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Women Who Find Doggystyle Painful/uncomfortable

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Hey All,

I would say doggystyle is probably my favourite position for a number of reasons (1 being visual stimulation since I love juicy bums), and for me engaging in a good doggystyle session with a lady that is genuinely loving it and enjoying the position is amazing. Even more so if she can orgasm in that position.

 

Now, I've been dating a girl for a few months (I haven't punted while being with her) and sex with her is ok but she finds doggystyle quite uncomfortable. She's actually gone as far as saying it feels "horrible". You can imagine that for a man who loves doggystyle and the image of a nice round bum bouncing back and forth, that it was quite disappointing to hear. She is nice enough to let me do doggy with her but since I know she isn't really enjoying it and possibly feeling some pain, I find it impossible to enjoy it with her.

 

I had always imagined doggystyle being quite enjoyable for both parties and it usually seemed to come up as a common favourite position for a lot of women. But it seems in some cases it just feels bad for some women.

 

So this naturally got me thinking about the possible cause.

Now in terms of size, I'm pretty average. possibly towards the upper end of average if anything so I think I can rule out me being too big. And I definitely do it gently, I'm not just banging away relentlessly.

2 thing's do come to mind though. The first is that she is fairly short and slim (size 8), where as, other women I have done it with in the past have been either taller or bigger (size 12 - 18). So is it possible that with her, penetration is pretty deep and possibly hitting the cervix or something and with the other women, since they had "more cushion for the pushing so to speak, penetration wasn't as deep and thus more comfortable?

 

The second thing that comes to mind is the possibility that since doggystyle penetration seems quite intense for her, maybe it is just something she isn't used to. Is it possible that if she did it regularly and a lot more, that her body would get used to it and that she could actually start getting pleasure from it? Similarly to anal penetration for some people.

 

To the ladies on here, did you find that doggystyle was enjoyable for you from the first time you tried it, or was it something you had to get used to? Or is it something that still doesn't do it for you?

And to the gentlemen, have any of you ever had this situation with anyone you used to see or are with now?

 

I'm just trying to see if I should just rule doggystyle out with her completely, or whether or not there is any chance she could end up enjoying it in time.

 

Thanks guys.

 

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I have a love/hate relationship with doggy style. What I have found is that it depends on the person I am with, and it's not only about size but rather a combination of size, girth and curvature of the penis. 

 

With certain people I absolutely love it and cannot get enough; it seems to hit all the right spots and it's probably the only position that can make me orgasm without additional stimulation. But then you meet a bloke and something about how he does it is just horrible; it's uncomfortable, sometimes even painful, unfortunately leading to a dry vagina and it's really no fun and just cringe-worthy!

 

I don't really think it's something to get accustomed to; if you say she is petite then it's probably hitting her cervix and that my friend is extremely painful! Ouch.

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I have a love/hate relationship with doggy style. What I have found is that it depends on the person I am with, and it's not only about size but rather a combination of size, girth and curvature of the penis. 

 

With certain people I absolutely love it and cannot get enough; it seems to hit all the right spots and it's probably the only position that can make me orgasm without additional stimulation. But then you meet a bloke and something about how he does it is just horrible; it's uncomfortable, sometimes even painful, unfortunately leading to a dry vagina and it's really no fun and just cringe-worthy!

 

I don't really think it's something to get accustomed to; if you say she is petite then it's probably hitting her cervix and that my friend is extremely painful! Ouch.

Welcome to you Sofia. I hope you have fun here and please do try to ignore the idiots. They will make themselves known quite soon!

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Not sure about ladies findng it painful, but I slipped a disc last year (not whilst having sex before anyone makes a funny comment lol) it has healed now, but I now find that prolonged standing, sitting, and especially doggy bring on bouts of lower back pain.  Annoying reallly, as I used to enjoy the view in that position.  I just have to make do with the girl on top once the pain sets in. :P

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From my experience and what ive heard/read, most women dont like doggy or just dont mind it. Yet almost every escort seems to enjoy it or dont mind it... probably because they dont have to look at his face if she dont fancy him.

 

Me personally im not bothered about doggy, i love being face to face. And if there is a mirror on the wall/ceiling then thats great so i can see her more of her.

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Welcome to you Sofia. I hope you have fun here and please do try to ignore the idiots. They will make themselves known quite soon!

I'm with Paul on this one Sofia. He and I are both gentlemen by nature and upbringing. There are other contributors to this forum who are otherwise and whom lack our articulate phrasing and good manners. You won't find us using phrases like "back on to it you fucking bitch" we are much more genteel than that and we always apologise before the flatulence not afterwards.

I haven't met a lady yet who didn't like it doggystyle but if that was the case I wouldn't bother continuing. Both of you have to enjoy it to make it worthwhile. I've met lots of ladies who've flipped themselves round without me saying anything.

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People have different sexual likes/dislikes.  

 

Accept she doesn't like doggy.

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I have a love/hate relationship with doggy style. What I have found is that it depends on the person I am with, and it's not only about size but rather a combination of size, girth and curvature of the penis. 

 

With certain people I absolutely love it and cannot get enough; it seems to hit all the right spots and it's probably the only position that can make me orgasm without additional stimulation. But then you meet a bloke and something about how he does it is just horrible; it's uncomfortable, sometimes even painful, unfortunately leading to a dry vagina and it's really no fun and just cringe-worthy!

 

I don't really think it's something to get accustomed to; if you say she is petite then it's probably hitting her cervix and that my friend is extremely painful! Ouch.

 

This is true.  Not everything appeals to everybody lol..

 

Would the OP like his gf to "force" him to do a sex act he hated?

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To be fair 'force' sounds a little over the top here. You have no idea what their relationship is like and could well be the lady is doing her best to find a way to have a loving sex life with her man and give a bit even if she's not 100% up for that particular position.

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I suffer from IBS, and although I love doggy, sometimes too much banging away in that position can upset my stomach and I become bloated and uncomfortable. Also if someone has a large cock then it's a no no as it's just to painful.  Otherwise I love it.

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I always prefer doggie but again it depends on who with and how they do it.  One thing I did have a problem with was guys that would lean onto my back and put their weight on their hands, that hurt my lower back.

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I always prefer doggie but again it depends on who with and how they do it.  One thing I did have a problem with was guys that would lean onto my back and put their weight on their hands, that hurt my lower back.

Yeah.. that would be the builders.........  lean on you instead of their spade :) ...and so rude and ignorant when they do that btw x

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To be fair 'force' sounds a little over the top here. You have no idea what their relationship is like and could well be the lady is doing her best to find a way to have a loving sex life with her man and give a bit even if she's not 100% up for that particular position.

 

Why should she compromise or give in?  We don't know why she doesn't like doggy.  It could be she gets no pleasure from it.  It could be that it hits her cervix, or doesn't stimulate her clit enough.  I don't think a partner should coax another into doing things sexually they don't like.  That just creates extra tension.

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I like it if the guy is good at not letting air get in (there's an art to it) and is good at being gentle at first. 

 

Depending where I am in my cycle it might be too painful and out of the question (around ovulation when the cervix is low) Maybe she has similar cycle related issues

 

I expect her being very slim means she has a bit less bottom padding stopping you getting close up and going too deep as well 

 

I think all in all I'd just find something else that works for you. 

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I like it if the guy is good at not letting air get in

 

Hah - yes, fanny farts!  They make me laugh so much......

 

Actually doggy is my least favourite position.  I just don't find it comfortable, and it's hard on my knees.  I would go for the "spoons" position over doggy any day.

 

I always assumed the popularity of doggy with escorts was due avoiding having a fat blokes body weight squashing you, and avoiding a face full of bad breath, when doing it missionary.

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I too am of the cynical view that escorts liked the doggy position because it means they don't have to look at ugly faces, mine included there! But it is very popular and I am a always offered it! hmmmmmmmm, which means I do have an ugly face! eep The next step is they will want to put me in the doggy position and bang away so I get a face full of pillow!

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well im only 5ft 1 and size 8-10 ,and i absolutly love doggie style lol , nothing to do with what the punter looks like at all! and its never caused me pain unless im with someone with a huge member !

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As a man I have always hated shagging women doggy style and will do anything to get out of it!

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To be fair 'force' sounds a little over the top here. You have no idea what their relationship is like and could well be the lady is doing her best to find a way to have a loving sex life with her man and give a bit even if she's not 100% up for that particular position.

Exactly, dont people make allowances and do things they dont enjoy to make their partner happy ALL the time in life. Personally I love doggie, didnt like it at first though as if used to feel rather animalistic but now I love it. I think its rather unfair to accuse the OP of forcing his likes upon his girlfriend just because she tried something she doesnt like much to please him. We all do it, lets face it, how many guys on here would have been happy without the wedding ring but did it to keep the missus happy? mmmhmmm

 

 

Oh and how many guys have mentioned on here time and time again that they are restricted to certain sexual "likes" to birthdays and christmas's as their wives/lovers dont really like doing it...I dont remember anyone accusing them of force x

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Yeah.. that would be the builders.........  lean on you instead of their spade :)

I've now got someone looking at me wondering why i'm sniggering away

 

I too am of the cynical view that escorts liked the doggy position because it means they don't have to look at ugly faces, mine included there! But it is very popular and I am a always offered it! hmmmmmmmm, which means I do have an ugly face! eep The next step is they will want to put me in the doggy position and bang away so I get a face full of pillow!

Each time i read something like this am i the only one picturing someone shuffling into the room,sack over the head Merrick style??

As for the doggy topic.Do i like it?Yes.Does it like me.Not so much.thats more to do with having crap knees,a dodgy back,multiple aches and pains and being fat and unfit.Also,am i the only bloke that finds it easier on the body than missionary?

As for the initial question.Theres been quite a few reasons why women dislike doggy or can find it painful or problematic posted in various threads.The fact you love it and your partner doesnt does make for a problem,however,you've only been seeing eachother a short time,You're still getting to know eachother.Theres a lot of possibilities to be explored.Chances are you'll find some things that you both enjoy as much,equally.And may i add,have fun in the exploration.

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Interesting topic. My girlfriend pretty much insists on doggy, get a bit of reverse cowgirl occasionally but it's almost exclusively doggy. Bit of a shame as I enjoy being adventurous, as well as being fond of cowgirl, and mish cos I love dfk just as I'm on the way to coming.

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Yeah.. that would be the builders.........  lean on you instead of their spade :) ...and so rude and ignorant when they do that btw x

 

Yep you got it!  Oh and the Cowboys that slap thinking they are performing at a Rodeo :o  :P

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Surely if you are having sex wit someone you need to read them to make sure they are comfortable and having fun. 

what is the fun in making someone uncomfortable, or hurting them?

look after your WG and you will get good sex back by the ton.

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Depends on the guy, some men really ruin doggy style and although I like it a lot with most, it can be agony with some. But a lot of my friends don't like it, partly because they feel it's impersonal, believe that he's thinking of someone else and, very often, because it hurts.

To be honest, most women seem to pretend to like things they are not too keen on in the 'acquisition phase' so if she's not keen now - she'll probably get less keen in future. If it's that important to you, move on.

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Exactly, dont people make allowances and do things they dont enjoy to make their partner happy ALL the time in life. Personally I love doggie, didnt like it at first though as if used to feel rather animalistic but now I love it. I think its rather unfair to accuse the OP of forcing his likes upon his girlfriend just because she tried something she doesnt like much to please him. We all do it, lets face it, how many guys on here would have been happy without the wedding ring but did it to keep the missus happy? mmmhmmm

 

 

Oh and how many guys have mentioned on here time and time again that they are restricted to certain sexual "likes" to birthdays and christmas's as their wives/lovers dont really like doing it...I dont remember anyone accusing them of force x

 

lol..  Yeah.. so a healthy relationship is based on making one do things they don't like?

 

Isn't a healthy relationship really based on accepting one's partner for who they are?  I think the OP should just live it with.  It's not his business to suggest what his gf should or shouldn't like sexually.  After all, sexual likes/dislikes are subjective.

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