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it amazes me some escorts have such bad manners . i sent two polite emails two escorts on adultwork at the weekend i mention i was a black guy i didn't have to mention my origin to both of then but i did . the first girl i email read my message then blocked on adultwork that really annoy me there was no need to be rude . the second girl email me back saying sorry i don,t do black guy due bad experience with my ex . it same old story with some girls on adultwork with the ex with bad experience . i am a individual person a good person i feel sometime i have justify my race i am a positive person i try not let it bother me . but does sometimes. there has been lot thread on this topic on race . i read then and it help me . sorry for the rant linford

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Hi,

I just read your post and i just want to give you a big hug. Please dont be upset, its nothing to do with your race. Its just the girls have bad manners and not worse your attention.

Cheer up and i wish you good luck.... :) xxx

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it amazes me some escorts have such bad manners . i sent two polite emails two escorts on adultwork at the weekend i mention i was a black guy i didn't have to mention my origin to both of then but i did . the first girl i email read my message then blocked on adultwork that really annoy me there was no need to be rude . the second girl email me back saying sorry i don,t do black guy due bad experience with my ex . it same old story with some girls on adultwork with the ex with bad experience . i am a individual person a good person i feel sometime i have justify my race i am a positive person i try not let it bother me . but does sometimes. there has been lot thread on this topic on race . i read then and it help me . sorry for the rant linford

I'm really sorry to hear of your bad experiences but trust me, this isn't the case for all girls. I have no problems with black, white, yellow..multicoloured! as long as your nice, and I'm positive that this is the same for many other girls. Don't let it get you down x

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Hi,

I just read your post and i just want to give you a big hug. Please dont be upset, its nothing to do with your race. Its just the girls have bad manners and not worse your attention.

Cheer up and i wish you good luck.... :) xxx

It's everything to do with race, unfortunately, because we live in a society saturated with racism. It's terrible, and it's everywhere.

Having said that, I don't think you should worry about these ladies -- control over who we see is a very important part of the job, and whilst I personally can't imagine a world in which I'd want to discriminate based on how much melanin someone has in their skin, I have all manner of other (random and mostly unreasonable :P) reasons why I don't offer someone a first or return appointment. I'm not saying it's right or good (and I am calling it racism, for sure), but when it comes down to it, you probably don't want to go and see a lady who isn't comfortable seeing you (even for patently stupid reasons). Keep trying, and maybe look for someone who mentions on their profile that they aren't discriminatory in their preferences.

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Aw that is a shame, if these girls feel like that then they should say so on their profiles so you don't waste your time emailing in the first place.

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Aw that is a shame, if these girls feel like that then they should say so on their profiles so you don't waste your time emailing in the first place.

Agree, it should be a question on their interview tab - Are you a racist? Which colour of men will you not see?

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it amazes me some escorts have such bad manners . i sent two polite emails two escorts on adultwork at the weekend i mention i was a black guy i didn't have to mention my origin to both of then but i did . the first girl i email read my message then blocked on adultwork that really annoy me there was no need to be rude . the second girl email me back saying sorry i don,t do black guy due bad experience with my ex . it same old story with some girls on adultwork with the ex with bad experience . i am a individual person a good person i feel sometime i have justify my race i am a positive person i try not let it bother me . but does sometimes. there has been lot thread on this topic on race . i read then and it help me . sorry for the rant linford

Glad to hear the threads about race have helped you. There is no solution to this situation apart from educating people to treat all people as a unique individual which will take time and even then some will still have prejudices, its sadly human nature. As has been discussed at length and some of us agree a WG MUST always have the choice to punt with who she wishes.

All i can advise is look at the positives, at least you didnt get turned down on the WGs doorstep, and there are many WGs who will punt with you and not be bothered your black which will hopefully lead to a good punt. :)

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To the OP, sorry that you've had that experience but there are plenty more fish in the sea.

To the others, I am actually quite appalled you willingly cast the 'race' card on people you don't know or have never met. Some people have preferences, and that is their right, just as you have your rights. To call them racist without ever having said a word to these people shows you're own prejudices, not theirs.

Everyone has the right to meet whoever they want AND whoever they don't want.

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hi guys thank you so much for your support here it,s mean a lot to me.. i was a bit down today but iam okay now thanks to you guys. i always try to be positive and not hold the race card in life in general and look for the best in people but sometimes it difficult when people don,t see your personally but judge you on color of your skin i also feel stereotype typical rudeboy or Rastafarian but that not me but do understand escorts have a right to choose who there see . thanks linford

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While I respect that a lady may prefer to meet guys from particular stereo types, I am sorry that you have been insulted.

For what it's worth, I try to avoid meeting ladies who express racial views in their profiles.

I realise that this is of no help to you, but I hope it will not dissuade you from punting with the numerous, lovely, broad minded ladies who post here.

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Linford.....

You have done this rant before on this forum before and also on The LBB, which is a North West based sex site forum for those who do not know.

Please may I ask why you are doing it again on here?

Lucy :)

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it amazes me some escorts have such bad manners . i sent two polite emails two escorts on adultwork at the weekend i mention i was a black guy i didn't have to mention my origin to both of then but i did . the first girl i email read my message then blocked on adultwork that really annoy me there was no need to be rude . the second girl email me back saying sorry i don,t do black guy due bad experience with my ex . it same old story with some girls on adultwork with the ex with bad experience . i am a individual person a good person i feel sometime i have justify my race i am a positive person i try not let it bother me . but does sometimes. there has been lot thread on this topic on race . i read then and it help me . sorry for the rant linford

Sorry this has happened to you. I don't think this is special to that site, it's something black guys come up against from time to time, and that is unfortunate. Keep trying... there are some nice ladies out there x x x

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Lucy to your repsone don,t see what your problem is ? many people rant before on this site about this issue race and another sites . i am no different . it like Sarah said it ,s something black guys come up against from time to time what i am talking about is facts . i don,t write thread for sake of doing it . i don,t think you get it linford

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I do not have a problem at all Linford.

I was just questioning the fact that your only two threads on this forum have been on the same topic, and you have not posted on any other thread since you joined here.

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I like many others hate racism, and abhore it for what it does and can do, we live in a multi-culture society and should welcome the fact.

I know where the OP is coming form, as their are many time wasters on AW, and they deserve to be ignored, but there are also many excellant working ladies on there, and they should be praised but we dont hear anything from punters who join saying that,

Why is it that posters who join have to complain about something, its best to say your views and get earned respect, and let others know you through your posts, before they try to speak out about what issues they might have.

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seems unfair to say that to you linford im sure she must of been out with a nasty white bloke before

its not fair to put everyone in the same box because of colour,gender or religion

everyone is different

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it amazes me some escorts have such bad manners . i sent two polite emails two escorts on adultwork at the weekend i mention i was a black guy i didn't have to mention my origin to both of then but i did . the first girl i email read my message then blocked on adultwork that really annoy me there was no need to be rude . the second girl email me back saying sorry i don,t do black guy due bad experience with my ex . it same old story with some girls on adultwork with the ex with bad experience . i am a individual person a good person i feel sometime i have justify my race i am a positive person i try not let it bother me . but does sometimes. there has been lot thread on this topic on race . i read then and it help me . sorry for the rant linford

Okay this is going to upset you but Im going to say it in the interests of honesty. I have had in the past new girls start and half way through the day announce, "sorrryyyy I dont do black guys" then they hold up their hands to describe a huge cock. I tell them its up to them but if a guy books them im not going to ask the guys colour on the phone and they can go in and tell the guy themselves if one turns up. It is rude, its based on ignorance and in a parlour setting they cannot use the excuse that black guys are dangerous blah blah as there are other people in the same apartment. One ridiculously ignorant girl even said to me "but dont all black people have aids"????? She didnt receive a nice reception to that statement and unbelievably she was actually sitting next to a black girl who worked for me at the time. This is half the problem I think, the "bad experience" card is played as its easier for them to say than "im stereotyping you to have a cock so big that even though i have had 3 children you would rip my in half (she wishes)" or "Im so socially unaware that I assume the colour of your skin means you have aids". Ignorance is still out there, loud clear and alive and kicking..by the way the aids comment girl was English and supposedly well educated. It beggars belief!

Pardon the expression but F**K em. There are plenty of open minded girls out there who dont care what nationality someone is or what colour their skin is. Considering our profession renders us social pariahs to a degree its ridiculous just how much prejudice is there.

Saying that, I always reserve the right for any girl only to see the clients she wishes, I just think some of them are pretty daft in their determinations and parameters

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Saying that, I always reserve the right for any girl only to see the clients she wishes, I just think some of them are pretty daft in their determinations and parameters

It must always be that way.

However I feel the title of this thread is a bit misleading. There are racists on other forums too. Let's not dis AW alone.

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I like many others hate racism, and abhore it for what it does and can do, we live in a multi-culture society and should welcome the fact.

I know where the OP is coming form, as their are many time wasters on AW, and they deserve to be ignored, but there are also many excellant working ladies on there, and they should be praised but we dont hear anything from punters who join saying that,

Why is it that posters who join have to complain about something, its best to say your views and get earned respect, and let others know you through your posts, before they try to speak out about what issues they might have.

I have a problem with this respect thing. I agree about earning it, but you should always afford anyone respect and common courtesy. I have no problem at all with someone coming on here for the first time and complaining. You can always slap them down like the bitch they are offer help or advice to anyone can't you?

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As a white male this is easy for me to say, but...

  • if a girl writes on their profile that they won't see a particular "race" then there's little point losing sleep over them - even if I am in their preferred group I avoid girls that write this
  • if a girl doesn't "specify" then it's up to the punter whether he reveals in advance that is is not a white male
  • if the girl upon reading that the prospective punter is black/asian/whatever and the girl declines the booking then they fall into the first category and you've dodged a bullet (I guess this is why you tell them in advance)
  • The "bad experience with an ex" line is almost certainly bull-crap and why the f*** would it matter if their ex was non-white? I bet many have had bad experiences with a white ex and yet do you think they would refuse to see all white guys? I think not. Just racist.

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Thanks for sharing Linford. I have seen this on black girls' profiles too, which confuses me no end. Sad though it is, I think it best to know before turning up and being let down. Their loss.

Personally I prefer to see women of colour. One who I had a particularly memorable session with actually says to me at the end, "You f*ck like a black man." I still have no idea what she meant, but she was stereotyping herself.

Anyhow, good luck in future.

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Sorry about your continued bad experiences, there are ladies out there who will accept clients regardless of race, age, size or whatever else variable you may offer. Hope you find someone more accommodating in future.

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I have a problem with this respect thing. I agree about earning it, but you should always afford anyone respect and common courtesy. I have no problem at all with someone coming on here for the first time and complaining. You can always slap them down like the bitch they are offer help or advice to anyone can't you?

Maybe we should respect everyone who posts on here, but when someone has been a member since July 2010, and has only 5 posts which dont include any items of humour, or giving anything back, then you have to ask yourself why do they bother.

I dont understand the reason why people expect replies to all their general questions, as some escorts must get so many requests they can be forgiven for not replying tothem all.

And if some has a reason not to see someone (whatever it is) and explains in a way and says sorry, as the second escort did, then I think she should be commended for her honesty, not used as an example of bad manners.

Linford, im not knocking you mate, as I also have what some find differant examples of politeness, but you have to remember that not everyone has the time or patience to reply to all that they recieve, course it could be a sign they dont respect you, but if they dont bother answering you why not try again, and then move on.

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I have heard some ladies do not see men of an African origin, even via the Carribean, as they are well endowed, and they cannot "accomodate" them.

I have heard some ladies avoid people from certain West African countries, as they have had bad experiences of physical mistreatment by them.

I have heard Indian ladies avoid Indian men, just in case word gets back to family.

I have heard some ladies avoid Chinese men, as they a not very well endowed, and the condom keeps falling off.

Are these "racist" comments, or just observations of types of people?

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I have heard some ladies do not see men of an African origin, even via the Carribean, as they are well endowed, and they cannot "accomodate" them.

I have heard some ladies avoid people from certain West African countries, as they have had bad experiences of physical mistreatment by them.

I have heard Indian ladies avoid Indian men, just in case word gets back to family.

I have heard some ladies avoid Chinese men, as they a not very well endowed, and the condom keeps falling off.

Are these "racist" comments, or just observations of types of people?

They are excuses for a racist mindset in my view.

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