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This year I have got very close and attached to my "favourite" regular, so much so I have reduced my punting with others. When visiting others, however, some of whom are long standing friends, I feel guilty about having full sex and justify my "loyalty" to my favourite by all sorts of ways of not cumming inside (eg hj, bj, withdrawl). Although I still feel guilty, somehow reserving the "full works" for my favourite helps salve my conscience. I know to feel completely guilt free I would not have to visit others but my moving around the country plus her family commitments means my willpower is not strong enough to abstain. I suppose this is what being a bloke, being selfish, and being weak willed entails. I would be interested to see if any others (men or women) have similar illogical ways of justifying their actions and reducing guilt.

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From what i have read on this forum, this is a common thing that can happen.

Most will advocate distancing yourself. It sounds to me, ( as a woman) that you have got far too close to your regular emotionally.

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Do you feel such loyalty to the car dealerships you have bought cars from? It's not unheard of - my mother-in-law kept buying cars she didn't like, one after the other, from her local franchised car dealership, because she would have felt disloyal buying a car elsewhere. Of course the dealership repaid her loyalty by continuing to sell her crap cars with a higher spec than she needed or wanted and at full list price, of course.

You are paying for a service from your favourite girl and also from your other girls. Don't feel guilty about anything you do with any of them. Don't believe you have anything other than a provider/purchaser relationship with anyone unless and until (rare case) it is proven otherwise.

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This year I have got very close and attached to my "favourite" regular, so much so I have reduced my punting with others. When visiting others, however, some of whom are long standing friends, I feel guilty about having full sex and justify my "loyalty" to my favourite by all sorts of ways of not cumming inside (eg hj, bj, withdrawl). Although I still feel guilty, somehow reserving the "full works" for my favourite helps salve my conscience. I know to feel completely guilt free I would not have to visit others but my moving around the country plus her family commitments means my willpower is not strong enough to abstain. I suppose this is what being a bloke, being selfish, and being weak willed entails. I would be interested to see if any others (men or women) have similar illogical ways of justifying their actions and reducing guilt.

I feel no guilt or loyalty to any WG for punting with others, its why i punt, to get the variety i like. I do what suits me, always have and no doubt always will. If i were you i would consider whether its too hard emotionally to continue punting like this, it certainly wouldnt suit me.

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I also punt for variety, but would be wary if I started developing any feelings beyond friendly respect for a lady.

I do feel friendly to some of the ladies who I have met more than once, but it stops right there. Getting too close emotionally could be dangerous for both of you. I am surprised that she hasn't clocked this, and tried to put some distance between you.

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your favourite regular probably doesn't give you a second thought when you are not with her so why feel guilty? threads like this are ridiculous

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From what i have read on this forum, this is a common thing that can happen.

Most will advocate distancing yourself. It sounds to me, ( as a woman) that you have got far too close to your regular emotionally.

It sounds to me ( as a man ) that you have got far, far too close to your regular emotionally :angry:

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You are paying for a service from your favourite girl and also from your other girls. Don't feel guilty about anything you do with any of them. Don't believe you have anything other than a provider/purchaser relationship with anyone unless and until (rare case) it is proven otherwise.

Exactly :)

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Friendly but not friends is a phrase that I have used on more than one occasion and to one lady in particular. She thought that I was approaching the line that seperates the friendly client from the friend in real life and gave me a very diplomatic speech about the difference. I explained that I understoood the difference between friendly and friend and I'm sure that she is happier about it now.

At any time the lady can decide to move or retire for whatever reason and it would be ridiculous to expect them to notify all their past and present clients that they were doing so. If you got too attached to a regular it could be quite traumatic to discover she had suddenly disappeared Also no matter how many times you have seen the lady once you have walked out the door she has no idea whether you will ever come back. You have to enjoy every visit for what it is. Hopefully a very pleasurable time that you both would like to repeat. Nothing more.

Ladies are similar but not the same and I want to experience and enjoy the difference with as many ladies as possible. Some ladies I will return to see and some I won't even though I might have enjoyed being with them. As far as the ladies are concerned it's business and that's the way to look at it from the client side as well. Very pleasurable business but still only business.

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OP,

The girlfriend experience is not real. It is an experience.

Your WG may be someone else's girlfriend though and that relationship is real.

I doubt your WG feels any guilt towards you or her other clients

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I'm struggling to understand why fucking another girl...but just not cumming inside, is a display of loyalty?? :wacko:

Regardless of having a fave...and one that you feel very deeply for....you should still look to make the most out of every booking!! The trouble with that is though....you then might find you get a second, third, fourth...etc...fave and then it becomes financial hell fitting them all in ^_^

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your favourite regular probably doesn't give you a second thought when you are not with her so why feel guilty? threads like this are ridiculous

Not necessarily, I have a small number of regulars that I do think of quite often, but we're talking long, regular bookings, not 'one hour every three months'. But if I felt a client got too attached to me, I would ask him to see other girls for a while. Problem is finding someone that works the same way / same standards, getting rarer...

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Not necessarily, I have a small number of regulars that I do think of quite often, but we're talking long, regular bookings, not 'one hour every three months'. But if I felt a client got too attached to me, I would ask him to see other girls for a while. Problem is finding someone that works the same way / same standards, getting rarer...

why do they have to be long, regular bookings? i know it is your job but surely you have natural emotions that are not dictated solely by money?

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But if I felt a client got too attached to me, I would ask him to see other girls for a while.

Earlier this year I felt that a lady I had been seeing thought I might be getting too atrached to her so I have taken a voluntary sabbatical and seen (lots of) other ladies. I shall be returning to her warm and welcoming embrace shortly. I think you are correct in this approach but the onus shouldn't necessarily be on the lady to do something about it. If the man has anything about him he will realise and not wish to put the lady in a potentially embarrassing situation. It could also, because how can you actually know what someone is really like after just a few hours, be a potentially dangerous situation for the lady.

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why do they have to be long, regular bookings? i know it is your job but surely you have natural emotions that are not dictated solely by money?

Because you only get past a certain conversational barrier after a while? I sometimes go on short business trips with clients (not that often and not more than four or five days since I got a dog, good pet care is hard to find) so obviously you talk more in depth than during a one hour booking...

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your favourite regular probably doesn't give you a second thought when you are not with her so why feel guilty? threads like this are ridiculous

I do not find this thread ridiculous. I find it to be disturbing. I had a regular like this who reduced his punting from seeing four ladies per month to only seeing me. He ended up stalking me so much so that the only way i could stop seeing him was by falling out ( which just happened - it was not by design)

When I refused to see him any more he hit out at the medium he found me through and tried to spoil my business.

This person needs to look at himself from outside of the fishbowl and get his punting into perspective. What if she does what I did and kicks him to the kerb?

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OP,

The girlfriend experience is not real. It is an experience.

Your WG may be someone else's girlfriend though and that relationship is real.

I doubt your WG feels any guilt towards you or her other clients

Agree

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From what i have read on this forum, this is a common thing that can happen.

Most will advocate distancing yourself. It sounds to me, ( as a woman) that you have got far too close to your regular emotionally.

Agree.. as with most of the replies here x

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Its amazing, here we guys are having the times of our life seeing escorts, and going from lady to lady in our quest, and some guy seems to get stuck on one escort for whatever reason.

Its not healthy for the guy, and seems a lot worse for the escort, when that haoppens.

Just dont do it, there are so many escorts out there who will see you if your polite and have a decorum of respect.

Play the field thats the point of all of this.

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Its amazing, here we guys are having the times of our life seeing escorts, and going from lady to lady in our quest, and some guy seems to get stuck on one escort for whatever reason.

Its not healthy for the guy, and seems a lot worse for the escort, when that haoppens.

Just dont do it, there are so many escorts out there who will see you if your polite and have a decorum of respect.

Play the field thats the point of all of this.

A good punting mate of mine only punts with his trusted regular and tells me he gets all he requires from her so has no interest in punting with anyone else, been punting with just her for years. He is under no illusions its a business arrangement though, so for some punters its not the point to play the field, it is for me though. :)

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A good punting mate of mine only punts with his trusted regular and tells me he gets all he requires from her so has no interest in punting with anyone else, been punting with just her for years. He is under no illusions its a business arrangement though, so for some punters its not the point to play the field, it is for me though. :)

And I bet nobody crosses any boundaries. I have clients like this and it is great for both parties. For me - I feel safe and that is the most important thing - and also happy in the knowledge that I push all the right buttons for someone.

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When I first started punting, I had such a great time with one girl from Sheffield, I saw her 6 times in 8 months, and it was a bit obsessive. Since then I've got my head around enjoying the variety of excellent ladies available. Nowadays, I try not to see a lady more than twice in a rolling 12 months, but as work takes me to a part of the UK which does not have the best selection, sticking to principles ain't easy.

Because the sex is often more intense and much better than you may experience at home, attraction and obsession can be normal.

It really is a case of plenty of fish, but the tough part is accepting that and not feeling disloyal.

On my AW account, I've a range of girls on various hot lists that relate to the parts of the country I visit for work and need an overnight hotel, which (a) allows me to make a quick choice, and (B) not backtrack on the 12 month 'rule'.

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Because the sex is often more intense and much better than you may experience at home,

Hmmm..many of the married ones here have preached that us punters are deluded, as sex with a loved one is the best ever!! Are you now opening up a fresh can of worms in daring to suggest that sex with WG's is actually the ultimate sexual fulfillment??? :lol:

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This year I have got very close and attached to my "favourite" regular, so much so I have reduced my punting with others. When visiting others, however, some of whom are long standing friends, I feel guilty about having full sex and justify my "loyalty" to my favourite by all sorts of ways of not cumming inside (eg hj, bj, withdrawl). Although I still feel guilty, somehow reserving the "full works" for my favourite helps salve my conscience. I know to feel completely guilt free I would not have to visit others but my moving around the country plus her family commitments means my willpower is not strong enough to abstain. I suppose this is what being a bloke, being selfish, and being weak willed entails. I would be interested to see if any others (men or women) have similar illogical ways of justifying their actions and reducing guilt.

This is wrong on so many levels and I suspect you know this already otherwise why post here. How do you imagine your fave regular would feel if she knew you were not enjoying punts with other ladies because of guilt and loyalty to her ? Why are you spending money having sex with these other ladies when not fully enjoying it? Why do you equate being a man with being weak willed?

Imho, you need to have a long, hard look at this situation and think about where it is leading. I can only see heartbreak and/or emotional discomfort going forward unless you change something.

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Also to add I tend not see the same working girl twice. In fact I've only ever seen one working girl twice....

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