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Getting Older Is Shit - Discuss.

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I turned 60 about a month ago and, far from being another birthday, it has been traumatic ever since. While always accepting of such things eventually happening, I realise now that noticing a cute young woman on the train is officially perving and that the chances of my being whisked, or whisking some else, off my/her feet in a moment of spontaneous passion are zilch, zero, fuck-all. I have noticed that some escorts draw the line at 60 and this merely adds to feeling not great.

I've also realised, though this has been on the cards for a while, that cumming twice, even in a two hour meeting, isn't going to happen and that what once would have been great fun - an overnight and waking up in the morning with some gorgeous woman next to me and having a quick one before she leaves - is also very unlikely from a physical viewpoint. Even an overnight would be a waste though, because I do need a bit of sleep these days, and that doesn't help either.

And maybe it is still the trauma of the birthday, but I find my erections are not what they were, and if I take my mind of things, they can go and not come back. The last time I had sex, I wasn't even sure that I had cum at all, and only some subtle investigation proved that I had, although it didn't feel like it. The huge physical release of the teenage years has gone, the pump pressure as it were, to be replaced with something much less and certainly less obvious. And let's not even think about volume........... Again, this too is a bit depressing.

So I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself at the moment and wonder if anyone has words of encouragement or, more likely, their own tales of woe.

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Well here is my history of decades. Hated being 20, loathed it. I never noticed being 30. I adored being 40, best decade of my life. I woke up at 50 and discovererd every single person on the planet was an idiot. I am now 57.

My rock hard, get one if the wind changes, erections faded mid 40's . I am only able to come once in a session and need to keep focussed. I still have goods orgasms though.

We blokes need to start thinking like women. Time was a woman over 40 was over the hill. Now they go on and on! Look at Judy Dench and Helem Mirren! We too can go on. We are not broken down by hard physical jobs like our dads. I work out, I dress smart and to be honest I think I am in better shape than many men half my age.

I still ogle women, still desire working girls and still punt. I do not care if they think I am a perv, so what? The women I will never meet and the wgs are paid enough to lie for a hour and say things I want to hear.

Life is precious even at our age, get your bucket list dusted down and go for it.

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Life is precious even at our age, get your bucket list dusted down and go for it.

...but I don't fancy most of the girls I can afford and I can't afford most of the ones I fancy......................

See, its complicated and I'm even inventing excuses not to......................

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The last time I had sex, I wasn't even sure that I had cum at all, and only some subtle investigation proved that I had, although it didn't feel like it. The huge physical release of the teenage years has gone, the pump pressure as it were, to be replaced with something much less and certainly less obvious. And let's not even think about volume........... Again, this too is a bit depressing.

So I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself at the moment and wonder if anyone has words of encouragement or, more likely, their own tales of woe.

Encouragement? I'm a few years your senior, and I'm in much your boat, physically. The way I look at it is that while a wife or girlfriend might be put off by my diminishing abilities in bed, our lovely friends, the ladies of the night, just get on with the job and give me all the pleasure that their skill can provide. And I am always careful to say (and mean it) "Thank-you, that was wonderful!"

Grin and bear it! Things can only get worse, but, surely, you still have your memories, (or if that is going, a few digital photographs)?

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I don't have an age limit when it comes to men seeing me. The oldest guy I've seen to date was in his 80's and we still had a good time. And a few weeks ago a 61 year old guy came to see me who was in far better condition than the 29 year old I'd seen previous to him.

I turned 40 a couple of weeks ago, but sadly I lost my mum 2 days before. I've decided to take a leaf out of her book and rather than worrying about how old I'm getting, I'm going to have a year long celebration and and enjoy the rest of it like she did. You're just been too hard on yourself Dick78. As they say "you're as young as the woman you feel."

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I turned 60 about a month ago and, far from being another birthday, it has been traumatic ever since. So I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself at the moment and wonder if anyone has words of encouragement or, more likely, their own tales of woe.

Is this the same man who an hour earlier posted on the " make up or not " thread? It's a good job you're asking advice of (presumably) grown ups and not young kids. If you asked my granddaughter (age 9) her reaction would probably be to say, with feeling, " get over it and get a life ". Sorry if that sounds insensitive and brutal but that's the way it is !!!

Go and find that half full glass and throw away the half empty one. I can assure you that thus is peer advice. We all knew we were going to get older but we thought that with the knowledge and experience would also come the body we had 30'odd years ago. Common sense told us that wasn't the case but we wouldn't accept that fact. The body gets older but the mind doesn't have to age the same. To quote Jane Russell " it's not the age. it's the attitude ". Answers as to which film on a postcard please.

Being with a lady isn't all about sex. If any man thinks it is then not many ladies will enjoy the experience.

Appreciating a young lady is not perving unless you make it so but the chances of you sweeping a young lady of her feet are definitely very remote. Accept it. Which leads me on to the 60 year ban. That's up to them. They do seem to be a very very very small minority. I've seen many ladies of all ages saying they like to see "mature" or even "elderly" gentlemen. The ladies who adopt tge bab are making assumptions. So what? Live with it. Plenty more fish in the sea.

As far as the erections are concerned. Never heard of Viagra or Cialis? Or better still get angry with yourself. Amazing what positive emotion can do.

As regards listening to other people's tales of woe and feeling sorry for yourself. Forget it. What you need is a good kick up the a***e !

In retrospect I think I should have been a little more frank and harsher with my advice but hey that's life !!!!

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Well here is my history of decades. Hated being 20, loathed it. I never noticed being 30. I adored being 40, best decade of my life. I woke up at 50 and discovererd every single person on the planet was an idiot. I am now 57.

My rock hard, get one if the wind changes, erections faded mid 40's . I am only able to come once in a session and need to keep focussed. I still have goods orgasms though.

We blokes need to start thinking like women. Time was a woman over 40 was over the hill. Now they go on and on! Look at Judy Dench and Helem Mirren! We too can go on. We are not broken down by hard physical jobs like our dads. I work out, I dress smart and to be honest I think I am in better shape than many men half my age.

I still ogle women, still desire working girls and still punt. I do not care if they think I am a perv, so what? The women I will never meet and the wgs are paid enough to lie for a hour and say things I want to hear.

Life is precious even at our age, get your bucket list dusted down and go for it.

I love this post and your quite right too. Men become 'in my eyes and I know many others' far more sexy when their hair starts to grey and the lines start to appear around their eyes. 50 is supposed to be the new 30 or something like that, so you should be loving this time in your life.

To the OP all is not lost, have you ever wondered why so many men of a certain age start becoming more interested in Tantra? That might be worth considering. There is also a lot you boys can do to help yourself keep young and fit like getting in the gym and also strengthening those all important PC muscles, they are so important if you want a good erection. I know guys well into their 70's that can compete with any 20 year old, but they have realised that they need to look after themselves well to be able to do that.

Working those pubococcygeal (PC) muscles is such a simple way of strengthening and maintaining erections, these same exercises can also help increase male orgasms, not sure you can do this in the gym though, might be a bit embarrassing but if you wanted to stop mid-flow whilst urinating, you’d need to tighten your PC muscles wouldn't you? So you can also tighten them at other times. Practice tightening the PC muscles for the count of 5 seconds, then releasing them. Alternate in this way 20 times twice a day and work up to 70 repetitions twice a day. It will take a few weeks, but you’ll soon notice a wonderful difference and start feeling sexier as a result I promise ;)

Another thing to try is: Use a dry face cloth, hang it over your penis and practise tightening the muscles and raising the face cloth with the same repetitions, when you are at 70 twice a day you can take it a step further and use a damp face cloth, progressing onto light weights if you really want to be superman between the sheets.

You need to watch your diet too. No smoking or binge drinking, Oysters are good because they contain Zinc, which increases sexual desire in both men and women. 'Men with sexual dysfunction often have lowered levels of zinc'. Avocados: Great for metabolizing proteins to help increase libido and sexual stamina in both sexes. Celery: Boring it may seem, but this neglected salad stick boosts a male hormone called androsterone - a natural pheromone which may help attract the sexual attentions of women. Chocolate is good because it also contains libido enhancing chemicals for men as well as women and then of course a little red wine helps as it helps the blood flow. 1/2 a childs soluable Asprin a day also keeps that blood thinner and flowing too 'make sure they are either soluable or coated though and take no more than that because of your stomach lining'.

If all else fails there is always the old Viagra to fall back on (with the doctors blessing of course).

Hope this helps.

H x

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Things can always be worse Dick,last year I lost somebody very close who would've loved to see 60 only fate dealt her a bad card at the age of 44....try to enjoy those things you can still do.

Song dedicated to the Punter known as Dick78

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Another thing to try is: Use a dry face cloth, hang it over your penis and practise tightening the muscles and raising the face cloth with the same repetitions, when you are at 70 twice a day you can take it a step further and use a damp face cloth, progressing onto light weights if you really want to be superman between the sheets.

Hope this helps.

Once that would have been bloody great big bath towel - now a flannel :o

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Not sure what to say apart from good luck mate - and try not to be too hard on yourself. :) ...As an aside I am not sure about this emoticon it always has given me the impression that is laughing at you rather than sympathising with/for you. Perhaps I should have wrote [smiles] instead ;)

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Working those pubococcygeal (PC) muscles is such a simple way of strengthening and maintaining erections, these same exercises can also help increase male orgasms, not sure you can do this in the gym though, might be a bit embarrassing but if you wanted to stop mid-flow whilst urinating, you’d need to tighten your PC muscles wouldn't you? So you can also tighten them at other times. Practice tightening the PC muscles for the count of 5 seconds, then releasing them. Alternate in this way 20 times twice a day and work up to 70 repetitions twice a day. It will take a few weeks, but you’ll soon notice a wonderful difference and start feeling sexier as a result I promise ;)

Thanks for that Holly. I was saying recently to someone that one of the many good things about exchanging posts and pm's is that you are always learning something new. I've already googled and read more about pubococcygeal muscles. Never heard of them before even though we have a copy of Gray's on the bookshelf.

The red wine and chocolate is not a problem. I have been on that medication for a long time.

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Thanks for that Holly. I was saying recently to someone that one of the many good things about exchanging posts and pm's is that you are always learning something new. I've already googled and read more about pubococcygeal muscles. Never heard of them before even though we have a copy of Gray's on the bookshelf.

The red wine and chocolate is not a problem. I have been on that medication for a long time.

If you think about it logically the penis when erect needs a good blood flow, as you get older that blood naturally thickens and outside factors such as smoking etc can make it worse, so you need to get that blood flowing again. Its also an organ and like all other organs needs looking after properly, as organs start to fail you can often get them to work better by concentrating on the muscles surrounding that organ, not rocket science is it? Its the same for us girlies with our little clits, we need good blood flow too and can have similair problems.

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Given up the drink full stop after an evening out with an ex staff member. Fit as a flea, Namibian girl, 32, and we drank 2 bottles of red, liqueurs and then she wanted to go the pub for more, so she had at least five large Scotches while I had singles. My hangover went from Wednesday to Saturday afternoon while she was at her desk at 8.00 the next morning, albeit with a headache. Still eating chocolate although this may slow down as my wife has just been diagnosed as hyperthyroidal so, following treatment, may not be able to finish several boxes a week with no weight gain at all.

Also, have used Viagra and while it helps with overall stiffness which, to be honest, wasn't that bad anyway, once I have cum once, that's it. Possibly a bit pyschological too as then I just want to go home and watch reruns of the Billy Cotton Bandshow and Dad's Army....................

You are all right though - I do need to pull myself together and get on with it but that's my point - the whole 60th thing really threw me and getting back up again is proving harder than you might imagine.

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Been there, done it, experienced it!

All I can say is stop fighting it, know your limitations, and enjoy what is left.

Stay relaxed, because stressing over limitations makes them worse and when you are with the right lady you'll be amazed what your body can still do!

CB

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read the lyrics to 'Always look on the bright side of life' - the eric idle song.

then if you have erection problems see yer quack cos it can be a symptom of quite a few conditions. Also get him to test your testosterone, and consider supplements (which are available on the NHS)

Then check your lifestyle. Get some exercise, .drink and eat sensibly.

The go and find some 20yr old WG and surprise her with a jolly good seeing to!

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I turned 60 about a month ago and, far from being another birthday, it has been traumatic ever since. While always accepting of such things eventually happening, I realise now that noticing a cute young woman on the train is officially perving and that the chances of my being whisked, or whisking some else, off my/her feet in a moment of spontaneous passion are zilch, zero, fuck-all. I have noticed that some escorts draw the line at 60 and this merely adds to feeling not great.

I've also realised, though this has been on the cards for a while, that cumming twice, even in a two hour meeting, isn't going to happen and that what once would have been great fun - an overnight and waking up in the morning with some gorgeous woman next to me and having a quick one before she leaves - is also very unlikely from a physical viewpoint. Even an overnight would be a waste though, because I do need a bit of sleep these days, and that doesn't help either.

And maybe it is still the trauma of the birthday, but I find my erections are not what they were, and if I take my mind of things, they can go and not come back. The last time I had sex, I wasn't even sure that I had cum at all, and only some subtle investigation proved that I had, although it didn't feel like it. The huge physical release of the teenage years has gone, the pump pressure as it were, to be replaced with something much less and certainly less obvious. And let's not even think about volume........... Again, this too is a bit depressing.

So I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself at the moment and wonder if anyone has words of encouragement or, more likely, their own tales of woe.

My wife passed away a few years ago and I thought a life worth living was a thing of the past but in time I realised I still had my needs.I was over 70 when I started punting and, having prostate problems I was able to get Cialis on prescription. I have been visiting parlours regularly for the last five years and have always been enthusiastically welcomed by all the girls and have one or two "Regulars".I am growing old disgracefully and would recommend it to anyone I have never yet had a girl refuse to see me,but I do always ask if my age is a problem.Cheer up...and go for it.

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Was going to post something different but will instead first second the comment about how helpful Holly's post will be to many punters of various ages.

Older than the OP, I am amazed mostly by how well treated I am by WGs. I wouldn't want to be landed with me but I now can't recall any that I thought were reserved or worse because of my age. I also get a lot of compliments on performance when I am sure I am no better than ever. Of course they could be professional comments but having been there, I would say not and when accompanied by full on kisses it is convincing.

So the limitations I may now have (I wasn't writing to say how great I am) aren't allowed to get in the way. I don't but I could quite happily just lie and cuddle and stroke if any physical limitations prevented anything else - we've fucked enough times by now surely? And any malfunction can be explained and then we get on - I almost never cum in company but I simply say how long it takes me to cum with a really nice girl compared to someone nasty and I say how I would want them to stop before their pussy or arm gets tired.

Yes we do got problems - I find it hard putting my socks on in the morning, but hang on I've never noticed it after a punt! The massage/tantric massage mentioned above is worth the OP considering, and me as variety is always good.

So I don't say wake your ideas up but I do say look for the good things and possibly new things, treasure the good women you come across and don't risk them leaving before you have seen enough of them.

Best wishes

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Was going to post something different but will instead first second the comment about how helpful Holly's post will be to many punters of various ages.

Older than the OP, I am amazed mostly by how well treated I am by WGs. I wouldn't want to be landed with me but I now can't recall any that I thought were reserved or worse because of my age. I also get a lot of compliments on performance when I am sure I am no better than ever. Of course they could be professional comments but having been there, I would say not and when accompanied by full on kisses it is convincing.

So the limitations I may now have (I wasn't writing to say how great I am) aren't allowed to get in the way. I don't but I could quite happily just lie and cuddle and stroke if any physical limitations prevented anything else - we've fucked enough times by now surely? And any malfunction can be explained and then we get on - I almost never cum in company but I simply say how long it takes me to cum with a really nice girl compared to someone nasty and I say how I would want them to stop before their pussy or arm gets tired.

Yes we do got problems - I find it hard putting my socks on in the morning, but hang on I've never noticed it after a punt! The massage/tantric massage mentioned above is worth the OP considering, and me as variety is always good.

So I don't say wake your ideas up but I do say look for the good things and possibly new things, treasure the good women you come across and don't risk them leaving before you have seen enough of them.

Best wishes

Thanks - this is very encouraging although the sock thing is a bit of a worry :huh:

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Its a good place this board. Thanks for your replies and emails. Much appreciated.

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Well, I am 65 next, assuming that I get there!

My best years were my mid-thirties.

The ladies I have met are, without exception, kind and good company.

I try to make sure that they enjoy themselves as much as I do, and either they are all consummate actresses, or some or all of them do so..

We have fun, swap jokes and do lots of stuff that I never contemplated in my youth. I know that, as indies,they don't have to see me again and when they do times are sooo good.

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Well I'm past 70 and also suffer from the sock thing. But still randy as hell and thank God for our lovely working ladies. Yes the cum twice days are gone though very occasionally one gets a surprise. And many of our lovely ladies work very hard to try and make it happen - bless them.

Agree about the Tantric. Cumming once in a two hour tantric session with a real practitioner can almost be as good as cumming three times. And is just as exhausting!

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I found a four handed massage followed by a BJ still works well, if left a week apart. In my 30s I wanted/had sex every day, 40s several times a week, 50s, probably once a week, but don't seem to NEED it, like when I was younger. Companionship, watching the view, following the presidential race, watching the weather now seem more important.

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As someone rushing headlong towards 59 I zympathise with the sentiments you express.

The situation was best described by the Coronation Street character Jack Duckworth "I'm losing me hair, me teeth are going and I don't feel as randy as I used to!"

WW

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I turned 60 about a month ago and............................<snip>

:lol: :lol: :lol: Dick 78, I can relate to what you're saying, shall we put our heads in the gas oven together ?? (save gas / global warming and all that.. )

On second thoughts, instead of having 2 punts this month I think I'll have 3 or 4 while I still can :P

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Same age as the OP and never really experienced any distain or certainly never a refusal from a WG. Yes most of things you describe are typical of our age and it's not a good thing BUT I find now I can shag for far longer than before especially with a condom on (without only with my partner of course) so I take that as a positive at least. Another thing is I very very rarely find a woman of similar age now to be attractive so I'm glad not to be on the market for a new relationship. After gorgeous young (paid for) ladies they just don't seem to do it for me at all

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