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How Do You Cope With The Emotions (Or Is It Just Me)?

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I am fairly new to punting (Sept 12). I started when it occurred to me that I just simply haven’t had sex with enough girls for my lifetime.

Having no wish to get into any sticky extra marital affairs, punting seemed the perfect solution. My objective was thus simple: go and have sex with lots of different girls.

Now that I have been punting this short while, I find that life is not so straightforward. While nearly all the girls I’ve seen have been a pleasure to be (with just one exception) I find that some are so wonderful that I am regularly falling in love.

I guess I am currently in love with about 3 of these girls to date and I reckon I’m probably going to end up increasing this number considerably at a fairly rapid rate. I know that this probably just sounds completely silly, but this is the way it is for me.

It doesn’t seem to take much for me to fall: attractive looks; friendly personality; and the right level of intimacy (I’m half way there as soon as the French Kissing starts).

I find this to be a huge problem. I’m not a weirdo freak who thinks that somehow there will be any kind of fairy tale ending, it’s just that it seems impossible to get enough of any single girl, let alone an ever increasing number of girls who I know I want to meet.

I also find that I sometimes get depressed after a meeting when I should be as happy as the joys of Spring, just because although I will still be thinking about the girl for hours, days, weeks after, I know that I won’t be in her mind longer than it takes to have a shower after I’ve gone.

Some of you seem to take all of this in your stride. Any advice for me here? Or would I be the only person on the planet to experience this?

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Certainly not the first or last. It's just a case of getting over it or getting out. Best thing is to realise she's probably had someone before you and will have someone after you same day/week (delete as applicable to the lady) and for her it's all about earning a living in the way she has chosen (hopefully). We all hope the ladies enjoy their work and most of us do our best to make that happen, but don't think for a minute that you are any more than a customer. You might be a valued and welcome one but still a customer

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You are confusing love with lust. The first affects your upper brain and the second gets your lower one. Just make sure that you are thinking with the right one!

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Nope, I went through exactly what you're saying, still do to some extent, but now tempered by more and more great experiences that puts everything in perspective more. Enjoy it, have fun, don't fixate too much on one girl, see different girls and enjoy all their different looks and styles.

I think it's because we're programmed to pair-bond and sex is one of the means to do that and a lot of us have been essentially monogamous before discovering punting, so it goes somewhat against nature to have a fabulous time and just walk away and think no more of it, though many say that's what you're paying for, being able to walk away.

Although it took me a while to pluck up the courage, I found going to sex parties helped me, as there nothing like seeing the girl you just had a great time with getting it on with another guy to cure you of any romantic notions.

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One other trick to get over first stages of lust, is to have something to occupy your mind in terms of keeping busy.

I am midway through decorating the house again..... :wacko:

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I am fairly new to punting (Sept 12). I started when it occurred to me that I just simply haven’t had sex with enough girls for my lifetime.

Having no wish to get into any sticky extra marital affairs, punting seemed the perfect solution. My objective was thus simple: go and have sex with lots of different girls.

Now that I have been punting this short while, I find that life is not so straightforward. While nearly all the girls I’ve seen have been a pleasure to be (with just one exception) I find that some are so wonderful that I am regularly falling in love.

I guess I am currently in love with about 3 of these girls to date and I reckon I’m probably going to end up increasing this number considerably at a fairly rapid rate. I know that this probably just sounds completely silly, but this is the way it is for me.

It doesn’t seem to take much for me to fall: attractive looks; friendly personality; and the right level of intimacy (I’m half way there as soon as the French Kissing starts).

I find this to be a huge problem. I’m not a weirdo freak who thinks that somehow there will be any kind of fairy tale ending, it’s just that it seems impossible to get enough of any single girl, let alone an ever increasing number of girls who I know I want to meet.

I also find that I sometimes get depressed after a meeting when I should be as happy as the joys of Spring, just because although I will still be thinking about the girl for hours, days, weeks after, I know that I won’t be in her mind longer than it takes to have a shower after I’ve gone.

Some of you seem to take all of this in your stride. Any advice for me here? Or would I be the only person on the planet to experience this?

This is a regular occurence going on threads and posts on here over the years and i have felt the same on occassion myself. I punt for fun and for sex so i try to keep it to that, it can be hard though. My advice is to always put it into perspective, you are paying for sex and the WG will be punting with other punters, you are one of a number and its not healthy to get emotionally attached. If you feel that happening go elsewhere if you cant handle it. Its a business transaction ultimately, hopefully a fun one though.

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One other trick to get over first stages of lust, is to have something to occupy your mind in terms of keeping busy.

I am midway through decorating the house again..... :wacko:

I keep busy watching Spklors' paint dry. It is fascinating!

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I am fairly new to punting (Sept 12). I started when it occurred to me that I just simply haven’t had sex with enough girls for my lifetime.

Having no wish to get into any sticky extra marital affairs, punting seemed the perfect solution. My objective was thus simple: go and have sex with lots of different girls.

Now that I have been punting this short while, I find that life is not so straightforward. While nearly all the girls I’ve seen have been a pleasure to be (with just one exception) I find that some are so wonderful that I am regularly falling in love.

I guess I am currently in love with about 3 of these girls to date and I reckon I’m probably going to end up increasing this number considerably at a fairly rapid rate. I know that this probably just sounds completely silly, but this is the way it is for me.

It doesn’t seem to take much for me to fall: attractive looks; friendly personality; and the right level of intimacy (I’m half way there as soon as the French Kissing starts).

I find this to be a huge problem. I’m not a weirdo freak who thinks that somehow there will be any kind of fairy tale ending, it’s just that it seems impossible to get enough of any single girl, let alone an ever increasing number of girls who I know I want to meet.

I also find that I sometimes get depressed after a meeting when I should be as happy as the joys of Spring, just because although I will still be thinking about the girl for hours, days, weeks after, I know that I won’t be in her mind longer than it takes to have a shower after I’ve gone.

Some of you seem to take all of this in your stride. Any advice for me here? Or would I be the only person on the planet to experience this?

Reading this made me sad :(

Dont know what to say incase I say the wrong thing AGAIN! :huh:

But I do feel for you, If you feel feelings coming on for someone you could maybe take a break from seeing that girl then go back again once some times past? I've had to suggest that to a few of my clients before.

Kendra xXx

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I am fairly new to punting (Sept 12). I started when it occurred to me that I just simply haven’t had sex with enough girls for my lifetime.

Having no wish to get into any sticky extra marital affairs, punting seemed the perfect solution. My objective was thus simple: go and have sex with lots of different girls.

Now that I have been punting this short while, I find that life is not so straightforward. While nearly all the girls I’ve seen have been a pleasure to be (with just one exception) I find that some are so wonderful that I am regularly falling in love.

I guess I am currently in love with about 3 of these girls to date and I reckon I’m probably going to end up increasing this number considerably at a fairly rapid rate. I know that this probably just sounds completely silly, but this is the way it is for me.

It doesn’t seem to take much for me to fall: attractive looks; friendly personality; and the right level of intimacy (I’m half way there as soon as the French Kissing starts).

I find this to be a huge problem. I’m not a weirdo freak who thinks that somehow there will be any kind of fairy tale ending, it’s just that it seems impossible to get enough of any single girl, let alone an ever increasing number of girls who I know I want to meet.

I also find that I sometimes get depressed after a meeting when I should be as happy as the joys of Spring, just because although I will still be thinking about the girl for hours, days, weeks after, I know that I won’t be in her mind longer than it takes to have a shower after I’ve gone.

Some of you seem to take all of this in your stride. Any advice for me here? Or would I be the only person on the planet to experience this?

I deliberately plan not to see the same lady twice in succession. I have found that I really like all of the ladies I have met but can keep things at that level because there are always about 4 alternatives to see before I return to the lady I saw last.

I have a date with a lady this Thursday but have seen three others since I last saw her.

Most of them have been happy to swap e-mails / tweets just to keep in touch. I also appreciate the reality of the situation enough to try to be nicely out of the way before her next guest might arrive.

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One other trick to get over first stages of lust, is to have something to occupy your mind in terms of keeping busy.

I am midway through decorating the house again..... :wacko:

You too!

40 litres of paint down - loads to go.

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I was given very good advice by a Lady I saw for whom I could have fallen in a big way :wub:

Essentially this boiled down to "We need to keep it to no more than 'Like and Lust', Darling, or it could complicate or even spoil the good times we can have together as Lady and (paying) Gentleman".

May I suggest you keep this in mind along with the other good advice being given you here. :)

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Different people. Different reasons. Different reactions

Some people become naturally more involved than others. But in this situation it's not LOVE it is INFATUATION. I've experienced it myself. Not just in seeing ladies but in real life as well.

I think that, whatever age you are, you are experiencing the bucket list syndrome. That's how I started back in the summer. Eighteen months ago I had an epiphany and decided that there were many things that I wanted to do before I went downstairs. Funnily enough indulging in this hobby wasn't on the list until last spring.

Out of the twelve ladies that I have seen probably two and a half ladies fall in to the category of not objecting to having a relationship with them. But that is not believing that it would actually happen. As has been said by others this us a business. You are a customer. You may be a regular customer. You may regard yourself as a "valued customer" but you are in reality just a face in the crowd. This was brought home to me just a few days ago. A lady that I had visited several times needed several clues before she was able to remember me and yet, in my mind, there were specific reasons, apart from the sex, as to why I thought I would stand out from the crowd.

Take a cold shower. Enjoy this pleasant experience for what it is.

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I don't know sometimes its all too conservative. marry the lot and become a multiple bigamist. then shag yourself to death. simples.

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And Oddbloke has the winning answer!!

Anything but bloody painting the house.

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You are confusing love with lust. The first affects your upper brain and the second gets your lower one. Just make sure that you are thinking with the right one!

I think this is right. You have to remember you are 'falling' for the lady you see in the bedroom on a booking not the actual person who you will know very little about in the grand scheme of things. You are paying for her time and companionship as well as the sex so of course she will be as charming and as lovely as you would hope.You won't know the real her in an everyday situation.

I do not mean to sound harsh.I have a few regulars who probably do see a little more of the real 'me' as over time you do build up a genuine rapport and friendship with some people but you have to bear it in mind that she is providing a service which involves making you feel happy and lustful and affectionate. Try and enjoy it for what it is, an hour or so of fun in what can sometimes be a rather dreary world and look forward to it as such.

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I am fairly new to punting (Sept 12). I started when it occurred to me that I just simply haven’t had sex with enough girls for my lifetime.

Having no wish to get into any sticky extra marital affairs, punting seemed the perfect solution. My objective was thus simple: go and have sex with lots of different girls.

Now that I have been punting this short while, I find that life is not so straightforward. While nearly all the girls I’ve seen have been a pleasure to be (with just one exception) I find that some are so wonderful that I am regularly falling in love.

I guess I am currently in love with about 3 of these girls to date and I reckon I’m probably going to end up increasing this number considerably at a fairly rapid rate. I know that this probably just sounds completely silly, but this is the way it is for me.

It doesn’t seem to take much for me to fall: attractive looks; friendly personality; and the right level of intimacy (I’m half way there as soon as the French Kissing starts).

I find this to be a huge problem. I’m not a weirdo freak who thinks that somehow there will be any kind of fairy tale ending, it’s just that it seems impossible to get enough of any single girl, let alone an ever increasing number of girls who I know I want to meet.

I also find that I sometimes get depressed after a meeting when I should be as happy as the joys of Spring, just because although I will still be thinking about the girl for hours, days, weeks after, I know that I won’t be in her mind longer than it takes to have a shower after I’ve gone.

Some of you seem to take all of this in your stride. Any advice for me here? Or would I be the only person on the planet to experience this?

I used to be just like that, but mostly I was confusing love with lust. There are so many girls ou there who are very friendly, make you feel good and feel like friends. After a meeting (if I really clicked with a girl, which happens in most cases) I always feel the urge to go back, and I almost always did. Sometimes I even thought 'this girl has given me such a good time, she might be 'hurt' if I see another girl'. In the end I always ended up seeing other girls, because I like the variety, but at the same time I felt the urge to go back to a girl I already knew. I think it'll be something I'll keep struggling with sometimes.

Be careful and stay cool, try not to fall in love, because you might suffer from a backlash if she turns you down.

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You too!

40 litres of paint down - loads to go.

I blame escorts for the profit B+Q make!.

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I blame escorts for the profit B+Q make!.

Wednesday tomorrow. Got your card ready?:D

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Wednesday tomorrow. Got your card ready? :D

Christmas lights 3 for the price of 2....that will keep you busy changing the bulbs.

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Thanks for all the comments guys. I guess it's just useful to have the a bit of reassurance that it's not just me that goes through this.

Love , lust, whatever. It's still induces a stronger reaction than anything else I've experienced in 20+ years.

However, and with a special note to you, Kendra, no problem with your post whatsoever, but don't get sad over me. As I said, I'm no wierdo freak on this one. If I couldn't handle it I wouldn't do it.

Strong emotions, good or bad, are still making me far more alive than I felt before I started punting. Although it sometimes feels bad, I also spend a lot of time loving the whole thing.

Being in love / lust with a few girls at one time. Hey, this is another new experience of the many new experiences I have had over these last weeks and I look forward to so many more in the times to come (cum?).

But no, no, no to painting the goddam house! 3 christmas lights for the price of two though, now that is tempting.

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Thanks for all the comments guys. I guess it's just useful to have the a bit of reassurance that it's not just me that goes through this.

Love , lust, whatever. It's still induces a stronger reaction than anything else I've experienced in 20+ years.

However, and with a special note to you, Kendra, no problem with your post whatsoever, but don't get sad over me. As I said, I'm no wierdo freak on this one. If I couldn't handle it I wouldn't do it.

Strong emotions, good or bad, are still making me far more alive than I felt before I started punting. Although it sometimes feels bad, I also spend a lot of time loving the whole thing.

Being in love / lust with a few girls at one time. Hey, this is another new experience of the many new experiences I have had over these last weeks and I look forward to so many more in the times to come (cum?).

But no, no, no to painting the goddam house! 3 christmas lights for the price of two though, now that is tempting.

Your obviously just a really sweet, genuine person, I love meeting with people like you. I hope in time you manage to figure out weather it is love or lust and move on from it x

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Your obviously just a really sweet, genuine person, I love meeting with people like you. I hope in time you manage to figure out weather it is love or lust and move on from it x

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Kendra, pleased to see that you are still with us and want to wish you the very best, xx

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Kendra, pleased to see that you are still with us and want to wish you the very best, xx

Thanks darling x

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Honestly you are not in love or lust with any of the escorts you have seen, you are in love with the situation you find yourself in.

When you find yourself in lust with one escort, do a search on others in the area you are in, and see all th other escorts that are available.

See spoilt for choice. Christmas dont just come on december 25th.

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