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Lack Of Work And Sex Drive

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Have been working freelance since end of the summer and for some weeks have had no work or just a day or two. Obviously been a little cash-strapped and that has reduced my activities greatly, but what I did find was that not being in full-time work had an effect on my sex drive.

Being busy all week I used to get to Friday night and feel horny as hell. I'd book a girl from my favourite ageny and have a great time. I made a similar booking a few weeks ago and it took a while for me to be fully erect and my orgasm felt weak.

Being sat around the house all day can get depressing. I also find myself ending up looking at porn and taking a wank or three during the day.

Was wondering whether anyone else has experienced anything similar?

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Yes - when business is going well I feel I have earned a little celebration, and the extra cash it costs has been earned many times over. When things are grim it would feel as absurd going for a punt as it would going to a Michelin-starred restaurant.

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Yes. When I worked all week Friday night was treat night, and I would spend all day Friday thinking about what lady to see, get home and book someone and then be all excited about them coming over and having fantastic sex when they did arrive. I'd the sleep like a baby and be ready and relaxed for the weekend.

Circumstances have changed and am now in part-time employment and on days off I spend a lot of time thinking about seeing a lady to break up the boredom but finances mean I can't see ladies as often as I would like. Having lots of free time also means quite a bit of knuckle shuffling watching porn. However, that backfires when meeting a lady as the 'death grip' of a wank can't be easily replicated so I'm finding if I've spent a lot of time masturbating in the days/weeks prior to seeing someone I can't easily cum when having sex, I don't get as hard, and I normally have to wank myself to completion anyway, which then doesn't make the meeting as fun, at least for me.

It's not an easy circumstance to be in. It can be quite depressing having a lot of free time.

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Have been working freelance since end of the summer and for some weeks have had no work or just a day or two. Obviously been a little cash-strapped and that has reduced my activities greatly, but what I did find was that not being in full-time work had an effect on my sex drive.

Being busy all week I used to get to Friday night and feel horny as hell. I'd book a girl from my favourite ageny and have a great time. I made a similar booking a few weeks ago and it took a while for me to be fully erect and my orgasm felt weak.

Being sat around the house all day can get depressing. I also find myself ending up looking at porn and taking a wank or three during the day.

Was wondering whether anyone else has experienced anything similar?

The exact opposite at least initially, when i retired i spent the first year punting at parties at least 3 days a week as well as at 121s , a different scenario i know though.

I hope it improves on the work and punting front. :)

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Wish this worked with my OH. He works tremendous hours and is often just too tired :wacko:

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Mabye he needs the Coolidge effect.

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If your libido has lessened it might be you worrying about work, or the lack of it, and your ability to meet your financial commitments.

Although wanking does relieve the boredom, try and find something else to occupy your time. An interest totally unrelated to sex will help to streamline your thoughts so that sex is not constantly at the forefront of your consciousness.

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During my career I had spells out of work, and tried hard to keep fit by running and cycling. That kept me fit for work when it came along but also for punting when funds allowed.

I would recommend outdoor exercise as a means of maintaining your libido.

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Stop using porn, and use the time to look for more work rather than moping around on the Internet. That way you'll have more money for punts AND be happier :-)

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Prospective employers are more likely to be impressed by someone who has been proactive in looking for work rather than sitting on their backside waiting for it to come to them. Nowadays there are hundreds and sometimes thousands of people chasing one job. Instead of sending off your application by post or e-mail IF IT IS POSSIBLE take it personally. You never know it might be your lucky day. I appreciate this is a generalisation but I'm sure you get the idea. Job plus money equals happiness. Unemployment plus nothing equals misery.

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Prospective employers are more likely to be impressed by someone who has been proactive in looking for work rather than sitting on their backside waiting for it to come to them. Nowadays there are hundreds and sometimes thousands of people chasing one job.

But I'm sure I read in the Daily Mail that they are happy just sitting watching Jeremy Kyle whilst claiming benefits? :unsure:

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hm..

when I'm quiet on work I tend to do a lot of hiking and bicyle riding. that gets the libido up.

when I'm under work-stress, the adrenaling.. gets the libido up.

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Have been working freelance since end of the summer and for some weeks have had no work or just a day or two. Obviously been a little cash-strapped and that has reduced my activities greatly, but what I did find was that not being in full-time work had an effect on my sex drive.

Being busy all week I used to get to Friday night and feel horny as hell. I'd book a girl from my favourite ageny and have a great time. I made a similar booking a few weeks ago and it took a while for me to be fully erect and my orgasm felt weak.

Being sat around the house all day can get depressing. I also find myself ending up looking at porn and taking a wank or three during the day.

Was wondering whether anyone else has experienced anything similar?

Yes. Ok so I'm a girl but we both have testosterone so maybe there are some parallels?.

The happier and healthier I am the hornier I am. Seems your self esteem is linked to your status and your status is linked to your job.

I'm assuming that if you're freelancing from home you are something IT related? Bad news.

Like, Paul says you really need to get active. Hopefully, you're not so far gone into the dark space that it depression and compulsive porn viewing that you can actually get your shit together to go for run. As awful as it sounds there really is no other way out

(this message was brought to you by a porky ice-cream guzzling woman in her pajamas)

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I find that if I hit the gym at least 3 times a week it raises my sex drive. Pushing weights can help reduce the breakdown of testosterone in the blood which results in a higher sex drive. There are some natural sex drive boosters out there which

can help like horny goat weed or Maca available over the counter from most health stores.

I keep well away from porn these days. It does give you temporaril fufillment but it use to make me feel empty afterwards.

If money is a big deal then you could always pull a drunken chick in a club or bar one saturday night :)

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But I'm sure I read in the Daily Mail that they are happy just sitting watching Jeremy Kyle whilst claiming benefits? :unsure:

If you believe even 10% of the stuff they print in the Daily Mail then you are clearly staying up a long after your bed time. By half past five you should be in the land of nod!

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Loss of sex drive is because of too much wanking. I bet if you if look at porn for a whole but don't do anything with your hands, the urge will return very quickly.

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^ Are you saying he should look at porn and not wank? Just wander around with a hard-on. That would take some resolve.

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Loss of sex drive is because of too much wanking. I bet if you if look at porn for a whole but don't do anything with your hands, the urge will return very quickly.

Not something i have ever noticed.

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Ignore the remark about porn. Personally I notice a lack of wanking and sexual activity in in general does increase sex drive. Probably not universal though.

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Mabye he needs the Coolidge effect.

It's a very effective remedy.

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The exact opposite at least initially, when i retired i spent the first year punting at parties at least 3 days a week as well as at 121s , a different scenario i know though.

I hope it improves on the work and punting front. :)

That's different. You're younger than me and you seem to have retired ages ago, so you've clearly been very successful and your retiring was a choice. Very different from being without work - which can induce a feeling of worthlessness. That's what starts playing havoc with your willy.

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Its a fact that too much wanking too porn can destroy your sex drive.

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Have been working freelance since end of the summer and for some weeks have had no work or just a day or two. Obviously been a little cash-strapped and that has reduced my activities greatly, but what I did find was that not being in full-time work had an effect on my sex drive.

Being busy all week I used to get to Friday night and feel horny as hell. I'd book a girl from my favourite ageny and have a great time. I made a similar booking a few weeks ago and it took a while for me to be fully erect and my orgasm felt weak.

Being sat around the house all day can get depressing. I also find myself ending up looking at porn and taking a wank or three during the day.

Was wondering whether anyone else has experienced anything similar?

Sounds like me for the last couple of years :(

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Yes. Ok so I'm a girl but we both have testosterone so maybe there are some parallels?.

The happier and healthier I am the hornier I am. Seems your self esteem is linked to your status and your status is linked to your job.

I'm assuming that if you're freelancing from home you are something IT related? Bad news.

Like, Paul says you really need to get active. Hopefully, you're not so far gone into the dark space that it depression and compulsive porn viewing that you can actually get your shit together to go for run. As awful as it sounds there really is no other way out

(this message was brought to you by a porky ice-cream guzzling woman in her pajamas)

Hi Lovekitties.

I'm going to have to be very careful how I word this!

As an Escort (well I assume you are), you have made the choice to take up this self employment and make some money for yourself and your family.

This is an option that ladies, but few men have. I totally admire and respect the ability that escorts have to have sex with strangers, but the fact is, the majority of escorts are women.

Presumably, at sometime, you have made the decision to go out and sell your body, an option not available to men?

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But I'm sure I read in the Daily Mail that they are happy just sitting watching Jeremy Kyle whilst claiming benefits? :unsure:

:)

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