PeterHoping44

Concluding My Autism Threads...

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I've decided that, I don't have to tell my support workers anything about my business. They aren't allowed to question me. If I have someone over, she's a friend. That's all they'll ever be told. Key stays in the door and I can lock the door in my bedroom anyway. Nobody gets in. Nobody gets any personal information. Nobody is any the wiser. Or there is the No. 9 Sauna round the corner and the Blair Street sauna (not sure if the latter is any good).

 

Happy me. :)

 

But honestly, it is annoying being told I cannot have sex at 27 years of age. :wub::unsure:

 

 

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good for you

 

if anyone tries to interfere with your sex life you should tell them to fuck off

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The noise we'd be making wouldn't give it away?

 

I'll just say it was a horror movie with a sex scene in it. Cheerleader Massacre, anyone? :lol:

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Go for it. No-one should be denied a sex life.

 

But yeah, maybe think about a parlour if noise is an issue.

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...and dont give away your stuff, its your stuff. Just because you dont use it at the moment doenst mean you wont want it in the future. Think about it, if your forking out a hundred quid or so to a girl, she can buy her own stuff on the way home xx

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I decided to go to the sauna on Dundas Street today as I could only afford £60 for half an hour and I used my Viagra. It does work, but it gave me a fever like burning sensation and a headache about 40 minutes to an hour later. I had tried to book a girl on **, but nobody was answering their calls. So off to Dundas Street I went.

 

Saw a bigger lady called Jackie, although she was the only girl in her 20s. The other one I seen looked 30-40. Not really my type, but to each their own. My only complaint was that she stunk of sweat and didn't shower beforehand. Said she was roasting, but it was getting smelly and I didn't want to touch her back. Very cheap for the money, though, and no entrance fee either. Would probably go back (when someone younger and more attractive is in). :)

 

Edit: I don't really like where some of the saunas are situated, in plain view of a busy road. It's...too public. :D

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Executive on Rose Street North probably has the quietest access of all the Edinburgh saunas.

 

Personally I think the Edinburgh saunas mentioned are just about right in terms of visibility, none are on Princes Street or next to the Scott monument, and none are on ultra-quiet cul-de-sacs. Having been told by none other than Chris Dangerfield that I look like a punter when carrying my silver punting bag and asymmetrical smile, my policy now is to face the street and grin before walking into these places. It's legal after all. And better for your health than putting other vices on show such as smoking outside a bookies or a pub. Or shooting up down at Warriston cemetery.

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I decided to go to the sauna on Dundas Street today as I could only afford £60 for half an hour and I used my Viagra. It does work, but it gave me a fever like burning sensation and a headache about 40 minutes to an hour later. I had tried to book a girl on **, but nobody was answering their calls. So off to Dundas Street I went.

 

Saw a bigger lady called Jackie, although she was the only girl in her 20s. The other one I seen looked 30-40. Not really my type, but to each their own. My only complaint was that she stunk of sweat and didn't shower beforehand. Said she was roasting, but it was getting smelly and I didn't want to touch her back. Very cheap for the money, though, and no entrance fee either. Would probably go back (when someone younger and more attractive is in). :)

 

Edit: I don't really like where some of the saunas are situated, in plain view of a busy road. It's...too public. :D

Stunk of sweat, that would of been a terminal problem for me resulting in me leaving, i cant and dont punt with smelly WGs, its the very basics to ensure your clean and smell so.

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Yeah. She was really bad.

 

Will ask for more details next time.

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Nice one.

 

You could try playing loud music to drown out any naughty noises?

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Nae music for me. I find it distracting. I don't even like playing pool when there is loud, annoying music being played. Like in Diane's Pool Hall, the music they play in that place is often just chart crap. But then again, it is Diane's Pool Hall. :)

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Nae music for me. I find it distracting. I don't even like playing pool when there is loud, annoying music being played. Like in Diane's Pool Hall, the music they play in that place is often just chart crap. But then again, it is Diane's Pool Hall. :)

Am I right in thinking people with autism are sensitive to sound?

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Sometimes, I am. Too bad I am not going to the Isle of Arran with my family this week. It's really peaceful there. I went once before in 2008, but I didn't think it was that exciting of a place. It's a great place to stay if you're retired, for it's tranquil. But you'd miss the city life after a while.

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I find it quite confusing you are self-aware to be able to have intelligible discussions on here about these things but at the same time have support workers nosing around in your private life, so it must be a more complicated beast than I imagined.  Agree you should be able to enjoy this hobby and hope you do :).

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I think the problem is that I'm very open about my feelings and what I'm going through, so they'll listen to what I say, but then there is the occasional objectionable reaction to things I've come out and mentioned. Like they have a zero tolerance rule for escorts visiting their service users to pay for sex, because they said that if everybody was doing it, they may get a reputation as running a brothel, which is bollocks.

 

It's best not to tell them anything if it means I'll be getting into trouble. This all started because I blabbed, but what people don't know won't hurt them, so hoist on my own petard yet again. It could just lead to more friction. I like my support staff and because they've gave me a roof to sleep under, I want to keep a healthy relationship with them and their rules may be barf, but they are still their rules.

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I think the problem is that I'm very open about my feelings and what I'm going through, so they'll listen to what I say, but then there is the occasional objectionable reaction to things I've come out and mentioned. Like they have a zero tolerance rule for escorts visiting their service users to pay for sex, because they said that if everybody was doing it, they may get a reputation as running a brothel, which is bollocks.

 

It's best not to tell them anything if it means I'll be getting into trouble. This all started because I blabbed, but what people don't know won't hurt them, so hoist on my own petard yet again. It could just lead to more friction. I like my support staff and because they've gave me a roof to sleep under, I want to keep a healthy relationship with them and their rules may be barf, but they are still their rules.

 

Hi Peter,

 

Please correct me if I am wrong, but don't people with autism generally have a very high libido?  So to ask someone who already has a lot to contend with mentally and emotionally to cut off a vital need for satisfaction in my mind is next to barbaric!  They should at least have alternatives in place if they are not allowing it on the premises, that allow you to have as fulfilling and whole a life as possible and relationships/sex is very normal.

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Never heard that one before. LOL. :lol:

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Hi Peter,

 

Please correct me if I am wrong, but don't people with autism generally have a very high libido?  So to ask someone who already has a lot to contend with mentally and emotionally to cut off a vital need for satisfaction in my mind is next to barbaric!  They should at least have alternatives in place if they are not allowing it on the premises, that allow you to have as fulfilling and whole a life as possible and relationships/sex is very normal.

 

 

Never heard that one before. LOL. :lol:

It can be a feature of some on the spectrum, more so Aspie's than Autie's. Any developmental differences in the Limbic system can increase or suppress those areas associated with pleasure, reward or addiction. Take any two people at the same point on the spectrum and they might show contrary 'quirks'. An abhorrence of being touched is common, equally so are those that find being held tightly is calming and longed for.

 

Any approach should be based upon the individual, and their specific needs and desires. Carers and support staff can have an institutionalized or systematic view,  why sex and disability and an individuals needs rather than the underlying condition, has taken so long to be acknowledged.    

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Hi Peter,

 

Please correct me if I am wrong, but don't people with autism generally have a very high libido?  So to ask someone who already has a lot to contend with mentally and emotionally to cut off a vital need for satisfaction in my mind is next to barbaric!  They should at least have alternatives in place if they are not allowing it on the premises, that allow you to have as fulfilling and whole a life as possible and relationships/sex is very normal.

 

Aren't we only hearing 1 side of the story?

 

IF Peter lives in a community gaff, isn't there potentially a case for "house rules" that limit some activities? I doubt if a " blanket sex ban" has been imposed.... rather a restriction placed on exact places/ times. If you think that's unreasonable in a community gaff.... put yourself in place of somebody in next bedroom listening to "grunts and groans" at 3 in the morning. 

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Am I right in thinking people with autism are sensitive to sound?

 

That is true. At least I am sensitive to sudden very loud sounds. But since a few years I have tinnitus and the sensitivity to very soft sounds decreased.

 

I live in some kind of group home as well. Only the staff is nearby between 8:00 (8:00am) and 21:00 (9:00pm). When I have an escort it will be at 20:00 (8:00pm) at least. Earlier I travelled to WGs but I let them (living not too far away from me) visit me, in order to lower the costs. When I travel to WGs I can book at any date/time I want and she is available.

 

Maybe it is good to read Field Reports in order to avoid unexpected and unpleasant surprises such as stinking WGs. They are supposed to wash themselves prior to the booking in the same way punters are. Hygiene works in both ways in my book. After all potentional STDs don't care about who is the punter and who is the WG or male escort.

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Hi Peter,

 

Please correct me if I am wrong, but don't people with autism generally have a very high libido?  So to ask someone who already has a lot to contend with mentally and emotionally to cut off a vital need for satisfaction in my mind is next to barbaric!  They should at least have alternatives in place if they are not allowing it on the premises, that allow you to have as fulfilling and whole a life as possible and relationships/sex is very normal.

 

I tend to think that people with autism have a different kind of sexuality. During the adolescence period their sexual development is often slower than that of non-autistic people of their age. There are fair amount of autistics that have lower libido or are asexual (not having any sexuality nor any sexual desires). At the other hand autistics have a higher percentage that commit sexual crimes (such as stalking, sexual harassment) compared to non-autistics, AFAIK. At least, I read a lot about these things.

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Aren't we only hearing 1 side of the story?

 

IF Peter lives in a community gaff, isn't there potentially a case for "house rules" that limit some activities? I doubt if a " blanket sex ban" has been imposed.... rather a restriction placed on exact places/ times. If you think that's unreasonable in a community gaff.... put yourself in place of somebody in next bedroom listening to "grunts and groans" at 3 in the morning. 

I doubt his support workers are going to post their views on here so yes we are only hearing Peters side. ;) Peter presumably has his own front door that he can lock, and doesnt live in a dorm, if the case as an adult he can bring anyone back as long as they observe the rules Peter has agreed to observe himself. These will include not being anti-social which causing noise in the early hours is, so consideration for any neighbours is required, but i dont scream a WGs place down out of courtesy and discretion to her when i punt, so if Peter and the WG use their common sense it shouldnt be a problem. Plus why does he need to punt in the early hours anyway. :)

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I tend to think that people with autism have a different kind of sexuality. During the adolescence period their sexual development is often slower than that of non-autistic people of their age. There are fair amount of autistics that have lower libido or are asexual (not having any sexuality nor any sexual desires). At the other hand autistics have a higher percentage that commit sexual crimes (such as stalking, sexual harassment) compared to non-autistics, AFAIK. At least, I read a lot about these things.

 

Hi Peter,

 

Please correct me if I am wrong, but don't people with autism generally have a very high libido?  So to ask someone who already has a lot to contend with mentally and emotionally to cut off a vital need for satisfaction in my mind is next to barbaric!  They should at least have alternatives in place if they are not allowing it on the premises, that allow you to have as fulfilling and whole a life as possible and relationships/sex is very normal.

 

Hi Kate

 

I have Asperger's syndrome and I can tell you most autistic people have low sex drive.  People with Asperger's syndrome do want love/affection and sex.  That's the difference.  And people with Aspergers/Autism quite frequently have a dual diagnosis with depression.  So G.P.s prescribe anti-depressants, some of which destroy your sex drive to practically zero (it happened to me).  Now my medication has been lowered my sexual desire has come back but I have problems with getting hard. 

 

Also some people Autistics have problems with affection and are either inappropriate affectionate or wince every time they're touched.   I have to say Peter, the escort I went to see was so good and so understanding that I left her flat floating on a cloud. 

 

So as a fellow person on the spectrum I would say research the escort thoroughly and make sure she has fantastic reports.  (I had a terrible experience about ten years ago that made my skin crawl all over because it was so terrible).  And maybe in the future you could see them regularly and build up a relationship.

 

But be warned.  Being Aspergeric means I tend to get obsessive and I tend to pursue these things to the Nth degree.  Its not a subsitute for a real relationship and it never will be.  But maybe for people like me and you its a necessary step.  And anyone who judges us can put a blindfold on and walk across the motorway.

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G.P.s prescribe anti-depressants, some of which destroy your sex drive to practically zero

 

 

My sex drive wasn't affected by anti-depressants however I was unable to get hard no matter how turned on I was. I didn't even get "morning glory" erections when I woke up. It took about an entire year after coming off them I could get an erection again without the help of levitra.

 

Interestingly my GP said she didn't think the anti-depressants caused my ED, she said "oh you must just be nervous" and wanted me to go back on anti-depressants (despite the fact I'm not even depressed).

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My sex drive wasn't affected by anti-depressants however I was unable to get hard no matter how turned on I was. I didn't even get "morning glory" erections when I woke up. It took about an entire year after coming off them I could get an erection again without the help of levitra.

 

Interestingly my GP said she didn't think the anti-depressants caused my ED, she said "oh you must just be nervous" and wanted me to go back on anti-depressants (despite the fact I'm not even depressed).

 

Which anti-depressant were you on?  A lot of the newer SSRI (Selective Serotonin Re-Uptake Inhibitors) have sexual side-effects. Including loss of libido, erectile dysfunction and anorgasmia (inability to achieve orgasm).

 

And a massive problem is SSRI Discontinuation Syndrome because the half-life is so short.  There have been rare cases of people who have had persistent problems with sexual function and your Dr telling you you're just "nervous" is frankly insensitive and bloody dismissive. 

 

In fact one SSRI called Effexor Venlafaxaline is considered to have so many detrimental side effects there was a petition on the internet to get the Pharmaceutical company who own the patents to disclose some of the side effects they fail to mention in the literature. 

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