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Just wondered, like we have ex-WG who participate in the forums/chat are there any posters who have previously seeked services and have now stopped permanently? If so, (and if you don't mind me asking) what made you stop? Perhaps it was always just a one time and temporary thing you wanted to explore or maybe you met the right partner?

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I stopped, but registered (first post) to respond to this. I stopped because, if I am honest, punting ceased to be satisfying. I know most here won't get it or will strongly disagree but eventually I tired of paying for meaningless sex with girls who I perceived didn't really have much respect for me (even though many of them were very, very good at hiding it. To be clear, the issue was my self-reflection and self-image...not their failure to deliver what they were supposed to).

Yeah, sometimes the sex was good when I punted but in the end I found it became a lot of money for little real return in terms of mental satisfaction and I thus found spending my money on other things was more rewarding long-term. I didn't stop in a big announcement "I'll never punt again" kind of way...I just sort of faded out of it. I've punted a couple of times since I gave up (two years ago now) but I'm quite happy I no longer actively pursue the hobby. Punting is there if I ever have an absolute need (sometimes, but very, very rarely now) and having broken the habit, it's not often that I feel that desire. I think punting and having meaningful sex are (in my experience) just about mutually exclusive and unfortunately I've had enough meaningless sex that that outlet has about run its course with me.

For the record, no judgment of anyone is intended in this response. I just answered the question as honestly as I could.

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An ex-punter is like an ex-smoker....

We are only "ex" till the next cigerette..... ;)

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Stopped because I started having an affair.

We both had bad or no sex life with our partners and now satisfy each other. Still can't believe it sometimes.

Never told her I've done this, and won't tell her.

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An ex-punter is like an ex-smoker....

We are only "ex" till the next cigerette..... ;)

I would say "see my comment above". Punting isn't like smoking, where the activity is damaging to your health and mostly, a single cigarette does take you back to full-time smoking. I've given up punting, but may now punt once a year instead of once a week. That's doesn't signify anything, and most important of all doesn't change the fact that to all intents and purposes I remain an "ex-punter". I think far too many people make a big deal of "retirement from punting". It's more like retiring from work than quitting smoking. Some retirees still do the odd day of consulting. That doesn't mean they're not retired.

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I stopped, but registered (first post) to respond to this. I stopped because, if I am honest, punting ceased to be satisfying. I know most here won't get it or will strongly disagree but eventually I tired of paying for meaningless sex with girls who I perceived didn't really have much respect for me (even though many of them were very, very good at hiding it. To be clear, the issue was my self-reflection and self-image...not their failure to deliver what they were supposed to).

Yeah, sometimes the sex was good when I punted but in the end I found it became a lot of money for little real return in terms of mental satisfaction and I thus found spending my money on other things was more rewarding long-term. I didn't stop in a big announcement "I'll never punt again" kind of way...I just sort of faded out of it. I've punted a couple of times since I gave up (two years ago now) but I'm quite happy I no longer actively pursue the hobby. Punting is there if I ever have an absolute need (sometimes, but very, very rarely now) and having broken the habit, it's not often that I feel that desire. I think punting and having meaningful sex are (in my experience) just about mutually exclusive and unfortunately I've had enough meaningless sex that that outlet has about run its course with me.

For the record, no judgment of anyone is intended in this response. I just answered the question as honestly as I could.

Welcome to the forum Lohengrin. :) Interesting post. I view punting as pay and go no strings, no hassle sex myself though rather than meaningless, i get somethng from it so it has a meaning, fun and obviously getting my rocks off in a way i like which is why i will be continuing to do it i imagine until i cant manage it anymore. ;)

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I would say "see my comment above". Punting isn't like smoking, where the activity is damaging to your health

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It would be damaging to my health if the wife found out.

I've not had a punt in several months, not since my regular retired. I guess I don't want to pay and then be left disappointed that it was not as good as I used to have with someone I really connected with.

My personal circumstances have also changed so now it is more difficult to get a convenient booking with a girl I want to see, and I would be taking more risk in taking the time out to see a girl.

So, I seem to have unintentionally retired :(

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Just wondered, like we have ex-WG who participate in the forums/chat are there any posters who have previously seeked services and have now stopped permanently? If so, (and if you don't mind me asking) what made you stop? Perhaps it was always just a one time and temporary thing you wanted to explore or maybe you met the right partner?

I hav'nt punted since I met someone I really liked in january of this year,I did make a announcement on the message board at the time of my retirement.I made the decision retire because I wanted to be faithful to the other person in this new relationship and to treat her the way I'd expect to be treated,in the 16 years I punted there were only very casual relationships so stopping my hobby never really entered my head.

Over the years I had some absolutely brilliant punts and some god awful waste of money punts,but the brilliant punts stick in my mind and over shadow the bad ones...so all in all it was a very enjoyable hobby and I'd go straight back to it if this current relationship ever came to an end.

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I'm still here. I think I've just got fed up with it in the same way as I've got fed up and bored with everything lately. The first time is fabulous and then the thrill slowly wears off until it becomes routine, dull and boring. I saw a lady about a month ago and while that was fun, ultimately it didn't really serve any purpose whatsoever. OK, I got a shag and some time with a nice woman but I could equally have stayed at home and paid J Arthur a vist, saved the hassle and the expense. Had any appointment booked for last week with a local lady who I really like as a person as much as I like her for her sexual side but she had to cancel. Was I disappointed? Not at all and I had a nice evening in front of the tv.

I've found the punting thing a bit to clinical and some of the women far too cynical. I've never expected anything from it on an emotional level and have tried to concentrate on the purely physical pleasure of it but that has proved not to be enough. I still visit here every few days and read the reviews and could be tempted again but I remain doubtful for many reasons.

I think hitting 60 has knocked the wind out of my sails a bit and for the first time ever, I feel as if I am getting old. I think why would a pretty girl in her twenties or thirties or even forties want to have anything to do with me and that's quite tough. I have even found myself not noticing attractive women on purpose rather than play my (mental) game of trying to decide which ones, on a pure physical attraction basis, would be worth risking my marriage for. These days, the answer is none.

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I like the ex-alcholholic punter comparison

I've retired before only to come back and again after a break of around 18 months I'm planning a comeback.

I quit mainly because of the expense and the risk of wasting it of the punt wasn't great

I come on here every now and then to see whats been happening and if any starlets have appeared that would make a comeback worthwhile.

This time i'm steering away from the london agencies.

Looks like i'll be trying MK for my return and then if that goes well i'm going to loose my party cherry at LMP :eek:

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I like the ex-alcholholic punter comparison

I've retired before only to come back and again after a break of around 18 months I'm planning a comeback.

I quit mainly because of the expense and the risk of wasting it of the punt wasn't great

I come on here every now and then to see whats been happening and if any starlets have appeared that would make a comeback worthwhile.

This time i'm steering away from the london agencies.

Looks like i'll be trying MK for my return and then if that goes well i'm going to loose my party cherry at LMP :eek:

Or if punting in the week is possible for you you could go to HOD SK which has pledged on here the same standards of honesty as some MK SPs. A great FR record coupled with great feedback on here and with some excellent WGs at £130 an hour.

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I am an expunter since I was ripped off by Rio of Nottingham (with Nottingham escorts agency) a year or so ago. Since I didn't do FRs I couldn't really report on that in that way. BTW she owes me around £450. (She left at midnight having taken cash for an overnight)

In general, I would say that vfm is extremely variable, some great people who are truly professional, some complete losers who are bad at what they do at everything and have an overblown view of themselves all the same. Can't see much prospect of doing it again.

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I am an expunter since I was ripped off by Rio of Nottingham (with Nottingham escorts agency) a year or so ago. Since I didn't do FRs I couldn't really report on that in that way. BTW she owes me around £450. (She left at midnight having taken cash for an overnight)

In general, I would say that vfm is extremely variable, some great people who are truly professional, some complete losers who are bad at what they do at everything and have an overblown view of themselves all the same. Can't see much prospect of doing it again.

Another issue is when the chap down below rules over your head/brain.

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I am an expunter since I was ripped off by Rio of Nottingham (with Nottingham escorts agency) a year or so ago. Since I didn't do FRs I couldn't really report on that in that way. BTW she owes me around £450. (She left at midnight having taken cash for an overnight)

In general, I would say that vfm is extremely variable, some great people who are truly professional, some complete losers who are bad at what they do at everything and have an overblown view of themselves all the same. Can't see much prospect of doing it again.

Sorry to hear about this. Its having a good attitude and being honest that makes a WG good or bad, unfortunately you punted with a bad one. When i do which hasnt happened for a long time now i dont let that put me off punting with another WG myself, in fact i get back to punting asap.

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I hav'nt punted since I met someone I really liked in january of this year,I did make a announcement on the message board at the time of my retirement.I made the decision retire because I wanted to be faithful to the other person in this new relationship and to treat her the way I'd expect to be treated,

Congratulations on the, now well established, relationship. I hope you both have many happy years and that your punting will remain distant history.

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Just a few passing thoughts.

I wonder if it is possible - off course it is to a degree - to be an ex-punter and (actively) conrtribute here?

Or does being an ex-punter mean very limited participation?

I have heard some males and females in previous reincarnation on this board suggest it is not possible to remain here if one seriously wants to give up punting altogether.

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Just a few passing thoughts.

I wonder if it is possible - off course it is to a degree - to be an ex-punter and (actively) conrtribute here?

Or does being an ex-punter mean very limited participation?

I have heard some males and females in previous reincarnation on this board suggest it is not possible to remain here if one seriously wants to give up punting altogether.

Its completely up to the poster if they wish to continue posting on here after giving up being a punter or WG in my view. Holly for example has posted much good advice recently on here despite being retired from her experiences gained while working. That kind of experience is very valuable in my opinion and can help others. I personally dont agree that to be serious in giving up punting you have to stop posting on here, thats down to how committed you really are to giving up, if temptation might get the better of you perhaps not posting might help though. In some cases like Ace he still posts on ocassion but has met someone and doesnt punt. I think imparting your own experiences and opinions can help others whether you yourself actually punt now or not. :)

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Its completely up to the poster if they wish to continue posting on here after giving up being a punter or WG in my view. Holly for example has posted much good advice recently on here despite being retired from her experiences gained while working. That kind of experience is very valuable in my opinion and can help others. I personally dont agree that to be serious in giving up punting you have to stop posting on here, thats down to how committed you really are to giving up, if temptation might get the better of you perhaps not posting might help though. In some cases like Ace he still posts on ocassion but has met someone and doesnt punt. I think imparting your own experiences and opinions can help others whether you yourself actually punt now or not. :)

Cheers...

What would be your thoughts if a punter wanted to give up altogether?

Like the other posters in my former reincarnation I find it very hard to reject their assumption but then again maybe I am stuck in counselling-type thought, where one has to abstain away from the stimuli in all its form whether it be drugs, alcohol and even sex?

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There have been two chunks of my life, one in my 20s and one in my late 40s when sex has gripped me and I've punted. There have been much longer ones when, as at present, sex hasn't bothered me at all; when I'd rather work, research ideas, walk great distances or climb mountains --- solitary pursuits also pursued at the expense of relationships.

I have no idea whether I'll ever decide to pay for sex again, and don't see it as a big issue either way. None of this precludes a residual, mostly academic interest in this business, its peculiar ambience and the inane laws that surround it..... leading to the occasional, rare, post, as here.

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I see no reason why ex-punters should not share their wit and wisdom with us. The more the merrier.

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I see no reason why ex-punters should not share their wit and wisdom with us. The more the merrier.

Anybody should be able to contribute for that matter - even though not everyone in the (PN) club will have this line of thinking.

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Haven't punted in almost a year (excluding a few massage sessions). I still pop into this site but (aside from this post) never post.

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Cheers...

What would be your thoughts if a punter wanted to give up altogether?

Like the other posters in my former reincarnation I find it very hard to reject their assumption but then again maybe I am stuck in counselling-type thought, where one has to abstain away from the stimuli in all its form whether it be drugs, alcohol and even sex?

Obviously thats their business, not something i would do though, whatever occured be it a new relationship as long as i was able to i would still punt because i require variety, one woman for ever is not for me and never has been. Shagging around as long as i find it fun is my life choice, as is being a lying cheat selfishly putting myself first. :)

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I stopped about six years ago.

To be honest I lost my job at that time and just didn't have any spare cash available. After that I was more concerned with 'getting on with life' and making sure finances were on a firm footing rather than spending money on shagging and I suppose I just got out of the habit.

Check out the escort sites occasionally and my go back to punting, or may not!

Racer

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