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my girlfriend has cancer, cervical cancer is it ok for me to have sex with her or could I put myself at risk?

or could i even get HPV?

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TBH i wouldn't make love to her atm hun, not sure if can catch anything but it could hinder the healing process or she could be sore in there...especially if needs to be lasered away so best give her some breathing space for now i should think x

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my girlfriend has cancer, cervical cancer is it ok for me to have sex with her or could I put myself at risk?

or could i even get HPV?

Err, first reaction is that sex would be the last thing on my mind, let alone being worried about yourself.

Reassurance, support, cuddling, understanding and being with her would, to my mind, be the way to go.

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I wouldn't even be thinking about sex or myself in this situation, I would be far more concerned about looking after my girlfriend and making sure she had everything thing she needed and was as comfortable as possible. Her physical and emotional wellbeing would be far more important than your sex drive right now, after all partners are meant to support each other when things are difficult.

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yeah i know that guys

but she wants sex and was asking for it...

so got me thinking about HPV or anu other possible health risks we could put on each other

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yeah i know that guys

but she wants sex and was asking for it...

so got me thinking about HPV or anu other possible health risks we could put on each other

Well, I'm not at all medically trained, as far as I know cancer can't be 'caught', correct me if I am wrong.

Perhaps her 'asking for it' is a realisation that she has cancer and now wants to make up for lost time?

Has her attitude to sex changed?

I read that you say 'put on each other'. This, to me, would indicate a caring attitude.

Again, not being medically experienced, is cervical cancer bad? Is it treatable? Side effects?

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my girlfriend has cancer, cervical cancer is it ok for me to have sex with her or could I put myself at risk?

or could i even get HPV?

Maybe this is a question you should direct to a her/your doctor or consultant.

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Here is a quote from the cancer research uk site. Hope it helps. Always best to talk to a GP I find, rather than ask for medical advice on website that is not medically oriented. Best of luck to both of you, especially her.

"You may feel nervous about having sex after you have been diagnosed with cervical cancer, or have had treatment. If you want to, you can resume your normal sex life within a few weeks of finishing radiotherapy or having surgery. It is a good idea to have those few weeks to help your body heal. But after that it is perfectly safe. Sex cannot make your cancer worse. Or increase the risk of it coming back. And cervical cancer is not infectious. Your partner cannot catch it from you.

If you are having chemotherapy, it may be a good idea if your partner uses a condom. This is just a precaution. There is no known risk. But doctors don't know enough yet about whether any of the drugs come through in the cervical or vaginal mucus. Or about whether that can have any effect on your partner.

If you feel nervous about starting your sex life again, try not to worry. You probably just need more time to come to terms with all that has happened to you. If you are still worried, anxious or depressed, you are not likely to feel like having sex. Give yourself more time. And talk things over with your partner. Together you should be able to work out what is best for you both. There are sex therapists you can see if you think that is necessary. Talk to your GP who will be able to put you in touch with someone. But for most people, it just takes a little time."

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In this situation I think she should get what ever she wants. My own view (non medially sourced) is that the risk of you catching cancer is minimal. In her circumstances I think your feelings should be directed towards her and her desires and certainly not your own.

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Here is a quote from the cancer research uk site. Hope it helps. Always best to talk to a GP I find, rather than ask for medical advice on website that is not medically oriented. Best of luck to both of you, especially her.

"You may feel nervous about having sex after you have been diagnosed with cervical cancer, or have had treatment. If you want to, you can resume your normal sex life within a few weeks of finishing radiotherapy or having surgery. It is a good idea to have those few weeks to help your body heal. But after that it is perfectly safe. Sex cannot make your cancer worse. Or increase the risk of it coming back. And cervical cancer is not infectious. Your partner cannot catch it from you.

If you are having chemotherapy, it may be a good idea if your partner uses a condom. This is just a precaution. There is no known risk. But doctors don't know enough yet about whether any of the drugs come through in the cervical or vaginal mucus. Or about whether that can have any effect on your partner.

If you feel nervous about starting your sex life again, try not to worry. You probably just need more time to come to terms with all that has happened to you. If you are still worried, anxious or depressed, you are not likely to feel like having sex. Give yourself more time. And talk things over with your partner. Together you should be able to work out what is best for you both. There are sex therapists you can see if you think that is necessary. Talk to your GP who will be able to put you in touch with someone. But for most people, it just takes a little time."

Excellent post and information, i also wish her and Down the best of luck.

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Sorry to hear this. Best of luck to your girlfriend and yourself.

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Here is a quote from the cancer research uk site. Hope it helps. Always best to talk to a GP I find, rather than ask for medical advice on website that is not medically oriented. Best of luck to both of you, especially her.

"You may feel nervous about having sex after you have been diagnosed with cervical cancer, or have had treatment. If you want to, you can resume your normal sex life within a few weeks of finishing radiotherapy or having surgery. It is a good idea to have those few weeks to help your body heal. But after that it is perfectly safe. Sex cannot make your cancer worse. Or increase the risk of it coming back. And cervical cancer is not infectious. Your partner cannot catch it from you.

If you are having chemotherapy, it may be a good idea if your partner uses a condom. This is just a precaution. There is no known risk. But doctors don't know enough yet about whether any of the drugs come through in the cervical or vaginal mucus. Or about whether that can have any effect on your partner.

If you feel nervous about starting your sex life again, try not to worry. You probably just need more time to come to terms with all that has happened to you. If you are still worried, anxious or depressed, you are not likely to feel like having sex. Give yourself more time. And talk things over with your partner. Together you should be able to work out what is best for you both. There are sex therapists you can see if you think that is necessary. Talk to your GP who will be able to put you in touch with someone. But for most people, it just takes a little time."

As smiths quite rightly says, excellent post.

Best of luck to you both, down. I do suggest you consult your GP or specialist anyway - not only to double-check that it really is OK for her specifically at this point, but also, quite simply, to make sure that both your minds are fully at ease on the subject.

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"Again, not being medically experienced, is cervical cancer bad? Is it treatable? Side effects? "

It varies enormously. From extremely aggressive and fatal to not really a problem if found and treated early.

I used to work for a life assurance company and a customer of mine was diagnosed with cervical cancer. Her cervix was removed and she was accepted for a sizeable life assurance policy at normal rates plus a 20p a month loading. This loading was simply so she had to declare she's had a policy loaded if she applied for cover elsewhere. So, for all intents and purposes, she was regarded as being 100% cured.

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Well, I'm not at all medically trained, as far as I know cancer can't be 'caught', correct me if I am wrong.

Perhaps her 'asking for it' is a realisation that she has cancer and now wants to make up for lost time?

Has her attitude to sex changed?

I read that you say 'put on each other'. This, to me, would indicate a caring attitude.

Again, not being medically experienced, is cervical cancer bad? Is it treatable? Side effects?

Cancer 'can't be caught but HPV can and it is a potent carcinogen

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Cancer 'can't be caught but HPV can and it is a potent carcinogen

potent carcinogen what do you mean by that?

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potent carcinogen what do you mean by that?

it is one of the known factors that increases the risk of cancer.

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my girlfriend has cancer, cervical cancer is it ok for me to have sex with her or could I put myself at risk?

or could i even get HPV?

You will only be able to get HPV if she is infected with it. Also, there are many different types of HPV and the ones likely to cause cervical cancer are generally not the same as the ones which cause genital warts. Most people will have had some exposure to one or more types of HPV (think cold sores, they are another type) during their life.

Cancer 'can't be caught but HPV can and it is a potent carcinogen

Just to be clear, HPV is not the only cause of cervical cancer though it is the most likely cause while smoking is another high risk factor.

The best advice is what you have been given so far - talk to your GF with her GP/ specialist for advice.

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Most people will have had some exposure to one or more types of HPV (think cold sores, they are another type) during their life.

 

 

Cold sores, genital herpes, shingles and chicken pox are caused by HSV, or the herpes simplex virus and have nothing to do with HPV, which is the human papilloma virus. The two things are not the same, and not related.

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Cold sores, genital herpes, shingles and chicken pox are caused by HSV, or the herpes simplex virus and have nothing to do with HPV, which is the human papilloma virus. The two things are not the same, and not related.

Good spot! Me getting confused between cold sores and common warts!

Apologies there.

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potent carcinogen what do you mean by that?

This question, by the OP, indicates to me that the thread may be a hoax.

 

If anyone close to me had cancer I would have tried to read as much background info as possible. The word carcinogen would have appeared in my reading on page 1 and probably every other page. For the OP not to know the word indicates this is a joke in very poor taste.

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