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One For The ((Younger) Ladies: Have You Told Your Mum About You Being An Escort?

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And if so, what was the reaction?

A new regular Lady of mine who has come back on the scene after 4 years away, now 24, she is worried about her Mum finding out (using the shared PC to access various sites, her mobile, etc.).

Would it be easier just to tell her Mum?

She is a single Mother of 4 year old child living at home with the also single Mum. The Father has done a runner so she is trying to earn some money to bring her child up.

Thoughts?

Is deception better or worse than honesty?

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In her shoes I would try to get my own access to the web. Sharing is never a good idea and in this circumstance can only lead to dangerous times!

By the way, I haven't told my Dad that I'm a punter yet!

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Sorry, not a younger lady or even a lady, but I think it is always up to the lady in question. Every situation is different so has its own route to a sensible decision.

Obviously the circumstances described suggest some risk of discovery but if the lady doesn't want her mother to know, she can try to minimise the risk. Only she knows the implications of telling her mother rather than have her find out, her mother's character and views and all the other things.

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Maybe he thinks us older ladiess have one foot in the grave, surly our mothers already passed?

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In her shoes I would try to get my own access to the web. Sharing is never a good idea and in this circumstance can only lead to dangerous times!

By the way, I haven't told my Dad that I'm a punter yet!

In the 'right' circumstances, a Dad might be quite proud of his son!

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Personally I would give my right arm for my mother not to know. It's ruined our relationship and she hates what I do and won't see me (we do talk occasionally though) I thought she'd get over it but she hasn't. it wasn't exactly my choice for her to find out so it is slightly different than the lady who is making a choice here. However, if anyone had asked me in advance how I thought my mum would react I would have said she'd be upset but deal with it and forgive me. Two years on and she hasn't. It's horrible.

Obviously all mothers are different, but just wanted you to hear my take on it,

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Maybe he thinks us older ladiess have one foot in the grave, surly our mothers already passed?

No, my reasoning was that I thought it more likely that the more mature ladies might tell their Mothers.

If I'm wrong then, I apologise and open the question up to all!

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Personally I would give my right arm for my mother not to know. It's ruined our relationship and she hates what I do and won't see me (we do talk occasionally though) I thought she'd get over it but she hasn't. it wasn't exactly my choice for her to find out so it is slightly different than the lady who is making a choice here. However, if anyone had asked me in advance how I thought my mum would react I would have said she'd be upset but deal with it and forgive me. Two years on and she hasn't. It's horrible.

Obviously all mothers are different, but just wanted you to hear my take on it,

Is it her perception of what you do. perception that we all know is usually wrong?

I've never had kids, nor been a mother (!), so I find it hard to appreciate and understand just what the mother/father to child relationship is like.

Pretty powerful, I guess.

There was one lass, no two, that I have seen, or used to see, whose mothers were also Escorts, but I suppose that is an entirely another thing.

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Personally I would give my right arm for my mother not to know. It's ruined our relationship and she hates what I do and won't see me (we do talk occasionally though) I thought she'd get over it but she hasn't. it wasn't exactly my choice for her to find out so it is slightly different than the lady who is making a choice here. However, if anyone had asked me in advance how I thought my mum would react I would have said she'd be upset but deal with it and forgive me. Two years on and she hasn't. It's horrible.

Obviously all mothers are different, but just wanted you to hear my take on it,

That is really sad and I hope one day she will come to terms with it.

My mum knows and is ok with it - which was a huge relief.

Sometimes you think you know people and how they are going to react and their actual reaction will take you greatly by surprise. I told a very open-minded close friend that I was an escort thinking it would be no big deal for her. She never spoke to me again, so always good to be cautious.

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I told my mum I was thinking about becoming an escort before my first interview with an agency. We are extremely close, and if she disapproved I wouldn't have gone ahead with it. She was very chilled out about it, the first thing she said was "well most your uni friends are giving it away, you may as well charge". When I started she went and bought a copy of secret diary of a call girl to read, bless her!

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My mum knows ^_^ and is ok with it, she even helped me when i interviewed drivers and helped me choose the right one ^_^

She says as long as im safe and she doesn't see it happening then she is ok with it ^_^

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Is it her perception of what you do. perception that we all know is usually wrong?

I've never had kids, nor been a mother (!), so I find it hard to appreciate and understand just what the mother/father to child relationship is like.

Pretty powerful, I guess.

There was one lass, no two, that I have seen, or used to see, whose mothers were also Escorts, but I suppose that is an entirely another thing.

Combination of things, incomprehension at how anyone could have sex with random men, shame- what does everyone think of me (I don't care, she does) Worry which is fair enough, this job can have its dangers and disappointment- I really should have a 'proper' career.

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That is really sad and I hope one day she will come to terms with it.

My mum knows and is ok with it - which was a huge relief.

Sometimes you think you know people and how they are going to react and their actual reaction will take you greatly by surprise. I told a very open-minded close friend that I was an escort thinking it would be no big deal for her. She never spoke to me again, so always good to be cautious.

II suppose whilst you can always get new friends, its a bit more tricky to get a new Mum!

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She says as long as im safe and she doesn't see it happening then she is ok with it ^_^

Panda -x-

That should be every mother's first response. Sadly it rarely is. I am full admiration for the ladies who escort, and would not care to try to understand their families reactions.

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I wouldn't tell my parents and I wouldn't expect my children to tell me.

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It has surprised me as to the number of fathers who are aware of their daughters occupation whilst mother has no idea.

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In response to the OPs point about web access, etc, on an iPad I use Google Chrome to access AWork as it allows 'incognito' tabs to be opened, keeps no history or cookies, provided you dont be silly and bookmark the page !

If I use Safari, for this or other sites, I need to clear history and cookies manually afterwards, so as Mrs T doesn't find out.

Also as a parent, given some of the nutters around (care in the community and all that shite), I'd have greater concerns for my daughter's safety if she did become a WG. In the normal course of life, there are far too many young girls - many of them very pretty - who have ended up seriously injured (blind in one awful case I read recently), or even murdered by violent, abusive and jealous boyfriends. My own view is that is can be a very easy and unwitting step to take for WGs when befriended by guys with smarm and charm, and then it can be too late.

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Gibbs, I wouldn't want to know that my daughter has sex let alone is a WG. If she is anything like me then I shouldn't got to an LMP, I may bump into her.... wrong....

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It has surprised me as to the number of fathers who are aware of their daughters occupation whilst mother has no idea.

My mother passed before I started but if she hadn't I would never have done it, I know she would have forgiven me and come to terms with it eventually, (after trying every trick in the book to stop me that is), but I also know she would have been very hurt by it and I couldn't hurt her like that. When I did start the rest of my family knew about it, including my dad who was far more liberal and very supportive.

My closest friend lost all contact with her mother when she found out which is sad and hurts her a lot, its that bad her mother will cross the road if she sees her rather than speak. On the other hand I was at a party recently when one of the younger girls was quite happily chatting away about how her mother helped her with her website and was also her safe buddy.

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Some ladies find their family and friends understand and accept their choice to be a prostitute, others do not and often lose those close to them as a result.

I'm in the fortunate position that those close to me do know, and have not blanked me out. They do however worry about my safety and I'd guess they probably wish I did something a tad more socially acceptable. I think each situation is individual and would neither advise for or against coming clean. I would however advise that the lady tries to make sure she retains control over who she wishes to know, and doesn't let anyone ever hold it over her. This is easier said than done I'm afraid.

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In response to the OPs point about web access, etc, on an iPad I use Google Chrome to access AWork as it allows 'incognito' tabs to be opened, keeps no history or cookies, provided you dont be silly and bookmark the page !

I'm on Yahoo, on the desktop, and I use the "in private" facility. No history is retained but just to make sure I go through the delete process most times. No bookmarks or other silly things as you say :ph34r:

If I use Safari, for this or other sites, I need to clear history and cookies manually afterwards, so as Mrs T doesn't find out.

Safari on the iPhone but again I have it set on "private browsing" and only change that when I have to to access some e-mails. Again play safe by checking that it was still set on private and doubly afe by using the delete cookies and data facility. You have to make sure that if you come out of it in a hurry that you close the site properly before returning to the main sceen. If you don't the next time you go to Safari it will reboot back to where you were which could have consequences particularly if you weren't the one pressing the buttons :(

Also as a parent, given some of the nutters around (care in the community and all that shite), I'd have greater concerns for my daughter's safety if she did become a WG. In the normal course of life, there are far too many young girls - many of them very pretty - who have ended up seriously injured (blind in one awful case I read recently), or even murdered by violent, abusive and jealous boyfriends. My own view is that is can be a very easy and unwitting step to take for WGs when befriended by guys with smarm and charm, and then it can be too late.

If my daughter wanted to do it I would do my absolute best to dissuade her for exactly the reasons you have given. If she was adamant and was going to do it anyway I would be thankful that she had told me and I would have kept in as close contact with her as humanly possible. My wife would be a mother who would not be able to deal with it and would be unable to understand.

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Gibbs, I wouldn't want to know that my daughter has sex let alone is a WG. If she is anything like me then I shouldn't got to an LMP, I may bump into her.... wrong....

Fathers are fathers. I remember coming home one day to discover that my daughter was pregnant. Not the best day of my life. Several years later I still have my daughter, also two grandchildren that I adore, and a very fine son-in-law who is not only the father of my grandchildren but very considerate to his parents-in-law and whom I wouldn't mind having as my son.

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My mother passed before I started but if she hadn't I would never have done it, I know she would have forgiven me and come to terms with it eventually, (after trying every trick in the book to stop me that is), but I also know she would have been very hurt by it and I couldn't hurt her like that. When I did start the rest of my family knew about it, including my dad who was far more liberal and very supportive.

My closest friend lost all contact with her mother when she found out which is sad and hurts her a lot, its that bad her mother will cross the road if she sees her rather than speak. On the other hand I was at a party recently when one of the younger girls was quite happily chatting away about how her mother helped her with her website and was also her safe buddy.

My daughter and I (only the one child unfortunately) were very close from her being born up to her late teens. Much closer than she was with her mother which concerned me a lot at the time. Not unnaturally as she became a woman the situation reversed and sometimes I did feel out of it but there were many good moments. Earlier this year I started visiting ladies. I was very clever about it as all us men think we are. I chose a time when my wife was abroad on a weeks holiday with a girlfriend. I made a hash of it. My daughter found me out. I made a clean breast of what had happened. Actually it was a mixture of truth (she didn't want to know the details) and missing out or amending some of the facts. She never told her mother about it and because one learns from experience I am now much more careful and no longer think that I'm clever. I also took the opportunity (we had a very long discussion about many things) to tell her that I was jealous of her relationship with her mother. This was a complete surprise to her but the good news is that my daughter and I are now closer than we have ever been. I hope that every lady in this profession has that sort of close relationship with her father and if possible with her mother.

As regards the two girls the first is so sad that words can't cover it but the second is very different and that young lady must be so glad that she has someone to share things with and particularly that not only is the person female but a mother who clearly must love her daughter.

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Earlier this year I started visiting ladies. I was very clever about it as all us men think we are. I chose a time when my wife was abroad on a weeks holiday with a girlfriend. I made a hash of it. My daughter found me out. I made a clean breast of what had happened. Actually it was a mixture of truth (she didn't want to know the details) and missing out or amending some of the facts.

That must be the worst possible happening. I'm glad it didn't end badly. Not sure how I would have handled a similar situation.

You were very brave, and correct, to come clean. Also very lucky to have an understanding daughter.

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My daughter and I (only the one child unfortunately) were very close from her being born up to her late teens. Much closer than she was with her mother which concerned me a lot at the time. Not unnaturally as she became a woman the situation reversed and sometimes I did feel out of it but there were many good moments. Earlier this year I started visiting ladies. I was very clever about it as all us men think we are. I chose a time when my wife was abroad on a weeks holiday with a girlfriend. I made a hash of it. My daughter found me out. I made a clean breast of what had happened. Actually it was a mixture of truth (she didn't want to know the details) and missing out or amending some of the facts. She never told her mother about it and because one learns from experience I am now much more careful and no longer think that I'm clever. I also took the opportunity (we had a very long discussion about many things) to tell her that I was jealous of her relationship with her mother. This was a complete surprise to her but the good news is that my daughter and I are now closer than we have ever been. I hope that every lady in this profession has that sort of close relationship with her father and if possible with her mother.

As regards the two girls the first is so sad that words can't cover it but the second is very different and that young lady must be so glad that she has someone to share things with and particularly that not only is the person female but a mother who clearly must love her daughter.

I'm going to come out with something now that I may regret, but I don't think he'll mind me sharing it.

My partner has a kink, nothing bad but a bit unusual and I'm absolutely fine with it. For years he hid it from his wife and family but it was making him very unhappy doing so, at some point during his previous marriage this came out and his ex forced him into the position whereby he had to tell his children (I think she thought it would drive a wedge between him and them and threatened to tell his elderly mother if he didn't which would have been bad). He sat them down and was very open and honest about it, they accepted it and like you became so much closer to their dad because of it. In fact my partner was a bit put out because he'd hidden this for so long and agonised about it and all his son said was 'oh god is that all, thought you were going to tell us something really bad', now the wedge is between them and their mother for putting him and them in that postition in the first place.

Our kids are very abaptable and far more understanding than we give them credit for methinks, glad it worked out for you.

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