Bald Rick

Controlling The Budget?

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For the past 18 months - 2 years, I've visited only one WG, mainly because it felt like we "clicked".  Because we had shared interests "outside the bedroom", we'd become friends in the way that I've heard that can be all too easy for punters/WGs to do but had never happened to me before.  I was happy to pay for longer sessions and things had, if I'm honest, got a bit "cozy" between us.  One of the reasons why I didn't see anyone else was, partly due to the Recession and partly due to lengthening our time together, I couldn't really afford to.  I've heard more than enough stories over the years of punters getting into serious financial problems because they couldn't control their punting and have always been determined that wouldn't happen to me.

 

However, that didn't mean that there weren't other WGs who I still fancied seeing; so, when a little spare cash came my way over Christmas, I decided to see someone who'd been on my "To do" list since before I met the girl I've been seeing for the last couple of years.  And, in terms of the sex, it was better than I've enjoyed for, say, the last 9 - 12 months - as I say, things were probably getting "cozy" with girl No.1.

 

I don't want to stop seeing the first girl because I'm as sure as I can be that we are genuinely fond of each other.  But, as I've said, the sex in my one-and-only [so far!] session with the other girl was probably better, although I don't think we'll ever be as "close".  At the moment, it feels like I'm going behind the first girl's back because I've arranged another session with the one I met just after Christmas.

 

So my dilemma is this, given the financial constraints I've imposed on myself, what do I do?  Has anyone else been there?  If so, advice please!

 

 

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You see escorts because you want to pay for sex, with a view of no strings attached fun.

 

what you are talking about is seeing an escort for paid sex, and you get on well with the woman but get better sex elsewhere.

 

that means you are paying for a friendship with some sex you are okay with.

 

 do something differant sexually with the escort you like, spice it up a bit, and if it does not fire up the emotions then maybe its time to move on, as if its getting a bit "cozy" for you, then its the same for the escort.

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For the past 18 months - 2 years, I've visited only one WG, mainly because it felt like we "clicked".  Because we had shared interests "outside the bedroom", we'd become friends in the way that I've heard that can be all too easy for punters/WGs to do but had never happened to me before.  I was happy to pay for longer sessions and things had, if I'm honest, got a bit "cozy" between us.  One of the reasons why I didn't see anyone else was, partly due to the Recession and partly due to lengthening our time together, I couldn't really afford to.  I've heard more than enough stories over the years of punters getting into serious financial problems because they couldn't control their punting and have always been determined that wouldn't happen to me.

 

However, that didn't mean that there weren't other WGs who I still fancied seeing; so, when a little spare cash came my way over Christmas, I decided to see someone who'd been on my "To do" list since before I met the girl I've been seeing for the last couple of years.  And, in terms of the sex, it was better than I've enjoyed for, say, the last 9 - 12 months - as I say, things were probably getting "cozy" with girl No.1.

 

I don't want to stop seeing the first girl because I'm as sure as I can be that we are genuinely fond of each other.  But, as I've said, the sex in my one-and-only [so far!] session with the other girl was probably better, although I don't think we'll ever be as "close".  At the moment, it feels like I'm going behind the first girl's back because I've arranged another session with the one I met just after Christmas.

 

So my dilemma is this, given the financial constraints I've imposed on myself, what do I do?  Has anyone else been there?  If so, advice please!

Up to you what you do, if it were me i wouldnt see the regular again, at least for sex, if she wanted to meet up as friends then i would be happy to see her as such.

 

I punt for sex not a relationship and as has been said for no strings fun. I wouldnt want to get in the position of feeling bad for punting with other WGs, not that that is going to happen again.

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Commercial sex is mainly about having safe consensual fun with no strings attached. The minute the strings tighten (as in "getting cozy") you have crossed the divide.

 

Best to cut your links with lady #1 and start again with lady#2. The alternative could either be financial ruin or torn loyalties.

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Much as I can understand the reasoning behind sticking to one girl who you really like and committing your entire punting budget to maximise the experience, this has also become your problem.

 

There will be crap punts and there will be nothing special punts, but in a world of so many lovely girls it would be something more than a surprise if there weren't at least a few girls that will deliver something special and unique for you.

 

Given the intensity of the experience of finding each different girl that does it for you, I doubt you can truly get the full benefit of punting through just one girl.

 

For me the experience with a regular is heightened by experiencing other girls as well: the good, the bad, and hopefully not too many of the ugly.  Seeing other girls does not have to diminish the pleasure gained with your favourite, rather it helps you see the unique qualities that set her aside from others.

 

I think you simply have to accept that this is the case and re work your budget to accommodate more than one girl, preferably more than two girls.  Perhaps two girls as a regular feature and the occasional dabble in the market as well.  The reality is you just have to accept that this is more important than every punt being a long punt and that you have to see your girl that regularly.

 

There is no reason why girl no 1 can't remain your 'favourite' whilst you enjoy other girls, but I doubt it can be a healthy situation for you to be 100% loyal to her as a paying punter, while she is busy satisfying all the many guys she services over the course of the year, giving each as much of her attention as she does to you in most cases.

 

Good luck in finding a resolution, but I'm sure once you do, you will increase the pleasure of your total punting experience.

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I'm 4 months in with a regular at the moment, once a fortnight pretty much, and an overnight planned soon.  I decided to see another girl on my 'hot list' last week, just to remind myself that there are other girls out there, and to get myself out of the "cozy, "clicky" situation I was finding myself in.  It didn't work.  Rather than helping to control my budget, I think I will be extending it on both now, and probably seeing girl #1 more as my venture elsewhere proved things are still very good.  I'm a creature of habit, so I would say if the OP's session with the new girl was only 'probably' better than your regular, and not a totally amazing, mind blowing WTF experience, and your both happy seeing each other after 18 months, then carry on.  

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For me the experience with a regular is heightened by experiencing other girls as well: the good, the bad, and hopefully not too many of the ugly.  Seeing other girls does not have to diminish the pleasure gained with your favourite, rather it helps you see the unique qualities that set her aside from others.

 

Yes, it's useful to have a new point of reference to compare your experiences with a regular lady to - although it usually just serves to remind me how good my regulars are!

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If she has stopped charging you for your sexual encounters then yes, feel a bit guilty as you may be on the verge of a relationship even if only a fuck buddy one. If you are still paying her hard cash even at a lower rate for the time you recieve then no, dont feel guilty because however cosy, warm and friendly it is the bottom line is that its still a business transaction. That doesnt mean she doesnt like seeing you as much as you like seeing her, it just means its a business deal she enjoys xx

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I enjoy being cosy with a familiar lady as I don't want to be cosy at home but that doesn't stop me visiting other ladies, especially those on my own "to do" list. I assume your first lady is still seeing other punters whilst you have these feelings of going behind her back!

Cosy is absolutely fine as long as you never lose sight of the fact it's just a cosy business transaction. That doesn't mean you don't genuinely enjoy each others company though.

DG

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Can you not just see your cosy regular on alternate sessions? So you just see her less but you also see the 2nd lady (or indeed any others) too? That way you have the best of both worlds (the familiar and the exciting) and not over stretch yourself financially. You could tell your first reg that you're cutting back due to finances or time constraints (if you feel the need to explain why you're visiting less) which she will accept if she's a professional.

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As there appeared to be no qualms about engaging another wg, then the loyalty factor is somewhat diminished.

 

In simple terms it seems like you are asking if you can have 2 girls on the budget for one.

 

No you can't.

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The only concerning bit is you feeling guilty about going elsewhere.  As much as you like this lady and I'm sure she is lovely, she is not your girlfriend neither is she your lover.  She is a paid sex companion who you happen to like on a more friendly level.  Put in simple terms if she is not providing the services on a sexual level in a way that you are looking for then you have to either take a break, move on permanently or do be honest with her and put the spark back in.

 

In her defence its very hard to keep that spark alive when you've been seeing someone for that length of time and easy to become complacent, but as she is the provider and the one being paid it is up to her to try to make sure that doesn't happen.

 

You should not be feeling guilty.  Bet she doesn't feel guilty when she closes the door on you and welcomes the next one.

 

Sorry to be blunt, but it is what it is.

 

Hugs H x

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Thanks, everybody; reading those opinions, especially those from the WG perspective, has been really helpful.  I'm grateful to you for spelling things out so clearly for me reminding me of what I guess I've always known deep down.  In the early days of my punting career, when I only went to Parlours in Greater Manchester, I was a member of the littleblackbook, the members of which [including WGs] I sometimes referred to as "the mates I've never met" because of the anonymous help I received from them and, in due course, was able to offer to others.  I'm sure your posts were offered, and certainly are received, in the same vein.

 

I'm due to see each of the two girls in the next week [not together, of course!] and will go into those punts with your advice in my mind.  I'd already arranged to see #1 also over Easter and am going to keep that appointment [she's my birthday present to me!].  If I've not been able to spice things up with #1 by the end of that second appointment, I'll then begin my "exit strategy" from her so that I can return to the routine punting career [As a mildly OCD person, I saw one regular every three months (say, January, April, July & October), my other regular every three months (February, May, August, November), leaving March, June, September & December for someone from my "To do" list.  That way, it's impossible to get too attached!] I used to enjoy before I met her.

 

Thanks again, everyone for your help.

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I'm due to see each of the two girls in the next week [not together, of course!

Are you sure this isn't an option worth considering?

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Not for me, Thurson; I've always found the few FFMs I've had to be less than the sum of their parts, if you know what I mean - I'm much more of a 1-2-1 kinda guy.

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I kind of got into this situation before as well, because I hate the waiting times between punts. I live on benefits. Pay bills, get bank charges that are pathetic. The norm.

 

Anyway, there was one day I had money and I did a punt. I kind of liked it but it was over too quickly, so I booked someone a day later and actually found the latter was better. All together this cost me £110. I had a bill to pay not long afterwards and had to borrow some cash. I wanted a punt so badly, so I blew my money. It was either that, or wait ages to see someone. Didn't want to.

 

I think a better solution would be to save up for a while, until you have that kind of money to waste like that. Sometimes, I've been borrowing money too, so when pay day is nearing, you know it's gonna be gone before you even get it. Sort of thing. 

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