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I've finally decided to make a booking next month for oral, will probably be 15 mins with the option to extend to 30 mins. I'm currently 21 and have had no sexual experience, not even oral so I obviously would be anxious and am afraid of not being able to get hard. I was thinking, would going off wanking a week before hand make you extremely horny that you would be nearly guaranteed to get an erection even when nervous. Also, would anyone advise a bit of alcohol before hand? I have to add that I would probably be walking to the girls flat, 20 min walk so the alcohol would have little effect after that anyway. After getting one over with I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have much problem getting erect in other bookings.

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Avoid alcohol, as it shows on your breath and the wg might think you could be a problem.

 

You can't really predict the outcome. Just see what happens. And watch what you spend.

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I would avoid alcohol altogether in case it joins up with your nerves to impair your "performance". Just try to relax and remember she is just a person. Its part of he job to be warm and welcoming. Just make sure you confirm which services are on offer, how much cash you will need and arrive fresh, clean and on time. Be polite and try to remember that you are meant to be having fun. Too many people put too many pressures on themselves and take things way to seriously. 

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I would avoid alcohol altogether in case it joins up with your nerves to impair your "performance". Just try to relax and remember she is just a person. Its part of he job to be warm and welcoming. Just make sure you confirm which services are on offer, how much cash you will need and arrive fresh, clean and on time. Be polite and try to remember that you are meant to be having fun. Too many people put too many pressures on themselves and take things way to seriously. 

it's definitely a risk, I could end up having the most humiliating experience of my life not being able to relax, it's a big step though, around 10 years of watching porn and only fantasising about the situation. it's a pity i have flatmates though as i think an outcall would be easier.

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I forgot to mention, I could start of by doing a glory hole from Bambi Black. it wouldn't be as awkward though there wouldn't be any visual stimulation either, if you couldn't get erect you could just walk out without the humiliation i suppose.

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it's definitely a risk, I could end up having the most humiliating experience of my life not being able to relax, it's a big step though, around 10 years of watching porn and only fantasising about the situation. it's a pity i have flatmates though as i think an outcall would be easier.

If the nerves hit you like that please dont feel humiliated, us girls meet guys on a weekly basis sometimes whos willys just decide they dont want to play for  many different reasons. We certainly do not look at you badly, we know its not your fault, it just happens sometimes. We are even more understanding when someone is very nervous, its a common thing to happen, that or it goes the other way and you pop like a goodun within minutes no matter how careful we are with him down below. Just go into it with the "whatever will be will be" attitude. Dont build it up into something huge in your head. Just go along in the hope of some fun and it will take a lot of stresses of yourself xx

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If the nerves hit you like that please dont feel humiliated, us girls meet guys on a weekly basis sometimes whos willys just decide they dont want to play for  many different reasons. We certainly do not look at you badly, we know its not your fault, it just happens sometimes. We are even more understanding when someone is very nervous, its a common thing to happen, that or it goes the other way and you pop like a goodun within minutes no matter how careful we are with him down below. Just go into it with the "whatever will be will be" attitude. Dont build it up into something huge in your head. Just go along in the hope of some fun and it will take a lot of stresses of yourself xx

 

My instincts tell me that starting out with the gloryhole is the best option for me, at £30 it's worth a shot

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Too many people put too many pressures on themselves and take things way to seriously. 

 

If it didn't involve money, I would say that probably wouldn't be so much an issue or would you disagree?

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If it didn't involve money, I would say that probably wouldn't be so much an issue or would you disagree?

I had such issues meeting a few ladies off an affair website. No cash involved.

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Small warning for the OP- Real life sex is NOT like porn. Porn is mainly smoke, mirrors and clever editing, Please don't be one of those blokes who thinks he knows it all from porn. If you treated most women like men in porn do you'll get a short thrift! 

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Small warning for the OP- Real life sex is NOT like porn. Porn is mainly smoke, mirrors and clever editing, Please don't be one of those blokes who thinks he knows it all from porn. If you treated most women like men in porn do you'll get a short thrift! 

yes but i'm not looking sex, just oral

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yes but i'm not looking sex, just oral

just lay back and enjoy it x

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yes but i'm not looking sex, just oral

 

Don't overthink and I'm sure you'll be fine :) 

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Don't overthink and I'm sure you'll be fine :)

Hi Candy

Good to see you're live on P/Net

DG

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Hi Candy

Good to see you're live on P/Net

DG

 

Thanks  :D

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i will probably not wank for about 4 days beforehand so there is a greater chance of getting hard as usually when i do that i nearly have a permanent erection all day long

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My instincts tell me that starting out with the gloryhole is the best option for me, at £30 it's worth a shot

Thats the most stress free option?Sticking your cock through a hole without actually knowing who is doing the sucking on the other end?Also,from what ive seen this also basically means standing pushed against said wall.Doesnt sound too relaxing and reassuring to me

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Thats the most stress free option?Sticking your cock through a hole without actually knowing who is doing the sucking on the other end?Also,from what ive seen this also basically means standing pushed against said wall.Doesnt sound too relaxing and reassuring to me

I have to admit it doesn't sound that great as apparently the hole is quite high in this one. I will probably just book a girl and just hope i don't get 'stage fright'

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Thats the most stress free option?Sticking your cock through a hole without actually knowing who is doing the sucking on the other end?Also,from what ive seen this also basically means standing pushed against said wall.Doesnt sound too relaxing and reassuring to me

 

I should imagine for the first time that might be a bit unfulfilling too.  Part of the experience is being able to touch/feel/see a beautiful woman isn't it?  Or am I wrong about that?

 

My advice would be to stop over thinking it and as others have said lay back and let an experienced woman do what she does best.  You certainly won't be the first virgin with this dilemma she will have seen, especially if you choose wisely.

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I should imagine for the first time that might be a bit unfulfilling too.  Part of the experience is being able to touch/feel/see a beautiful woman isn't it?  Or am I wrong about that?

 

My advice would be to stop over thinking it and as others have said lay back and let an experienced woman do what she does best.  You certainly won't be the first virgin with this dilemma she will have seen, especially if you choose wisely.

 

Very wise words from Holly there 

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I should imagine for the first time that might be a bit unfulfilling too.  Part of the experience is being able to touch/feel/see a beautiful woman isn't it?  Or am I wrong about that?

 

My advice would be to stop over thinking it and as others have said lay back and let an experienced woman do what she does best.  You certainly won't be the first virgin with this dilemma she will have seen, especially if you choose wisely.

yes you are certainly right about that being part of the experience, I'm trying not to overthink it, it's hard not to though as I don't plan to book until next month due to financial reasons.

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How old are you?  If you're 21, it's unusual to have erection issues.  Most likely it's because you are too nervous.  

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it's definitely a risk, I could end up having the most humiliating experience of my life not being able to relax, it's a big step though, around 10 years of watching porn and only fantasising about the situation. it's a pity i have flatmates though as i think an outcall would be easier.

 

Rent a two/three star hotel room?  A local B&B?  

it's not illegal, since the owner doesn't have to know she's an escort.  

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Rent a two/three star hotel room?  A local B&B?  

it's not illegal, since the owner doesn't have to know she's an escort.  

that would be pretty much the same though, you wouldn't be in your 'comfort zone'. Yes i'm 21 and it's just the nerves/anxiety that I fear will prevent an erection, at least if i try and fail i will know this game isn't for me

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I've finally decided to make a booking next month for oral, will probably be 15 mins with the option to extend to 30 mins. I'm currently 21 and have had no sexual experience, not even oral so I obviously would be anxious and am afraid of not being able to get hard. I was thinking, would going off wanking a week before hand make you extremely horny that you would be nearly guaranteed to get an erection even when nervous. Also, would anyone advise a bit of alcohol before hand? I have to add that I would probably be walking to the girls flat, 20 min walk so the alcohol would have little effect after that anyway. After getting one over with I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have much problem getting erect in other bookings.

When I was that age I would need to knock one out the night before or even the same day to avoid coming far too soon, but only you know what works for you.If you don't get an instant stiffy, any lady who is good at her job will be used to having to work for a minute or 2 to get you hard.

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