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Shaking? Or Stirred

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On reading another thread I read a comment that intrigued me.    The writer had strayed away from the original topic but who amongst us, and myself on many occasions, haven't also gon off topic?   Anyway, the point that the writer was making was about nerves on the first punt.

 

He said that " every man jack of us was shaking like a leaf in the wind and took more than one attempt to get started ".

 

It set me wondering if there was something odd or different about me because I don't recall that being the case with my first punt.   It was just less than twelve months ago and although there have been quite a lot since then it's still clear in my mind.   It had all been arranged via several text messages although I had wanted to speak to the lady.   When we met I discovered that her english wasn't brilliant and she didn't like speaking on the phone and once I knew the reason I found this quite acceptable.    At this time my knowledge of sites like Pnet was absolutely zero and my knowledge of this industry was just what had been gleaned by a few hours playing with our old friend google.

 

I will admit to being a little apprehensive because of not knowing what to expect when the door opened and being completely unaware of what etiquette was expected (apart from handing over the cash)  but as far as nerves were concerned or "shaking like a leaf" absolutely not.    The only feeling that I had was the stirring in my loins.   It never entered my head to retreat.     I can quite accept that some men will have chickened out at some point on the first punt and had to have more than one go before finding themselves in the lady's welcoming embrace but surely there must equally be many men who have dealt with the occasion the same as myself?

 

My first punt was in Birmingham which is a city that I am totally unfamiliar with and as a result had some difficulty in locating the block of flats in which the lady resided.    Due to my unfamiliarity I committed a minor traffic infringement and as a result was, within seconds, pulled over by the police.     I apologised and pointed out that I had a problem as my satnav couldn't locate the lady's address which it turned out was only about 300 yards away.    The officers then escorted me to the building and also showed me where I could park for the duration of my stay.  

 

Aren't our police wonderful (sometimes)?  :)

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Had my first punt a few months ago and it went similarly to how yours went. In 1on1 situations I generally like to take the lead in conversations and kept on telling myself that A) I'm the man B) I'm paying her for a service. Why feel nervous when I'm doing the paying? And finally C) she's probably as nervous as I'm just a random guy turning up and no one she's met before.

Despite this show of bravado, when it got down to it I became very quiet and it resulted in a less then satisfactory experience. I much prefer to socialise first, get to know them a little bit. That takes away my nerves!

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Well if that isnt the good news story of the year "Friendly local bobby helps lost punter find his sexual solace"  ^_^

 

Personally I have had newbie guys turn up and having already announced that they had never done this before they are nervous, although I have only ever met one who was actually shaking. I have had just as many guys turn up and having announced that they had never done this before their hard on comes through the front door before them and they cant get their clothes off fast enough with sheer excitement of finally getting a WG on the bed. I have many a time been told "wow you really nice" by a wide eyed guy as if they are expecting some horribly crumbling ho who treats the like shit.

 

I hope they never encounter that sort of female to tarnish their shiney punting bubble I try to send them back out of the door floating in. 

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On reading another thread I read a comment that intrigued me.    The writer had strayed away from the original topic but who amongst us, and myself on many occasions, haven't also gon off topic?   Anyway, the point that the writer was making was about nerves on the first punt.

 

He said that " every man jack of us was shaking like a leaf in the wind and took more than one attempt to get started ".

 

It set me wondering if there was something odd or different about me because I don't recall that being the case with my first punt.   It was just less than twelve months ago and although there have been quite a lot since then it's still clear in my mind.   It had all been arranged via several text messages although I had wanted to speak to the lady.   When we met I discovered that her english wasn't brilliant and she didn't like speaking on the phone and once I knew the reason I found this quite acceptable.    At this time my knowledge of sites like Pnet was absolutely zero and my knowledge of this industry was just what had been gleaned by a few hours playing with our old friend google.

 

I will admit to being a little apprehensive because of not knowing what to expect when the door opened and being completely unaware of what etiquette was expected (apart from handing over the cash)  but as far as nerves were concerned or "shaking like a leaf" absolutely not.    The only feeling that I had was the stirring in my loins.   It never entered my head to retreat.     I can quite accept that some men will have chickened out at some point on the first punt and had to have more than one go before finding themselves in the lady's welcoming embrace but surely there must equally be many men who have dealt with the occasion the same as myself?

 

My first punt was in Birmingham which is a city that I am totally unfamiliar with and as a result had some difficulty in locating the block of flats in which the lady resided.    Due to my unfamiliarity I committed a minor traffic infringement and as a result was, within seconds, pulled over by the police.     I apologised and pointed out that I had a problem as my satnav couldn't locate the lady's address which it turned out was only about 300 yards away.    The officers then escorted me to the building and also showed me where I could park for the duration of my stay.  

 

Aren't our police wonderful (sometimes)?  :)

I was 19 and defintely shaking like a leaf at my first punt, the only recent ocassion i have felt the same was before my first sex party, i was bricking it and very nearly walked away from the premises. :)

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I'm Spartacus. Or at least the guy you are quoting.

 

How old are you? because I think the younger generations have come up with a lot more awarenes of prostitution. I see some guys on forums who are half my age who have gotten into using wg with a lot more ease than our generations. So it seems like a valid option for sexual experienxces, whereas in my day it was still a taboo area of life.

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I'll readily admit to being very nervous, for reasons i think i may have mentioned on here when drunk posting :o but won't repeat when I'm sober!

There was never a question of backing out though. Once my mind is made up to do something, I'll do it no matter how nervous I feel. A few punts in and I still feel nervous with a new girl, not at all so with the girl I've now seen 3 times.

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How old are you?

Mature but not senile. :D

I was 19 and defintely shaking like a leaf at my first punt, the only recent occasion I have felt the same was before my first sex party, I was bricking it and very nearly walked away from the premises. :)

a. I think that if I'd been 19 when I had my first punt instead of ** then I am sure that I would have been " shaking like a leaf ". b. Should I ever screw up the courage/have the opportunity to attend a sex party then I am absolutely certain that I would really have to work myself up to it and still couldn't be sure of not getting to the door and turning away. Edited by gibbs

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Another police escort story!  Did the police officer look like this, by any chance?

 

blonde-south-kensington-electra_001.jpg (I am sure Electra won't mind my borrowing her photo)

 

I also haven't really suffered nerves on a punt.  Before I got to my first punt I remember being a bit nervous, not knowing quite how I am supposed to act.  Once I walked through the door however, I swiftly realised that it wasn't my brain that was going to work out how to act.  ;)

 

I have to say that wierdly I have sometimes got nervous before seeing a regular.  If the previous experience has been a real wow, I have been nervous about whether the next punt can really live up to those standards, a feeling that also tends to disappear the moment I step through the door.

 

I haven't been to a sex party, but I guess that might get me a bit nervous.  I can imagine coming over a bit like Horse, from the Full Monty, desperately trying to get his penis elongator to work before the big night comes.  :mad:  :lol:  :lol:  :eek:  

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I haven't met with an escort yet but I did have a brief fling with someone from an illicit encounter website.  Spent weeks chatting by phone before finally meeting up and, as her kink was to be dominated, we had this scenario worked out which would have me coming into the hotel room and ravishing her etc..(I'll spare you the gory details).  I've never been so nervous in my life and was literally shaking before hand.  The set up was far too intense and alien for me so struggled to...ahem...perform and needed a few doses for sildenafil to overcome the psychological block which cursed the meetings afterwards.

 

I think it's normal to feel nervous before any new venture, I just wonder how often the nerves affects performance? :D

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Had my first punt a few months ago and it went similarly to how yours went. In 1on1 situations I generally like to take the lead in conversations and kept on telling myself that A) I'm the man B) I'm paying her for a service. Why feel nervous when I'm doing the paying? And finally C) she's probably as nervous as I'm just a random guy turning up and no one she's met before.

Despite this show of bravado, when it got down to it I became very quiet and it resulted in a less then satisfactory experience. I much prefer to socialise first, get to know them a little bit. That takes away my nerves!

With all due respect I can't agree that our first punts were similar. You quite clearly state that you were nervous and chose to deal with it via a show of bravado. Which is fine. A perfectly acceptable way of dealing with the situation.

The point that I was making was that I genuinely did not feel nervous at all on my first punt and nor on any subsequent punts. I did not feel the need for bravado and I must admit that my lack of nerves did surprise me a little. As I said in my OP I wondered whether my reaction was a common or uncommon one. There is, of course, no right or wrong in this matter and you can't criticise anyone for how they dealt with their first punt.

As regards the actual punt itself mine, like yours, was a little disappointing. I am now aware, however, that a major contributory factor was that, due to my complete lack of experience, I chose to visit a lady who was unsuited to me. I have learned from visiting a lot of ladies in the last year that I do not enjoy being with a "submissive" lady. I like ladies who are confident in themselves and looking for both of us to have a good time not just me. I personally get a real kick out of seeing a lady enjoying herself in my company when, at the same time, she knows that she is making me happy.

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Another police escort story!  Did the police officer look like this, by any chance?

 

blonde-south-kensington-electra_001.jpg (I am sure Electra won't mind my borrowing her photo)

 

  

I didn't realise that Electra had a twin? :D Perhaps I should have stated that I was escorted to my destination. ;)

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Sounds like you have had some experience with indies. Have you tried a parlour?

 

I have been to some of the greedy girl parties, but it was heavily oversubscribed. most guys ended up eating the free pizza.

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Have to admit,first visit i ever made,i was okish on the way there,a little hyped but the music helped keep that under control,that and concentrating on the journey.Had a slight mishap when i got the directions when i reached he nearest station but that was more due to my rubbish directional sense.When i got in the room the lady went to stash the money,she looked at me weird when she came back as i was still just sitting there waiting.thats It was during the undressing that the adrenal dump really kicked in and the shaking really started.At that stage the heart was going like the clappers and i really was shaking all over.I've never been like that before or after.I think there were two reasons i stayed.firstly i understood what was happening was just a physical reaction the the adrenaline my sytem had just dumped on me and was striving to control it.the second reason was he lady in question saw i was bricking it and was brilliant.we started with chatting,and a slow massage just to clam me down,all the whilst still talking and did everything she could to make me comfortable.The time went really well.With someone else it could have been a whole different story.

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If your nerves are that bad, and you are new to the game, the best thing is to tell the lady your situation. If she is any good, she will take things at a pace that suits you, and your confidence will increase as time goes by.

 

My experience leads me to suggest more mature ladies for newbies.

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Well maybe its the adrenaline rather than nerves. I had never thought of it like that.

Adrenaline gets kicked off by a variety of things.

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If your nerves are that bad, and you are new to the game, the best thing is to tell the lady your situation. If she is any good, she will take things at a pace that suits you, and your confidence will increase as time goes by.

My experience leads me to suggest more mature ladies for newbies.

I agree that mature ladies would perhaps be better for newbies particularly those who know that they will suffer from nerves. I also agree that you should tell the lady that you are new to punting. As soon as my clothes were off I told the young lady that it was my first time with an escort. Apart from later realising, with more experience, that the lady, who was lovely, was in a way too " willing to please" for my taste I think that a more mature lady would have been better for my first time.

My original question centred around whether or not one was nervous in the time, perhaps 30 minutes, immediately prior to the door being opened. Also at the time that I made my first booking I was unaware of Punternet and similar forums and also Adultwork and similar sites. My ignorance was very great and my choices limited by my ignorance.

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Well maybe its the adrenaline rather than nerves. I had never thought of it like that.

Adrenaline gets kicked off by a variety of things.

Excitement,fear,nervousness are all caused by adrenaline.That pre punt tingle,which is the slow build up, through to the shaking is all caused by it,whether its a slow adrenal build up,similar to what fighters get during the build up to a bout to a full on dump.We all suffer it in some form,its just how we control it that differs.

Theres some great books on the topic by Geoff Thompson. Fear.the friend of exceptional People and Know fear amongst others

 

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With all due respect I can't agree that our first punts were similar. You quite clearly state that you were nervous and chose to deal with it via a show of bravado. Which is fine. A perfectly acceptable way of dealing with the situation.

The point that I was making was that I genuinely did not feel nervous at all on my first punt and nor on any subsequent punts. I did not feel the need for bravado and I must admit that my lack of nerves did surprise me a little. As I said in my OP I wondered whether my reaction was a common or uncommon one. There is, of course, no right or wrong in this matter and you can't criticise anyone for how they dealt with their first punt.

As regards the actual punt itself mine, like yours, was a little disappointing. I am now aware, however, that a major contributory factor was that, due to my complete lack of experience, I chose to visit a lady who was unsuited to me. I have learned from visiting a lot of ladies in the last year that I do not enjoy being with a "submissive" lady. I like ladies who are confident in themselves and looking for both of us to have a good time not just me. I personally get a real kick out of seeing a lady enjoying herself in my company when, at the same time, she knows that she is making me happy.

 

Very true indeed. Sorry, I skim read it whilst on the loo at work!

 

Out of interest, do you generally find the women you see to be confident? You ever met a really timid one?

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Very true indeed. Sorry, I skim read it whilst on the loo at work!

 

Out of interest, do you generally find the women you see to be confident? You ever met a really timid one?

Where the hell do you find a job that allows you time to read anything while taking a dump? It must be a bloody generous firm; or perhaps you are a civil servant! :o

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Very true indeed. Sorry, I skim read it whilst on the loo at work!

There are reasons i love this site..little comments like that are one of them lol.

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I haven't met with an escort yet but I did have a brief fling with someone from an illicit encounter website.  Spent weeks chatting by phone before finally meeting up and, as her kink was to be dominated, we had this scenario worked out which would have me coming into the hotel room and ravishing her etc..(I'll spare you the gory details).  I've never been so nervous in my life and was literally shaking before hand.  The set up was far too intense and alien for me so struggled to...ahem...perform and needed a few doses for sildenafil to overcome the psychological block which cursed the meetings afterwards.

 

I think it's normal to feel nervous before any new venture, I just wonder how often the nerves affects performance? :D

First time with an escort dont put so much pressure on yourself. Just go along for a good old snog and bonk xx

 

If you are likely to cum quick from nerves tell her, she can make sure she doesnt do anything to push you over the edge too soon x

Edited by Chloe Kisses

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First time with an escort dont put so much pressure on yourself. Just go along for a good old snog and bonk xx

 

If you are likely to cum quick from nerves tell her, she can make sure she doesnt do anything to push you over the edge too soon x

That is first class advice !!

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my first was 20 years ago but said to her what i say to the ladies now " be gentle with me " then lay face down and close my eyes and pray for forgiveness

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my first was 20 years ago but said to her what i say to the ladies now " be gentle with me " then lay face down and close my eyes and pray for forgiveness

We forgive you dib x

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I was very nervous before my first punt with Linzi (now Linzi Mae) and she compounded them. Linzi was running late when I got there and her second sentence once I was in the door was to tell me my 1hr booked was now 30 mins so she could fit someone else in. I'd booked the hour to give me time to "settle in" so to speak. Still, I performed and the deed was done but not the ideal memory for popping my punting cherry. My second ever punt all those years ago was our very own Pia, what an absolute darling lady, wish she'd been my first!

I still get butterflies when meeting a new lady but I think they're healthy butterflies. Opportunity has decreed that I'm soon to see the queen of my wish list, I had massive nerves ringing her but she was just lovely, chatty and so grounded on the phone, certainly won't be so nervous on the walk up as I might have been.

I think we have to accept nerves if we suffer just the same as some guys are more prone to emotion during some news articles or films. Films for example don't get me at all but a real tear jerker good news story and many things to do with animals can make me "moist". I can't change it, it's who I am. Doesn't mean to say I like it though and I'd certainly rather not well up but I'm an emotional type of guy.

DG

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