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Hi all,

 

Hoping for some advice. 

 

I've been punting since I was 20 and I'm now 28. I first started as I had huge problems with my mental health in my late teens and early 20's. I had serious clinical depression and seasonal affective disorder, and the majority of the time the only thing I could think of that would make me feel better would be a punt. It was also a case of trying to squeeze the most out of life, living each day like it's your last, etc.because I was having huge difficulties and it never felt like I would survive this long. 

 

Long story short, I'm a lot better now. Through years of therapy (mostly useless), medication (really helped) and keeping myself out of harms way, I have by and large beat the depression. Last winter I experienced next to no symptoms of the Winter blues and without medication. 

 

I'm planning on going back to university next year to do a medical degree and hope for a long and rewarding career in that field. Now I'm wondering if I should pack it in. I've had good punts and bad like everyone here, the last one being epic. After a rubbish run I was about to call it quits but Smiley Sindy in Fulham proved to be a cracker. Great OWO, made me cum twice, the second time on a scale that had my legs shaking (ok I thought that only happened to women). And now I'm back on the trail. Got some girls on my wishlist (mostly Hungarian, Romanian and Italian) and money in my pocket. 

 

I think of all the things on my bucket list I haven't done - 3some, dogging, food sex, watersports, domination - and think of how my performance has improved over the years. In a way, I feel like I'm hitting my sexual peak. 

 

So what do you guys think? Should I quit now for the straight and narrow or tick all those things off my list?

 

TLDR: Guy was ill, feeling better now, had good times and bad, should he quit?

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Good to read of someone getting the better of depression. As to whether you should quit punting...might be time to get a girlfriend if you can, maybe one who might help you tick off some of those other items on your list?

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I've considered that and it

 

Good to read of someone getting the better of depression. As to whether you should quit punting...might be time to get a girlfriend if you can, maybe one who might help you tick off some of those other items on your list?

I've considered that and I wouldn't be against it. No doubt there'll be some lovely ladies in medical school. And I would never punt while in a relationship. But part of me might still miss the variety.

 

Can I ask how long you've been punting for Vin and if you plan on quitting anytime? If you're not comfortable saying that's fine.

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I've considered that and I wouldn't be against it. No doubt there'll be some lovely ladies in medical school. And I would never punt while in a relationship. But part of me might still miss the variety.

 

Can I ask how long you've been punting for Vin and if you plan on quitting anytime? If you're not comfortable saying that's fine.

 

Regularly since 2004 (a couple of isolated ones when overseas on business before that).

 

I've been planning on quitting for years ! Had a few breaks (3-6 months) along the way. The frequency has been tailing off for the last few years. My last punt was February, and there is a good chance it will be my last - for some time at least. I actually walked out of a large European brothel just the other week without indulging when I realised I was only there out of habit/curiousity, not sexual need or desire.

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Hi all,

 

Hoping for some advice. 

 

I've been punting since I was 20 and I'm now 28. I first started as I had huge problems with my mental health in my late teens and early 20's. I had serious clinical depression and seasonal affective disorder, and the majority of the time the only thing I could think of that would make me feel better would be a punt. It was also a case of trying to squeeze the most out of life, living each day like it's your last, etc.because I was having huge difficulties and it never felt like I would survive this long. 

 

Long story short, I'm a lot better now. Through years of therapy (mostly useless), medication (really helped) and keeping myself out of harms way, I have by and large beat the depression. Last winter I experienced next to no symptoms of the Winter blues and without medication. 

 

I'm planning on going back to university next year to do a medical degree and hope for a long and rewarding career in that field. Now I'm wondering if I should pack it in. I've had good punts and bad like everyone here, the last one being epic. After a rubbish run I was about to call it quits but Smiley Sindy in Fulham proved to be a cracker. Great OWO, made me cum twice, the second time on a scale that had my legs shaking (ok I thought that only happened to women). And now I'm back on the trail. Got some girls on my wishlist (mostly Hungarian, Romanian and Italian) and money in my pocket. 

 

I think of all the things on my bucket list I haven't done - 3some, dogging, food sex, watersports, domination - and think of how my performance has improved over the years. In a way, I feel like I'm hitting my sexual peak. 

 

So what do you guys think? Should I quit now for the straight and narrow or tick all those things off my list?

 

TLDR: Guy was ill, feeling better now, had good times and bad, should he quit?

Firstly good to read you feel better. I would pull and punt if i were you, the pulling because the lady for you might just be around the next corner and punt for the fun of it.

 

I intend to continue punting until i cant manage it anymore or die.

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Firstly good to read you feel better. I would pull and punt if i were you, the pulling because the lady for you might just be around the next corner and punt for the fun of it.

 

I intend to continue punting until i cant manage it anymore or die.

 

  Or run out of money , but that wouldn't happen in your case  £ £ £ .

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So what do you guys think? Should I quit now for the straight and narrow or tick all those things off my list?

 

if you're going to study won't you need cash for other things?

 

Apart from that, I can't see any reason why you'd want to quit.... its part of a life-style that's made you feel better, so why give it up? It seems natural to keep going until you get in a long term relationship where fidelity is expected.

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Three good reasons to stop.   You don't enjoy it anymore.  :(    You can't afford it anymore.   :(   You can't do it anymore.   :(    

 

In the case of a married man perhaps to avoid an expensive divorce.   But that might only be temporary.  :)

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It sounds like you have your life finally in order. Congratulations.

My advice would be for you to quit punting right now. Put it behind you once and for all and start a new life, as you are about to do.

Most WG's are only after your money and couldn't care less about you. Put this all behind you, get cracking on your degree, make new friends and hopefully get a new relationship with someone who will love and value you.

As one door shuts behind you, another one opens in front on you.

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Ok interesting perspectives. Thanks for all your responses. 

 

See at first I was going out of loneliness because I thought no other girl would come near me being as depressed as I was. And I sure did meet plenty of lovely compassionate ladies who were more than willing to listen to my problems and give me some helpful words of advice. 

 

Thing is, I kind of know "how" to punt now. How to separate emotion and fantasy from reality. I'm a much shrewder customer and I've grown from being completely embarassed about my body to being perfectly comfortable (I'm pretty skinny). Like I say, I feel like I'm coming into my sexual peak.

 

 

Three good reasons to stop.   You don't enjoy it anymore.  :(    You can't afford it anymore.   :(   You can't do it anymore.   :(    

 

In the case of a married man perhaps to avoid an expensive divorce.   But that might only be temporary.  :)

Good points but none of them apply to me right now.

 

Regularly since 2004 (a couple of isolated ones when overseas on business before that).

 

I've been planning on quitting for years ! Had a few breaks (3-6 months) along the way. The frequency has been tailing off for the last few years. My last punt was February, and there is a good chance it will be my last - for some time at least. I actually walked out of a large European brothel just the other week without indulging when I realised I was only there out of habit/curiousity, not sexual need or desire.

I applaud your self-awareness at being able to recognise your reasons behind visiting. But I would say that I still know when it feels "right" (as in there's chemistry  we're going to have a good time) and when it feels wrong (like when you are able to but don't connect with the WG). Pick the right girl and it can feel very very right, as you all know.

 

 

Firstly good to read you feel better. I would pull and punt if i were you, the pulling because the lady for you might just be around the next corner and punt for the fun of it.

 

I intend to continue punting until i cant manage it anymore or die.

Nah, want to make a clean break.

 

if you're going to study won't you need cash for other things?

 

Apart from that, I can't see any reason why you'd want to quit.... its part of a life-style that's made you feel better, so why give it up? It seems natural to keep going until you get in a long term relationship where fidelity is expected.

Good point about continuing with something which has given me so much pleasure. I'm an epicurean as I'm sure many of us are.

 

And for sure I will be poor as a student but I won't be studying for at least 18 months.

 

It sounds like you have your life finally in order. Congratulations.

My advice would be for you to quit punting right now. Put it behind you once and for all and start a new life, as you are about to do.

Most WG's are only after your money and couldn't care less about you. Put this all behind you, get cracking on your degree, make new friends and hopefully get a new relationship with someone who will love and value you.

As one door shuts behind you, another one opens in front on you.

Great sentiment, but I feel like the old door has yet to close. I know I can still have a lot of fun and in better shape than I was when I was depressed. 

 

And true, most don't are just after the money, but I can tell you that I can recall a great many valuable conversations about life and some very supportive words from WGs. 

 

The sensible side of me kind of knows that what you're saying makes sense. But maybe there's a little more time for me to not be sensible...:)

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Nobody is going to throw you a retirement party and give you a gold watch when you quit punting, so nobody is going to be bothered if you return. Give it a break if you feel like it is not the right thing for you at the moment. You can always return, or not, as the situation warrants. 

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Personally, 3 things will probably only make me quit punting:

1) ive got no money for it.

2) if my penis stops getting hard enough to penetrate women's vagina's/

3) I find a good enough girlfriend, im quite the picky type.

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I think the fact that you are asking means at some level you do want to quit. So taking a break would certainly be a good idea.

There is no doubt you would save a lot of money too. But I think it might be easier if you thought of it more as taking a break than quitting. Saying you'll never ever punt again is a far greater psychological commitment to yourself and puts yourself under greater pressure.

 

Also be wary of assuming you'll 'never punt while in a relationship'. The world is full of regular punters who said the same thing.

In the immortal words of Chicago 'it's a hard habit to break'!

 

 

 

 

Hi all,

 

Hoping for some advice. 

 

I've been punting since I was 20 and I'm now 28. I first started as I had huge problems with my mental health in my late teens and early 20's. I had serious clinical depression and seasonal affective disorder, and the majority of the time the only thing I could think of that would make me feel better would be a punt. It was also a case of trying to squeeze the most out of life, living each day like it's your last, etc.because I was having huge difficulties and it never felt like I would survive this long. 

 

Long story short, I'm a lot better now. Through years of therapy (mostly useless), medication (really helped) and keeping myself out of harms way, I have by and large beat the depression. Last winter I experienced next to no symptoms of the Winter blues and without medication. 

 

I'm planning on going back to university next year to do a medical degree and hope for a long and rewarding career in that field. Now I'm wondering if I should pack it in. I've had good punts and bad like everyone here, the last one being epic. After a rubbish run I was about to call it quits but Smiley Sindy in Fulham proved to be a cracker. Great OWO, made me cum twice, the second time on a scale that had my legs shaking (ok I thought that only happened to women). And now I'm back on the trail. Got some girls on my wishlist (mostly Hungarian, Romanian and Italian) and money in my pocket. 

 

I think of all the things on my bucket list I haven't done - 3some, dogging, food sex, watersports, domination - and think of how my performance has improved over the years. In a way, I feel like I'm hitting my sexual peak. 

 

So what do you guys think? Should I quit now for the straight and narrow or tick all those things off my list?

 

TLDR: Guy was ill, feeling better now, had good times and bad, should he quit?

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I think the fact that you are asking means at some level you do want to quit. So taking a break would certainly be a good idea.

There is no doubt you would save a lot of money too. But I think it might be easier if you thought of it more as taking a break than quitting. Saying you'll never ever punt again is a far greater psychological commitment to yourself and puts yourself under greater pressure.

 

Also be wary of assuming you'll 'never punt while in a relationship'. The world is full of regular punters who said the same thing.

In the immortal words of Chicago 'it's a hard habit to break'!

 

Thanks. This all makes a lot of sense. For sure quitting is a great commitment - I'm struggling enough as it is with the fags!

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Why ever quit?  

 

I'm single now, but am looking and will most likely when when I find somebody.  

 

Other than that, the only other instance I would consider quitting is if the government outlawed it fully, or gave a really harsh punishment for it, like capital punishment lol...

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..... But I think it might be easier if you thought of it more as taking a break than quitting. Saying you'll never ever punt again is a far greater psychological commitment to yourself and puts yourself under greater pressure.

 

^ Very good advice.  As someone who has had to quit lots of different things, I've found it best to develop a mindset that won't descend into self-loathing the minute you relapse.  

 

Never say never; it doesn't work like that and, if you slip, the destructive self-hatred takes ages to overcome.  Although the struggle eventually becomes easier, the cravings never completely disappear.  Not IME.  

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Im 31 and have been punting since i was 18 and still cant get enough of it!

 

I have an endless list of girls that i have had sex with from bars and clubs, long term relationship girlfriends etc and they have all been within my age range since I was 16. So i dont and never have had a problem with meeting girls. But I have sexual urges for mature women and these are not women that I can meet on the street or bars and clubs. So this is why I punt for mature women so I can get my sexual satisfactions in my secret world.

 

Girls my own age can not satisfy me in the way that an escort can. For example some dont give blowjobs. Or some of the things you may want to do to them they may think you are weird - or they might not be prepared for certain things like you rimming them (they might not be clean!). Another reason is I cant be bothered with all the phone calls and company you have to provide to a girl like going cinema and restaurants etc. I will do them things with a long term girlfriend no one else.

 

So I go on the net - find a mature escort - make a booking - get straight to the point and get what I pay for! Its a service they provide for you and I dont see anything wrong with that - hassle free sex kept nice and discreet.

 

If you have a list of do's.........go ahead and do it! Life is to short for wondering why didnt i do this or that.............

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When you're depressed, life can suck badly and it feels horrible insisde. However, if punting is something you truly enjoy and you want to continue, I see no problem in keeping it going. As long as you don't overspend to the point where you get into money issues, it shouldn't be stopped completely. :)

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For once it was refreshing to read a sincere, genuine and heartfelt post. And it takes a great deal to write down what can be a very personal reflection and experience. Thank you......

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^ Very good advice.  As someone who has had to quit lots of different things, I've found it best to develop a mindset that won't descend into self-loathing the minute you relapse.  

 

Never say never; it doesn't work like that and, if you slip, the destructive self-hatred takes ages to overcome.  Although the struggle eventually becomes easier, the cravings never completely disappear.  Not IME.  

Duly noted, thanks buddy. :-)

Im 31 and have been punting since i was 18 and still cant get enough of it!

 

I have an endless list of girls that i have had sex with from bars and clubs, long term relationship girlfriends etc and they have all been within my age range since I was 16. So i dont and never have had a problem with meeting girls. But I have sexual urges for mature women and these are not women that I can meet on the street or bars and clubs. So this is why I punt for mature women so I can get my sexual satisfactions in my secret world.

 

Girls my own age can not satisfy me in the way that an escort can. For example some dont give blowjobs. Or some of the things you may want to do to them they may think you are weird - or they might not be prepared for certain things like you rimming them (they might not be clean!). Another reason is I cant be bothered with all the phone calls and company you have to provide to a girl like going cinema and restaurants etc. I will do them things with a long term girlfriend no one else.

 

So I go on the net - find a mature escort - make a booking - get straight to the point and get what I pay for! Its a service they provide for you and I dont see anything wrong with that - hassle free sex kept nice and discreet.

 

If you have a list of do's.........go ahead and do it! Life is to short for wondering why didnt i do this or that.............

For sure life is definitely too short to not ride all the rides at the fun fair! And like you I have grown to understand my tastes and urges a lot more and would have no problem seeking out WGs to fulfill my specific desires.

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When you're depressed, life can suck badly and it feels horrible insisde. However, if punting is something you truly enjoy and you want to continue, I see no problem in keeping it going. As long as you don't overspend to the point where you get into money issues, it shouldn't be stopped completely. :)

Punting has definitely grown from a way to plug a hole in my life to a pleasure. And now at 28 I'm much more aware of my likes and dislikes. I'm hoping to make a few lovely ladies I have in mind as regulars, whereas before seeing what's out there.

For once it was refreshing to read a sincere, genuine and heartfelt post. And it takes a great deal to write down what can be a very personal reflection and experience. Thank you......

Thanks romeo :-)

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My view, FWIW. It’s a very personal decision but be totally honest with yourself and take it from there. If you don’t want to punt, then don’t. If you want to, then do. Making a grand declaration of quitting can bring a lot of pressure, which I guess you don’t need. I stopped a few years back simply because it was time. I don’t imagine I’ll want to punt again but if I did I would.

 

Every so often I come on here and have a read of what’s going on and two things strike me. 1, maybe I’m wrong, but it seems as if there’s a lot more discussion of quitting punting or questioning whether to continue than there was before. And 2, the ‘successful’ punters are those that do it purely recreationally and just enjoy it. Either way, people are working out what’s best for them and I hope you do the same. Good luck!

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My view, FWIW. It’s a very personal decision but be totally honest with yourself and take it from there. If you don’t want to punt, then don’t. If you want to, then do. Making a grand declaration of quitting can bring a lot of pressure, which I guess you don’t need. I stopped a few years back simply because it was time. I don’t imagine I’ll want to punt again but if I did I would.

 

Every so often I come on here and have a read of what’s going on and two things strike me. 1, maybe I’m wrong, but it seems as if there’s a lot more discussion of quitting punting or questioning whether to continue than there was before. And 2, the ‘successful’ punters are those that do it purely recreationally and just enjoy it. Either way, people are working out what’s best for them and I hope you do the same. Good luck!

I could see myself taking a break, that's for sure, or at least planning my punts more carefully to maximise my enjoyment. Hence me wanting some regulars. I could see myself as a recreational punter, but would only punt with a girl i know for a couple of hours or more on special occasions.  

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My view, FWIW. It’s a very personal decision but be totally honest with yourself and take it from there. If you don’t want to punt, then don’t. If you want to, then do. Making a grand declaration of quitting can bring a lot of pressure, which I guess you don’t need. I stopped a few years back simply because it was time. I don’t imagine I’ll want to punt again but if I did I would.

 

Every so often I come on here and have a read of what’s going on and two things strike me. 1, maybe I’m wrong, but it seems as if there’s a lot more discussion of quitting punting or questioning whether to continue than there was before. And 2, the ‘successful’ punters are those that do it purely recreationally and just enjoy it. Either way, people are working out what’s best for them and I hope you do the same. Good luck!

 

 

 Good to see you back posting  . 

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As an old guy (the oldest swinger in town :D ), I often think I should pack it in especially as I don't always perform as well as I did 25 years ago. Then I have the good fortune to visit a lady as lovely and kind as Chloe and realize that there is still life in the old dog yet and, whether or not I perform well, I still enjoy the thrill of a punt. Ladies like Chloe make it all worth while.

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I'm currently in the middle of a "should I quit?" type scenario myself. On a recent trip to London I had a fairly rubbish punt, a decent one, and an outstanding one, and I've just gone a whole month not having a punt, only breaking that a few days ago because I had a week to myself and I felt I'd be wasting a window of opportunity if I didn't have at least one punt.

 

The difference between those three punts has made me reassess what I'm looking for out of punting a bit, and I'm now feeling that unless I can pretty much guarantee the punt will be brilliant, I'd rather not waste the money. That would be no barrier if I lived somewhere like London, but as I live in Aberdeen, I'm finding it very difficult to find anyone whose profile really jumps out and grabs me. It's also coincided with me feeling that I need to start saving money a bit more, and my regular girl retiring and moving away. I've got a trip to Frankfurt booked for August to try out the FKK clubs, but after that, I might just pretty much stop. But not out of a sort of "I must quit this terrible habit!" way, just through being more fussy and finding it difficult to find anyone who meets the criteria.

 

(Although having said that, one of my favourite girls recently texted me to say she's touring here next month, and I'll definitely be seeing her again...)

 

Try getting a girlfriend (easier said than done obviously - I know that only too well), and see if you still feel like punting, because deep down I know the main reason I punt is because I'm just looking for female company, and you're maybe the same. One of the reasons I knew the last girl I was seeing wasn't right for me was because I still had an urge to see escorts. That told me that I wasn't ready to stop yet, and was pretty much why I dumped her (also because I thought more about a girl at work - didn't tell her either of those things, obviously...) I also found with a previous girlfriend that as soon as we split up, I felt a surge of relief that I would now be able to see a few escorts I hadn't been able to see before I met my girlfriend. That's when I learned I should just see girls I fancied seeing when I got the chance, rather than putting it off, as you never know what'll happen in your life (or in theirs).

 

In short: see how it goes with not punting, but don't tell yourself that you've stopped, just don't bother making any bookings. If you're ready to stop, you won't feel the urge. And if it's just the urge to get those things off your bucket list, then get them crossed off first, and then see how it goes with just not making bookings.

 

But if you're just stopping for the sake of stopping or because you feel you SHOULD stop, that's never going to work.

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