bethom

When Does A Regular Become A Friend?

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About 10 years ago, I used to see a Thai/Filipino WG in Hertfordshire regularly, probably about once a week or more.  She was pretty (about an 8 maybe a 9) and hit the right spots always.

 

I saw her continuously for about 6 or 7 years, but I stopped as I had left the UK by then.  Even still, after that time, small talk gets deeper and the conversation delves into hobbies/interests, upbringing, etc.  

 

Friendship is obviously subjective (at least in how we consider others' as friends and our expectations of friendship).  However, would a WG consider a punter a friend if over a long period he visited her?  

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About 10 years ago, I used to see a Thai/Filipino WG in Hertfordshire regularly, probably about once a week or more.  She was pretty (about an 8 maybe a 9) and hit the right spots always.

 

I saw her continuously for about 6 or 7 years, but I stopped as I had left the UK by then.  Even still, after that time, small talk gets deeper and the conversation delves into hobbies/interests, upbringing, etc.  

 

Friendship is obviously subjective (at least in how we consider others' as friends and our expectations of friendship).  However, would a WG consider a punter a friend if over a long period he visited her?  

 

I don't know how exactly you would define the point where a good working relationship evolves into friendship. 

Possibly when you know each others real life details and have enough information to stay in touch regardless of her escorting status? After all, trust is the basis of real friendship.

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I found it interesting that you've phrased your question like that, bethom; and not sought punters' opinions.

 

As an older punter, I go into each "1st meeting" in a friendly open manner.  The WG who's been my regular for a couple of years really responded to that and I know we are now friends.  Although I'm quite a bit older than she is, we have similar views on lots of non-punting matters; I feel comfortable with her and we have a relaxed and friendly session, which is just what I'm looking for. The aim of the session may be sexual, but the time around that is very important as well, for me to be able to enjoy the sex.  Between visits, we text/e-mail each other about things we know would interest the other and she's said personal stuff to me which I can never remember my "Ex" ever saying.

 

The snag is that I've recently seen a different WG and, while I know my relationship with her will be more "professional" and less personal, we too got on well enough in the room that I can see her becoming a regular.  In some ways, she delivers a better service than my friendly "regular".

 

This creates at least three problems: financial - how do I see both of them as often as I want to?; sexual - as I get a better service from the one I've just met, was my "friend" taking me a bit for granted?; personal - if I see her less often, what will that do to our friendship, which has come to mean a lot to me?

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# About 10 years ago, I used to see a Thai/Filipino WG in Hertfordshire regularly, probably about once a week or more.  She was pretty (about an 8 maybe a 9) and hit the right spots always.

 

 

I saw her continuously for about 6 or 7 years, but I stopped as I had left the UK by then.  Even still, after that time, small talk gets deeper and the conversation delves into hobbies/interests, upbringing, etc.  

 

Friendship is obviously subjective (at least in how we consider others' as friends and our expectations of friendship).  However, would a WG consider a punter a friend if over a long period he visited her?  #

 

 

i wouldnt assume i had a friendship with a working girl

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I don't know how exactly you would define the point where a good working relationship evolves into friendship. 

Possibly when you know each others real life details and have enough information to stay in touch regardless of her escorting status? After all, trust is the basis of real friendship.

Agree, but there is also the chemistry thing as well as the familiarity x

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When you feel guilty visiting other wgs

That's a whole different ball game :)  You should never feel guilty about paid for sex my friend, not even if you have a favourite regular lady x

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When you feel guilty visiting other wgs

I actually consider it vital to visit other WGs.  Otherwise I find I get complacent about my regular. 

 

Only recently I have been pondering whether to keep seeing my regular.  It only takes a visit to a new girl like the one I had today to realise the value my regular gives me.

 

Or maybe I'm just on a very poor run of luck with my other punting choices.  :(

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The answer to this depends.

 

Some guys think because they'd paid you x visits over a certain amount of time, and because you get on well in bookings that you must be best of buddies. This time can be as little as a couple of bookings in a few months, and it astounds me that they don't imagine us having built up our own friendships or have other clients who might have been seeing us for years and years.

 

Friendships outside of bookings can build, on different levels and to different extents, dependent on the boundaries, and privacy requirements of each involved.

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Boy, what a blindingly simple question. The answer depends? Does it hell. How many friends do you have who you pay for their time? Thought so. None. Well, when you stop paying her for her time, she's your friend. Next.

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Very succinct. Except the question was 'When does a WG start to regard a punter as a friend'. Which is NOT the question you answered.

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Friendships outside of bookings can build, on different levels and to different extents, dependent on the boundaries, and privacy requirements of each involved.

I have no desire to go "looking" for a deep meaningful friendship with a lady. However, if I meet a lady and we get on and develop a "friendship" along the lines outlined by Strawberry then that would be ok. Friendships cannot be manufactured. They just happen.

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I have no desire to go "looking" for a deep meaningful friendship with a lady. However, if I meet a lady and we get on and develop a "friendship" along the lines outlined by Strawberry then that would be ok. Friendships cannot be manufactured. They just happen.

Have to say I feel this is absolutely right on the button.  They just happen, just in the same way as relationships outside of punting happen.

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Very succinct. Except the question was 'When does a WG start to regard a punter as a friend'. Which is NOT the question you answered.

Not in the heading, it isn't, Claire.

 

Which is what I implied in my earlier response to the OP.  I don't know if he deliberately worded the heading vaguely.

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