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Do And Donts Of A Conversation With An Escort

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I would like to find out what type of conversations are ok when you are with the Escort for a long sessions? I understand that personal questions are NOT appreciated however is there any other specific dos and donts?

 

Dos:

- Talk dirty about sex

- Talk about your fantasies

- Talk about other general topics/news

- ??

 

Donts:

- No personal questions

- Questions about her escorting career

- talking about her family/ kids

 

 

Anything further to add? 

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Some girls like to talk about their lives and their career choice.  You shouldn't automatically assume this is off limits.

 

There are any number of girls who can't confide in family / friends so would welcome the chance to talk about themselves and what they do.  Just don't push things too much and let them decide what they are happy to reveal or not.

 

Also, a number of girls who have come to the UK for this job are separated from friends / family and welcome the chance to talk a bit about their background.  If you can show that you perhaps know something of where they are from, they are even happier.  Mind you, on my last punt the girl said she was from Poland so I started talking to her in Polish (ok, my rather limited Polish) only for her to completely blank me.  She was an unpleasant cow anyway so at the time I put it down to her general manner.  It was only after I realised that perhaps she wasn't from Poland after all! :unsure:

 

Frankly, I've known one or two girls who once they get started won't stop until you make it clear that it's time they used their mouth for something else. :D

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the girl said she was from Poland so I started talking to her in Polish (ok, my rather limited Polish) only for her to completely blank me.  She was an unpleasant cow anyway so at the time I put it down to her general manner.  It was only after I realised that perhaps she wasn't from Poland after all! :unsure:

 

I love it.  :D  :D  :D

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Some girls like to talk about their lives and their career choice.  You shouldn't automatically assume this is off limits.

 

There are any number of girls who can't confide in family / friends so would welcome the chance to talk about themselves and what they do.  Just don't push things too much and let them decide what they are happy to reveal or not.

 

Also, a number of girls who have come to the UK for this job are separated from friends / family and welcome the chance to talk a bit about their background.  If you can show that you perhaps know something of where they are from, they are even happier.  Mind you, on my last punt the girl said she was from Poland so I started talking to her in Polish (ok, my rather limited Polish) only for her to completely blank me.  She was an unpleasant cow anyway so at the time I put it down to her general manner.  It was only after I realised that perhaps she wasn't from Poland after all! :unsure:

 

Frankly, I've known one or two girls who once they get started won't stop until you make it clear that it's time they used their mouth for something else. :D

 

thats kool. Yeah i prefer a mix of both some descent chat about ourselves and then some hot dirty talking to make myself ready for round 2  ;)

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Some girls like to talk about their lives and their career choice.  You shouldn't automatically assume this is off limits.

 

Yes. Surely it will vary greatly from person to person (likewise for WGs talking with punters about our lives).

 

There can't be any hard and fast rules - you need to be tactful, and alert to any signals that you've strayed into uncomfortable territory.

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Yes. Surely it will vary greatly from person to person (likewise for WGs talking with punters about our lives).

 

There can't be any hard and fast rules - you need to be tactful, and alert to any signals that you've strayed into uncomfortable territory.

 

 

 

I agree that there are no rules to what questions are asked.

As ever I always think that how they are asked is the important thing.

 

I was asked two days ago if I was busy, my reply was "in my naughty world or my vanilla world", he said both.

So I told him all .......

I do work on trust I suppose, and trust is a two way thing.

This chap has told me all about himself,though so I suppose he trusts me too not to divulge his chat to me as I do him  ;)

 

Lucy  :)

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I don't mind talking about my escorting career.  I quite like it when clients express an interest in me rather than want sex talk the entire time. I'm also fine with personal questions such as where I'm originally from or what I studied at uni type thing. I don't have kids, but if I did I wouldn't discuss them, but if anyone is really interested in the rest of my family I'm happy to tell (most boring conversation ever). 

 

Actually, I find being pushed on my personal fantasies or asked 'What's the dirtiest thing you've done?'  a bit intrusive because there is a very clear line what I will do as an escort and what I will do in my personal relationship. I also don't want to mislead a client (especially one I don't know well) into thinking I will do the kinky/outrageous stuff with him. 

 

Just goes to show it varies from person to person and I think tact and sensitivity is required on both sides. You need to take the hint if someone doesn't wish to talk about a certain topic. I might ask a client What line of business he is in, but is he looks uncomfortable and mutters Oh am in IT (or similar) then I stop, whereas some chaps seem happy to share who they work for and what they do and their career history. 

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I don't like being asked what I would like to do or clients that want to hear my fantasies - at least not before we know each other a bit better. Plus, they'd probably have their feelings hurt because if I could choose, I'd like an expertly performed massage by a tall, athletic, nicely endowed chap which then becomes progressively more sexy (the massage, not the chap) until I practically beg him to fuck me and that should last more five minutes. Bonus points if he can talk about something interesting / funny during the massage part. 90% of men think a massage is aimlessly stroking one's back for two minutes and expect a half-hour blowjob in return. So I don't recommend asking an escort what SHE would like to do right now, at least not if you expect an honest answer ;)

For the record, I do have various 'compliant with male fantasies' responses prepared, so no male egos are hurt in reality. And if I have met a client before and know his preferences, I do like to think up things I would like to do with him. After all, one huge turn-on about this job is being able to make someone's sexual dreams come true.

I used to have a client who thought it was terribly fun to give me 'carte blanche' - something I hate. But I understand that this may stem from being married to a sexually passive woman who never initiates anything, creating the desire of feeling wanted and not having to make the first move. But just lying there and waiting to see what happens is not terribly sexy.

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I guess that 'don'ts' list is actually more of a 'don't start a conversation about' list, if she wants to talk about it then it's fine?

Randombird... is there a nice way for a guy to find out if there's something you don't want to do? I'd rather know if a girl doesn't fancy cowgirl this time because her legs are aching, or that while she loves RO normally, the last guy was down there for ages and had a scratchy beard so she'd rather skip it this time before things get going rather than in the heat of the moment.

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To be honest, I list what I do/don't do quite clearly and feel that it's not the client's problem if I have muscle ache or what someone else has done. But I appreciate your sentiment and basically I feel that there are non-verbal ways of sorting that out. Questions like what's your favourite position are hard to answer as it depends on the man I'm fucking, whereas least favourite is universal in my case, but may not be that for someone else.

If a client wants that least favourite position, then he'll get it but it does nothing for me and I will not fake an orgasm if I am nowhere near having one. So basically he'll find me much quieter and I'm afraid I can't fake getting wetter when in fact I'm drying up because I'm not enjoying myself...

I think asking how a girl is feeling today gives her the opportunity to bring up any provisos but then I used to work with other girls doing duos and have little tolerance for excuses, of which I have heard MANY. Like the girl who wouldn't let him (gently) grab her hair because she had extensions in. What's the point of long hair if you can't touch it?

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We're all individuals aren't we? I don't see how you can be proscriptive about conversations with escorts when we all have different interests and so on. 

 

Thinking back over the past couple of weeks or so, I've had conversations with clients on a very wide range of topics including  the current situation in Mali and Syria, the difficulty of finding a decent strap on harness, football, football and more football, Italian crime fiction, the size and construction of my bras and how to make the best 'polpette' - Italian meatballs. 

 

Like others have said, I dread being asked what my favourite sexual activities are, or what my favourite fantasy is. Fantasies are personal and may well be something the client doesn't want to hear and sexual activities depend on the person you're having sex with, surely?

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Thanks Randombird... I usually find it's pretty difficult to get enough rapport with someone to be honest about things like this. From my point of view as a client I'd rather skip my favourite position if you knew it would do nothing for you and there was another option that would work for both of us... but I know that's not the attitude some other guys would take. Actually, I thing it's sort of presumptuous of me to even ask, as your honest answer might by that I couldn't get you wet in an open air swimming poll in a thunderstorm, which I'd rather not know! I suppose it all comes down to whether you 'click' with someone or not.

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That's true Sarita, there's no definitive answers here. I still remember a post from the very early days of this forum, where someone was asked to describe their fantasy punter and refreshingly honestly suggested it would be a guy who just slips an envelope with money in it under the door and walks away!

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Haha, thankfully a sharp mind is more likely to turn me on than chiselled abs, so it's hard not to get me wet. Just don't try to 69 me, hate it, point blank refuse to do it in my private life, don't see the point of it. In my mind, I'm giving you a crap blowjob because the angle is wrong and I'm distracted and you are working hard at something that will bring no result whatsoever. It also means you have your nose near a bum that is sadly sometimes not a sweetly scented as I would like it. I'd much rather just suck your cock and forget about the RO entirely.

Other things I don't like being asked about - how much I earn, how many clients I've seen, have I fucked anyone famous and what my real name is.

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I was told on here never to ask a girl if she's been busy because she'll assume you want to rob her.  

Do not ask her where she's from: Poland, Latvia, Sri Lanka or wherever.  None of our business.

Never ask her where she lives, not even the vaguest geographic locality i.e. north, south, west or east London. She'll assume you're an obsessive stalker.

Religion and politics should never be broached.

Family life is taboo.  Children, partners etc.

Cars are banned too, lest she thinks that you're plotting to stalk her after discovering what vehicle she drives.

Food should not be discussed either, in case you interpret her preferences as a clue to discovering her real identity.

Basically, do not speak unless you're questioned. 

 

I've noticed that since observing the above over the last six weeks, that my punting conversation has almost ceased.  

I keep getting asked, "Is everything all right?" or I get told, "You're very quiet."

To which I reply, "Yes love, I'm trying not to upset you."  

 

I think I was wrong to listen to the self-appointed PN advisers as the quality of my punts had deteriorated ever since.  I shall return to my chattier self and see if my punting vicissitudes improve.

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That's true Sarita, there's no definitive answers here. I still remember a post from the very early days of this forum, where someone was asked to describe their fantasy punter and refreshingly honestly suggested it would be a guy who just slips an envelope with money in it under the door and walks away!

Yes that post is legendary!

In all honesty, the best thing is to go with the flow.

 

I know people often don't believe this, but the hardest part of this job (at least for me) is making very quick judgements about what a man is wanting from the booking if you haven't seen them before.

 

If they want to know my fantasies, how do I know if they want hear that I dream of being fucked by a horse after shagging 20 men, or something far more vanilla? Similarly, when asked the seemly innocuous question "Have you been busy?", i have to decide if their motive is a) related to the stash of cash I may have hidden somewhere, b ) motivated by a desire to hear that I've been shagged 10 times already that day because it turns them on, c) they want to make sure I haven't been shagged already that day because they prefer to be the first or d) it's just a way of making conversation. 

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Haha, thankfully a sharp mind is more likely to turn me on than chiselled abs, so it's hard not to get me wet. Just don't try to 69 me, hate it, point blank refuse to do it in my private life, don't see the point of it. In my mind, I'm giving you a crap blowjob because the angle is wrong and I'm distracted and you are working hard at something that will bring no result whatsoever. It also means you have your nose near a bum that is sadly sometimes not a sweetly scented as I would like it. I'd much rather just suck your cock and forget about the RO entirely.

Other things I don't like being asked about - how much I earn, how many clients I've seen, have I fucked anyone famous and what my real name is.

I also hate 69. I explained this the other day to someone who insisted we try it and he soon discovered that a woman nearly a foot shorter than him is never going to be able to reach his cock while he has his mouth clamped to her pussy. Besides which it's like patting your head whilst rubbing your tummy.

 

The other question I cannot abide is "are you married?" 

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I don't like being asked what I would like to do or clients that want to hear my fantasies - at least not before we know each other a bit better. Plus, they'd probably have their feelings hurt because if I could choose, I'd like an expertly performed massage by a tall, athletic, nicely endowed chap which then becomes progressively more sexy (the massage, not the chap) until I practically beg him to fuck me and that should last more five minutes. Bonus points if he can talk about something interesting / funny during the massage part. 90% of men think a massage is aimlessly stroking one's back for two minutes and expect a half-hour blowjob in return. So I don't recommend asking an escort what SHE would like to do right now, at least not if you expect an honest answer ;)

For the record, I do have various 'compliant with male fantasies' responses prepared, so no male egos are hurt in reality. And if I have met a client before and know his preferences, I do like to think up things I would like to do with him. After all, one huge turn-on about this job is being able to make someone's sexual dreams come true.

I used to have a client who thought it was terribly fun to give me 'carte blanche' - something I hate. But I understand that this may stem from being married to a sexually passive woman who never initiates anything, creating the desire of feeling wanted and not having to make the first move. But just lying there and waiting to see what happens is not terribly sexy.

 

don't they ever ask you why you're so passive-aggressive? All men love that in a woman they meet for sex.

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<blockquote class='ipsBlockquote'data-author="willsmith" data-cid="485761" data-time="1359833820"><p>

don't they ever ask you why you're so passive-aggressive? All men <em class='bbc'>love</em> that in a woman they meet for sex.</p></blockquote>

I'm ripe for a holiday, to be honest, but my 'real' job won't allow it. Not sure where you get the passive-aggressive from but I admit that I've stopped taking bookings for now because my patience and ability to make even the most unpleasant / clumsy guy feel like he's the best thing since sliced bread has vastly diminished due to work stress in my main job. So you're safe. ;)

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I have do's and don'ts based on a list of high class escort etiquettes and my values, which I also apply to regular escorts and certain types of prostitutes. I would not ask:

- about her real name, real telephone (other number than listed on her website), real living address (different than her incall location);

- about her religious or political orientation. It is safe, but for me the chat will be too serious. I wouldn't talk with a WG about the ongoing civil war in Syria and president Assad;

- about sex, unless I am having sex with her, unless she herself starts talking about it, either during the conversation or during the phone call and asks me which of her services I want to use;

- about her escorting career, unless she herself starts talking about it.

 

It is safe for me to:

- ask what countries she likes, and what places she traveled or would like to travel to. I have been a lot of countries so there is a lot I can talk about;

- play some music on my synth, and let her listen to it;

- give sexual instructions to her;

- be given sexual instructions by her;

- joking, to improve or relax the atmosphere.

 

That is my behaviour related to conversations when I am with a WG.

Edited by hans66

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Don't talk about Caravan, Soft Machine, Camel or any other of my favourite progressive rock bands. :ph34r:

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Don't talk about Caravan, Soft Machine, Camel or any other of my favourite progressive rock bands. :ph34r:

I thought they were

1  a means of having a holiday

2  a machine for making slush puppies

3  a brand of cigarettes.

 

 

Just shows how much I know about real life. :o

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I would like to find out what type of conversations are ok when you are with the Escort for a long sessions? I understand that personal questions are NOT appreciated however is there any other specific dos and donts?

 

Dos:

- Talk dirty about sex

- Talk about your fantasies

- Talk about other general topics/news

- ??

 

Donts:

- No personal questions

- Questions about her escorting career

- talking about her family/ kids

 

 

Anything further to add? 

 

Mostly disagree with you. My GFE WG always talk about personal/family/kids things. 

We don't talk dirty, we do dirty. 

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Having done the deed, to my obvious satisfaction, I commented "that was nice". The word 'nice' wasn't too well received, have learnt from that.

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I think you just need to guage how well you get on, how open she wants to be and make a judgement. There are no hard and fast rules for this. I definitely would avoid personal questions for the first few visits. However, my best punts (like WNp says) have been those where the conversation has been free flowing and natural. All girls (and guys I guess) have different limits for what they are comfortable to discuss. These limits change from person to person. Some ladies who I have been seeing for years, I know very little about. Other ladies who I have been seeing for the same sort of time, or indeed a lot less, I feel I know quite well. Horses for courses.

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