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Told Me She'd Be Around, But Silence Since - Should I Wait Or Book Someone Else?

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Okay, I dare say this won't be an unusual situation, but I just want to vent somewhere.

 

Basically, there's a girl I've seen a few times (three, I think) who I always try to book when she's in the area. She sent me a text about a month ago saying she was coming to Scotland and would be in Aberdeen on "06.05". I replied to say I'd see her, but then "06.05" came and went without her appearing (she appears to be in Edinburgh though, and has been since she came to Scotland). Initially I wondered if maybe she meant "June 5th" rather than "6th May", so I texted her to ask if she was around yet, just to check. No reply. Texted her about a week later, and again, no reply.

 

I'm not sure if I should get in touch with her again or not. I want to see her, cos she's fantastic and we really get along well, but I'm wary of pissing her off by sending loads of texts. But on the other hand, I kind of feel like I'm owed at least some sort of response, if only because she contacted me first - presumably she wouldn't have gotten in touch in the first place if she didn't want me to come and see her?

 

As a result, I find myself holding back on booking any punts with other girls until I know what's happening, which I wouldn't have done if she'd not texted me in the first place. Do I give her one last text and then book someone else if she doesn't reply, or do I wait a little bit longer, in case she DID mean June 5th?

 

Urgh, this sounds like some teenager magazine's letters page dilemma... Well, sort of.

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Silly question,but if youre that desperate to find out/talk to her etc why don't you just phone her?

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Silly question,but if youre that desperate to find out/talk to her etc why don't you just phone her?

I'd do this, once, then move on if no response.

Sometimes texts go astray as I discovered a few weeks ago.

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Phone then you'll know for sure, as above texts can go missing or get accidentally deleted - and this is a classic situation illustrating how text messages can also go misunderstood.

 

Does she also not have a website with information on it?

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Okay, I dare say this won't be an unusual situation, but I just want to vent somewhere.

 

Basically, there's a girl I've seen a few times (three, I think) who I always try to book when she's in the area. She sent me a text about a month ago saying she was coming to Scotland and would be in Aberdeen on "06.05". I replied to say I'd see her, but then "06.05" came and went without her appearing (she appears to be in Edinburgh though, and has been since she came to Scotland). Initially I wondered if maybe she meant "June 5th" rather than "6th May", so I texted her to ask if she was around yet, just to check. No reply. Texted her about a week later, and again, no reply.

 

I'm not sure if I should get in touch with her again or not. I want to see her, cos she's fantastic and we really get along well, but I'm wary of pissing her off by sending loads of texts. But on the other hand, I kind of feel like I'm owed at least some sort of response, if only because she contacted me first - presumably she wouldn't have gotten in touch in the first place if she didn't want me to come and see her?

 

As a result, I find myself holding back on booking any punts with other girls until I know what's happening, which I wouldn't have done if she'd not texted me in the first place. Do I give her one last text and then book someone else if she doesn't reply, or do I wait a little bit longer, in case she DID mean June 5th?

 

Urgh, this sounds like some teenager magazine's letters page dilemma... Well, sort of.

As others have posted i would also ring her to find out the situation. Who knows what might of happened, for example she might be really busy where she is so has extended her stay there.

 

Personally i never get hung up on an individual WG nowadays, if they are about great, if not i go elsewhere. However, i do know how good a regular can be and its always a shame when they retire or disappear, often without a word which has occured numerous times over the years.

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Well this is the thing - my regular has just moved away permanently so there's a bit of a gap left, and this girl would certainly fill it. An amazing punt in London a few months ago has been followed up by a couple of so-so ones, which has made me rethink what it is I'm really looking for from punting - as a result I've been far pickier since, but she's very much a safe bet, hence the keenness to see her.

I dunno, I'd kind of feel a wee bit cheeky phoning when she's not actually in the area yet, but I suppose her contacting me first makes it a bit different from just phoning up a girl randomly and demanding to know when they'll be around! She has a website, but I don't think she updates it because it says she's still in Belfast, and when I've emailed before her response rate is a bit random...

To be honest, if she wasn't so good, I'd have give up on her long ago because she's always saying she'd love to do chat online and send me pictures of her village etc, only to come up with excuses (can't get the internet at home, her laptop was stolen etc). And our last booking ended up being cancelled because she apparently had her period, even though I then saw her profile in Edinburgh the next day. I always assume it's bullshit, but you never know...

I like to think of her as "flaky, but nice"...

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Well this is the thing - my regular has just moved away permanently so there's a bit of a gap left, and this girl would certainly fill it. An amazing punt in London a few months ago has been followed up by a couple of so-so ones, which has made me rethink what it is I'm really looking for from punting - as a result I've been far pickier since, but she's very much a safe bet, hence the keenness to see her.

I dunno, I'd kind of feel a wee bit cheeky phoning when she's not actually in the area yet, but I suppose her contacting me first makes it a bit different from just phoning up a girl randomly and demanding to know when they'll be around! She has a website, but I don't think she updates it because it says she's still in Belfast, and when I've emailed before her response rate is a bit random...

To be honest, if she wasn't so good, I'd have give up on her long ago because she's always saying she'd love to do chat online and send me pictures of her village etc, only to come up with excuses (can't get the internet at home, her laptop was stolen etc). And our last booking ended up being cancelled because she apparently had her period, even though I then saw her profile in Edinburgh the next day. I always assume it's bullshit, but you never know...

I like to think of her as "flaky, but nice"...

She is a business woman at the end of the day.  She probably sent out lots of texts and got booked, not needing to provide you with an explanation !  After all there was no booking as as such was there?

 

Get back in touch - this should be fine.  You know - she probably didn't even give you a second thought, especially if she is very busy x

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Well this is the thing - my regular has just moved away permanently so there's a bit of a gap left, and this girl would certainly fill it. An amazing punt in London a few months ago has been followed up by a couple of so-so ones, which has made me rethink what it is I'm really looking for from punting - as a result I've been far pickier since, but she's very much a safe bet, hence the keenness to see her.

I dunno, I'd kind of feel a wee bit cheeky phoning when she's not actually in the area yet, but I suppose her contacting me first makes it a bit different from just phoning up a girl randomly and demanding to know when they'll be around! She has a website, but I don't think she updates it because it says she's still in Belfast, and when I've emailed before her response rate is a bit random...

To be honest, if she wasn't so good, I'd have give up on her long ago because she's always saying she'd love to do chat online and send me pictures of her village etc, only to come up with excuses (can't get the internet at home, her laptop was stolen etc). And our last booking ended up being cancelled because she apparently had her period, even though I then saw her profile in Edinburgh the next day. I always assume it's bullshit, but you never know...

I like to think of her as "flaky, but nice"...

I dont see it as in anyway cheeky, your after her service, phoning her to find out about it is perfectly fine in my view. I would of gone elsewhere by now as i would assume its bullshit to and i cant be bothered with such people. I require reliable and good, flaky is not a good trait in my experience,

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She is a business woman at the end of the day.  She probably sent out lots of texts and got booked, not needing to provide you with an explanation !  After all there was no booking as as such was there?

 

Get back in touch - this should be fine.  You know - she probably didn't even give you a second thought, especially if she is very busy x

Ha,ha -- you are a very cruel woman, probably right but very cruel ! :D

@ OP , any 'magic' is gone. Forget her .

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Ha,ha -- you are a very cruel woman, probably right but very cruel ! :D

@ OP , any 'magic' is gone. Forget her .

Not meaning to be cruel but the written word can sometimes be very very cruel and harsh!

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Not meaning to be cruel but the written word can sometimes be very very cruel and harsh!

Well you composed it, either you intended it as cruel or you didn't? :huh:

 

Cruel though is exactly what business (all business) is when we are not the ones benefiting from it.

 

The first rule of punt club is never get hung up on an escort. However, so many seem to place little value on such rules.

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I didn't see it as being particularly cruel - then again, I have a quite a high threshold for insults! :P

 

And just to reiterate - it's not that I'm particularly hung up on her, just that I know she's exactly what I'm looking for in a punt at the moment, so I'd rather not spend my money on an unknown girl that ends up being substandard if I know I can get a guaranteed good time if I just hang on for a couple of days extra. Besides, I've got a couple of weeks holiday coming up, which is when I'm saving up my punting money for, so I'm happy to wait a bit - but if she appeared before that, I'd make an excuse to go see her.

 

I think I'll maybe try phoning her tomorrow (her profile has today as her last day in Edinburgh), and if she doesn't pick up, I'll maybe text her saying "I was just wanting to know if it was worth waiting for you to get here, or if I should just book another girl. But if you're not going to answer calls or texts, then I suppose I have my answer..." or words to that effect.

 

And true, when all's said and done, she's an escort looking for business. But I still think it's common courtesy to reply to someone if you were the one to initiate contact in the first place, regardless of the scenario... Otherwise, it's like phoning someone up and then not bothering to speak!

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I didn't see it as being particularly cruel - then again, I have a quite a high threshold for insults! :P

 

And just to reiterate - it's not that I'm particularly hung up on her, just that I know she's exactly what I'm looking for in a punt at the moment, so I'd rather not spend my money on an unknown girl that ends up being substandard if I know I can get a guaranteed good time if I just hang on for a couple of days extra. Besides, I've got a couple of weeks holiday coming up, which is when I'm saving up my punting money for, so I'm happy to wait a bit - but if she appeared before that, I'd make an excuse to go see her.

 

I think I'll maybe try phoning her tomorrow (her profile has today as her last day in Edinburgh), and if she doesn't pick up, I'll maybe text her saying "I was just wanting to know if it was worth waiting for you to get here, or if I should just book another girl. But if you're not going to answer calls or texts, then I suppose I have my answer..." or words to that effect.

 

And true, when all's said and done, she's an escort looking for business. But I still think it's common courtesy to reply to someone if you were the one to initiate contact in the first place, regardless of the scenario... Otherwise, it's like phoning someone up and then not bothering to speak!

I wouldnt say that in a text or on the phone myself. I would just say "hi its **** here, are you about in the next week as i want to see you". I wouldnt mention other WGs.

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Wouldn't be the first time someone has sent a text message to the wrong number. Easily done.

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I'll maybe text her saying "I was just wanting to know if it was worth waiting for you to get here, or if I should just book another girl. But if you're not going to answer calls or texts, then I suppose I have my answer..." or words to that effect. !

You do want to see her again don't you?

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Wouldn't be the first time someone has sent a text message to the wrong number. Easily done.

 

Not in this case however - she used my name, and it's not exactly a common name like Steve or John :P

 

You do want to see her again don't you?

 

Ideally, aye. But if she's just going to text me to say "hey I'm here!" and then ignore my responses, then I'd rather she just didn't text in the first place, to be honest. I don't really see how it's any different to a punter texting a SP asking about their services, only to not bother following through with a booking.

 

And anyway, some folk would say she shouldn't even have texted me out of the blue in the first place - I've no problem with it, but only if it's not just messing about.

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I didn't see it as being particularly cruel - then again, I have a quite a high threshold for insults! :P

 

And just to reiterate - it's not that I'm particularly hung up on her, just that I know she's exactly what I'm looking for in a punt at the moment, so I'd rather not spend my money on an unknown girl that ends up being substandard if I know I can get a guaranteed good time if I just hang on for a couple of days extra. Besides, I've got a couple of weeks holiday coming up, which is when I'm saving up my punting money for, so I'm happy to wait a bit - but if she appeared before that, I'd make an excuse to go see her.

 

I think I'll maybe try phoning her tomorrow (her profile has today as her last day in Edinburgh), and if she doesn't pick up, I'll maybe text her saying "I was just wanting to know if it was worth waiting for you to get here, or if I should just book another girl. But if you're not going to answer calls or texts, then I suppose I have my answer..." or words to that effect.

 

And true, when all's said and done, she's an escort looking for business. But I still think it's common courtesy to reply to someone if you were the one to initiate contact in the first place, regardless of the scenario... Otherwise, it's like phoning someone up and then not bothering to speak!

Just to reiterate Smiths,don't include that bit at all.To me,that just makes you sound petulant and you'll probably get an earful.

That part also makes it look like this is bothering you far more than you're admitting to

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Just to reiterate Smiths,don't include that bit at all.To me,that just makes you sound petulant and you'll probably get an earful.

That part also makes it look like this is bothering you far more than you're admitting to

 

I've no doubt I could word it better - I gave up trying to think of a less blunt of putting it after rewriting it for the 5th time. But if I try to get in contact another couple of times and she still doesn't reply, I would certainly like to get across the message that, while I'm willing to wait a few extra days if I know she'll be coming eventually, I'm not about to wait indefinitely - especially as there's no guarantee she'll even come here at all.

 

The only thing that bothers me is the possibility that I might go blowing my punting budget on someone else who ends up being a bit rubbish, only for her to appear the next day. That'd be REALLY annoying!

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I've no doubt I could word it better - I gave up trying to think of a less blunt of putting it after rewriting it for the 5th time. But if I try to get in contact another couple of times and she still doesn't reply, I would certainly like to get across the message that, while I'm willing to wait a few extra days if I know she'll be coming eventually, I'm not about to wait indefinitely - especially as there's no guarantee she'll even come here at all.

 

The only thing that bothers me is the possibility that I might go blowing my punting budget on someone else who ends up being a bit rubbish, only for her to appear the next day. That'd be REALLY annoying!

Well you'll know if and when she's coming when you ring her. If you ring up and she answers and you come across like that she'll probably just think forget it. You want to see this lady so a simple polite 'Hi there, You texted me about coming to sosandso on such and such a date..I was wondering when you are in fact around my way again'.

But no she shouldn't really have texted you in the first place to be honest, not really the done thing. I'd stop texting and just ring her though certainly.

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Well you composed it, either you intended it as cruel or you didn't? :huh:

 

Cruel though is exactly what business (all business) is when we are not the ones benefiting from it.

 

The first rule of punt club is never get hung up on an escort. However, so many seem to place little value on such rules.

No - you misunderstand me -  I meant the written word is sometimes harsh.  I was not meaning to be mean or cruel with what I said.  I was saying it like it is as I see it, not from a cruel angle.......... just a fact

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It all sounds a bit weird to me.

If she's so busy that she doesn't remember you etc then why did she send you a text? Give her a ring and see what she says. Maybe she was trying to get a feel of what business would be like in Aberdeen but didn't feel it would be worth her while in the end so didn't bother going. Surely if she was planning to be there on the 5th of June she'd have it on her website by now?

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No - you misunderstand me -  I meant the written word is sometimes harsh.  I was not meaning to be mean or cruel with what I said.  I was saying it like it is as I see it, not from a cruel angle.......... just a fact

 

The written word is sometimes harsh.   Sometimes it's harsh because that is, for whatever reason, the writers intention.    Sometimes it is not the writers intention but it is read as harsh.    Sometimes the reader deliberately misreads or misunderstands it for reasons of their own.

 

Whatever it is the written word is no substitute for verbal communication preferably face to face but if not then on the phone.

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...........You're wary of pissing her off....... should be the other way round. You've seen her 3 times, she ignores your contacts. Forget and move on

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No - you misunderstand me -  I meant the written word is sometimes harsh.  I was not meaning to be mean or cruel with what I said.  I was saying it like it is as I see it, not from a cruel angle.......... just a fact

 

Yes, a kind of don't shoot the messenger type of post eh?

 

Well if you re read my reply you'll see that I agree. Like I said this business like most, is harsh if you come to it with the wrong agenda and believe me, many punters do just that, often without realising it.

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It all sounds a bit weird to me.

If she's so busy that she doesn't remember you etc then why did she send you a text? Give her a ring and see what she says. Maybe she was trying to get a feel of what business would be like in Aberdeen but didn't feel it would be worth her while in the end so didn't bother going. Surely if she was planning to be there on the 5th of June she'd have it on her website by now?

Yes, that thought occurred to me recently actually. There's maybe a combination of Edinburgh going far better than expected, and lack of interest from Aberdeen. Who knows? Well, she does, but she won't let on :P

 

As for having it on the website - her own website (both of them in fact) isn't updated much, if at all; it currently says she's in Belfast, even though she isn't. And I don't think she likes to make her profile on directory websites have dates too far in the future. All of which sort of points to the idea that she's just playing things by ear, which is perhaps all I need to know (since I like organisation!)

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