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Arranged a punt at short notice with an EE girl. Drove a considerable distance to her incall, which was not too easy to locate. On the way, I agreed some small requests. Everything looked positive and I was looking forward to the meet. Arrived, parked and rang for precise directions to the apartment itself. English was ok but accent made it difficult to understand, so I asked for her to text me the directions.

 

Whilst outside the entrance to her particular Block, there was this huge bear of a guy,bald head , a bouncer type ( an archetype pimp look ) on his mobile phone standing right in front of the main door and glancing over at me. I waited to see if he would move off but he didn't. I had to make a call. My gut told me something was not right, so I rang the girl, explained the problem and said I had to make these sort of calls every now and again.

 

When I got back , I sent her an explanatory email and suggesting we might meet again under other circumstances. She is ignoring me. Was I wrong ?

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Arranged a punt at short notice with an EE girl. Drove a considerable distance to her incall, which was not too easy to locate. On the way, I agreed some small requests. Everything looked positive and I was looking forward to the meet. Arrived, parked and rang for precise directions to the apartment itself. English was ok but accent made it difficult to understand, so I asked for her to text me the directions.

 

Whilst outside the entrance to her particular Block, there was this huge bear of a guy,bald head , a bouncer type ( an archetype pimp look ) on his mobile phone standing right in front of the main door and glancing over at me. I waited to see if he would move off but he didn't. I had to make a call. My gut told me something was not right, so I rang the girl, explained the problem and said I had to make these sort of calls every now and again.

 

When I got back , I sent her an explanatory email and suggesting we might meet again under other circumstances. She is ignoring me. Was I wrong ?

 

 

You were bang on mate.  I'd put her on ignore and look elsewhere.

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Arranged a punt at short notice with an EE girl. Drove a considerable distance to her incall, which was not too easy to locate. On the way, I agreed some small requests. Everything looked positive and I was looking forward to the meet. Arrived, parked and rang for precise directions to the apartment itself. English was ok but accent made it difficult to understand, so I asked for her to text me the directions.

 

Whilst outside the entrance to her particular Block, there was this huge bear of a guy,bald head , a bouncer type ( an archetype pimp look ) on his mobile phone standing right in front of the main door and glancing over at me. I waited to see if he would move off but he didn't. I had to make a call. My gut told me something was not right, so I rang the girl, explained the problem and said I had to make these sort of calls every now and again.

 

When I got back , I sent her an explanatory email and suggesting we might meet again under other circumstances. She is ignoring me. Was I wrong ?

Certainly not, if not 100% happy its right to do as you have done in my view, done it myself over the years, it might or might not of been dodgy in reality but i dont take the risk. Obviously doesnt surprise me she is ignoring you, if she wasnt dodgy you would seem like a timewaster, if she is dodgy you cost her the conning or worse.

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I think if the bruiser was just her security guy then he should have stayed discreetly out of the way.... he could still have kept an eye on you from his car or from a distance.

 

You may have misjudged of course and this guy was nothing to do with the lady.... in which case she could mark you down as a time waster. 

These things happen but as the other man said.... and it is mine and many ladies' mottos too..... if it doesn't seem quite right... forget it.

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Certainly not, if not 100% happy its right to do as you have done in my view, done it myself over the years, it might or might not of been dodgy in reality but i dont take the risk. Obviously doesnt surprise me she is ignoring you, if she wasnt dodgy you would seem like a timewaster, if she is dodgy you cost her the conning or worse.

 

 

I think if the bruiser was just her security guy then he should have stayed discreetly out of the way.... he could still have kept an eye on you from his car or from a distance.

 

You may have misjudged of course and this guy was nothing to do with the lady.... in which case she could mark you down as a time waster. 

These things happen but as the other man said.... and it is mine and many ladies' mottos too..... if it doesn't seem quite right... forget it.

Timewaster, I know but that is so illogical and wrong. Why would a guy waste 40-50 mins driving out to your location to meet you,if was just fucking around ?   Its an unreasonable interpretation.

 

Funny thing is, if she acknowledged my situation and gave me the green light again, I would do everything I could to book her again. Sometimes the brittleness of escorts does annoy me. Everything is lovey dovey until something goes wrong and then the attitude does a complete U turn on you . That's not how business works.! 

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Better to be safe than sorry mate, you definitely made the right call.

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Timewaster, I know but that is so illogical and wrong. Why would a guy waste 40-50 mins driving out to your location to meet you,if was just fucking around ?   Its an unreasonable interpretation.

 

Funny thing is, if she acknowledged my situation and gave me the green light again, I would do everything I could to book her again. Sometimes the brittleness of escorts does annoy me. Everything is lovey dovey until something goes wrong and then the attitude does a complete U turn on you . That's not how business works.! 

You say the brittleness of escorts and I wonder if this is down to the amount of guys she is seeing per day?  If she is very young and very reasonably priced then she may well be seeing a lot of clients and is bound to come up against problems of some sort and this I think is where the brittleness comes in - plus if she has a pimp this will only add to the stress.

 

Not for me.  I do not have any edge at all but that is because I choose to see very few clients and have no pimp.  I am not comparing.. just seeing what could be the reason for this.  No stress=no brittleness.

 

You were right to walk.. I would have done also.

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You say the brittleness of escorts and I wonder if this is down to the amount of guys she is seeing per day?  If she is very young and very reasonably priced then she may well be seeing a lot of clients and is bound to come up against problems of some sort and this I think is where the brittleness comes in - plus if she has a pimp this will only add to the stress.

 

Not for me.  I do not have any edge at all but that is because I choose to see very few clients and have no pimp.  I am not comparing.. just seeing what could be the reason for this.  No stress=no brittleness.

 

You were right to walk.. I would have done also.

 

No, she's not very young. She's quite mature really, I think about 25 ! :D  

 

She seemed very pleased on the phone to get the booking. Didn't sound run off her feet. If she does have a pimp, then why does he/she not look at the bigger picture !

 

You may be different but in general I do find girls fairly brittle. Any lead in emails or discussions have to be carefully done. One miscalculation and you're history !

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Better to be safe than sorry mate, you definitely made the right call.

 Escorts sometimes think that they carry all the risks. That's not the case.

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All any of us have are our gut instincts and that's on both sides.  You did exactly the right thing and I'm sure there are plenty more lovely 25 year olds out there (not sure that's mature by the way)..lol

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No, she's not very young. She's quite mature really, I think about 25 ! :D  

 

She seemed very pleased on the phone to get the booking. Didn't sound run off her feet. If she does have a pimp, then why does he/she not look at the bigger picture !

 

You may be different but in general I do find girls fairly brittle. Any lead in emails or discussions have to be carefully done. One miscalculation and you're history !

A lack of brain power which is why some are pimps in the first place leeching off WGs, they cant do anything else, i have met some myself, and some were as thick as two short planks, or the WG is as thick as two short planks or both. They cant see the bigger picture, a one-off conning is preferable to them than your return custom simply because to get that they and the WG would have to give a good service, not something they wish to provide. Such people only look and are interested in the short-term gain. :)

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No, she's not very young. She's quite mature really, I think about 25 ! :D  

 

She seemed very pleased on the phone to get the booking. Didn't sound run off her feet. If she does have a pimp, then why does he/she not look at the bigger picture !

 

You may be different but in general I do find girls fairly brittle. Any lead in emails or discussions have to be carefully done. One miscalculation and you're history !

 

 

Sorry to hear this, I would have walked too.

 

But just as a possibility in answering your question, It could be that she is upset at you because perhaps you were her only client of the day and she needed the money.

 

Chances are if you booked again, and came across the same situation you would do the same again, and rightfully so, but at the same time the girl is thinking of the money she lost.

 

No girl counts her chickens before they hatch, but even I would have considered you money in the bag, had you got so close.

 

To then be disappointed at the last second, when she may have needed the £XX that you were going to pay her, to pay off her gas bill or something, and to not get it... Frustration, and hurt town.

 

I know us women are frustrating to you guys as well, but it can be the same from this side.

 

Just an errant thought.

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I can remember when I first started another girl very kindly offered to help me out (needed some new pics), so off to her place with the ex I went.  She texted to say she was running late so would we mind waiting outside for 10 mins until she had finished which we did.  At that time she was working in a block of flats and to this day I will never forget the look on that poor guys face as he walked out of the door and clocked my ex, he obviously knew who I was because I featured on this girls site, but ex hubby was very much your bouncer looking type.  I often wondered if that guy thought hubby was our pimp.

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Timewaster, I know but that is so illogical and wrong. Why would a guy waste 40-50 mins driving out to your location to meet you,if was just fucking around ?   Its an unreasonable interpretation.

 

Funny thing is, if she acknowledged my situation and gave me the green light again, I would do everything I could to book her again. Sometimes the brittleness of escorts does annoy me. Everything is lovey dovey until something goes wrong and then the attitude does a complete U turn on you . That's not how business works.! 

Unless she knows you personally the drive bit becomes irrelevant,you could have walked round the corner for all she knew.As for thats not how business works.Oddly enough it is.If someone thinks they've been messed about,or if you.ve cost/lost  them money from something you've done they won't deal with you again.

That said,if you were not comfortable then you were right to move on,just don't bemoan they wont take your booking.The only bit i'm really not getting is if you were so convinced it was a pimp/bouncer type then why would you try to rebook anyway?

 

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There is always an increased possibility that an EE girl is part of a larger criminal organisation - in fact most may well be girls who came to this country on the promise of legit work and ended up whoring to pay back the money they borrowed to get here. It's a shame there are not more pretty young legal UK girls in the marketplace as it would reduce the temptation to try out those who have been tricked into this trade. A while ago I decided to exclude EE girls from my wishlist for this very reason.

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Unless she knows you personally the drive bit becomes irrelevant,you could have walked round the corner for all she knew.As for thats not how business works.Oddly enough it is.If someone thinks they've been messed about,or if you.ve cost/lost  them money from something you've done they won't deal with you again.

That said,if you were not comfortable then you were right to move on,just don't bemoan they wont take your booking.The only bit i'm really not getting is if you were so convinced it was a pimp/bouncer type then why would you try to rebook anyway?

 

Pretty much what he said! You were right to leave it if something made you uncomfortable but how would she have known how long you had driven and if you really had..I once had a bloke tell me he had parked up near my flat, I gave him directions to the door and waited..and waited..and waited eventually I rang him to see if he had got lost to be told 'no I'm at home you silly slag..hahaha'.

It might well have seemed like you might be a messer. Of course you aren't but she doesn't know that. But yes I would move on..if you were concerned about a guy outside the flat probably best to chalk it up and arrange to see someone else.

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Okay so you are a time-waster and she no longer wants to see you. Many other girls about to see.

 

If you did risk it whats the worst that could have happened??

 

To be honest i'd count your blessings and just move on

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Maybe he could have been more subtle but maybe he just wanted to check out that you weren't carrying a chainsaw and plastic sheets?

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Timewaster, I know but that is so illogical and wrong. Why would a guy waste 40-50 mins driving out to your location to meet you,if was just fucking around ?   Its an unreasonable interpretation.

 

 

 

Sorry to hear about your predicament. To be honest even if you sauntered past the guy without an issue you probably would have been worrying through the whole punt if he was coming into the apartment whilst you had your trousers off.

 

The timewaster thing isnt such an unreasonable interpretation though Im afraid. I had a guy actually arrive at me apartment block door, he rang the buzzer, was given entry but didnt make it to the front door. I watched him go back to his car from my window. I texted him why he had left and he sent me a text saying he had bottled as it was his first time. The next day I received a booking request on aw, it was his phone number. I checked his feedback and he has negative feedback for doing this to other ladies. Seems he is a serial time waster yet he did as you did, in fact he got even further, he actually rang my buzzer. For any MK  girls out there who want his aw name  or phone number...just pm me x

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You're never wrong in such circumstances. Look forward to the next one and put down to experience.

tends to support that a lot of EE girls are pimped / trafficked

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Arranged a punt at short notice with an EE girl. Drove a considerable distance to her incall, which was not too easy to locate. On the way, I agreed some small requests. Everything looked positive and I was looking forward to the meet. Arrived, parked and rang for precise directions to the apartment itself. English was ok but accent made it difficult to understand, so I asked for her to text me the directions.

 

Whilst outside the entrance to her particular Block, there was this huge bear of a guy,bald head , a bouncer type ( an archetype pimp look ) on his mobile phone standing right in front of the main door and glancing over at me. I waited to see if he would move off but he didn't. I had to make a call. My gut told me something was not right, so I rang the girl, explained the problem and said I had to make these sort of calls every now and again.

 

When I got back , I sent her an explanatory email and suggesting we might meet again under other circumstances. She is ignoring me. Was I wrong ?

 

You made the right call, now if only more guys had your brains...;-)

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My view is that you were right to walk if that's what your instinct told you to do. However, the girl is equally right to write you off as a timewaster, particularly as you acted on instinct rather than evidence. You can't have it both ways.

 

Unfortunately, the "Russian pimp" scenario seems to me increasingly common these days...a couple of big Eastern European fellas lurking just within (as you experienced) or just out of eyeshot (but the girl will sometimes mention they are "there"). I suspect all girls have protection of some sort (and rightly so) and what you experienced is just a rather neanderthal version of the stereotype. But the truth is, it goes with the territory and you cannot blame girls for protecting themselves, only for doing so unsubtly.

 

In many, many, many years of punting I have NEVER had a problem with security and while, like you, I have sometimes found its presence more obtrusive than I would wish and, therefore, even off-putting at times I consider what you experienced just a crude warning shot across my bows rather than an actual threat. I do not, unless you are very unlucky, think these sorts are likely to come bursting into the flat when your trousers are around your ankles. In 35 years of punting, that's never happened to me even once. Furthermore, if it makes the girl feel safer, fair enough.

 

Bottom line again: you have to follow your instincts and I don't blame you for that but punting, in some ways, requires a strong constitution which, on the evidence, you appear to lack. I hate to say it, but she is right to block you.

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Agree 100% with Lohengrin's post (above).

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The wg sees it from her side, you do from yours.

 

As a punter I would do the exact same as you and walk.

 

However, from hers, I would wonder why this guy is trying to get me away from my security.

 

Just move on and find another fish in the sea.

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I can understand why you didn't start the meeting. However, for me, I would have gone ahead after a phone call to the escort to confirm if the guy was part of her "security" arrangements.

 

It's different for everyone, as I'm personally not afraid of confrontation and quietly confident I could look after myself in a tight corner. However, we must all follow our own gut instinct in this game.

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