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FredsterKesh

First No Alcohol Punt ... Ever

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Yep. I have NEVER ever had a punt without having had at least 2-3 drinks before the punt and another couple with the WG during the punt. My punts tend to have a "party" like feel to them and I always tell the WGs that my only rule is that you come to my place, you party with me! :)

 

It has been awesome so far, mainly because I am sooo relaxed when the lady comes over and then I sweat it out (+adrenalin) so I am in that lovely sweet spot between soberness and drunkenness where I am physically alert and performing, but mentally I am tipsy (and so is the lady at this point) and we tend to have incredible sex with no inhibitions at all.

 

This will all change this week as I have a punt coming up early this week and I am not allowed to drink (due to ongoing tummy problems I am facing - see ibs thread lol).

 

So naturally I am a little nervous, I almost "don't know" how to go through with a punt without alcohol. With alcohol not an option, I feel this can either go super well or go super bad!

 

What do you guys suggest?!

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I think the fact you think you 'can't' do something without alcohol should be more of a worry than anything else. That's not a healthy relationship with alcohol you have.

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I think the fact you think you 'can't' do something without alcohol should be more of a worry than anything else. That's not a healthy relationship with alcohol you have.

 

Spare me the judgement please. I only ever drink alcohol when I'm punting, and maybe once a month with friends. That means I drink alcohol 4-5 times a month, hardly an addiction.

 

But when it comes to punting, it's just been a tradition of sorts, and ladies also like it as it makes them more relaxed too...

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Absolutely agree with you there Lydia. I don't drink very often and never when I'm driving which I generally am when I punt because I only do incalls. But to have to be tipsy in order to have a good time? No way.

I had a boss once who couldn't accept the idea that I could have a good time without being drunk. He was an alcoholic. It's not the alcohol that makes it a good time. It's the person that you're with. I've seen plenty of people drunk and miserable. It wasn't the drink that made them miserable it was the company they were in.

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I was offering genuine concern on a question you asked on a public forum.

Your defensiveness is interesting. I didn't say you had an addiction.

Oh and many ladies don't especially like clients rocking up stinking of booze.

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Hmm that was abit defensive..I don't think she was saying it was an addiction but it seems to be a habit to drink before and during a punt.Most girls might enjoy a glass if wine but they certainly don't really need to drink to get relaxed,they are professional ladies there to provide a service.

I think it will be good for you to enjoy your time without booze.

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Spare me the judgement please. I only ever drink alcohol when I'm punting, and maybe once a month with friends. That means I drink alcohol 4-5 times a month, hardly an addiction....

That wasn't the impression that you gave with your original post.

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I think it could be usefu to see whether cutting out alcohol makes a difference to your IBS symptoms. I think we can all become used to doing things a certain way, and in apppropriate circumstance a change can be good.

Frequency has nothing to do with addiction or dependency - it's the effects and relationship a person has with the behaviour which is the determining factor.

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I don't think I was being very defensive but her reply was on the offensive so naturally I had to defend myself! :P

 

I'm not saying you need alcohol to have a good time, although I think when you are meeting someone for the first time and are nervous/looking forward to it, a couple of drinks eases the tension for both of you.

 

But you may be right, it might be that it is all in my head and you really do not need it to have a good time. We'll find out soon...

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I've never punted whilst under the influence apart from one time in Berlin when I was so drunk I was embarrassed for me and the wg and asked for massage only.

Since then I've always been sober and often refused wine when it's been offered to me. I see no reason to be anything other than sober.

As an aside i don't think Lydia was attacking you in any way, merely offering her honest opinion. If you're drinking out of nervousness at meeting a WG, somebody who you are guaranteed to have fun with and who will cater to your needs willingly, is it even more difficult for you to approach women who aren't in that profession?

They're human beings like you, no need to be nervous.

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I've never punted whilst under the influence apart from one time in Berlin when I was so drunk I was embarrassed for me and the wg and asked for massage only.

Since then I've always been sober and often refused wine when it's been offered to me. I see no reason to be anything other than sober.

As an aside i don't think Lydia was attacking you in any way, merely offering her honest opinion. If you're drinking out of nervousness at meeting a WG, somebody who you are guaranteed to have fun with and who will cater to your needs willingly, is it even more difficult for you to approach women who aren't in that profession?

They're human beings like you, no need to be nervous.

 

It's apples and oranges really...

 

In any case, it's not so much nervousness, I think it is more positive anticipation.

 

As I said, it's a bit of a tradition. Started the first time I ever punted (incidentally it was in Amsterdam and I was high as well lol - it was awful). And then it kind of followed on, I relate sex and alcohol together in my head for some reason. A part of me thinks sober sex is lame as I've tried it before and didn't like it...

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It's apples and oranges really...

 

In any case, it's not so much nervousness, I think it is more positive anticipation.

 

As I said, it's a bit of a tradition. Started the first time I ever punted (incidentally it was in Amsterdam and I was high as well lol - it was awful). And then it kind of followed on, I relate sex and alcohol together in my head for some reason. A part of me thinks sober sex is lame as I've tried it before and didn't like it...

Without wanting to sound like a psychotherapist I think that that association in your mind might be a bit off the mark. I've always had the opposite association. The idea of sex after a few drinks grosses me out and I can think of a few one night stands borne out of drunkenness (although I know you're not talking about being drunk per se) that make me cringe just thinking about them.

If the atmosphere is right then I naturally relax with a massage (which is often reciprocated on my part) and not by drinking.

But each to their own like you said I guess.

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Without wanting to sound like a psychotherapist I think that that association in your mind might be a bit off the mark. I've always had the opposite association. The idea of sex after a few drinks grosses me out and I can think of a few one night stands borne out of drunkenness (although I know you're not talking about being drunk per se) that make me cringe just thinking about them.

If the atmosphere is right then I naturally relax with a massage (which is often reciprocated on my part) and not by drinking.

But each to their own like you said I guess.

 

Yeah definitely not talking about that level of drunkenness, that is not cool I agree, I'm talking about the 'merry' phase really. :)

 

But I think it will be an interesting experiment, there is nothing that I would like more than to discover that punting without alcohol is actually much better than punting with it!! :)

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 I think it will be an interesting experiment, there is nothing that I would like more than to discover that punting without alcohol is actually much better than punting with it!! :)

 

I think that the vast majority of posters would like nothing better than for you to come back on here in the near future and tell us that you had an absolutely fantastic time.     In fact I think we would be very surprised if you didn't say that.    Possibly with a lady that you've had a good time with before so that you can compare?

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This will all change this week as I have a punt coming up early this week and I am not allowed to drink (due to ongoing tummy problems I am facing - see ibs thread lol).

 

 

Sorry Fred.   Wrote the post above before re-reading your original post. :blink:    Have a good time.

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Sorry Fred.   Wrote the post above before re-reading your original post. :blink:    Have a good time.

 

Thanks mate.

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I'm sure Lydia was trying to be judgemental, if you read her other posts you will see she is just a considerate person.

 

As to your upcoming punt, the main thing is to look forward to it and approached in a relaxed way, find another way to get into the right state of mind.    That might be taking a walk in park, reading a book,  going to the gym or what ever else you like to do to relax.  As a rule I now don't drink at or before punts but in my early days I when I did suffer a little with some pre-punt jitters and once or twice had a quite pint in a local.  However what I found best was to take a really long relaxing soak in very hot bath until it got cold before I left, or long ambling walk to nowhere in the local park.

 

Above all look forward to it, think positive and be relaxed.

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Yep. I have NEVER ever had a punt without having had at least 2-3 drinks before the punt and another couple with the WG during the punt. My punts tend to have a "party" like feel to them and I always tell the WGs that my only rule is that you come to my place, you party with me! :)

 

It has been awesome so far, mainly because I am sooo relaxed when the lady comes over and then I sweat it out (+adrenalin) so I am in that lovely sweet spot between soberness and drunkenness where I am physically alert and performing, but mentally I am tipsy (and so is the lady at this point) and we tend to have incredible sex with no inhibitions at all.

 

This will all change this week as I have a punt coming up early this week and I am not allowed to drink (due to ongoing tummy problems I am facing - see ibs thread lol).

 

So naturally I am a little nervous, I almost "don't know" how to go through with a punt without alcohol. With alcohol not an option, I feel this can either go super well or go super bad!

 

What do you guys suggest?!

Just enjoy the anticipation and have fun. In my younger days i virtually never punted without being drunk or stoned, often both, i had some great times, those that i can now recall, but punting straight i have found better.

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Just enjoy the anticipation and have fun. In my younger days i virtually never punted without being drunk or stoned, often both, i had some great times, those that i can now recall, but punting straight i have found better.

 

Thanks man! I totally get the age argument.

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I'm sure Lydia was trying to be judgemental, if you read her other posts you will see she is just a considerate person.

 

As to your upcoming punt, the main thing is to look forward to it and approached in a relaxed way, find another way to get into the right state of mind.    That might be taking a walk in park, reading a book,  going to the gym or what ever else you like to do to relax.  As a rule I now don't drink at or before punts but in my early days I when I did suffer a little with some pre-punt jitters and once or twice had a quite pint in a local.  However what I found best was to take a really long relaxing soak in very hot bath until it got cold before I left, or long ambling walk to nowhere in the local park.

 

Above all look forward to it, think positive and be relaxed.

 

Thanks!

 

I normally take a long hot shower then just listen to some chill out, smooth jazz or miles davis while drinking whiskey (single malt :)) until the girl arrives. So I'm so in the chill zone at that point. I then offer the girl a drink and we start to get to know each other. Hence why I am wondering how to get in that mindset without alcohol, but I will try the walking thing.

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I'm sure Lydia was trying to be judgemental, if you read her other posts you will see she is just a considerate person.

 

I bet she is, I apologize to Lydia if my post came out a bit too strong. I just felt immediately judged in a wrong way, you know...

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I'm sure Lydia was trying to be judgemental, if you read her other posts you will see she is just a considerate person.

 

Should read:  I'm sure Lydia WASN'T trying to be judgemental.

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Sorry triple post! Stupid phone!

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No she wasn't meaning to sound judgemental! Apology accepted and I didnt mean to imply you were a raging alcoholic!

It is very liberating when you realise you can have a good time in life without alcohol. I spent my youth using alcohol as a confidence booster so I do sort of know where Fredster is coming from.

As has been suggested, just go with the flow and with a good escort or one you know well you should feel relaxed and still enjoy the session.

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Damn double post. Sorry.

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