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Hello,

Let me start by saying I'm a british born asian (Pakistani.). I have never been turned away from a girl, in a parlour, in Soho or on purple site for being asian.

However, I sometimes read on girls profiles "I do not see black men, due to personal preference." It always made my heart sink abit, and it would make me feel bad if they said this about asians even more. (Although I feel sorry for the black guys aswell) Only once have I ever seen a profile where she doesnt see Pakistanis.

Anyway, its not something I ever cared about. But after reading a post by a member on this forum (It said he got turned away for being asian). I have become EXTREMELY self concious of being turned away because of my race. Whats the best solution to this? Do I ask a girl on the phone if she sees guys of all races, do I ask her if she minds seeing me because im asian, or do I just ignore it and stop being so self-concious?

Thank you.

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i am white but have just found a girl on the other site who interests me, but she refuses to see asian men. it makes me wonder whether it is right of me to try and book her despite this.

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Do what ever you like buddy... Its up to you.

Just out of interest, does she say that on her profile?

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Do what ever you like buddy... Its up to you.

Just out of interest, does she say that on her profile?

yes, it said it on her profile page

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Whats her profile ID/Username? Just want to check it out, out of curiosity.

Thank you.

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NB posting User ID numbers from AdultWork is still prohibited on this board.

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Whats her profile ID/Username? Just want to check it out, out of curiosity.

Thank you.

Why the curiosity? Just so that you can upset yourself even more and get wound up by it? There are plenty out there that will see you, its better to say your Asian then you won't have the embarassement of being turned away at the door.

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A woman can choose who fucks her (otherwise it's rape). A WG indicates to the world at large that she will exercise her choice in your favour if you offer her adequate financial recompense. However, she may well indicate that she will not exercise her choice in your favour on account of your ethnicity/age/disabilities...that is entirely up to her because she has not waived her right to choose just because she is a WG.

Her reasons for refusing to exercise her choice in respect of certain categories of punter may be misguided or whatever but that is entirely a matter for her. She always retains her right and, personally, I prefer it that she expresses this up front because I do not want a wasted journey or, worse still, an unsatisfactory punt.

Jack

PS I am white but have been turned down on account of age (60)

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why would you want to see her profile?

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Was that at the door, or at the enquiry stage?

PS I am white but have been turned down on account of age (60)

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It's a good idea to ask politely if she minds seeing xyz. I get asked this often by black men - some of whom don't "sound black" on the phone. They have to ask because as standard, a lot of black escorts won't see black men for fear of someone they know or may be related to turning up (t'is an alarmingly small world when you're up to no good). I am asked it less often by Asian men. when a white man asks if I see white men, I have to chuckle. That would be the majority of enquiries.

The reason I say its a good idea for you to ask is because to a lot of people, Black means not white (thanks to the old media categorisation before they decided to be a bit more specific, realising that even Asian would not cover those of an oriental extraction.) and she might expect you to think the same way.

What breaks my heart is when a guy turns up at the door and only then is he turned away. If the lady felt that strongly that she would turn someone away at the door, she should have made it clear. But then you have another issue: ladies bold (and honest enough) to state their preferences in this way on their web site used to get flamed for it by well meaning, but misguided liberals who really don't realise that in sexual terms, it would be abhorrent to try and force the horse to drink the water.

So, ask. And don't think any less of the lady whatever her answer may be. It is sometimes nothing to do with racism or prejudice. One lady had been widowed and for her, being with a man of a certain colour was too painful a reminder of the love she had lost. Another had been gang-raped by some black men. Being close enough to a black man to smell, say his hair, for instance, brought the trauma back for her so after freaking out with a couple of alarmed clients, she had to intigate a blanket ban.

Life isn't black and white. Oops! Too early to be punning!

xxx

Pru

Hello,

Let me start by saying I'm a british born asian (Pakistani.). I have never been turned away from a girl, in a parlour, in Soho or on purple site for being asian.

However, I sometimes read on girls profiles "I do not see black men, due to personal preference." It always made my heart sink abit, and it would make me feel bad if they said this about asians even more. (Although I feel sorry for the black guys aswell) Only once have I ever seen a profile where she doesnt see Pakistanis.

Anyway, its not something I ever cared about. But after reading a post by a member on this forum (It said he got turned away for being asian). I have become EXTREMELY self concious of being turned away because of my race. Whats the best solution to this? Do I ask a girl on the phone if she sees guys of all races, do I ask her if she minds seeing me because im asian, or do I just ignore it and stop being so self-concious?

Thank you.

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Hello,

Let me start by saying I'm a british born asian (Pakistani.). I have never been turned away from a girl, in a parlour, in Soho or on purple site for being asian.

However, I sometimes read on girls profiles "I do not see black men, due to personal preference." It always made my heart sink abit, and it would make me feel bad if they said this about asians even more. (Although I feel sorry for the black guys aswell) Only once have I ever seen a profile where she doesnt see Pakistanis.

Anyway, its not something I ever cared about. But after reading a post by a member on this forum (It said he got turned away for being asian). I have become EXTREMELY self concious of being turned away because of my race. Whats the best solution to this? Do I ask a girl on the phone if she sees guys of all races, do I ask her if she minds seeing me because im asian, or do I just ignore it and stop being so self-concious?

Thank you.

I know the world ain't perfect, but if you reccie a girl who makes no comment or suggestion about ethic background, why should you have to ask her if she will see you cos' your Asian??

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To the OP, It's up to you I guess, in my case I always ask the lady beforehand if she would be okay seeing me. Always ask due to a past experience. I've found that not everyone states on their profile/website that they do not see certain people (in my case Asian).

On a wider note, doesn't bother me if the she doesn't, always polite about it if she says no, and never ask for reasons. It's her choice, and hope that wg's who do state that they only see certain people don't get flamed, as I would feel mortified if a wg was too see me due some obligation and not wanted to be perceived a certain way. As already mention above, a lady always has the right to choose, paid or otherwise.

You can't compare this line of work with any other kind of business. Even though money does exchange hands for services & time, you can't compare it to a shop where you buy products or a restaurant because of the 'nature of the activity' that is to take place.

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Thanks guys.

I just wanted to see the profile to why she wouldnt see asian men... She says its personal preference. Bit of a bummer but plenty of WGs I guess.

Made an appointment with a girl yesterday and forgot to mention I was asian. Might call her up on the day and ask her if she sees guys of all races? Or am I taking it abit far.

After reading posters comments, I think its best to ring. Thank you.

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It's a good idea to ask politely if she minds seeing xyz. I get asked this often by black men - some of whom don't "sound black" on the phone. They have to ask because as standard, a lot of black escorts won't see black men for fear of someone they know or may be related to turning up (t'is an alarmingly small world when you're up to no good). I am asked it less often by Asian men. when a white man asks if I see white men, I have to chuckle. That would be the majority of enquiries.

The reason I say its a good idea for you to ask is because to a lot of people, Black means not white (thanks to the old media categorisation before they decided to be a bit more specific, realising that even Asian would not cover those of an oriental extraction.) and she might expect you to think the same way.

What breaks my heart is when a guy turns up at the door and only then is he turned away. If the lady felt that strongly that she would turn someone away at the door, she should have made it clear. But then you have another issue: ladies bold (and honest enough) to state their preferences in this way on their web site used to get flamed for it by well meaning, but misguided liberals who really don't realise that in sexual terms, it would be abhorrent to try and force the horse to drink the water.

So, ask. And don't think any less of the lady whatever her answer may be. It is sometimes nothing to do with racism or prejudice. One lady had been widowed and for her, being with a man of a certain colour was too painful a reminder of the love she had lost. Another had been gang-raped by some black men. Being close enough to a black man to smell, say his hair, for instance, brought the trauma back for her so after freaking out with a couple of alarmed clients, she had to intigate a blanket ban.

Life isn't black and white. Oops! Too early to be punning!

xxx

Pru

Really excellent post, Pru! You don't post often but you usually are well worth reading when you do.

Cheers, T7

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I know some asian and black hookers, and they say that men of their own race, are often - timewasters, want freebies/discounts, or tell their lifestories.

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Thanks guys.

I just wanted to see the profile to why she wouldnt see asian men... She says its personal preference. Bit of a bummer but plenty of WGs I guess.

Made an appointment with a girl yesterday and forgot to mention I was asian. Might call her up on the day and ask her if she sees guys of all races? Or am I taking it abit far.

After reading posters comments, I think its best to ring. Thank you.

Why wait till the day, if she doesn't she has lost a booking and you have a last minute arrangement to make to find someone else. I would do it as soon as possible if you are worried.

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I've been refused on grounds of size - she hadn't even looked at it before she saw it.

Place in Wimbledon will see me but no other black men - or so they say....

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Another had been gang-raped by some black men. Being close enough to a black man to smell, say his hair, for instance, brought the trauma back for her so after freaking out with a couple of alarmed clients, she had to intigate a blanket ban.

Someone I know won't see Asian guys and says so on her website, because of an assault / attempted rape by an Asian guy who she'd become friendly with and trusted, this was before she became a WG. It's a case of memories triggered by voices and looks etc, she has no problem with black, oriental punters. Interestingly enough despite stating it clearly on her website she still gets Asian men trying to see her, sometimes giving names like john or Paul and trying to disguise accents etc. Once she had one she was suspicious of and asked me what to do, we managed to track down his facebook page and his name was Mohamed and looking at his photos he clearly was from an Asian background. The motives of such people are rather worrying in my opinion and give her more grounds to be nervous of such men.

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Someone I know won't see Asian guys and says so on her website, because of an assault / attempted rape by an Asian guy who she'd become friendly with and trusted, this was before she became a WG. It's a case of memories triggered by voices and looks etc, she has no problem with black, oriental punters. Interestingly enough despite stating it clearly on her website she still gets Asian men trying to see her, sometimes giving names like john or Paul and trying to disguise accents etc. Once she had one she was suspicious of and asked me what to do, we managed to track down his facebook page and his name was Mohamed and looking at his photos he clearly was from an Asian background. The motives of such people are rather worrying in my opinion and give her more grounds to be nervous of such men.

Lol, thats majorly bizzare and kind of weird.

I guess ill just have to ask them on the phone... If not, whatever. 100,000s of WGs in the world. Sucks that im being put in an automatic category but what you can do.

Thanks for the replies all.

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I know some asian and black hookers, and they say that men of their own race, are often - timewasters, want freebies/discounts, or tell their lifestories.

I have a very close friend that wanted to try escorting, she is an Asian lady and extremely beautiful, this was several years back but she talked me into building her a website and helping her, which I did for her no problem. I really wish I hadn't though. The hell we went through was unbelievable. She was threatened repeatedly in a very nasty way by Asian males, seems it was alright for them to see me, but not her to see any guy and even worse a white guy. In the end we took the site down and she only saw guys that I had already seen or in a duo with me. Talk about double standards..

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There are a few (that do not see certain peeps) and they are perfectly entitled to do so in my opinion...A funny story which happened many moons ago....I must have missed the line about the lady not seeing such and such and phoned, giving my name etc etc....we agreed a date and she said "what was your name again" when I repeated it she said"ohhh, but, but, but you should English, you're so very well spoken" and she was happy to see me....funny old world...

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Just rang a WG I have a booking with tomorrow... I asked her if she sees guys of all races and she said "Of course. Im not racist.". I said "Im asian, is that ok?" She said it was fine. Made me feel abit better about the whole thing. For some reason in my head she was going to cancel the booking lol...

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Slightlyoff subject, "Asian" is one of those words that has a specific meaning. I remember having a very stupid conversation with a work colleague who stated Chinese were not Asians! For a lot of folk Asian = Pakistani

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Asia is a very big part of the globe... It can mean, Pakistani, Indian, Bangledshi, Chinese, etc.

Chinese people are techincally asians but I like to call them Oritentals.

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