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I have been seeing the same girl about every week or two for a month or so.


Anyway after the act she asked if next time I'd like to grab something to eat with her before she quickly jumped in saying she would pay her own way. 

I have agreed to this, do you think its a good or bad idea?  We have do chat for quite awhile when we meet.

 

I dont really want to run the risk of her to decline meeting me again in case we become friends nor do I want an girlfriend/boyfriend relationship. 

 

 

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Let the can of worms be opened...

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Only you know the dynamics of you're relationship with her, if you have to ask a third party, then you have more or less answered the question yourself.

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Depends, some guys would jump at the chance of the social off-the-clock-time.

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If you like her company then do it, explain before hand that you will try it as a one off to see how you feel, bearing in mind how you would react if you are seen by a friend with her, and how she would feel if the same happened to her, course you could always suggest you buy a few things and have a small picnic at her house with a bottle of wine, before the booking starts.

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I would do it but just make sure I have a conversation with her about how great my wife and kids are, how punting is great but just a sideline hobby for me and how i would not get emotionally involved with anyone but my wife. That way she is very clear that no boundaries are going to be crossed. Up to her then.

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I would do it but just make sure I have a conversation with her about how great my wife and kids are, how punting is great but just a sideline hobby for me and how i would not get emotionally involved with anyone but my wife. That way she is very clear that no boundaries are going to be crossed. Up to her then.

That would have me thinking "Heck he's probably going to be banging on about his wife for the whole time, might retract the idea!".

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I have been seeing the same girl about every week or two for a month or so.

Anyway after the act she asked if next time I'd like to grab something to eat with her before she quickly jumped in saying she would pay her own way. 

I have agreed to this, do you think its a good or bad idea?  We have do chat for quite awhile when we meet.

 

I dont really want to run the risk of her to decline meeting me again in case we become friends nor do I want an girlfriend/boyfriend relationship. 

 

 

 

She may just of thought it was a nice to ask you as she likes you socially.

She might fancy a bit of company whist eating out, and have no motive behind it at all.

 

It may change the dynamics of your escort/punter relationship though.

 

Lucy  :) 

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Course if you eat indoors, it can also lead to some fantasy you might have of food play, soft fruit and yoghurt/cream come to mind!...lol.

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The fact that she wants to go Dutch suggests she's not after anything more than a bit of company prior to the punt. Why do you boys have to over think everything? Just go and have a good time, I'm sure your not stupid and can walk away if it looks like she's after more.

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The fact that she wants to go Dutch suggests she's not after anything more than a bit of company prior to the punt. Why do you boys have to over think everything? Just go and have a good time, I'm sure your not stupid and can walk away if it looks like she's after more.

Absolutely agree. I think you've got nothing to lose provided you keep an eye on the boundaries. Good luck!

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I have been seeing the same girl about every week or two for a month or so.

By my arithmetic that adds up to a maximum of three meetings. Hardly a LTR, but why not go for it. She seems to have set out her boundaries in her head by her suggestion of "going Dutch". My only concern would be getting seen by my friends and/or family if the venue is too close to home.

 

Give it a try an let us know how it went. Good luck.

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I think it's a nice idea. I have that arrangement with a few of my long term regulars. She clearly enjoys chatting to you, and would rather have a catch up off the clock so it's not affecting your 'private time' with her afterwards. I do this with some of my regulars because otherwise we chat chat chat and then cram a quick round of action in when we realise the clock is ticking, this way you can do plenty of chat over food and then relax more for your time after. Most clients first thoughts would be oh dear she wants me to pay dinner date rates how cheeky..! But the fact she's said she'll pay her share suggest she enjoys your company, and also that she trusts you won't take advantage. Go for it, sounds fine to me :)

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The going dutch could also be a red herring too.  She may think you will insist on being a gentleman and paying, so bottom line is, its up to you just how comfortable you are with such a meeting and if you are willing to take the chance.

 

I think the idea of 'doing it as an experiment' so to speak is a good idea.  It may work, it may not, you will never know if you don't try.  Good luck.

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You could limit the potential for over exposure (in the financial sense!!) by choosing a cafe, or pub with bar snacks only. That way your costs could be limited to £15 or £20 tops. That would hardly break the bank if she reneges which sounds doubtful).

 

By the way is she new to the game? Sound it to me.

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That would have me thinking "Heck he's probably going to be banging on about his wife for the whole time, might retract the idea!".

 

I would probably have the conversation over lunch/ dinner whatever; so she wouldn't have the opportunity to back out and it would probably be a very short conversation.  If she was just being sociable then it would matter, if she had other idea then it would set her straight.

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If you get on well why not, we are supposed to be social animals, I used to do it with a girl and we took turns at paying for the meal, a lot easier than going Dutch.

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You could limit the potential for over exposure (in the financial sense!!) by choosing a cafe, or pub with bar snacks only. That way your costs could be limited to £15 or £20 tops. That would hardly break the bank if she reneges which sounds doubtful).

 

By the way is she new to the game? Sound it to me.

Lots of girls prefer to work that way. One of the better known ladies that used to post here would insist on it prior to a punt. Not sure its anything to do with being new, maybe as someone else said it helps get the chatting out of the way prior to the fun stuff.

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One of the better known ladies that used to post here would insist on it prior to a punt.

 

And then, if you weren't meaning her, there was SexyMay - a brilliant scheme of dinner, followed by the climb to her eclectic flat under the rafters, all for the price of one hour! And May was a university in her self, as well as GIB (good in bed).

 

Times past ....

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Sounds like a decent idea to me, providing it is just a meet, eat, chat and catchup, and not actually seen as a 'date'. I'd be quite happy with something like that, as said it cuts down on chatting time during a punt. I know some don't seem to do the chatting bit and like to get straight down to business, but that part of it is something I've enjoyed, and if it can be done in unpaid for time, all the better. Probably an age thing, lol.

Also providing you're not likely to be seen by anyone you know, should that be of importance.

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The fact that she wants to go Dutch suggests she's not after anything more than a bit of company prior to the punt. Why do you boys have to over think everything? Just go and have a good time, I'm sure your not stupid and can walk away if it looks like she's after more.

Totally agree ... I've done this a couple of times, but do insist on picking up the bill, sounds like it would add to your mutual enjoyment, but as Holly says watch out for anything you're not after

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And then, if you weren't meaning her, there was SexyMay - a brilliant scheme of dinner, followed by the climb to her eclectic flat under the rafters, all for the price of one hour! And May was a university in her self, as well as GIB (good in bed).

 

Times past ....

May was one that did it yes but there was another too, retired now so not going to name her.

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The fact that she wants to go Dutch suggests she's not after anything more than a bit of company prior to the punt. Why do you boys have to over think everything? Just go and have a good time, I'm sure your not stupid and can walk away if it looks like she's after more.

 

...because in two weeks time its Valentine's day and every female regardless of relationship status wants a bouquet, card anything from a secret admirer. To protect myself from advances I've had to grow a beard and my hair has been unkempt since December. :eek:

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...because in two weeks time its Valentine's day and every female regardless of relationship status wants a bouquet, card anything from a secret admirer. To protect myself from advances I've had to grow a beard and my hair has been unkempt since December. :eek:

Many a lass like a guy with a beard!

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I went on a 'date' like this once, I think it felt a bit odd for both of us, and we agreed it was good fun, but not something we'd do regularly, and I went back to just being one of her 'regulars'. I'm not saying I wouldn't do it again, but if what appeals to you about her is that she's a magical fantasy partner who never wears anything more than skimpy lingerie, and only thinks about sex, then a date might shatter that illusion. If on the other hand she's a bit too PSE for you, and you would prefer things to be a bit more GFE, then it's probably a great move.

 

...oh, and I don't condone this attitude (or believe the man when he says it), but this thread wouldn't be complete without someone mentioning Charlie Sheen's famous quote "I don't pay prostitutes for sex. I pay them to go away afterwards." :)

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