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Beauty Verses Chemistry?

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Which causes the most problems?

On a different forum we have recently been talking about affairs and what makes people do it and on this forum debating how attraction is most important for some, while personality for others, which got me thinking. Yes my head might turn if I find someone attractive, but if I find I have natural chemistry with someone, personally this is more likely to make it hard for me to resist. I find myself flirting without intention.

Many years ago now when I used to swing, I recal meeting up with a chap who I had met online to go to a swinging club and if I am honest I did not fancy him. He was however a lovely person and I was enjoying his company. We decided to take a dip in the jacuzzi and while we were in there he kissed me. The kiss was like electric, it touched every part of my body. Ever fibre was responding and we ended up being buddies and good friends for some time after that day.

Another time before I was swinging I had a date with a chap and as soon as he opened the door, he could tell I was disappointed. I know, what a cow! We went out for the date anyway and he plied me with drinks and as the night progressed he stole a few kisses off me and again I was shocked at how the kisses made me feel, as I really didn't fancy him. I'm such a floozy, as I ended up in bed with him too! Although I admit I would not see him again, as I couldn't get my head around the chemistry/attraction thing, it was too extreme in his case.

So... which is more dangerous beauty/dashing good looks or chemistry? Which is more likely to get you in trouble? Which is more likely to get you to return if it's with an Escort?

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Chemistry every time.  Looks are superficial

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If the pheromones are there then looks matter not.....

 

I can smell pheromones as soon as the jacket comes off..... but I think some guys leave them at home and 

I don't mean the jackets.

 

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If the pheromones are there then looks matter not.....

 

I can smell pheromones as soon as the jacket comes off..... but I think some guys leave them at home and 

I don't mean the jackets.

 

;)

 

I think I need some anti pheromone spray for when I get weak lol.

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Chemistry will always trump looks when it comes to the crunch (for want of a better euphemism). :)

 

The most beautiful woman in the world may have all the personality of a table tennis ball and lie there like a plank of wood during rumpy pumpy while a less obvious looker can be the best shag you'll ever have. I speak from experience here.

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If the pheromones are there then looks matter not.....

 

I can smell pheromones as soon as the jacket comes off..... but I think some guys leave them at home and 

I don't mean the jackets.

 

;)

Some guys leave the pheromones at home deliberately and just want us to service them.  I think they are scared !

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When I was young I would say looks. I was always well aware that I could pretty much get what I wanted from any guy by turning on the charm and using my sexual side to catch them. Trouble was, as fun as that was and exciting always being the one to walk around on the arm of some Adonis, I soon got bored with the superficial side of them and was off looking for the next victim/challenge.

As I got older I started to realise that there is so much more that can be attractive in a man and started to realise that it was a better challenge and far more sexy flirting with their mind other than their body . I don't think I've felt that chemistry thing your talking about though (tell a lie I did have a few nice feelings if that's what it was with a woman once).

The buzz for me has always been the challenge, watching a man get turned on, being able to make him do things he would never dream were possible for him to do and so on, so these days with all that in mind I don't think either are important for me. Its a willingness to let themselves go and enter my crazy world that is the attraction. I have never been with someone or kissed them and felt that 'oh I have to have them feeling the other girls talk about'. I tend to be with them and think 'I have to make them want me', if they do then I'm satisfied.

I'm aware that Pheromones play a big part but they can be released by all of us if your doing it right, no matter how we look, is that what you mean by chemistry?

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When I was young I would say looks. I was always well aware that I could pretty much get what I wanted from any guy by turning on the charm and using my sexual side to catch them. Trouble was, as fun as that was and exciting always being the one to walk around on the arm of some Adonis, I soon got bored with the superficial side of them and was off looking for the next victim/challenge.

As I got older I started to realise that there is so much more that can be attractive in a man and started to realise that it was a better challenge and far more sexy flirting with their mind other than their body . I don't think I've felt that chemistry thing your talking about though (tell a lie I did have a few nice feelings if that's what it was with a woman once).

The buzz for me has always been the challenge, watching a man get turned on, being able to make him do things he would never dream were possible for him to do and so on, so these days with all that in mind I don't think either are important for me. Its a willingness to let themselves go and enter my crazy world that is the attraction. I have never been with someone or kissed them and felt that 'oh I have to have them feeling the other girls talk about'. I tend to be with them and think 'I have to make them want me', if they do then I'm satisfied.

I'm aware that Pheromones play a big part but they can be released by all of us if your doing it right, no matter how we look, is that what you mean by chemistry?

 

Holly that is really interesting.  I had not looked at it from the perspective of the 'person' and their own personal beauty before.  Of course that is going to have a bearing on your experience and how you feel, ie what your 'norm' is.

 

I think it is deeper than pheromones.  I think it's a spark that is unique to two people.  For instance a group of people sat together of similar age and maybe just one or two people will have chemistry with the same person, while the rest just don't feel it.  We kind of make hidden connections.  There is no obvious reason as to why someone might have some kind of magnetism over you, but they do.  The way they behave, the sound of their voice, the look in their eye.  You don't even have to like them, but their is a sexual allure.  Chemistry is when two people are drawn together for no other reason than the need to be sexual. 

 

The rest is immaterial at that point, but of course if you do like each other and find each other attractive, it could lead to much more and become deep and meaningful.

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Certainly in civvie life chemistry will win every time, like the woman at work you gradually get more and more attracted to because of it, regardless of looks (within reason!). On a punt it starts with looks (ie the particular looks that turn you on, will obviously vary) but the chemistry can take over (good or bad) pretty damn quick! And for a regular, chemistry definitely (and of course the delivery of the service!)

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Certainly in civvie life chemistry will win every time, like the woman at work you gradually get more and more attracted to because of it, regardless of looks (within reason!). On a punt it starts with looks (ie the particular looks that turn you on, will obviously vary) but the chemistry can take over (good or bad) pretty damn quick! And for a regular, chemistry definitely (and of course the delivery of the service!)

 

Do you think chemistry helps with delivery?  I can't think of one time where chemistry has been present, where we haven't had an amazing time sexually.

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Which causes the most problems?

On a different forum we have recently been talking about affairs and what makes people do it and on this forum debating how attraction is most important for some, while personality for others, which got me thinking. Yes my head might turn if I find someone attractive, but if I find I have natural chemistry with someone, personally this is more likely to make it hard for me to resist. I find myself flirting without intention.

Many years ago now when I used to swing, I recal meeting up with a chap who I had met online to go to a swinging club and if I am honest I did not fancy him. He was however a lovely person and I was enjoying his company. We decided to take a dip in the jacuzzi and while we were in there he kissed me. The kiss was like electric, it touched every part of my body. Ever fibre was responding and we ended up being buddies and good friends for some time after that day.

Another time before I was swinging I had a date with a chap and as soon as he opened the door, he could tell I was disappointed. I know, what a cow! We went out for the date anyway and he plied me with drinks and as the night progressed he stole a few kisses off me and again I was shocked at how the kisses made me feel, as I really didn't fancy him. I'm such a floozy, as I ended up in bed with him too! Although I admit I would not see him again, as I couldn't get my head around the chemistry/attraction thing, it was too extreme in his case.

So... which is more dangerous beauty/dashing good looks or chemistry? Which is more likely to get you in trouble? Which is more likely to get you to return if it's with an Escort?

 

 

In my youth it was all about looks, nowadays i have to fancy a WG but her looks are the initial lure but only one aspect of what i require to make a  good punt. Having a seemingly warm, enthusiastic friendly attitude offering the services i require are just as essential as her looks. Between an ice cold beauty and a friendly plainer WG it would be the latter i would punt with every time. Being a stunner as well is the icing on the cake. My best punts have had the click factor so instant chemistry and for no apparent reason except personal chemistry which can be with any WG irrespective of race or other factors. Great when it happens.

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  For instance a group of people sat together of similar age and maybe just one or two people will have chemistry with the same person, while the rest just don't feel it. 

See that's where my problem lies. If I know something sexual may take place and I'm with a group of people I would want them all.. I honestly have never experienced what you describe in a sexual context.

I love my current partner to death and yes we have good satisfying sex, but as I know I can that good sex from many other places should I want to, I know its not that which is the bond. I find a meeting of minds, not so much the kissing or touching that is the true chemistry, for me anyway.

There used to be guy that I did photo shoots with that always turned me on like you wouldn't believe, but I'm pretty sure it was more the fact that the photographer used he used would struggle to hide his erections that was doing it rather than the male model himself.

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<blockquote class='ipsBlockquote'data-author="kissxkate" data-cid="475027" data-time="1357645999"><p>

Do you think chemistry helps with delivery? I can't think of one time where chemistry has been present, where we haven't had an amazing time sexually.</p></blockquote>

Oh absolutely yes

Bloody iPhone just won't do quote properly!!!!

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I remember reading a book and in it was a king's mistress. She was plain and flat chested. The author put these words into her mouth "Any woman can get a man into bed. It takes something else to make him come back begging for more." So looks to bait the trap and chemistry to keep the man there

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I remember reading a book and in it was a king's mistress. She was plain and flat chested. The author put these words into her mouth "Any woman can get a man into bed. It takes something else to make him come back begging for more." So looks to bait the trap and chemistry to keep the man there

 

 

But who is plain to one may be pretty to another who may be beautiful to another.  Cant say anything about the chest but not everyone likes big tits, some guys think they are ugly and some have fetishf or small breasts.  So its horses for courses and the finding out what tugs your chain is the challenge.

 

And LUST wins out every time.  I know a guy who I do not believe to be a punter (doesnt use WGs)  who I would not particularly call handsome but he has that "aura" and magnetism and the number of affairs he has had is beyond counting.  

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But who is plain to one may be pretty to another who may be beautiful to another.  Cant say anything about the chest but not everyone likes big tits, some guys think they are ugly and some have fetishf or small breasts.  So its horses for courses and the finding out what tugs your chain is the challenge.

 

And LUST wins out every time.  I know a guy who I do not believe to be a punter (doesnt use WGs)  who I would not particularly call handsome but he has that "aura" and magnetism and the number of affairs he has had is beyond counting.  

Sounds like my brother that.

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See that's where my problem lies. If I know something sexual may take place and I'm with a group of people I would want them all.. I honestly have never experienced what you describe in a sexual context.

I love my current partner to death and yes we have good satisfying sex, but as I know I can that good sex from many other places should I want to, I know its not that which is the bond. I find a meeting of minds, not so much the kissing or touching that is the true chemistry, for me anyway.

There used to be guy that I did photo shoots with that always turned me on like you wouldn't believe, but I'm pretty sure it was more the fact that the photographer used he used would struggle to hide his erections that was doing it rather than the male model himself.

 

Holly get your mind out of the gutter!!! lol.

 

When I said a group of people in my head they were a group of friends, or at a class, perhaps on a course where they just met.  I didn't mean sex crazed swingers lol.  I do thing the mind plays a huge part in it, or can be a trigger, but so can physical contact, which is why kissing is so important.

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Kind of interesting this. Just before Christmas (and I mean just before) I visited a Soho Walk-up and nearly walked straight back down... The maid opened the door and there in front if me, in the bedroom doorway, was the girl. Initial reaction 'fuck that... I ain't paying to fuck that... Skinny, ordinary looking and NO tits'. Anyways - both the maid and the girl were encouraging me to cross the threshold. The girl then announced £20 for sex and oral... I said 'kissing?' - she shrugged and said 'ok'. I went in.

Well... When I got in the room and we got naked and I saw her engage me in lingering eye contact, lots of smiles and dirty talk - I suddenly saw a beauty that I hadn't initially noticed. Gorgeous eyes... Lovely smile... Nice friendly mannerisms.

I think that, with some Chemistry, comes an element of beauty. Beauty that you might not have seen before.

I'm now totally hooked on this girl. Totally. She speaks poor English. Never going to be a relationship but its made me think again about what makes a person beautiful. It's not JUST looks.

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<blockquote class='ipsBlockquote'data-author="GoodTimeGal" data-cid="475050" data-time="1357649394"><p>

But who is plain to one may be pretty to another who may be beautiful to another. Cant say anything about the chest but not everyone likes big tits, some guys think they are ugly and some have fetishf or small breasts. So its horses for courses and the finding out what tugs your chain is the challenge.

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Not just that GTG. Someone can be drop dead gorgeous to your eyes while that chemistry is there, then when it's gone you see them totally differently

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Holly get your mind out of the gutter!!! lol.

 

When I said a group of people in my head they were a group of friends, or at a class, perhaps on a course where they just met.  I didn't mean sex crazed swingers lol.  I do thing the mind plays a huge part in it, or can be a trigger, but so can physical contact, which is why kissing is so important.

Sorry not possible that, I wasn't thinking swingers either. Maybe that's why I don't have a chemical reaction that way, because I do think in a guttural sense when it comes to sex.

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it's a good question; thinking about it, the best sexual chemistry (and sex) I have had with SP's has been with the two ladies who probably were amongst the 'less gorgeous' ladies i have visited. not, of course, that these ladies weren't very attractive, merely that they were not quite in the same category of the flat-out gorgeous breathtaking beauty of the other ladies i have seen.

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Which causes the most problems?

On a different forum we have recently been talking about affairs and what makes people do it and on this forum debating how attraction is most important for some, while personality for others, which got me thinking. Yes my head might turn if I find someone attractive, but if I find I have natural chemistry with someone, personally this is more likely to make it hard for me to resist. I find myself flirting without intention.

Many years ago now when I used to swing, I recal meeting up with a chap who I had met online to go to a swinging club and if I am honest I did not fancy him. He was however a lovely person and I was enjoying his company. We decided to take a dip in the jacuzzi and while we were in there he kissed me. The kiss was like electric, it touched every part of my body. Ever fibre was responding and we ended up being buddies and good friends for some time after that day.

Another time before I was swinging I had a date with a chap and as soon as he opened the door, he could tell I was disappointed. I know, what a cow! We went out for the date anyway and he plied me with drinks and as the night progressed he stole a few kisses off me and again I was shocked at how the kisses made me feel, as I really didn't fancy him. I'm such a floozy, as I ended up in bed with him too! Although I admit I would not see him again, as I couldn't get my head around the chemistry/attraction thing, it was too extreme in his case.

So... which is more dangerous beauty/dashing good looks or chemistry? Which is more likely to get you in trouble? Which is more likely to get you to return if it's with an Escort?

 

Great question !

Great thread !

 

Over the years I've found strong desire, strong sexual attraction and powerful chemistry in places I would never have expected, women I wouldnt even notice if I passed them in the street

 

A certain basic level of physical attractiveness is needed for me I think, but over and above this basic level, its chemistry, vibe, 'click' and that mysterious and indefinable mutual 'charge'.

 

Chemistry will always be the factor most likely to 'cause trouble' in any arena, but for me I feel some basic level of raw mutual physical attraction has to be present in the first place in terms of civvie adult relations.

 

That being said, physical, and then sexual, attraction can slowly creep up on you over time as you get to know someone and spend time with them, when you least expect it and much to your surprise.

 

However, good looks and good chemistry neednt be mutually exclusive

 

Threads like this seem to imply that you cant have both

 

Simply not true.

Although in the arena of paid for sex how can you ever be sure that you really are experiencing genuine 'chemistry' ?

 

Great actresses, with startling sexual skills and great social ease can create the illusion over and over again and with a variety of men, and when theyre beautiful too.....[sigh!!!!!!!]

 

And as others have rightly said on here, beauty is so often highly subjective

 

I can think of a couple of favourite escorts of mine who to me are so attractive, in every way, that its the combination of physical gorgeousness, chemistry (or the skillfully crafted illusion of chemistry...........i dont really care which) and wonderful sex that is by far the most dangerous combination, and most likely to lead me towards idiotic behaviour

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Great question !

Great thread !

 

Over the years I've found strong desire, strong sexual attraction and powerful chemistry in places I would never have expected, women I wouldnt even notice if I passed them in the street

 

A certain basic level of physical attractiveness is needed for me I think, but over and above this basic level, its chemistry, vibe, 'click' and that mysterious and indefinable mutual 'charge'.

 

Chemistry will always be the factor most likely to 'cause trouble' in any arena, but for me I feel some basic level of raw mutual physical attraction has to be present in the first place in terms of civvie adult relations.

 

That being said, physical, and then sexual, attraction can slowly creep up on you over time as you get to know someone and spend time with them, when you least expect it and much to your surprise.

 

However, good looks and good chemistry neednt be mutually exclusive

 

Threads like this seem to imply that you cant have both

 

Simply not true.

Although in the arena of paid for sex how can you ever be sure that you really are experiencing genuine 'chemistry' ?

 

Great actresses, with startling sexual skills and great social ease can create the illusion over and over again and with a variety of men, and when theyre beautiful too.....[sigh!!!!!!!]

 

And as others have rightly said on here, beauty is so often highly subjective

 

If the act is good enough, who cares? If you can't tell the difference, what's the difference? Jusy enjoy. :)

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If the act is good enough, who cares? If you can't tell the difference, what's the difference? Jusy enjoy. :)

 

Yep, said as much myself....and you betcha.....I certainly enjoy myself   :D

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Yep, said as much myself....and you betcha.....I certainly enjoy myself   :D

Me too. :D

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