late and if I could come at 8:30pm. She agreed and I told her I would text her when I got to Finchley. I was really tired and was thinking of not going to be honest. But I already told her I would and didnt want to let her down or disrespect her.

I got to Finchley tube 15 mins late which I felt bad for, but I text her if she could give me directions... I waited for 5 mins... Then 10 mins... 15 mins swings by and finally 20 mins goes pass while I'm waiting in the freezing cold and rain. I decide to ring her. *ring ring ring ring* and she hangs up while it rings.

I immediately think shes with another punter, or doesnt want to see me for whatever reason. I assume she will text me or call me at some point and apologize and say shes now ready. But im tired and decide to head back home.

I go home and to my surprise I still havent received a text saying "Im sorry I was busy" Or a text of any sort from the WG which I thought was odd.

Heres a picture of our text convo, did I do anything wrong?

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This is the 3rd time I've used purple site now...

Out of the 3 times:

1. I met one girl who was really nice, but it was not the girl in the pictures. She didnt even look anything like the WG in the picture at all. The one in the pic had long blonde hair and this one had short brunette hair and wasnt as attractive.

She still had a great attitude however, and I had fun with her. I wouldnt see her again though because she was very average-below average looking.

2. I met a girl who possibly photoshopped her pictures or used someone elses. I couldnt tell but in the picture she was thin, and had big boobs. In real life she was slightly over-weight and had a horrible attitude. It was the worst punt I've had and she treated me like I was dirt on the ground. A bad experience I wish never happened.

3. That was the above meet... Or lack of lol.

So, do guys normally get this behaviour from purple site or am I just unlucky?

And did I treat the WG from yesterday badly and did she have the right to not text me because I turned up 15 mins late or because I had to reschedule? I dont really mind that much that I didnt get to see her. She was just my type and I was looking forward to it. But for some reason I think her attitude would have been bad and I like affection as much as I like sex.

If she text me saying she couldnt make it or was busy, I possibly would have tried to meet her next time I was in London but I didnt even get that...

Thanks guys,

NewbPunt

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Your being late was genuine, but sadly a lot of men think that they can just turn up when they feel like it, so she may have thought you were one of these. It happens I'm afraid. Put it down to esperience and move on, there are some gems out there and not all are like that.

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I would have been put off by the first phone call. If she couldn't even wait while you asked what would have been a couple of reasonable questions I would have tried plan B. If you didn't have a plan B then you have learned something from this.

I hope your next punt is a better experience.

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I agree with PP, the first call would have put me off. I now rarely see girls off the purple site unless they have good feedback. But its still hit and miss, I have seen a few girls that have great feedback, but when I have seen them found them too mechanical, and vice versa a couple of local girls that have been on the site for ages with no feedback, and tried them when I am horny and had a great time!!

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Unfortunately you probably came across as a classic TW ... Often guys do push their appointment back repeatedly only to not show up at all. When you pushed back the first time it's likely she thought 'probably not going to show' and then when you were 15 minutes late she either took another appointment or clocked off for the day. I can't comment on the coldness -- as others have said, you might want to take this as a sign in future (but you might also want to avoid emulating the tricks of TWs, because a lot of WGs will assume you are one, unfortunately.) Good luck.

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Yep. Sounds like just one of those things - don't be put off too much I've found purple site generally ok if you're careful.

I'm interested though to hear others views on Sunday punting. I've never tried a Sunday (or Saturday apart from a parlour come to that) as I've assumed that it's going to be much harder work than sorting out a weekday. Views?

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If I had booked a punt at 7:30, especially with a WG I clearly well -fancied, I would not have been in the position the OP was at 6:45. I do not let anyhting except an unforseen emergency get in the way of arriving on time, especially when it's a first visit and I don't have the address.

Sorry if that sounds hard, but it is so easy to come across as a TW (even if you aren't)

To paraphrase the late Bill Shankly..some say punting is a matter of life and death - it's much more important than that

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Yep. Sounds like just one of those things - don't be put off too much I've found purple site generally ok if you're careful.

I'm interested though to hear others views on Sunday punting. I've never tried a Sunday (or Saturday apart from a parlour come to that) as I've assumed that it's going to be much harder work than sorting out a weekday. Views?

I rarely punt on a weekend due to the wife having me more closely marked then. On Saturday, though, opportunity presented itself and I had a cracker. In Brum / West Mids area there seem to be more indies advertising in the papers at weekends, amongst which there are a few gems. Generally, I would imagine there are fewer girls around on Sundays

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When you say you got to Finchley Rd 'fifteen minutes late', what time exactly was that?

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You know you're not a TW (hence your frustration), but for the WG it's a judgement call.

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OK, so she may have sounded cold, which might indicate she wasn't going to be a great punt, but seriously you're wondering why she didn't answer you!

You texted her 17 mins before you were actually due to shift the appointment an hour when she was probably already getting ready or ready for you and then you text again at 20.44, 14 minutes after you were supposed to be there at 8.30 saying you're here!

When men realise we are not laying around in our lingerie with nothing else to do but wait for YOU then things might run a bit more smoothly!

She could well have turned down other bookings because she thought you were coming so by 8.30 when you didn't bother to come she either took another, gave up for the night or was starving hungry and decided to have her dinner.

I know you probably didn't mean badly but this sort of behaviour will get you put in a girls phone as TW!

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shit happens. Both sides need to realise stuff comes up for the other person. I think only when it becomes a habit should you say someone is a TW

There again it is incumbent upon punter and wg is they need to change/cancel stuff to do it as soon as possible.

(BTW, dont mobiles work on the tube yet? I was in Berlin this week and they worked fine in the underground bits of the S-bahn and U-bahn)

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shit happens. Both sides need to realise stuff comes up for the other person. I think only when it becomes a habit should you say someone is a TW

There again it is incumbent upon punter and wg is they need to change/cancel stuff to do it as soon as possible.

(BTW, dont mobiles work on the tube yet? I was in Berlin this week and they worked fine in the underground bits of the S-bahn and U-bahn)

Yes, mate - that's Germany. Everything works properly.....

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Chapter 38 of NewbPunt's vivid imagination or book, not sure which!

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I would have been put off by the first phone call. If she couldn't even wait while you asked what would have been a couple of reasonable questions I would have tried plan B. If you didn't have a plan B then you have learned something from this.

I hope your next punt is a better experience.

So would i have been, that coldness would of turned me right off, the reason for it isnt relevant to me, but at least acting friendly is absolutely essential to me. If i miss out on a gem my bad luck.

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If I had booked a punt at 7:30, especially with a WG I clearly well -fancied, I would not have been in the position the OP was at 6:45. I do not let anyhting except an unforseen emergency get in the way of arriving on time, especially when it's a first visit and I don't have the address.

Sorry if that sounds hard, but it is so easy to come across as a TW (even if you aren't)

To paraphrase the late Bill Shankly..some say punting is a matter of life and death - it's much more important than that

Agreed, and i adhere to your last sentence myself.

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crikey don't even think it's just related to the purple site I think life in generally you come across some flakes in whatever company you try to get service with ha try dealing with barclays car insurance they will have you reaching for the prozac bottle within the first hour xxx

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Hey guys... What is a TW, a time waster or something?

You texted her 17 mins before you were actually due to shift the appointment an hour when she was probably already getting ready or ready for you and then you text again at 20.44, 14 minutes after you were supposed to be there at 8.30 saying you're here!

Lydia, I text her 47 mins early... and I felt bad doing that but I was in a situation I could not have gone out of.

I think its partially my fault yes, but did I deserve not even a "Sorry, im busy now" text? thanks

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Hey guys... What is a TW, a time waster or something?

Lydia, I text her 47 mins early... and I felt bad doing that but I was in a situation I could not have gone out of.

I think its partially my fault yes, but did I deserve not even a "Sorry, im busy now" text? thanks

Yes, apologies, I misread, your booking was 7.30 not 7.00. But I still stand by what I think about men who change booking times more than once. Of course genuine things come up, but in my experience those who mess with times often tend not to actually show up or turn out to be inconsiderate in other areas. I think also your lack of apology and casual attitude would be held against you. If you had said something like 'I am really sorry to mess you about but something has come up and I can't get to you until 8.30pm, would this be possible?' I would be more amenable to you.

I'm not having a go at you, but just trying to make you see why a woman may have dropped you like this. We escorts deal with messers all the time, so maybe we are a little cynical sometimes, but we have to use these experiences to ensure we are not left waiting for someone who won't come or someone who doesn't have the right attitude when they do arrive! I like to accommodate people if they are held up but sometimes I do have to think of myself and say sod it, no more chances for him!

Saying all that, to be fair to you this particular lady doesn't appear to have the most friendliest of manners! Maybe you need to look at other aspects when you choose a woman, not just her physical attributes! :)

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Yes, apologies, I misread, your booking was 7.30 not 7.00. But I still stand by what I think about men who change booking times more than once. Of course genuine things come up, but in my experience those who mess with times often tend not to actually show up or turn out to be inconsiderate in other areas. I think also your lack of apology and casual attitude would be held against you. If you had said something like 'I am really sorry to mess you about but something has come up and I can't get to you until 8.30pm, would this be possible?' I would be more amenable to you.

I'm not having a go at you, but just trying to make you see why a woman may have dropped you like this. We escorts deal with messers all the time, so maybe we are a little cynical sometimes, but we have to use these experiences to ensure we are not left waiting for someone who won't come or someone who doesn't have the right attitude when they do arrive! I like to accommodate people if they are held up but sometimes I do have to think of myself and say sod it, no more chances for him!

Saying all that, to be fair to you this particular lady doesn't appear to have the most friendliest of manners! Maybe you need to look at other aspects when you choose a woman, not just her physical attributes! :)

Thanks for the advice Lydia. This is exactly the kind of post I was looking for.

I tried to come off apologetic and I was in a situation I couldnt get out of. but I didnt put that urgency in my texts... Its a shame because this WG is really my type and if she had a good attitude she would totally be a regular.

I dont like to disrespect people, WGs or anyone else with coming late or not sticking to my word. So this was a very rare occasion.

Its interesting though because it gets me thinking if I turned up at 7:30 if she would have just dont the same thing. I've only had two purple site meets and one kept me waiting 30 mins when I was on time, then when I got to her flat the other punter was leaving as I was going in her flat... Very awkward.

I still debate in my mind whether I should call this WG in the OP when im in london again... It took me ages to find her. Shame, a great shame...

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I am not at all saying you should have realised there could be questions about this SP but:

Very cheap, especially for London I guess (literally guess).

And for the money looks almost too good to be true inc all the services available within that price.

No feedback.

Then:

She does (did?) have the stations she's 2 mins from on her site but you asked her where to get off and some WGs don't like people not reading their profile carefully.

You rearranged times twice.

If she's fed up with punters messing her around she could well have fingered you as likely one of them or you just pushed her into being double booked and there's usually no benefit in being nice to such people.

Given what you say about how much she suits you, I would suggest trying again if you want to but be on top of your timing this time. Even if she's a bit cold one on one it will scratch the itch and you won't have paid a huge amount to do so.

And you can report back to us!!

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I'm interested though to hear others views on Sunday punting. I've never tried a Sunday (or Saturday apart from a parlour come to that) as I've assumed that it's going to be much harder work than sorting out a weekday. Views?

Due to my particular set of circumstances, I quite often punt on a Sunday morning. It's usually fine as I book well in advance, but if there's a hiccup and I'm trying to sort out a Plan B at short notice then it can be difficult - a reasonable number of ladies seem to work on Sundays, but they tend to not start or answer calls until later in the morning - understandably, if they've been working on Saturday night as well!

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Labels are difficult. Some times I do idiotic things. But I am not "an idiot". You are not a time waster. But you did waste her time on this occasion. If she had texted you directions, you would have arrived at perhaps10 to the hour. So she had no work from 7:30 until 8:50 because of you. I can imagine she was in no mood to be intimate and she just ignored you. I'm not on her side or anything - just trying to see it from both sides. I also am not claiming to be any better - i have the ability to mess up bookings in new creative ways.

Equally (not directed at you NP) let's not label them as girls on the purple site. There is no club. It is just people who placed an ad there.

So anyway I hope your next punt goes well - a tad more research, and a whole lot more luck!

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griffon, how often do you book in advance?

I always try to book in advance but the girl always says "Ring me on the day" for some reason lol

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griffon, how often do you book in advance?

I always try to book in advance but the girl always says "Ring me on the day" for some reason lol

To get confirmation that you are not a TW. I guess it helps if you have some positive feedback on Another Website.

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