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Do you wonder if a girl makes a compliment if she is being serious or just being polite/humouring you/ego massage as it's part of the service?

I'm hoping to take everything i've learnt from punting over to the real world at some point (the intimate stuff i mean) so i'm hoping for feedback when i do this again next. However i'm worried that the girls I see wont be honest. Obviously i'd be a bit disheartened if i was told "no your absolutely crap, you stink, bad breath ect" but an honest opinion would be good for future reference. Will they give it to me do you reckon?

Also, when I saw one girl who was  lovely and whom i had a fantastic evening with, before anything happened we were sitting chatting and i mentioned having low self esteem (i pointed out why and mentioned it's recently made me feel like i'm not that good looking anymore) she said "I think your very handsome", and looking back on it i'm wondering if that was the above, just a polite response to get things moving or a just a very nice compliment. Yeah, i'm over thinking it! 

 

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Do you wonder if a girl makes a compliment if she is being serious or just being polite/humouring you/ego massage as it's part of the service?

I'm hoping to take everything i've learnt from punting over to the real world at some point (the intimate stuff i mean) so i'm hoping for feedback when i do this again next. However i'm worried that the girls I see wont be honest. Obviously i'd be a bit disheartened if i was told "no your absolutely crap, you stink, bad breath ect" but an honest opinion would be good for future reference. Will they give it to me do you reckon?

Also, when I saw one girl who was  lovely and whom i had a fantastic evening with, before anything happened we were sitting chatting and i mentioned having low self esteem (i pointed out why and mentioned it's recently made me feel like i'm not that good looking anymore) she said "I think your very handsome", and looking back on it i'm wondering if that was the above, just a polite response to get things moving or a just a very nice compliment. Yeah, i'm over thinking it! 

 

As one who's only recently began to overcome low self-esteem, I have little doubt that much of what the WGs say to us like that is part of the patter.

 

I'm not saying that's always the case, by any means but, particularly, if it's someone you're meeting for the first time, . . .

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Do you wonder if a girl makes a compliment if she is being serious or just being polite/humouring you/ego massage as it's part of the service?

I'm hoping to take everything i've learnt from punting over to the real world at some point (the intimate stuff i mean) so i'm hoping for feedback when i do this again next. However i'm worried that the girls I see wont be honest. Obviously i'd be a bit disheartened if i was told "no your absolutely crap, you stink, bad breath ect" but an honest opinion would be good for future reference. Will they give it to me do you reckon?

Also, when I saw one girl who was  lovely and whom i had a fantastic evening with, before anything happened we were sitting chatting and i mentioned having low self esteem (i pointed out why and mentioned it's recently made me feel like i'm not that good looking anymore) she said "I think your very handsome", and looking back on it i'm wondering if that was the above, just a polite response to get things moving or a just a very nice compliment. Yeah, i'm over thinking it! 

 

 

If a WG compliments my kindness, cleanliness, intelligence, and sense of humour, I take it seriously. Because I have heard similar compliments from 

ladies who are not WG. 

If she compliments my good looks, I politely thank her, but I don't take it serious. Because I know my looks. 

 

You ought to be careful about taking to the real world everything you have learnt from punting. Sexual experience, yes. Emotional, not really. 

This is a game. It is not real. 

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Do you wonder if a girl makes a compliment if she is being serious or just being polite/humouring you/ego massage as it's part of the service?

I'm hoping to take everything i've learnt from punting over to the real world at some point (the intimate stuff i mean) so i'm hoping for feedback when i do this again next. However i'm worried that the girls I see wont be honest. Obviously i'd be a bit disheartened if i was told "no your absolutely crap, you stink, bad breath ect" but an honest opinion would be good for future reference. Will they give it to me do you reckon?

Also, when I saw one girl who was  lovely and whom i had a fantastic evening with, before anything happened we were sitting chatting and i mentioned having low self esteem (i pointed out why and mentioned it's recently made me feel like i'm not that good looking anymore) she said "I think your very handsome", and looking back on it i'm wondering if that was the above, just a polite response to get things moving or a just a very nice compliment. Yeah, i'm over thinking it! 

 

We are not another species you know !  If I make a compliment it is because I want to and I don't tell lies. x

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I'm in agreement with Sarah there, most of us are normal girls.

I'm always polite and chatty with anyone whom I get to see, but if I give someone a compliment whether on looks, features or even there certain talents (in the bedroom department) there always sincere :)

I don't see why a girl would compliment you for the sake of it if she didn't mean it. So yes I'd say your over thinking slightly, don't doubt yourself so much :)

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We are not another species you know !  If I make a compliment it is because I want to and I don't tell lies. x

 

Unfortunately, some ladies do seem to just spurt compliments that are baseless, sound incincere or are just wrong along with a load of lies and deception.  Whether this is because they think it is part of the service/fantasy or if they are trying to do some "ego rubbing" to try and entice more business from the guy, I don't know.  I have had a few meets where this has happened and I have ignored it but it has made me think that the lady doesn't really care about her clients and I have not seen them again (on a similar note, ladies who fake orgasms put me off as well).  On the flip side, there have been a couple of meets where the compliments felt like they were "from the heart" and they really were nice to hear and made me smile :).

 

If only more of the masses of ladies out there were more like the few (in comparison to to total number of WGs out there) very lovely ladies who frequent these fora, punting would be a hell of a lot nicer for guys ;)

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Do you wonder if a girl makes a compliment if she is being serious or just being polite/humouring you/ego massage as it's part of the service?

I'm hoping to take everything i've learnt from punting over to the real world at some point (the intimate stuff i mean) so i'm hoping for feedback when i do this again next. However i'm worried that the girls I see wont be honest. Obviously i'd be a bit disheartened if i was told "no your absolutely crap, you stink, bad breath ect" but an honest opinion would be good for future reference. Will they give it to me do you reckon?

Also, when I saw one girl who was  lovely and whom i had a fantastic evening with, before anything happened we were sitting chatting and i mentioned having low self esteem (i pointed out why and mentioned it's recently made me feel like i'm not that good looking anymore) she said "I think your very handsome", and looking back on it i'm wondering if that was the above, just a polite response to get things moving or a just a very nice compliment. Yeah, i'm over thinking it! 

 

 

 

Unless i know a person well i wouldnt know for definite whether they are being flattering or being genuine so in punting i take it with a pinch of salt, i am paying so there is a financial incentive to flatter me that i bear in mind. Nice if its genuine though. Who knows if the WGs you punt with will give you an honest opinion.

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Do you wonder if a girl makes a compliment if she is being serious or just being polite/humouring you/ego massage as it's part of the service?

I'm hoping to take everything i've learnt from punting over to the real world at some point (the intimate stuff i mean) so i'm hoping for feedback when i do this again next. However i'm worried that the girls I see wont be honest. Obviously i'd be a bit disheartened if i was told "no your absolutely crap, you stink, bad breath ect" but an honest opinion would be good for future reference. Will they give it to me do you reckon?

Also, when I saw one girl who was  lovely and whom i had a fantastic evening with, before anything happened we were sitting chatting and i mentioned having low self esteem (i pointed out why and mentioned it's recently made me feel like i'm not that good looking anymore) she said "I think your very handsome", and looking back on it i'm wondering if that was the above, just a polite response to get things moving or a just a very nice compliment. Yeah, i'm over thinking it! 

 

 

If there is one thing I have learnt from punting it is that non of the experience is transferable to the real world. Not for me in any case. It's not the job of the WG to compliment, be honest or judge you. Their only obligation is that for the set time you are paying, to be as close to what you want them to be, that they possibly can. Whether that be a girlfriend, pornstar or a shoulder to cry on. If you feel low, lack confidence or need attention and punting works for you then great, but once the clock stops you are on your own again. Back in reality where you are judged, will get genuine compliments by women who genuinely like and want your company without pay. No obligation on a WG's part to further extend the fantastic service of which we are lucky enough to avail ourselves.

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not sure how old you are, but i noticed early on that I got on better with a certain type of girl than i did with others. I suppose its the 'soul mate' thing. they all seemed to have very similar features and general demeanour in life. Not surprisingly, one is now the oh.

 

So you need to find that soul mate type, as she is more likely to be saying what she means.

 

She is out there, miles away, and you have no clue as to where she is. But its a start.........................

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If you can't tell a sincere compliment from an insincere one in the punting world, then you'll likely to struggle to do the same thing in the real world. I find in this area there's very little difference between the two worlds. In both, when you get on well with someone they often give you a sincere compliment and mean it...in other cases, you're sometimes told what you want to hear, by working and non-working girls alike. It should be pretty obvious which is which. I think the jist of Sarah Summers comment above is ladies aren't transformed into some sort of different genus when they clock on for work.

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OP is this a genuine question or are you just looking for attention? We can't possibly tell you if something in a conversation is honest, flattery or whatever. We were not there. If we were there still might not know. People say stuff all the time and sometimes it's honest and sometimes it's not. Often it's a mix of the two.

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Whats the point in making rubbish compliments up, find something you can give the person a real compliment on or dont bother. Most people have their good points so its not that hard to come up with something true. If I had someone with me who was truly awful, without a single redeeming quality to compliment them on why would I want to compliment them anyway???? 

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I take it we are talking physical compliments. Even the most unatractive  guys can have baby smooth skin, or soft lips, or sparkly eyes, or a nice straight cock or they have  a magic tongue or fingers. Compliment on whats real x

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Either way I don't stress about it. :) 

 

Enjoy yourself at the time and savour the memory.

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If two personalities engage with each other in the space of an hour, as well as doing intimate activties, and they happen to click together, then its likely that the compliments are genuine. And compliments are not about the size of your cock, or being a fantastic lover. Those kinda comments are propabaly not genuine. But when the lady compliments you on your personality or that we had a fun time, or "that was fantastic!" after spending over 10mins on RO, then they're much more likely to be said genuinely. I think that the key is being able to engage in relaxed conversation together

 

You can also tell, just by the way that you're getting on with the lady, whether what she says is genuine. You just get a sense whether or not she is relaxed with herself and you get a sense of whether she's enjoying your company. You just get an insight to her personality and if you engage in things she likes to talk about, then that makes for a mutual enjoyment together

 

AFAIK, the complements said to me are sincere :cool:

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Hi, 

 

 If i compliment than only because i want to do that and its true.  :)

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Its when I get told something the same by a few escorts, that i assume that it must be true,

 

things like im a crap shag, or a miserable old git, or  paying  £100  with £1 coins aint good.

 

then I take it as something they dont just say to get me coming back to them.

 

:lol:  :lol:  :lol:

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I take it we are talking physical compliments. Even the most unatractive  guys can have baby smooth skin (1), or soft lips (2), or sparkly eyes (3), or a nice straight cock (4) or they have  a magic tongue (5) or fingers (6). Compliment on whats real x

(1) Damn

(2) Blast

(3) Damn

(4) Blast

(5) Bugger

(6) OK!  I have fingers! :)  Oh, you meant magic ones.  Damn.

 

I was once complimented on my long... words (no, not really :( ).

 

Sod it!  I'm off down the pub.

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I was once told by an escort that my favourite floppy hat made me look like a nutter. :D

 

But as I asked for her opinion I didn't repine at such honesty. :D

 

Nor have I got rid of my hat. :)

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It is difficult to judge compliments. I both agree with the punters here, and with the WGs who have replied here until now.

 

I tend to take a compliment seriously and sincere, when I get them from different escorts, when I can check it by myself, and when they are also given by other people than WGs. BTW, I allow WGs to give instructions about sexual acts (that I apply on them) and constructive criticism ("You are rubbing me too gently; you can be a bit rougher in touching," and the like). Or non-verbal compliments: WGs getting wet (cannot be faked AFAIK) and honestly getting hungry for DFK for example (can be faked, but that is very hard for a WG that doens't like DFK).

 

I know I am friendly, intelligent, despite of autism not quite socially dumb or retarded, sweet, possibly good-looking (but I doubt that). But I doubt being a good licker (cunnilingus, DFK, etc.); WGs are the only people that could or could not give that compliment.

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If the compliments help you with your self esteem - then believe them.

There's nothing wrong with a little delusional positive re-inforcement.

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I've thought a lot about this since a meeting I had in November and try as I might can't get totally out of my mind.

 

Within minutes of meeting we were kissing, caressing, laughing and giggling like idiots and as far as I could tell, we really hit it off. Throughout the sex, she was full of compliments for my technique (which I get sometimes, but not enough to kid myself I'm superman), kept telling me how turned on she was, and duiring the cooling down afterwards we chatted away about all sorts of things which we had in common (some work-related believe it or not), which, setting aside the circumstances, made it really feel like a GFE.

 

Anyway, she said she would really like to see me again, and next time I was in the area and used that particular agency should ask for her in particular - and indeed that she would tell the agency owner that I wasn't allowed to see anyone but her!

 

For various reasons we haven't been able to see each other since, so I hope I don't live the rest of my life in ignorance, but I have been considering for quite a while whether her comments were genuine (of course I'd like to think so) or whether just 'marketing' (and as we know, flirting has an important role in this).

 

I'm not exactly new to punting - have seen on a average one girl a month for the last year and a half - so I'd like to think I can spot flannel when I see it and will take the compliments as they were given. But I have a tendency to fluffiness when a pretty girl flirts with me.

 

I don't think my wallet would stand seeing her as often as I would like, though, and I fear if I saw her too often in the professional situation I would fall for her more than would be good for either of us.

 

An out-of-work acquaintance arrangement would be OK for me though, given our own situations, difference in age etc, but maybe I really am kidding myself there and this again is something to be avoided.

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Its a difficult one Stars. If you are sat there saying you don;t think you are handsome..in any walk of life the other person might feel obliged to say something reassuring back and give you a compliment..you kind of put her in a situation where she is being paid to put you at ease and give you a nice time..she is not likely going to reply with..'Oh yeah you aren't handsome?' is she?

 

This would also apply with anyone you have just met..its difficult. I would stop thinking so much about what wg's think of you. By all means use some of the sexual techniques or the feelings of being more at ease around women in real dating but you can't use everything you have learned on a punt in real dating situations.

 

As much as the wg might be sincere the bottom line is you are paying for a service so its not the same thing as being out with a lady you have met from a dating site at all.

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Maybe the best policy is not to go fishing for compliments. "I've got low self-esteem" seems calculated to provoke a reassuring response and most people would happily comply. The best reassurance you can possibly have is to leave with a smile on your face and spring in your step because the lady has pulled out all the stops to ensure you have a great time

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