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Started punting 5 months ago at at a good age (65!) Loving it!

But I always go for an hour and there is always about 20 minutes left after the wicked deed (I can only manage one pop for goodness sake!)

As I am now fascinated by the punting 'scene', I generally interrogate the girls about it.

How did they start? Why did they start? How was the first time? How long have they been doing it/are going to be do it? what are they spending/saving their money on/for? Are they busy.. how many clients do they see?Any horror stories? etc etc...

Almost without exception they have been very forthcoming, happy to talk and they have some interesting and amazing back stories.

But they must think I am writing a book about it or are from HMRC!!

Does anyone else interrogate the girls about their business, or do you talk about what was on the telly last night, or are you just so rampant you can keep going for the hour!

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Using the word "interrogate" is not going to endear you to some ladies.

I call it being nosy beyond belief. It is none of your business how a girl started

or how long she intends to continue or what she spends the filthy lucre on...

how many men she sees etc

Clients occasionally ask me how I began it all and if I am in the mood to tell them

I will explain a little of my story but if he starts getting too inquisitive over things

which he has no need to know I turn the conversation around to something else.

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To answer your question though.... what do we talk about.., anything from the price of

kippers to the latest scandal in the news..... from the weather to our musical

tastes.... from religion to the procedure for inseminating a cow.

........... and a thousand other subjects...

:)

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Started punting 5 months ago at at a good age (65!) Loving it!

But I always go for an hour and there is always about 20 minutes left after the wicked deed (I can only manage one pop for goodness sake!)

As I am now fascinated by the punting 'scene', I generally interrogate the girls about it.

How did they start? Why did they start? How was the first time? How long have they been doing it/are going to be do it? what are they spending/saving their money on/for? Are they busy.. how many clients do they see?Any horror stories? etc etc...

Almost without exception they have been very forthcoming, happy to talk and they have some interesting and amazing back stories.

But they must think I am writing a book about it or are from HMRC!!

Does anyone else interrogate the girls about their business, or do you talk about what was on the telly last night, or are you just so rampant you can keep going for the hour!

Glad to hear your loving punting. I never interrogate a WG, if they bring the subject up which happens sometimes then i will happily discuss it in the breaks i need though. I see it as not my business why they are WGs and all your other questions you ask. I certainly cant shag for the whole hour nowadays.

With a newbie to me who can speak and understand English its small talk, with a regular it can be more in-depth talking about specific things, music, the news, good restaurants or where to buy a car as examples.

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I wonder why you started so late, Iorar. Was it because you became widowed perhaps? Or because you never had problems getting sex up till now? Do you like to choose mature escorts or do you like girls in their 20s, I wonder. And then, there are many more questions one could ask you!

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i tend to end up talking about sex, funnily enough.

re 'interrogation', iorar, I'd say you have to be very careful. it's natural that you're curious about various elements of this hobby that your WG will know and understand better than you, and that you could see her as a source of information.

i learned fairly early on, however, that you may end up asking an entirely innocent (to you) question and get an answer you'd rather not have got.

EG i asked a girl early in my 'career', as we'd been chatting about parlours, if that was how she got started in this line of work.

'no, I was pimped out when i was 16', was her response.

that was the end of my ever asking a WG any kind of personal questions, I can assure you.

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Using the word "interrogate" is not going to endear you to some ladies.

I call it being nosy beyond belief. It is none of your business how a girl started

or how long she intends to continue or what she spends the filthy lucre on...

how many men she sees etc

Clients occasionally ask me how I began it all and if I am in the mood to tell them

I will explain a little of my story but if he starts getting too inquisitive over things

OK, the word interrogate rather implies torture under a dripping tap. Not what I do of course, just chat.

The girls I have seen ask me about what I do, what I did before I retired, so I dont see the problem at all.

If you meet someone or have a friend that is, for example, a teacher you ask them about their work and what they do, how they got into it, like and dont like about their jobs

Being an escort is a career in exactly the same way.

I am not being nosy, it is just normal human friendly interaction to find out about someone else's work and experiences. They can and do ask me similar questions and I am happy to answer them

Much more interesting than the price of kippers!

And not one girl I have spent time with has changed the subject or been evasive. They don't appear to have anything to hide and talk freely about their experiences to me - I am genuinely interested in their stories, and they seem more than happy to share them with me.

(could be a pack of lies of course!!)

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Ioara

If you met me and interrogated enquired all of those questions you first stated then

I would have you in my phone as

nosy old git

No offense intended of course.... only being honest here :)

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Generally find "of topic" stuff including holidays, choice of music, the decor in the room (if it is an indie's own place), ease of access, nearby parking and other facilities.

As an aside it might be an idea if the ladies put the nearest cash machines on the sites!

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This is funny. Its one lesson for the novice punter to learn, that to ask penetrating questions is bad idea, it may result in the most inventive rubbish being told you. Or you may get you knob bitten off, so to speak. Best to let the girl steer the conversation

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This is funny. Its one lesson for the novice punter to learn, that to ask penetrating questions is bad idea, it may result in the most inventive rubbish being told you. Or you may get you knob bitten off, so to speak. Best to let the girl steer the conversation

Agreed.

If a new bloke to me asked all sorts of personal questions I would say "well you tell me all about your personal life first" but said with a twinkle in my eye and a smile on my face.

Today I talked about Jimmy Saville, the teacher and the school girl, our holidays, flowers.....

Lucy :)

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Hi there,

Well i dont think girls love to anwser all this questions and an hour wont be enough. :lol: Thats way too many noisy questions and it does spoils the moment. ^_^

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It can be nice for someone to take an interest in who you are and what you do etc. But privacy and discretion get easily undermined by too many questions from either party. Much as client and provider may on occasion be intrigued to know more about each other it's not really part of the deal. Proceed with caution unless you want to make people uncomfortable or worse take offence.

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Thai girls invariably ask me if I have ever been to Thailand. Standard small-talk?

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Generally find "of topic" stuff including holidays, choice of music, the decor in the room (if it is an indie's own place), ease of access, nearby parking and other facilities.

Same here.

Obviously dont ask her too personal questions like "so you live round here?" "Whats your real name?" ,"You have a boyfriend?", "What local pubs do you visit?" It may freak her out and its not your business (unless you intend to be her stalker)

I just go "cheesy chat".. What Tv you like? What Music? Are you studying? Doing anything nice this weekend? what you like doing when you not working here? etc...

nice to click when theres similar hobbies like TV, cooking, music, shopping,etc...

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The whole punting scene/industry also really fascinates me and I'd love to chat with a lady about it. Especially after watching some of the RealPunting videos before I had my first punt - none of them seemed to have any problems speaking about those topics.

However, after reading a few posts from girls on here before my first punt, I decided against ever asking about any of those sorts of things in case it made the girl uncomfortable, ruined the mood of the booking etc. If she happened to mention things herself then I might delve a bit deeper, but otherwise I generally talk about other things. I had some great chats with the last girl I saw on a whole variety of topics, from porn to genetics to the old childrens TV show The Moomins :D :D

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The consensus seems to be "keep it light and non invasive". I would have to agree. I would be very unhappy telling a lady all about my life with Mrs P. (She would also be bored rigid!) :D

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To answer your question though.... what do we talk about.., anything from the price of

kippers to the latest scandal in the news..... from the weather to our musical tastes.... from religion to the procedure for inseminating a cow.

........... and a thousand other subjects...

My discovery, punting, is that WGs aren't just "ordinary people" but a positive university. I've learned so much about so many things, post coital, that I could (almost) justify punting for the intellectual harvest!

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As I am now fascinated by the punting 'scene', I generally interrogate the girls about it.

How did they start? Why did they start? How was the first time? How long have they been doing it/are going to be do it? what are they spending/saving their money on/for? Are they busy.. how many clients do they see?Any horror stories? etc etc...

Almost without exception they have been very forthcoming, happy to talk and they have some interesting and amazing back stories.

And please ensure not to miss the stories about Santa, Rapunzel and Snow White and such other fairy tales.

Let's be careful out there! ;):P

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If it's a good punt I like to talk to them about them. However, I do try to keep it light hearted. Quite often I let the lady lead the conversation.

If it was a bad punt - clenched pelvis, a head turned sideways and sometimes a I don't want to look at you face (proper impersonal) then I make shapes to leave quickly.

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I think each meeting would be different, some Escorts and Punters may choose to talk about quite personal things, some making them up to appease each other. Others may be totally truthful and reveal things about themselves such as their real names, identities etc. Others might refuse to talk about their personal life.

Personally, when chatting prior to and certainly after the 'deed', I prefer to have an insight into the real Lady, which is a bit unfair, I admit, as I have become 'Steve' from Newtown or somesuch.

I have over the years, know three ladies real identities as a result of chatting after the deed, in two cases they have known mine and though we are and remain friends on FB, we no longer do the deed.

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Holidays and foreign travel seemed to be a large part of the post coital conversations held with my clients. The OP is not alone in being facinated by a working girls life though, there have been many a time I've had a guy (especially new guys) that has bombarded me with questions about it, that type of curiosity is natural so I was never offended by it. But then I worked out in the open and hid nothing from anybody so it wouldn't have bothered me I guess. Sometimes I used to enjoy shocking people on non escort forums by telling people what I really did for a living. It amused me to read their reactions, which in the main was normally positive and found it was the women that were more curious than the men.

Its in all our natures to be interested in new things and things we don't understand isn't it?

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This is funny. Its one lesson for the novice punter to learn, that to ask penetrating questions is bad idea, it may result in the most inventive rubbish being told you. Or you may get you knob bitten off, so to speak. Best to let the girl steer the conversation

How wonderfully patronising!

Punting is just sex for goodness sake, and I have been having sex for nearly 50 years! Its just that I have only recently decided to hand over hard cash for it (though the truth is it has always cost me money in one way or another!)

And every time I have had sex in those 50 years I have wanted to have an interest in the person I was having sex with!

Finding out about them, what they do, their careers and life choices.

As Holly refreshingly puts it

The OP is not alone in being facinated by a working girls life though, there have been many a time I've had a guy (especially new guys) that has bombarded me with questions about it, that type of curiosity is natural so I was never offended by it. But then I worked out in the open and hid nothing from anybody so it wouldn't have bothered me I guess.

Its in all our natures to be interested in new things and things we don't understand isn't it?

and if you actually read my posts, every girl I have discussed this with has been open and forthcoming. Like Holly, they are all independent and working out in the open, so what on earth have they to hide?

There is a great deal of ignorance about the sex industry. Yes there serious issues such as trafficking, pimps, abuse etc, but as I try to find out more about the girls, I find that the ones I have seen are very much in control of their situations, have interesting stories and, for all you punters out there unwilling to ask those questions, are often using their new found (and relative wealth) to get themselves on the property ladder back home, provide health care costs for parents, operations for their pets, student fees for themselves and their siblings and so on.

So lighten up everyone. We don't want a sex industry that is driven underground in this country. We need to know about and understand it, and a good way to do that is talk to those in the industry about it.

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How wonderfully patronising!

Punting is just sex for goodness sake, and I have been having sex for nearly 50 years! Its just that I have only recently decided to hand over hard cash for it (though the truth is it has always cost me money in one way or another!)

And every time I have had sex in those 50 years I have wanted to have an interest in the person I was having sex with!

Finding out about them, what they do, their careers and life choices.

As Holly refreshingly puts it

and if you actually read my posts, every girl I have discussed this with has been open and forthcoming. Like Holly, they are all independent and working out in the open, so what on earth have they to hide?

There is a great deal of ignorance about the sex industry. Yes there serious issues such as trafficking, pimps, abuse etc, but as I try to find out more about the girls, I find that the ones I have seen are very much in control of their situations, have interesting stories and, for all you punters out there unwilling to ask those questions, are often using their new found (and relative wealth) to get themselves on the property ladder back home, provide health care costs for parents, operations for their pets, student fees for themselves and their siblings and so on.

So lighten up everyone. We don't want a sex industry that is driven underground in this country. We need to know about and understand it, and a good way to do that is talk to those in the industry about it.

Not quite so bad as long as you're willing to be quite open about yourself if a girl were to ask you a few searching questions about your own personal life. It shouldn't just be one way. I asked you a couple of little questions about yourself which you chose to ignore so perhaps you're not that keen on being 'interrogated' yourself? Would you be equally as interested in the motivation and lives of girls who choose to work in cancer wards or care homes where people are suffering from dementia? Just wondered. I mean, what is it about sex workers in particular that interests you so much?

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I see nothing with the op asking questions, the same as I didn't mind my clients asking me questions. Usually they would ask if I minded them asking, and my reply would always be "If I'm not comfortable, I will say so".

Its natural for a lot of people who like to chat to ask what people do, and how they came to work in that career.

Its a bit like in getting into a taxi, and asking the same questions...

What time did you start?

What time do you finish?

Do you always work nights?

For some reason hairdressers conversation is always about holidays and weather.

Its all part of the trade...

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Not quite so bad as long as you're willing to be quite open about yourself if a girl were to ask you a few searching questions about your own personal life. It shouldn't just be one way. I asked you a couple of little questions about yourself which you chose to ignore so perhaps you're not that keen on being 'interrogated' yourself? Would you be equally as interested in the motivation and lives of girls who choose to work in cancer wards or care homes where people are suffering from dementia? Just wondered. I mean, what is it about sex workers in particular that interests you so much?

I think you are being a little harsh here, and come across a little agressive. I worked voluntary with young people who suffered from dementia, and my clients were always interested to hear about it. The op has a hobby where he visits sex workers, of course he has an interest in them.

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Not quite so bad as long as you're willing to be quite open about yourself if a girl were to ask you a few searching questions about your own personal life. It shouldn't just be one way. I asked you a couple of little questions about yourself which you chose to ignore so perhaps you're not that keen on being 'interrogated' yourself? Would you be equally as interested in the motivation and lives of girls who choose to work in cancer wards or care homes where people are suffering from dementia? Just wondered. I mean, what is it about sex workers in particular that interests you so much?

I'm beginning to wonder if people actually read posts before they fire off a reply

I said that I was interested in finding out about the careers of the people I was having SEX with. When I was a young man that might well have been care workers, or nurses. Now the people I have sex with are in the sex industry.

It is about making a connection with someone, talking about their backgrounds, careers and experiences. If we aren't trying to make a connection with someone we are having sex with that then sex becomes a very different function.

And of course I am happy to discuss my own career and background with an escort. And have done. I have nothing to hide (well except my punting from my wife!!!)

But I cannot think of any reason I should answer personal questions posed to me on this forum!

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