markbev

Scam Or Not?

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Few months ago I went to see a working girl I seen before we was having lots of fun after found that the condom had split, She didn't seem upset.

I went to the GUM clinic and I came back all clear, I went to see her again few weeks later and had great fun. Few days later I got a text from her saying that she is really so but she just found out she is Pregnant, thinking this is some sort of con I text back "I dont want a kid, get red of it". i never got a text back.

Few days later I get a text saying she is going to a private doctor to get a abortion, I fell bad about the text I sent as starting to seem like this isnt a scam. She then texts that she is getting a abortion done by a private doctor and its going to cost £560 and that she is going back to working to fund it, and that if i could spare some cash it would be great, this confused me a bit to weather this is a scam or not so I text sorry I have no cash I am skint, I then got a text back saying thats ok I will text you whhen I have a date for it to be done. I havent got a text yet.

What to you think????

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Your first mistake was to see her again.

Your second mistake was to text her after she told you she was pregnant

Your third mistake was to text her saying that you are skint

Your fourth mistake was to pat all that stuff here.

Just move on!

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What to you think????

I think that you were right first time. She's trying to scam you.

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or simple to see if she is trying to scam you ask to go with her to the appointment, if she makes up excuses its a scam, if not then you know she was actually telling the truth

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Your first mistake was to see her again.

Your second mistake was to text her after she told you she was pregnant

Your third mistake was to text her saying that you are skint

Your fourth mistake was to pat all that stuff here.

Just move on!

Why do you have to be such a cynic P? You state all these points as though they are a given, but in reality you have no idea who this girl is, or what her situation is.

Were this situation to happen to me, I would want the girl to bring it to my attention and would be concerned about what the outcome is.

Follow MissPanda's lead Markbev and offer to go with her to the appointment. Maybe it's a scam, or maybe she is just a young girl who's freaking out a bit at what she has gotten herself into.

People talk about the cynics on SAAFE, but for Christs sakes guys, wake up and smell the bitterness that's coming off you.

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Tell her you want to meet, but its to talk about the pregnancy. Get a pregnancy tester kit, mark the tester, and have her pee on it. But don't tell her before hand, present it to her when you meet. Establish that first. If she is more concerned about turning the meeting into a punt, then it may well be nonsense.

If she fannies about and says she will be in touch etc. its more likely its a scam.

She may well be pregnant by another fellow. So then its establishing paternity. So say you will arrange for that.

But you don't need to hand over cash, as anything like this will be handled through professional services.

However if its all true, there won't be a lot you can do. She may well go ahead with it all and you are stuck with it.

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Why does she go to see a private doctor, has she not heard about the NHS,

A family member of mine had to have an abortion done sadly, and within a week it was all performed with a minimum of fuss.

But if she had seen you a few times, and both of you got along well, why would she want to scam you, it just reads as being quite plausable.

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Also considering the situation when you met the second time. If she knew she was already pregnant its more likely she would have told you then, or contacted you by text long before then in the intervening months.

If on this second visit all was safe then there would be no reason to suspect a pregnancy.

Timing is also important here. If when you met the second time she was close to having a period then she would still need to wait at least a week for the period then another to suspect she was pregnant. So if she contacted you during those two weeks it would be to soon to establish pregnancy. But enough time to work out a scam.

What you need to do is get the worry out of the way and get the facts asap.

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Surely most WGs don't just rely on the condom? I would have thought the condom was more for the spread of infections etc rather than as contraception.

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£560 is in the right ball park, if she is going private via Marie Stopes (They can also get access to NHS, if she's eligible). Best bet would be to go to see them with her - makes sure you're not getting scammed and makes sure she's not doing it all on her own without support if she is genuine.

Marie Stopes have helped a couple of my friends out of similar binds and they are very good - http://www.mariestopes.org.uk/FindNearestClinic.aspx

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Sorry, I'm a woman and I think it's a scam. As has already been said, the NHS do abortions for free and most escorts wouldn't rely on just condoms for contraception.

This is going to sound harsh but at the end of the day men pay for escorts to get simple uncomplicated sex, not to get embroiled in personal disasters such as pregnancy. I think she's wrong to pester you with this even if it is true.

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Sorry, I'm a woman and I think it's a scam. As has already been said, the NHS do abortions for free and most escorts wouldn't rely on just condoms for contraception.

This is going to sound harsh but at the end of the day men pay for escorts to get simple uncomplicated sex, not to get embroiled in personal disasters such as pregnancy. I think she's wrong to pester you with this even if it is true.

I agree.

I'm still waiting for some poster to suggest that he does the decent thing and offers to marry her.

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Sorry, I'm a woman and I think it's a scam. As has already been said, the NHS do abortions for free and most escorts wouldn't rely on just condoms for contraception.

This is going to sound harsh but at the end of the day men pay for escorts to get simple uncomplicated sex, not to get embroiled in personal disasters such as pregnancy. I think she's wrong to pester you with this even if it is true.

I think that justifies my cynicism which attracted some criticism earlier. I have a thick skin so no worries there.

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I think that justifies my cynicism which attracted some criticism earlier. I have a thick skin so no worries there.

So, one of you doesn't think I'm a hard hearted cow?!

Anyway, any woman with half a brain would have taken the morning after pill if there was a condom split and she had no other method of contraception in place,

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She was on the pill but also taking antibotics too, she said the the doc thinks with taking both tey both cancled eachother out ie wasnt on the pill

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I agree.

I'm still waiting for some poster to suggest that he does the decent thing and offers to marry her.

I think the OP should offer to marry her :lol:

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She was on the pill but also taking antibotics too, she said the the doc thinks with taking both tey both cancled eachother out ie wasnt on the pill

Antibiotics affect absorption of the pill, and any Dr prescribing Anti-Bs will(or at least should) advise the woman of this.

Sod's law is that you'll have a condom split just at the same time you are taking a course of antibiotics. This happened to me once and I was off to the pharmacy asap to obtain the Morning After pill. It's available free of charge from most Pharmacies these days, quick interview and they provide it there and then.

Whilst I understand the OPs feelings I do think the "I don't want a kid get rid of it" text was particularly harsh, and also probably didn't help him since it would have shown how afraid he'd be of her actually being pregnant with his child. A more subtle "Ok let's have a chat on the phone about it" might have been a bit better and also given him a better opportunity to work out whether or not she was lying.

In my opinion if she wants money from you it needs to be discussed properly in person. Why complete strangers conduct so much of their business by text is beyond me, it could be anyone typing those texts from her phone and it's far easier to lie by text than in person.

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I also want to marry her, ( what does she look like and where does she live!) and im prepaired to have a dual with Markbev for her hand in marriage.

Will someone offer to hold my coat and be my second, ( could be an invite as the best man here)

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Scam all the way. A and your falling for it. It could also be argued shes attempting to blackmail you.

Edited by pierrot

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Markbev, even if she is pregnant how did she deduce it was yours? Think of the numerous others (she is a WG) whose it might be, even her B/Fs. I wonder how many others have received the same message as you (pardon the scepticism).

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The more I think about this, the more I come to the conclusion that it has SCAM written all over it. As Lydia has said, the transaction was a simple act of sex to satisfy the OP's desire. Any WG with any sense would have taken the morning after pill immediately "just in case", and since this was a "few months ago" a quick look at her would tell you if she was "with child". Even if she is, as a WG it is her responsibility to protect herself from such an outcome. The OP did nothing wrong as, we have to assume, the act of copulation was consensual.

The OP is acting like a mug in taking any interest at all in my view.

Not a popular point of view, particularly at this "festive season with "good will to all people" flying around. But then I never did court popularity.

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Few months ago I went to see a working girl I seen before we was having lots of fun after found that the condom had split, She didn't seem upset.

I went to the GUM clinic and I came back all clear, I went to see her again few weeks later and had great fun. Few days later I got a text from her saying that she is really so but she just found out she is Pregnant, thinking this is some sort of con I text back "I dont want a kid, get red of it". i never got a text back.

Few days later I get a text saying she is going to a private doctor to get a abortion, I fell bad about the text I sent as starting to seem like this isnt a scam. She then texts that she is getting a abortion done by a private doctor and its going to cost £560 and that she is going back to working to fund it, and that if i could spare some cash it would be great, this confused me a bit to weather this is a scam or not so I text sorry I have no cash I am skint, I then got a text back saying thats ok I will text you whhen I have a date for it to be done. I havent got a text yet.

What to you think????

Its a scam and i would ignore her, my punting phone is only on when i am arranging punts so she could contact me as much as she wants, once the phone is on i would just delete her messages without reading them. She would soon give up i imagine. If she persists be blunt and tell her to fuck off is my advice.

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Its a scam and i would ignore her, my punting phone is only on when i am arranging punts so she could contact me as much as she wants, once the phone is on i would just delete her messages without reading them. She would soon give up i imagine. If she persists be blunt and tell her to fuck off is my advice.

Sometimes I just wish Smiths would not beat about the bush so much, and give it to us straight!

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Few months ago I went to see a working girl I seen before we was having lots of fun after found that the condom had split, She didn't seem upset.

I went to the GUM clinic and I came back all clear, I went to see her again few weeks later and had great fun. Few days later I got a text from her saying that she is really so but she just found out she is Pregnant, thinking this is some sort of con I text back "I dont want a kid, get red of it". i never got a text back.

Few days later I get a text saying she is going to a private doctor to get a abortion, I fell bad about the text I sent as starting to seem like this isnt a scam. She then texts that she is getting a abortion done by a private doctor and its going to cost £560 and that she is going back to working to fund it, and that if i could spare some cash it would be great, this confused me a bit to weather this is a scam or not so I text sorry I have no cash I am skint, I then got a text back saying thats ok I will text you whhen I have a date for it to be done. I havent got a text yet.

What to you think????

Sorry but I don't think you should use those words refering to the unborn (and I'm not against abortion)

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