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Not been doing this long and I keep telling myself I wont do it forever my reasons being I'd like to maybe get into a relationship soon or at some point.

 

I was also a bit worried, when I first started out, that it may not teach me certain aspects of how to give a girl a great time however the few ladies that I have seen have been very patient with me and given me some good pointers for the future, so that initial worry has sort of died away.  

 

Finally, me being me, for some reason I felt kind of guilty getting into this because I was worried I may become addicted but after chatting with the last girl I saw recently, I've come to the conclusion that I can carry on as long as I don't over do it (I've had quiet a few adventures in the last 4 weeks which I think may have been over kill for me!) and as long as I remember that there are other things I can do as well. So for me (whilst possibly searching for a relationship) my money should be spent on gaining some life experience such as through travelling and learning new skills with occasional meeting with a nice lady every so many months (funds permitting)

Just wondered if anyone else had to sit down and really figure out where punting fits in your life? Also how much is too much?

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Not been doing this long and I keep telling myself I wont do it forever my reasons being I'd like to maybe get into a relationship soon or at some point.

 

I was also a bit worried, when I first started out, that it may not teach me certain aspects of how to give a girl a great time however the few ladies that I have seen have been very patient with me and given me some good pointers for the future, so that initial worry has sort of died away.  

 

Finally, me being me, for some reason I felt kind of guilty getting into this because I was worried I may become addicted but after chatting with the last girl I saw recently, I've come to the conclusion that I can carry on as long as I don't over do it (I've had quiet a few adventures in the last 4 weeks which I think may have been over kill for me!) and as long as I remember that there are other things I can do as well. So for me (whilst possibly searching for a relationship) my money should be spent on gaining some life experience such as through travelling and learning new skills with occasional meeting with a nice lady every so many months (funds permitting)

Just wondered if anyone else had to sit down and really figure out where punting fits in your life? Also how much is too much?

I think too much is when you know it is x

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For myself, punting is an occasional leisure activity. It allows me to have experiences that I otherwise wouldn't have. Most have been lovely and fun. Occasionally, it has gone the other way with one escort in particular that I have encountered being nothing short of a stark raving mad lunatic. 

 

I like your personal attitude as it mirrors mine. Punting can be put down to gaining a bit of additional experience to add life. Right now, it is something I partake in occasionally but once I am in a serious, settled relationship, I will leave it behind completely.

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Initially planned on a punt every couple of months....

currently planning my 3rd since the end of December - so something went wrong with that plan!

I prefer booking 2 hours, so finances will slow me down, next punt will defo be the last until some time in March.

It also depends on opportunity, as I do have a partner. We have no physical side to our relationship after a particularly traumatic event a long time ago caused her to completely lose her libido. It was a difficult decision for me to make but I decided to give punting a try to have a last go at some fun before I get too old, lol.

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I know everyone has their own reasons for punting, whether single, married, divorced, bereaved, separated, unhappy – whatever it may be, as long as you are kind and respectful to the ladies you see, you have your own morals to overcome to make it a ‘healthy part of your life’.  For me personally, having been in a relationship for many years, but not anymore, I’m having a guilt free enjoyable experience that will last until I find myself in a steady relationship, just like you state.  Only time will tell whether it becomes an addiction and too much, when you get into another steady relationship....

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I was also a bit worried, when I first started out, that it may not teach me certain aspects of how to give a girl a great time

 

Finally, me being me, for some reason I felt kind of guilty getting into this because I was worried I may become addicted

Just wondered if anyone else had to sit down and really figure out where punting fits in your life? Also how much is too much?

 

 

No it won't teach you how to give girls a good time because they are all different and maybe it's better to take prominence from those who will sleep with you without payment.

 

Sex by it's own nature is addictive but the trick to overcome the addiction to punting is to firmly implant on your brain that a WG is with you only because you are paying her. You can select and meet the physical specimen of your dreams but trust me even that gets boring after a while if deep down you need something genuine. Our brains fool us and at times it is so hard to see through the haze.

 

Punting is amazing, the most amazing discovery at first and rightly so but it's first and foremost a product and service.

 

Too much is debt and going without. That is when it's a drug.

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I know everyone has their own reasons for punting, whether single, married, divorced, bereaved, separated, unhappy – whatever it may be, as long as you are kind and respectful to the ladies you see, you have your own morals to overcome to make it a ‘healthy part of your life’.  For me personally, having been in a relationship for many years, but not anymore, I’m having a guilt free enjoyable experience that will last until I find myself in a steady relationship, just like you state.  Only time will tell whether it becomes an addiction and too much, when you get into another steady relationship....

Good response, balance in all things and acknowledging if it turns from a want to need would define healthy.

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I said it in another thread. That punting shouldn't become something to get hung up about. Get to the point where you can use it when you need to. Anything more and you are on an expensive and not always rewarding obsession. And don't lose touch with the real 'normal' world. 

 

If your wife is worth her salt, she will know what you are doing, and in doing so effectively granting you licence. Just don't throw it back at her or let her take responsibility for it. She knows and can live with it.

 

If you are on your own its easier to fit into your life, but there are other options such as adult dating.

 

Probably the best compromise is to find a regular woman at an affordable price, with whom you can retain a sort of relationship. that means dealing with some of the human stuff along the way. From there you know your cock is basically content, and you can go out skirmishing and exploring new venues. Which is what I do. I can recommend most of the orientals for providing that kind of relationship. that is whilst they are over here, probably not back home. 

 

I don't regret doing it. But I wish I hadn't allowed it to fill my headspace that much, that often, because it really doesn't warrant it. 

 

I sometimes think that sex is the most abused human right. In that we should all have it, but somehow its been twisted into a negotiating tool between the sexes, and has become a fiendish thing. Punting somehow relieves that but equally contributes to it. 

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Some guys think that seeings hookers will help them find the relationship they have been seeking. Maybe it helps - but it could also be a hinderance. What makes you try to chat up a civvie woman? What really gives you that push? Surely - part of it is lack of sex. If you don't have that lack you might not make the leap. So in that sense you may end up in permanent paid sex.

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I sometimes think that sex is the most abused human right. In that we should all have it, but somehow its been twisted into a negotiating tool between the sexes, and has become a fiendish thing. Punting somehow relieves that but equally contributes to it. 

The freedom to engage in legal sex activities is a human right yes - but not every person enjoys the full benefit of this freedom and that is nothing the European Court is going to help you with. As you say - at least you can redress the inequality of sexual fortunes with paid sex though it is debateable to what extent it really levels out.

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When my finances changed, so did the pinting. It's now lots of saving up and oodles of time to pick the best value for money(way different from cheapest). If I took out a loan or pulled cash off a credit card then I would worry about addiction

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For myself, punting is an occasional leisure activity. It allows me to have experiences that I otherwise wouldn't have. Most have been lovely and fun. Occasionally, it has gone the other way with one escort in particular that I have encountered being nothing short of a stark raving mad lunatic. 

 

I like your personal attitude as it mirrors mine. Punting can be put down to gaining a bit of additional experience to add life. Right now, it is something I partake in occasionally but once I am in a serious, settled relationship, I will leave it behind completely.

 

Like all the punters who are married men with the sex lives of monks?

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 What makes you try to chat up a civvie woman? What really gives you that push? Surely - part of it is lack of sex.

This is also responsible for many people ending up with an unsuitable partner though as they accept what is available rather than what is suitable ;)

 

I would much rather carry on with punting with incredibly beautiful women (and i mean on more than just a physical level), than get into a crap relationship for the sake of "free sex".

 

Apart from that....i just can't afford "free sex" <_<

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<blockquote class='ipsBlockquote'data-author="Lessingham" data-cid="479498" data-time="1358515023"><p>

If I took out a loan or pulled cash off a credit card then I would worry about addiction</p></blockquote>

If I took our a loan or used a credit I'd worry about my income level rather than some spurious notion of addiction.

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This is also responsible for many people ending up with an unsuitable partner though as they accept what is available rather than what is suitable ;)

 

I would much rather carry on with punting with incredibly beautiful women (and i mean on more than just a physical level), than get into a crap relationship for the sake of "free sex".

 

Apart from that....i just can't afford "free sex" <_<

Maybe that is true is some cases - but I maintain that the most satisfying sex can only be had if it is mutual. Paid sex  is a poor compromise.

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I've been thinking about this lately. I don't actually crave for a relationship, I like my own space and the freedom to do what I want with my life.

 

It would be nice to spend time with different women, build up strong female friendships but living with someone doesn't appeal to me. Maybe, I think this way because I've been single for too long and I haven't put myself out to meet anyone. I talk to lots of women at work, but I need to get out in the real world more to meet women.

 

Marriage and having kids scares the shit out of me, fear of feeling trapped and commitment to one person. 

 

Punting is very good at easing my sexual tension, but it doesn't help you much with civvie women. You pay a WG and within two minutes she's sucking your cock and bollocks, try doing that to a civvie woman. Some activities I wouldn't dream of doing to a girlfriend/civvie woman like rimming, foot fetish and other weird stuff I like! I think it might cause suspicion, god knows what her family or friends might think. Keep it simple with the civvie women and do the weird stuff to the WG....or it might be just me and my thoughts are nonsense and I shouldn't worry about this sort of stuff.

 

Life is hard and very complicated, I need help!

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Personally, I'm totally overdoing punting at the moment and I know it.  An irresistable urge to make up for all the years I've missed out on a decent sex life (20 years marriage for you, Joker).

 

I can afford my habit so I haven't really grasped the nettle yet, but I will have to at some point.  My expectation is that this will happen in about 6 months when a much bigger financial project starts and I may start to feel the pinch.  Between now and then though may be 50 punts if little T gets his way.

 

I am simply enjoying the thrill of being able to pick out a partner to get intimate with on a pure whim.  You enjoy yourself and have loads of memories to enjoy for years to come.  I want a brain full of them before I'm done.

 

Jimbobwood, you've got it the wrong way round.  It's the civvie girls that won't dream of doing it to you!

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. Some activities I wouldn't dream of doing to a girlfriend/civvie woman like rimming, foot fetish and other weird stuff I like! I think it might cause suspicion, god knows what her family or friends might think.

While there is nothing wrong or weird with any of these activities...if you are licking her arsehole while in front of her family or friends they are bound to think you a little odd at the very least ;)

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I don't have an alternative at the moment so I don't have to think about it.  I don't have a large circle of friends or meet many people any through my work so I can't get a date.  I find trying to get a date a soulless chore (the pick up game is depressing) anyway and can't be bothered any more given how cold women are here.

 

Online dating is a joke it leads nowhere, but partly because I'm 'picky'.  But also I apparently look alright in real life and not so much in 2D, WGs don't understand why I don't have a girlfriend, I tell them they haven't been here long or grown up here and don't know how it is for men.

 

I'd like to imagine it would be simple, I would see WGs until I am in a relationship and happy with the sex in it.  Otherwise I would just carry on with WGs and dream of a happy relationship somewhere over the rainbow as I do now.

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And if I sound overly bitter, I have actually found girls agreeing with me both abroad and here, I was chatting to another English girl tonight who sees the same thing.  Young girls here are looking for prince charming out of the movies and believe they deserve only the best, anything less is a worthless rat to be dismissed.  Sad times.

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I don't have an alternative at the moment so I don't have to think about it.  I don't have a large circle of friends or meet many people any through my work so I can't get a date.  I find trying to get a date a soulless chore (the pick up game is depressing) anyway and can't be bothered any more given how cold women are here.

 

Online dating is a joke it leads nowhere, but partly because I'm 'picky'.  But also I apparently look alright in real life and not so much in 2D, WGs don't understand why I don't have a girlfriend, I tell them they haven't been here long or grown up here and don't know how it is for men.

 

I'd like to imagine it would be simple, I would see WGs until I am in a relationship and happy with the sex in it.  Otherwise I would just carry on with WGs and dream of a happy relationship somewhere over the rainbow as I do now.

Yes I understand a lot of this - forget the pick up game - unless you have an outgoing confident way about you it's not going to get you anywhere - just make you depressed and angry as you will bottle it every time or curl up and die when you make a pratt of yourself. Join clubs and get to know people. Eventually one or two women will emerge who like you and from there you can ask for a date. Somewhere over the rainbow - hmmm - that will be a long wait.

WGs will tell you anything - you can't rely on anything they say. They would even say that to somebody like Mr Bean.

Young girls want a guy who makes them feel special - someone they find interesting and attractive - you want the same so don't blame them. How many young beautiful girls have you seen waling hand in hand with some young punk with jeans down his arse, baseball cap wrong way rounf and dumb look like he plays games on his mobile 12 hours a day? loads of them. So where are those prince charmings?

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Jimbobwood, you've got it the wrong way round.  It's the civvie girls that won't dream of doing it to you!

 

My thoughts exactly.

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Some guys think that seeings hookers will help them find the relationship they have been seeking. Maybe it helps - but it could also be a hinderance. What makes you try to chat up a civvie woman? What really gives you that push? Surely - part of it is lack of sex. If you don't have that lack you might not make the leap. So in that sense you may end up in permanent paid sex.

 

It has helped me be comfortable around pretty girls very much so and that was the plan.  But I don't bother trying to chat up women, still even if I only have sex once or twice a month only with a WG, because I'm tired of getting my head bitten off for the audacity to want to know a stranger of the opposite sex as I'm not a millionaire, popstar or model or whatever they want.

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I've been thinking about this lately. I don't actually crave for a relationship, I like my own space and the freedom to do what I want with my life.

 

It would be nice to spend time with different women, build up strong female friendships but living with someone doesn't appeal to me. Maybe, I think this way because I've been single for too long and I haven't put myself out to meet anyone. I talk to lots of women at work, but I need to get out in the real world more to meet women.

 

Marriage and having kids scares the shit out of me, fear of feeling trapped and commitment to one person. 

 

Punting is very good at easing my sexual tension, but it doesn't help you much with civvie women. You pay a WG and within two minutes she's sucking your cock and bollocks, try doing that to a civvie woman. Some activities I wouldn't dream of doing to a girlfriend/civvie woman like rimming, foot fetish and other weird stuff I like! I think it might cause suspicion, god knows what her family or friends might think. Keep it simple with the civvie women and do the weird stuff to the WG....or it might be just me and my thoughts are nonsense and I shouldn't worry about this sort of stuff.

 

Life is hard and very complicated, I need help!

Not all civvie women are into the vanilla routine.. some of them become working girls !

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I'm not a millionaire, popstar or model or whatever they want.

Ah well, best leave them to the other guys then.

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