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Does This Blur The Lines We Should Never Step Over

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I have been seeing a reg for a few years, she stopped working but still seen a few guys on the side, I was lucky to be one of them.

She eventualy gave up when she got a full time job she was after, and I didnt hear from her for a few months, then she got in touch asking how I was, I joked it would be great to see her again and she declined the offer, saying she wanted time out.

Eventually she said she would start seeing me again, but it had to be kept secret from everyone else, as she was now fully employed.

well we had a good few bookings and it was going well, the bookings involved Dom and sub games, and included some bondage on either side, and we had planned a few overnight bookings ahead so we knew where things were.

The other week though I got a text from her saying she was skint and did I fancy a booking, its against the rules for an escort to text you out of the blue, and to ask if you want a bookking is also wrong, but it was such a turn on to get the request.

Course I thought about it, and replied within ten seconds to say yes but i was going to do unspeakable things to her for asking me.

What a turn on it was to get a request asking for me to come and dominate her.

The thing is, did I do the right thing in agreeing to the booking considering she was asking me, which is the wrong way round, but in the Dom/sub scene its quite a turn on to know that she wanted me enough to text me to spend time with her

And yes being asked/requested was a great turn on and was a new thrill, should I inform her it was that, and see if she does it again, I loved the idea of being asked/told when to visit her...but is it going to blur the lines that we should always keep to.

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I felt quite sorry to read your post : you have missed the point. You say she wanted you enough to text you to spend time with you. She didn't do that when she wasn't skint ! Plus, you don't know whether you were the first on her list, or just the first with the available cash. It's your money she wants, not you, I'm afraid.

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In circumstances you describe it (her suggesting a booking) wouldn't bother me.... I think you've moved to the point with this WG that the rules punters tend to apply to one off WG/punter contact can sensibly be flexed a wee bit.

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As she's apparently stopped working In this game (at least)I would agree that normal rules of engagement may not apply. She is however doing it for the money whatever the dynamics of the relationship between you.

Are you(as most of us no doubt are)in a position where unexpected contact might cause problems? If so let her know that, whilst she's over your knee by the sound of it. You could even take the game further by getting her to beg for you to see her next time.

I'm open minded about whether you should tell her exactly how turned on you were by her contact. I would have been, no question.

Hope this helps - let us know how it goes?

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I felt quite sorry to read your post : you have missed the point. You say she wanted you enough to text you to spend time with you. She didn't do that when she wasn't skint ! Plus, you don't know whether you were the first on her list, or just the first with the available cash. It's your money she wants, not you, I'm afraid.

This strikes me as a good summary of the true situation.

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Yes I know she sees me mainly for the money, thats what is real about it, and im happy with that, as i dont want an affair with her, and neither does she want an affair with me.

We get on well together and enjoy overnighters at a special rate, and though she has never said it, i do think there is only me that sees her regularly as an escort, as no matter what time of the day or date i say can I see you she says yes, and always invites me to stay longer after the booking to chat and share ideas, but if she sees other guys thats not an issue.

I liked the idea said by willbred, and will certainly use it lol.......and yes it was a big turn on to be told that I was wanted, I said to her that she had text'd me because she wanted me in her bed, and we rolled play that scenario, which was a massive turn on.

Problem is, because we have a few overnights booked etc, I might have taken the thrill of getting another text asking for me to come over again, maybe I should text her and tell her to arrange a date when she needs to be chastised, and abused, and give her a choice of dates and times to when I would be able to correct her, problem is do I blur the lines in doing this, and is this taking the Dom/sub scenario a bit too far.

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I've considered coming out of retirement for one or two of my regulars and a couple of guys I know I can have a good time with, especially when the money side of things got really bad, but so far have resisted the temptation mainly because I'm scared that draw of easy money and good sex could pull me right back in again and I never want to be in the position where I have to sell myself for money again. Its a shame I feel like this because sometimes it was the actual fact that I was getting money for being so dirty that was the turn on in the first place.

spklors I don't think its crossing the line for you, your clued up enough to know when to walk away, for her however I'm not so sure, its so hard to walk away from this and stay away once you've done it.

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I have been seeing a reg for a few years, she stopped working but still seen a few guys on the side, I was lucky to be one of them.

She eventualy gave up when she got a full time job she was after, and I didnt hear from her for a few months, then she got in touch asking how I was, I joked it would be great to see her again and she declined the offer, saying she wanted time out.

Eventually she said she would start seeing me again, but it had to be kept secret from everyone else, as she was now fully employed.

well we had a good few bookings and it was going well, the bookings involved Dom and sub games, and included some bondage on either side, and we had planned a few overnight bookings ahead so we knew where things were.

The other week though I got a text from her saying she was skint and did I fancy a booking, its against the rules for an escort to text you out of the blue, and to ask if you want a bookking is also wrong, but it was such a turn on to get the request.

Course I thought about it, and replied within ten seconds to say yes but i was going to do unspeakable things to her for asking me.

What a turn on it was to get a request asking for me to come and dominate her.

The thing is, did I do the right thing in agreeing to the booking considering she was asking me, which is the wrong way round, but in the Dom/sub scene its quite a turn on to know that she wanted me enough to text me to spend time with her

And yes being asked/requested was a great turn on and was a new thrill, should I inform her it was that, and see if she does it again, I loved the idea of being asked/told when to visit her...but is it going to blur the lines that we should always keep to.

If your happy with it which you clearly are its not a problem in the slightest. Get in there and enjoy yourself is my advice. :)

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is this a question or you just writing your sex blog xxxxx said in the nicest way

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I would be wary as you dont know how many other she texted before you or was going to text had you declined, it is about the money and nothing else, if she had simply wanted to see you because she liked seeing you she wouldn't have charged for it.

Years ago a mature WG whom I used to see regularly ( sadly retired ) said to me that I needed to remember that in this game it was all about the money and she cautioned me about the dangers of running into a WG whom I thought thought otherwise, we still communicate via email though we haven't met since she retired 5 years ago.

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if she had simply wanted to see you because she liked seeing you she wouldn't have charged for it.

But that would change the whole dynamics of the relationship.

She might have to charge a fee as much as I have to pay for it, as within that role we can explore the Dom/sub experiance,

I get a kick knowing that I am the boss and employ her for her services, and can within reason do what I wish (she knows the safety word) with her, and in return she might get a kick out of being desired for her role play to warrent a fee, maybe thats what makes the request for a booking such a massive turn on for me to get asked.

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I have been seeing a reg for a few years, she stopped working but still seen a few guys on the side, I was lucky to be one of them.

She eventualy gave up when she got a full time job she was after, and I didnt hear from her for a few months, then she got in touch asking how I was, I joked it would be great to see her again and she declined the offer, saying she wanted time out.

Eventually she said she would start seeing me again, but it had to be kept secret from everyone else, as she was now fully employed.

well we had a good few bookings and it was going well, the bookings involved Dom and sub games, and included some bondage on either side, and we had planned a few overnight bookings ahead so we knew where things were.

The other week though I got a text from her saying she was skint and did I fancy a booking, its against the rules for an escort to text you out of the blue, and to ask if you want a bookking is also wrong, but it was such a turn on to get the request.

Course I thought about it, and replied within ten seconds to say yes but i was going to do unspeakable things to her for asking me.

What a turn on it was to get a request asking for me to come and dominate her.

The thing is, did I do the right thing in agreeing to the booking considering she was asking me, which is the wrong way round, but in the Dom/sub scene its quite a turn on to know that she wanted me enough to text me to spend time with her

And yes being asked/requested was a great turn on and was a new thrill, should I inform her it was that, and see if she does it again, I loved the idea of being asked/told when to visit her...but is it going to blur the lines that we should always keep to.

You just carry on thinking it was/is good and you will be fine.

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I would be wary as you dont know how many other she texted before you or was going to text had you declined, it is about the money and nothing else, if she had simply wanted to see you because she liked seeing you she wouldn't have charged for it.

You can like spending time with clients, but at the same time think you should be paid for servicing them imo. It is a blurry line though.

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I would be wary as you dont know how many other she texted before you or was going to text had you declined, it is about the money and nothing else, if she had simply wanted to see you because she liked seeing you she wouldn't have charged for it.

Not always true that. I've been retired for sometime now and miss the sex and company a darn site more than the money..

Years ago a mature WG whom I used to see regularly ( sadly retired ) said to me that I needed to remember that in this game it was all about the money and she cautioned me about the dangers of running into a WG whom I thought thought otherwise, we still communicate via email though we haven't met since she retired 5 years ago.

Oh and I'm mature too so I would challenge her on that one...

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I have been seeing a reg for a few years, she stopped working but still seen a few guys on the side, I was lucky to be one of them.

She eventualy gave up when she got a full time job she was after, and I didnt hear from her for a few months, then she got in touch asking how I was, I joked it would be great to see her again and she declined the offer, saying she wanted time out.

Eventually she said she would start seeing me again, but it had to be kept secret from everyone else, as she was now fully employed.

well we had a good few bookings and it was going well, the bookings involved Dom and sub games, and included some bondage on either side, and we had planned a few overnight bookings ahead so we knew where things were.

The other week though I got a text from her saying she was skint and did I fancy a booking, its against the rules for an escort to text you out of the blue, and to ask if you want a bookking is also wrong, but it was such a turn on to get the request.

Course I thought about it, and replied within ten seconds to say yes but i was going to do unspeakable things to her for asking me.

What a turn on it was to get a request asking for me to come and dominate her.

The thing is, did I do the right thing in agreeing to the booking considering she was asking me, which is the wrong way round, but in the Dom/sub scene its quite a turn on to know that she wanted me enough to text me to spend time with her

And yes being asked/requested was a great turn on and was a new thrill, should I inform her it was that, and see if she does it again, I loved the idea of being asked/told when to visit her...but is it going to blur the lines that we should always keep to.

This comes to mind...

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I suppose its the changing face of the sex trade. A few decades back the punter and wg had well defined roles, as far as hetero straight sex went. Now there is so much more about which sex can be traded on. believing it has the mantle of relationships and such is all part of the trade. its something i do with a regular, although i know she just needs to pay the rent etc. It facilitates what we do, takes the raw edge out of the deal, gives me added strings to the fantasy, etc.

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Never heard of an escort calling a punter before,and she said she was skint......perhaps next time she calls you can tell her you'll visit her on one condition,only if she yells "show me the money"..down the phone to you...

"show me the money Sklors!!!"

Congratualtions your still my escort.

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I suppose its the changing face of the sex trade. A few decades back the punter and wg had well defined roles, as far as hetero straight sex went. Now there is so much more about which sex can be traded on. believing it has the mantle of relationships and such is all part of the trade. its something i do with a regular, although i know she just needs to pay the rent etc. It facilitates what we do, takes the raw edge out of the deal, gives me added strings to the fantasy, etc.

A reason in my experience is the development of the GFE, in the 80s well into the 90s kissing was usually not on offer and with Aids a new big worrying scary disease punting was generally a colder experience than it is nowadays.

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I'd be too careful.

Have ended good regulars just because they contacted me with similar requests or suggested I'd pay 5 dates in advance.

However, it is your call: you are potentially in a situation where you can "help" her and get good service in return.

Would you want to exploit that ?

I've answered that question negatively for myself.

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If it floats both your boats what's the problem?

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If it floats both your boats what's the problem?

Exactly! Sometimes I wonder why people complicate simple things. How the hell are you anyways? x x

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If you are happy with the arrangement then it doesn't matter whether she's just after the money. As long as you're having a good time then carry on. If the situation changes then you can always say no. Live for today because whether you are 25 or 85 you might not be around tomorrow. Sorry if that sounds morbid but it's true.

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Slightly off-topic, but just how do ladies cope financially if they retire from the game ? Assuming that earnings have been used wisely, it may not be a problem, but the fact the spklors' lady says she is skint made me wonder... How can taking a job on civvy street that pays, per week, what a good service provider could earn in a couple of days (hours?), not bring financial trouble eventually?

I know I would struggle if my income dropped by 60-80%, no matter how much 'discretionary spending' I curtailed. Heck, I'd have to give up punting :eek:;)

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Personally, I think she is right to charge anyone she sees. She still has the same skills that can make you and others happy, retired or not. She'd be daft to offer that for free to someone who wants to see her on a no strings attached basis. I certainly wouldn't. Everyone that's told me they hope I'll stay in touch when I retire, I make it clear that anyone I see, I will still see as a client. Even with an alternative career, her time off work is meant of her to chill, not to spend it making a fuck buddy (or domination buddy) happy. Would be different if you wanted to get serious with her.

As to contacting clients out of the blue for a booking, I wouldn't. But I don't think a lady has committed a cardinal sin by doing so. A bit tacky. But not the end of the proverbial. Technically, she isnt an escort anymore. She can bend her rules of engagement a little.

If her making the first move for this booking turns you on, then it's a win win situation for you. If you followed the lead of some on this thread and stopped seeing her, you'd be cutting off your nose to spite your face.

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Pru

If you are happy with the arrangement then it doesn't matter whether she's just after the money. As long as you're having a good time then carry on. If the situation changes then you can always say no. Live for today because whether you are 25 or 85 you might not be around tomorrow. Sorry if that sounds morbid but it's true.

I felt quite sorry to read your post : you have missed the point. You say she wanted you enough to text you to spend time with you. She didn't do that when she wasn't skint ! Plus, you don't know whether you were the first on her list, or just the first with the available cash. It's your money she wants, not you, I'm afraid.

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The more I read this Forum the more I realise how easily us men can be manipulated mentally - she said she was skint yet the OP thinks she 'wants him enough to contact him'

On other threads I read tales of ladies telling gents what great lovers they are, how the gent thinks they have an emotional connection beyond just a WG / punter relationship, how the WG wants them to meet socially etc - this all seems all the more prevalent on here and the impression I get is that the punter then thinks 'I'm more special to her than the average punter' - a good ego boost and a great way to ensure customer loyalty ;-)

Maybe I'm being too cynical - but on the whole I see my relationships with WGs are purely a business transaction - of course I'll treat them with respect etc during the meet - but I don't expect or fall for any mind games that might be played ;-)

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