MissKylie

When Feedback Becomes Too Much

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I received a pm this afternoon from a gentleman telling me as that as much as he loves my profile on aw he is put off by my high number of feedback. Even though I say everywhere on my profile that I only work part-time, and my feedback has actually been built up over two years. Plus as I said in the previous thread I choose to see limited clients so this is actually quite upsetting for me that someone thinks this. I have worked really hard to build up my feedback and good reputation and it's quite disheartening to hear that. When feedback gets to a certain number does it really put you off? And why do guys seem more attracted to women on aw with such low feedback? Sure everyone has to start somewhere, but would guys really choose to see someone new with hardly any feedback over someone well established? I am even aware that some guys actively search out purposely for 'new girls' that seem to pop up regularly. I ask everyone to book online so it's not like I have seen 100s of more guys than my feeback show anyway. I can only assume that some guys think if you have been doing this a wile you could be jaded or less inclined to give a high standard of service because you must be 'robot like' or something, which is certainly not the case for myself.

Any thoughts on this?

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Why a man would bother to type a message to tell you that is most strange.

 

Kylie I have a very high feedback number, many more than you have.

It may well put some men off, it will attract others, it world for me pretty well.

Indeed I have seen it typed on forums such as this one that some blokes will not meet with a lady with high feedback, others have said it matters not a jot to them.

I really would let it upset you now.

You sure are thinking about a lot of stuff recently connected with your work!

I find it best to just get on with it, do it the way that works for you and have no concern to what some may think of how you do the job.

 

On a personal note, I have found that having a high feedback count does not put the gentlemen off from seeing me as I get inquiries from new chaps who wish to meet with me daily still.

Of course I am sure that someone will wake up soon and put finger to keyboard and say he does not and will not see ladies with high feedback due to them caring more about feedback than giving their gentlemen callers a good time  ;)

So as long as you are getting bookings you do not need to worry what the odd one or two or twenty on forums will say about this subject..

It is good to take some points on board that the gentleman type up at times though, but not all.

 

Lucy  :)

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Typos alert........

I meant do "not" let it upset you, and also "it works for me pretty well", not world.

I wish we did not get timed out from correcting out typos etc so quickly!  :)

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Why a man would bother to type a message to tell you that is most strange.

 

Kylie I have a very high feedback number, many more than you have.

It may well put some men off, it will attract others, it world for me pretty well.

Indeed I have seen it typed on forums such as this one that some blokes will not meet with a lady with high feedback, others have said it matters not a jot to them.

I really would let it upset you now.

You sure are thinking about a lot of stuff recently connected with your work!

I find it best to just get on with it, do it the way that works for you and have no concern to what some may think of how you do the job.

 

On a personal note, I have found that having a high feedback count does not put the gentlemen off from seeing me as I get inquiries from new chaps who wish to meet with me daily still.

Of course I am sure that someone will wake up soon and put finger to keyboard and say he does not and will not see ladies with high feedback due to them caring more about feedback than giving their gentlemen callers a good time  ;)

So as long as you are getting bookings you do not need to worry what the odd one or two or twenty on forums will say about this subject..

It is good to take some points on board that the gentleman type up at times though, but not all.

 

Lucy  :)

There's a self-flattery quote somewhere that escapes me ........

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There's a self-flattery quote somewhere that escapes me ........

 

 

Think about it and come back later  :)

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"Self praise is no recommendation" as Granny always used to remind me ........

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"Self praise is no recommendation" as Granny always used to remind me ........

 

 

Nice one, Granny knows best  :D

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Nice one, Granny knows best  :D

"One swallow doesn't a summer make" as my ex wife used to remind me - often!

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Why a man would bother to type a message to tell you that is most strange.

 

Kylie I have a very high feedback number, many more than you have.

It may well put some men off, it will attract others, it world for me pretty well.

Indeed I have seen it typed on forums such as this one that some blokes will not meet with a lady with high feedback, others have said it matters not a jot to them.

I really would let it upset you now.

You sure are thinking about a lot of stuff recently connected with your work!

I find it best to just get on with it, do it the way that works for you and have no concern to what some may think of how you do the job.

 

On a personal note, I have found that having a high feedback count does not put the gentlemen off from seeing me as I get inquiries from new chaps who wish to meet with me daily still.

Of course I am sure that someone will wake up soon and put finger to keyboard and say he does not and will not see ladies with high feedback due to them caring more about feedback than giving their gentlemen callers a good time  ;)

So as long as you are getting bookings you do not need to worry what the odd one or two or twenty on forums will say about this subject..

It is good to take some points on board that the gentleman type up at times though, but not all.

 

Lucy  :)

Obviously I won't divulge who said it, but they were perfectly nice about it. I am thinking about a lot of stuff recently yes, and just about making things better for me and getting others advice. Don't worry I will refrain from anymore threads for a wile!

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Obviously I won't divulge who said it, but they were perfectly nice about it. I am thinking about a lot of stuff recently yes, and just about making things better for me and getting others advice. Don't worry I will refrain from anymore threads for a wile!

 

 

 

It is good to think about stuff at times connected with all areas of your life no doubt, and how to improve things.

You always have to remember though that if you have a system that is working for you, there is no point in changing it really.

It is good to take on board what some will type either by PM or in public at times of course, but they do not type for all men who do this,

Their view points may well be very valid to them, but they are just one person in the big picture of it all.

 

Next they will be telling you that your profile is too long!

 

Lucy  :)

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It is good to think about stuff at times connected with all areas of your life no doubt, and how to improve things.

You always have to remember though that if you have a system that is working for you, there is no point in changing it really.

It is good to take on board what some will type either by PM or in public at times of course, but they do not type for all men who do this,

Their view points may well be very valid to them, but they are just one person in the big picture of it all.

 

Next they will be telling you that your profile is too long!

 

Lucy  :)

So, true and very succinct Lucy ......

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Kylie sweetie you certainly seem to be over thinking things and getting upset by stuff that shouldn't bother you. You simply cannot be all things to all clients.

Over the years I've had all these:

Sorry your too fat for me. Sorry your too thin for me. Sorry your too old for me. Sorry looking for someone older. Sorry your FR's portray you as too horny. Sorry I'm looking for a hornier woman and services you don't provide and so on. If I got upset by them I would constantly be upset...lol

Of course there are guys that prefer girls who don't see a large amount of men,as there are guys that prefer to see girls that do and all you need to worry about are the men that you enjoy and those that enjoy you.

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I think that Lucy and Holly have the right of it. Some girls suit certain clients. Some don't. There isn't a single girl on the planet who appeals to every single client, I am sure. It really is as simple as that.

Quite why this guy decided to PM you about it, I have no idea. What on earth did he expect you to do about your feedback number !?!?

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How much feedback do you actually ask punters to leave? 

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I received a pm this afternoon from a gentleman telling me as that as much as he loves my profile on aw he is put off by my high number of feedback. Even though I say everywhere on my profile that I only work part-time, and my feedback has actually been built up over two years. Plus as I said in the previous thread I choose to see limited clients so this is actually quite upsetting for me that someone thinks this. I have worked really hard to build up my feedback and good reputation and it's quite disheartening to hear that. When feedback gets to a certain number does it really put you off? And why do guys seem more attracted to women on aw with such low feedback? Sure everyone has to start somewhere, but would guys really choose to see someone new with hardly any feedback over someone well established? I am even aware that some guys actively search out purposely for 'new girls' that seem to pop up regularly. I ask everyone to book online so it's not like I have seen 100s of more guys than my feeback show anyway. I can only assume that some guys think if you have been doing this a wile you could be jaded or less inclined to give a high standard of service because you must be 'robot like' or something, which is certainly not the case for myself.

Any thoughts on this?

Thoughts?

 

Personally I'd not be interested in Ladies with no feedback.

 

I sort my saved searches by the number of escort ratings.

 

One of my regulars has 200+ and it hasn't put me off, though it might interest HMRC! Not as and Escort that is, I'm sure you get my drift.

 

Possibly, the 'dangerous' situation is SPs with say, 10 or so feedbacks, especially over a short period. These might well be false?

 

A question: what proportion of completed meetings get reported on AW, here or on the other sites? I try and report all mine or, at least, the good ones (see other threads), I'd estimate that its only about 1%?

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Thanks for an interesting post and topic. I am really enjoying your welll thought out and articulate existential reflections on some of these contours of the industry.

Ok, so I am in the camp of 'too many reviews is a turn off', thought I would explain per your request.

You are bang-on: too many reviews makes me feel like you might be jaded or ground down; that I have less of chance of receiving any personalised attention; potentially, that you will be either desensitised or require extreme stimulus in order to feel any pleasure that I will thus assume you are acting (I know it's largely an act anyway); and in the back of my head, I might be thinking of potential physical issues/risks.

I think most of these feelings are irrational and unfair, but they pop up, maybe I am immature. I think nature program's us to seek this out as a way of protection for an act the biologically carries risks. For example, why are virgins considered so valuable in many societies (it's obviously not their experience at being a good lover).

Another factor some punters will agree with: there is fun in finding an uncovered 'gem' and with a lot of reviews, it's more like buying at popular coat at Zara this season, great until,you see it everywhere?

More positive reviews should be a good thing, not bad....they just aren't for me, at about 10, I'm done. I would wipe them down to 1 a month...

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Dont worry about it kylie as you said, the feedback you have generates enough clients to keep you happy. At least you didnt get a " months and no feedback, must be a shit fuck" email as I did haha. I think with aw so long as you have a few feedbacks the guys are happy as they have some point of reference plus I refer to my pnet reviews so they know what to expect

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Stop fretting about stuff Kylie! Or are you just bored in the middle of the night?!

 

We will be picked or rejected for a whole number of reasons,even if I personally think some of  these reasons are daft (although I respect aussiecrocsss for being honest) they are what a man feels and we all have our whims. I'm sure you've turned down clients for reasons they might not like too. It's the way it works, both escorts and punters will use our inner feelings and instinct to make a judgement on another. It's life.

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Dont worry about it kylie as you said, the feedback you have generates enough clients to keep you happy. At least you didnt get a " months and no feedback, must be a shit fuck" email as I did haha. I think with aw so long as you have a few feedbacks the guys are happy as they have some point of reference plus I refer to my pnet reviews so they know what to expect

Don't you have to make a booking through AW in order to leave FB/review?

 

Then there is the option to leave FB on the punter?

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Don't you have to make a booking through AW in order to leave FB/review?

 

Then there is the option to leave FB on the punter?

Yes you do but you can book in the appointment with the lady first to make sure she is available and then put through the booking system. Yes we can leave fb on punters. I think thats fair as there is always two sides to every booking x

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Anyway, can't you remove some of them, or restart a new profile? 

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Simple economics.

I've not bothered much with AW but at one time here if you had a positive FR it could and did bring in an extra 20+ clients, so what if one thinks your jaded because of it, that's still another 19 potential clients that get to enjoy your delights.

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Anyway, can't you remove some of them, or restart a new profile? 

Very difficult to remove or edit FRs.

 

I posted one where I referred to an SP by a former name which she didn't want and she and I had onel hell of a job contacting anyone: we never did get it changed.

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Very difficult to remove or edit FRs.

 

I posted one where I referred to an SP by a former name which she didn't want and she and I had onel hell of a job contacting anyone: we never did get it changed.

 

 

You can choose not to link it to your profile page though, the lady I mean there the man, she has that control.

I did not link one to my profile once as it was just too fluffy, even for me  ;) but then the chap was offended so I clicked to link it again.

 

Lucy  :)

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