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Services That You 'need' To Pay For

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Similar to some other posts, I know, but a meeting planned for today made me question what I get from punting, what others get from it and what Ladies feel they need to offer.

 

Setting aside the at discretion debate and the safety aspects, I 'need' to pay for oral sex and cim as my Wife no longer has an interest or desire for these things.

 

Indeed, over my 25 year punting career, my punting experience has almost always been French kissing, reverse O, fingering, owo, cim and where offered, snowballing. Swallowing is, I find less of a turn on as there is no visual effect, whereas snowballing and dribbling cum down my shaft is visually erotic, I find. Facials are good for the visual effect.

 

My latest lady deosn't offer cim, but I am drawn to her for services other than those I have nearly always gone for such as fucking (her term).

 

So do you punters punt for things that you don't get at home, or for those that you used to? Do you Ladies offer services that you feel you 'must' in order to get the Punters?

 

 

 

 

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Well lets be honest here generally in our personal lives our partners rarely require us to take a facial or dribble their cum down there shafts on a regular basis.That is not to say that I for one will engage in services I find abhorrent ir uncomfortable such as anal for example.However I will provide services that I either enjoy or don't mind doing so Bibi personal life I wouldn't be deepthroating and cimming everyday but I appreciate that like yourself alot if blokes want services that they won't get at home such as variants of oral abd places they can cum.As much as some clients like it to be mutual it is indeed their treat and indulgence.

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I personally offer the services I am comfortable doing with clients. I'm actually far kinkier in my private life, but many of the things I do with my partner I wouldn't want to offer to clients. I would never offer things I don't want to because I feel I 'must'.

 

i do think the OP has a point though, I think men do book escorts not because they are not getting sex at home, but because they do want things their partner doesn't enjoy. 

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i do think the OP has a point though, I think men do book escorts not because they are not getting sex at home, but because they do want things their partner doesn't enjoy. 

 

Nailed it there Lydia.  :)   hole in one.    :D

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 I'm actually far kinkier in my private life, but many of the things I do with my partner I wouldn't want to offer to clients. 

 

It's statements like that that make men like me want to see you Lydia.     Not because we want to attempt to get you do with us what you do in your private life but because it shows a sense of adventure on your part.      Punting is an adventure.  :D

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Well I think Lydia is partially right.

 

Sex with Mrs T is spasmodic at best.

 

An example. Friday lunchtime she made interesting suggestions, but by Saturday afternoon and with a house to ourselves, it had fizzled out - as usual. So I cracked on with the decorating.

 

It is becuase of what I could unfairly call the 'stick and carrot' approach that Mrs T applies (and is unaware of) that I go out and pay for sex when the urge takes me, and there's the bonus of chosing some real lookers with ace bodies that one would not stand a chance with in a more familar chat up scenario.

 

But it's also because the escort will allow me to do things Mrs T won't countenance. EG: Mrs T aint keen on foreplay, giving oral or for a CIM finish, whereas I find it a real turn on, and its for both reasons Lydia stated that I indulge. I cant pitch up and get on with it, I have my own routine to work through !

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I believe it is the character John Self, in Martin Amiss' 'Money' who states that the one thing your wife can't give you, is a change from your wife.

 

I punt to have sex with different women, simple as that.  In particular, it is about having sex with attractive girls as I am afraid to say, after 20 years of marriage, that my wife just doesn't excite me anymore, physically.

 

If it's great sex, then great.  If it's new / adventurous / something I couldn't get oustside of punting, then absolutely bring it on.

 

Ultimately, however, it is simply about having sex with young, beautiful women. :)

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I personally offer the services I am comfortable doing with clients. I'm actually far kinkier in my private life, but many of the things I do with my partner I wouldn't want to offer to clients. I would never offer things I don't want to because I feel I 'must'.

 

i do think the OP has a point though, I think men do book escorts not because they are not getting sex at home, but because they do want things their partner doesn't enjoy. 

And what porn shows us is the 'norm'?

 

I reckon those Aliens in the Smash advert must be puzzled as to why we mate by sticking our willies in a Ladies mouth/bottom and then cumming all over their boobs/faces, rather then in their pussies!

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.....I'm actually far kinkier in my private life, but many of the things I do with my partner I wouldn't want to offer to clients..........

 

 

But perhaps you could tell us about them  :)

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And what porn shows us is the 'norm'?

 

I reckon those Aliens in the Smash advert must be puzzled as to why we mate by sticking our willies in a Ladies mouth/bottom and then cumming all over their boobs/faces, rather then in their pussies!

Did I mention porn?! I don't think it tends to be services that are particularly porny- I have men who have told me their wives don't like receiving oral sex for example! However, I take your point that in some cases men are influenced by porn. 

 

 

But perhaps you could tell us about them  :)

 

No! :) 

Of course if a client is interested I might tell him face to face and for some trusted clients I do do things I don't say I offer! 

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What Lydia said is interesting too. I met several ladies who didn't advertise certain services but told me they like them and wouldn't mind providing them to the "right" guy with the addendum "who knows what he is doing". So I guess talk it over with her and you might pass the "right guy" test...

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What Lydia said is interesting too. I met several ladies who didn't advertise certain services but told me they like them and wouldn't mind providing them to the "right" guy with the addendum "who knows what he is doing". So I guess talk it over with her and you might pass the "right guy" test...

Yet another example why punting and being a service provider is not an exact science! 

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Yet another example why punting and being a service provider is not an exact science! 

 

Yeah I agree, I think the key is good communication and not sounding too desperate. If a girl likes it and thinks you can do it because she trusts you, it doesn't matter if it's advertised or not. I think some punters take those "likes" lists a little bit too biblicaly.

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For certain reasons i'm in a situation at the moment that mean a relationship is off the cards.Now going without sex isnt something that overly bothers me having had a long period of abstenance in the past.I do however find punting fun and relaxing,and for someone like me who finds relaxing and unwinding very difficult its a godsend.Add to that there are some absolutely amazing ladies out there.
Back to the question.Things i need to pay for.That would be a fun relaxing time with a lovely ladyIdon't have a "list" of things when i go into a meet and am pretty much happy to just let things proceed as they do,so theres nothing service wise i could say.
 

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First and foremost what i am after is any kind of sex, as I have not had any at home for about 5 years and it was very intermittent before that. Downhill all the way you might say. So the first thing, when you are starting from such a low baseline, is that anything is better than nothing. But it just so happens that you can meet very willing providers who go a long way beyond the basics and are happy doing so. there are women who want their boundaries to be pushed a bit, women who watch porn playing with a vibe before they go to bed, you name it, it's out there. I have had encounters that, allowing for my disgraceful physique, would have looked pretty tasty on film, and that's not through I or or the provider being influenced by porn its being influenced by ourselves, and just going with the flow. I go with girls who go like rabbbits. who do every service in the book, and others who are much more reserved, but its all great, as long as its enjoyed by both parties. Just treat each other with respect, as persons and in relation to boundaries, and enjoy. I know I do.

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Don't want to sound like a wuss - too many of my posts have already confirmed I am - but the sex isn't the main thing for me.

 

With my fave I am as likely to visit, chat and leave some money on the side and no sex.

 

I really value the type of friendship that a close, trusting relationship which involves sex but not every time gives.

 

And I have had lots of those over the years.

 

For my personality, while that is like a marriage/long-term relationship in civvy street in some respects, it's the one that suits me.

 

I would hate the wondering if my wife would 'let' me have sex when i fancied it and that is just one part of not wanting a commitment despite losing out on so much obviously.

 

And I do think it also means SPs do things with me they don't do with everyone as it's on the way to being a real relationship (only on the way, I realise).

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I never offered what i didn't enjoy.

 

Then again I never advertised stuff I wasn't prepared to offer everyone. (Hygiene permitting)

 

There was times I did CIM, but I never could tell when I fancied giving it a go or not, and All clients, who did get to experience CIM & swallow were asked if they are doing a report to please keep it out of the report, as I wasn't prepared to do it with every gent that crossed my path.

 

So I think on the whole I never felt under pressure because it was never advertised.

 

There was one or two from here who after a post similar to this did ask, but were told no, so even then.

 

I can understand where you are coming from in your question though, ladies can and do feel under pressure to perform certain services as they compete with other ladies.

 

 

And Clients can be complete assholes at times.

 

I remember one who used to see me and another regularly... he would say to me, Oh so & so does this and does it this way, then he would tell her the same thing.

 

And that included services offered. She offered CIM and I didn't and I offered Anal and she didn't he always tried to get the service from the one who didn't offer it, by citing that the other did it.

 

I eventually ended up on a shift with the girl, and as he'd come into see her that day, I clocked him, and happened to say to her, oh so your the other lady, and we ended up having a LOOOONG conversation about him.

 

in the end we both banned him for being a cock.

 

one of those things.

 

Some people just can't help themselves, and others are as sweet as can be.

 

human nature :)

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And Clients can be complete assholes at times.

 

But ladies can be assholes at times as well. :D

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But ladies can be assholes at times as well. :D

 

 

All that typing and that was all you took. 

 

Since you need to have me justify my post, and I have a public image to protect: *Sigh*

 

 

Some people just can't help themselves, and others are as sweet as can be.

 

human nature  :)

 

qualified what I said in original post * sigh* 

 

(for the people who can't see this is tongue in cheek, rest assured I got Gibbs Joke and am extracting the urine)

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All that typing and that was all you took. 

Yup, it happens!

 

I take your points: my latest lass doesn't advertise some services, not even at discretion, she waits to see if she is prepared to offer them in the heat of the moment. I have not reported them in any reports.

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