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.......to ask a WG if she has regular check-ups, at the GUM Clinic, before making a booking?

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Yes! If you were to adopt such a policy, I think you'd find that an awful number of ladies would simply hang up on you, and then mark your number as a TW.

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You can ask but do you think she'll say no if she doesn't? I only offer covered services and have regular check-ups, it's one of my selling points for the men who are concerned about these things. If you pick a girl who offers more risky services and/or engages in risky behaviour in her private life, all the check-ups in the world won't help, it's down to luck.

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You can ask but do you think she'll say no if she doesn't? I only offer covered services and have regular check-ups, it's one of my selling points for the men who are concerned about these things. If you pick a girl who offers more risky services and/or engages in risky behaviour in her private life, all the check-ups in the world won't help, it's down to luck.

You can get Gonorrhea in your throat...from kissing a person who was infected possibly from someone elses genital, it takes a few days sometimes for symptoms to show. No sexual encounter is 100% risk free, almost, but not entirely x

 

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.......to ask a WG if she has regular check-ups, at the GUM Clinic, before making a booking?

This one always pisses me off and makes me feel insulted a bit but I would still rather a guy asked that question and piss me off for a minute than not care if im tested/clean or not.

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.......to ask a WG if she has regular check-ups, at the GUM Clinic, before making a booking?

Not rude as such but how will you know if she is telling the truth.More to the point maybe we should ask you if you have regular checkups.I tend to keep my last test results so I can show clients if they ask.You won't get conclusive proof over the phone.Nothing is without risk but I would be more concerned about what you do on the actual booking if you are worried enough to quiz girls about this before a booking perhaps you should do everything covered.

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Most clinics these days only give you the results if there is something wrong.  Its normally a case of 'if you hear nothing within two weeks then nothing to worry about'.  Besides your only as good as the day you have the test, the very next client could be the one that passes something on.

 

Only you can decide what risks you are prepared to take with your sexual health, so if you want to ask then you do it honey.  Its your life and your money, but don't expect to be told the truth, unless you go with them, or they pay for their testing, there is no way of knowing for certain.

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You can get Gonorrhea in your throat...from kissing a person who was infected possibly from someone elses genital, it takes a few days sometimes for symptoms to show. No sexual encounter is 100% risk free, almost, but not entirely x

Yes, I know and we have increasingly standard OWO, especially with CIM to thank for that (according to my doctor friends). And as has been mentioned elsewhere, there is a new strain of gonorrhea that is almost symptom-free for long AND very resistant to antibiotics. Some suggest that it will be completely so in the very near future. Lovely thought. Like I said, I try to avoid the risks that can be avoided within reason but am aware that zero risk is non-existant.

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If you have to ask that question, that I assume you are concerned about the health of the escort your seeing, and what makes you feel the need to ask in the first place.

 

Its not a thing I would ask an escort, as I would expect high standards of hygiene from the lady as much as from myself.

 

Rude?...yes it is, its like asking the escort if she cares about her health, I dont get asked this question by escorts I see, and would be concerned if the escort asked me, as I think any self respecting person would do this regularly, see to a gum appointment.

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How would you feel if we asked you if you had regular check ups?

.......to ask a WG if she has regular check-ups, at the GUM Clinic, before making a booking?

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Ah yes, along with 'are you clean?' Its offensive. And pointless.

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.......to ask a WG if she has regular check-ups, at the GUM Clinic, before making a booking?

No it's not rude.  It's a fair question and deserves a fair answer.  Doesn't bother me at all.  There are worse things to worry about than trivialities like this :)

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No not at all however we could say anything we liked. I always tell any prospective client that only they can be responsible for their own sexual health, by only participating in those activities they are happy with and of course going along to have their own tests too. So many times guys will say "I'm clean", to which I say "So you have been tested and haven't had sex since then?", "Oh, err well............".

 

It's the only way.

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No not at all however we could say anything we liked. I always tell any prospective client that only they can be responsible for their own sexual health, by only participating in those activities they are happy with and of course going along to have their own tests too. So many times guys will say "I'm clean", to which I say "So you have been tested and haven't had sex since then?", "Oh, err well............".

 

It's the only way.

Yeah this is what really annoys me in general.

People assume WG's are riddled with diseases, yet 9 times out of 10 whenever you ask a person if they have ever been tested, the answer is no. Their answer is like "well my health all seems fine after all these years so i must be ok, i dont need to get tested". I just shakes my head in the back of my mind. Yet they have the cheek to look down on people who exchange money for sex, and don't look bad upon people who are having one night stands.

 

Anyway, in response to the thread:

I don't bother asking them if they are tested clean, there's no point, they could say they get tested every month even though they may not have ever been tested. The only way to make sure she is clean is if she brings with her certificates to prove she is clean, which i doubt most escorts can do that unless she's been doing porn.

Or pay her to go with you posing as a couple, to get tested together. But like someone else said she could catch something from another punter the day after getting tested.

 

There's lots of different factors when doing your own risk assessment in this game. The only way you are going to be 100% safe is if you don't have sex with anyone, not even condomed up with a wife as she could be cheating behind your back, some HIV infected man just happens to get some of his spunk on a weak gum in her mouth, 6 months later you give her oral and if you have a sore or weak gum you'll catch HIV from her. Worst case scenario but you can catch my drift.

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I don't think it is a rude question but might spoil the fun a little if I thought he was lying there with a little worry going on in his head.

 

If my memory is serving me well I think I may have been asked the question or a similar one perhaps twice in 9 years!

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I personally would never ask, don't ask me why but I just would'nt....

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I don't think its rude to ask , I think what's important is the way you ask it. I had a guy see me once and when he came he was saying something like I want everything to be safe etc etc , I then told him that that's what the condoms are for and that everything is going to be as safe as it can possibly be and that he has nothing to worry about, then he told me he dose not  want any penetration , no kissing etc , just OW. I would normally have no problem with that I mean it was his  money after all and I will provide a service that makes him happy and that he is comfortable with( I'm not going to jump all over him and rape the poor guy lol :)) ) , on normal circumstances I would appreciate the fact that he cares about his health and he doesn't want to take any risks. But the way he said it and how stressed he was, like he was 99% sure he is going to catch some horrible diseases  from me just put me off big time and made me feel really uncomfortable and he really offended me, I mean I just don't understand why would u go and see a wg if u are convinced that u are going to catch something from her . And another thing that some of the people don't realise( and that guy was one of them because I had a little chat with him afterwards, couldn't help myself , and he made it clear that he was paranoid with STD's only when it comes to wg) is that the chances of having a one night stand  and catching something from a girl that u pick up in a bar or whatever  can be higher then if u go and see a wg . because I want to think that any respectable wg has regular check-ups  knowing the fact that we have more sexual partners then the average person , and after all everybody wants to be healthy and not put their health at risk, as for the  regular girl she might not be that paranoid about her health giving the fact that she might not have so many sexual partners so maybe she doesn't feel the need to get tested so often( don't get me wrong I am not saying that a non-wg will have any diseases just saying that they probably gets tested less often )  . Bottom line is that you can never know for sure , but I think everyone wants to enjoy themselves as much as possible but in a responsible way that doesn't put their health at risk , and as i said before I don't think its rude to ask , the important thing is how you ask :).

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I was criticised recently by a lady because I DID'NT ask to see her certificate from the GUM clinic.

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Only ask those WG's stupid enough to offer bareback.

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Only ask those WG's stupid enough to offer bareback.

Why even consider seeing them?? What sort of idiot puts their health at risk in such a way?

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I don't think it's rude to politely ask, but bare in mind she'll always say she has even if she hadn't.

I think the most sensible course of action is to assume not, and follow the appropriate precautions and bare in mind the risks of even non-pen sex.

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Why even consider seeing them?? What sort of idiot puts their health at risk in such a way?

 

well said, I never get it, and I mean from both sides, far too risky

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Yes, I know and we have increasingly standard OWO, especially with CIM to thank for that (according to my doctor friends). And as has been mentioned elsewhere, there is a new strain of gonorrhea that is almost symptom-free for long AND very resistant to antibiotics. Some suggest that it will be completely so in the very near future. Lovely thought. Like I said, I try to avoid the risks that can be avoided within reason but am aware that zero risk is non-existant.

 

Well as I pointed out on another thread. I have been offering owo and cim for almost ten years and have as yet never had an STI of any sort so.....

 

I have a rule though, if there is anything iffy about the willy either in looks or smell then I dont do owl, no owo means obviously no cim or facial. Its not 100% foolproof as I pointed out as most STI take a while to display symptoms but being very careful seems to work, it has so far. Labelling sps who offer these services as more likely to have an infection is rather giving false information to people who are new to this. Its better to say that your more likely to catch an sti from someone who offers these services to all rather than at discretion. Its the at discretion that punters hate so much that helps keep us infection free...and them.

Why even consider seeing them?? What sort of idiot puts their health at risk in such a way?

 If you read the HIV thread a couple of threads down you will have that question answered in full. It seems there are a lot of dangerous practices going on that half of us were not even aware of 

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Well as I pointed out on another thread. I have been offering owo and cim for almost ten years and have as yet never had an STI of any sort so.....

 

I have a rule though, if there is anything iffy about the willy either in looks or smell then I dont do owl, no owo means obviously no cim or facial. Its not 100% foolproof as I pointed out as most STI take a while to display symptoms but being very careful seems to work, it has so far. Labelling sps who offer these services as more likely to have an infection is rather giving false information to people who are new to this. Its better to say that your more likely to catch an sti from someone who offers these services to all rather than at discretion. Its the at discretion that punters hate so much that helps keep us infection free...and them.

 

It's simply luck of the draw. I'd be doing it for 6 years problem free, but ending up getting an STD in my throat last year. I have regular check ups, wouldn't go anywhere near any one that seemed slightly 'off' but the sad fact remains, some have no symptoms and the nicest looking, most respectable seeming men could be carrying anything. In fact I'm sure many are simply unawares and naive about their own sexual health.

But for me that's it. I won't risk my health or the health of my clients again after that incident. I was mortified. I used to get miffed if people asked but now i certainly don't mind and am happy to show them my texts from the GUM clinic.

It all carried risks, it's a case of weighing up how much of a risk you are prepared to take and if it would just impact on you or others as well such as a partner.

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Chloe, that is a fair point, however, you can't see or smell most STIs, especially not initially. I also think it is down to luck, some people are just not prone to catching anything, others get stuff all the time. I'd rather not find out which group I belong to... Ultimately everyone has to decide for themselves.

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