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Intimacy Disorder

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hey I have heard it be said that watching porn is a type of intimacy disorder and so i was thinking about this and thinking that may be seeing working girls is also a intimacy disorder. and some times I feel like i have an intimacy disorder sex addiction can be called an intimacy disorder. Just wondered if any one else here feels ever feels like they struggle with intimacy disorder? and how do you deal with that?

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Perhaps it doesn't need dealing with - unless you're the sort of anal type who prefers order to disorder - but there's no reason for you struggle with that either. Just do what makes you happy.

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Perhaps it doesn't need dealing with - unless you're the sort of anal type who prefers order to disorder - but there's no reason for you struggle with that either. Just do what makes you happy.

LOL , years ago we didn't lable disorders, we just used to say "there's nowt as queer as folk"

Everything has to have a label these days so that shrinks can treat you for it and line their pockets.

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Hi "down"

Based upon my own personal experience, I believe that _for some people_ punting is reflective of what could be termed an intimacy disorder.

Over a few decades and many punts (a significant number of which left me feeling sad and empty when the sexual high had worn off), I eventually developed enough self-awareness to realise in concept that I what am often really seeking when I punt is human intimacy and that I lack the emotional capacity to recognise this need within myself or to know how to fulfil it within a non-commercial relationship. Throughout this period I have also been involved in three conventional long-term relationships with very attractive women who I believe loved and respected me while probably also feeling that a part of me was “missing” from the relationship.

For me the principal difficulty lies within asking another person to help to meet my needs as a gift without direct reciprocation (or payment) on my part. Somehow the essential existence of financial payment within a punt, and the standing of the event as a commercial transaction within which I am the proprietor, makes the encounter possible for me albeit it that often completely misses the mark in terms of meeting my real needs. Although I appreciate this difficulty and live with the associated personal toll, the subconscious compulsion to repeat the “mistake” remains powerful and more or less unfathomable – as though I am on an endless and unattainable quest to find the perfect woman who will instinctively understand and meet all of my needs without it being necessary for me to openly articulate them or ask for their fulfilment (while also being incredibly beautiful to look at and fantastic in bed).

I hope this helps you a little and, subject to moderator permission, wonder if it might be valuable to flip this thread into the general discussion area where it might draw on a wider range of perspectives?

All the best.

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LOL , years ago we didn't lable disorders, we just used to say "there's nowt as queer as folk"

Everything has to have a label these days so that shrinks can treat you for it and line their pockets.

You're not even allowed to say 'queer' now :cool:

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You're not even allowed to say 'queer' now :cool:

Not even as in "There's nowt so queer as folk!"? :mad:

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I have punted because I find it much easier to be myself with people who don't actually know me. Once I know someone well - wife for instance - my guard goes up to some extent and I am less able to be intimate with them as I feel that I am being judged. Complicated is not the word.................

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