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Erection Problem Of A Thirtysomething

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This is very embarrassing, but i cant go to a doctor as the embarrassment will kill me but id be grateful for some advice please.

 

Iam a thirtysomething guy, i love women, and sex is my biggest hobby, but recently i am struggling to have an erection when with either an escort or a 'civvie'.

 

I don't understand, i am fit, i exercise regularly, i dont smoke, and used to get an erection merely sunbathing or sitting at my desk, but now the best i can do is be semi hard, or get an erection briefly but then losse it during sex, and the poor girls try everything to please me.

 

I have had sex with around 170 women, could it be the excitement has gone out of sex for me? Has anyone else in their thirties suffered from this?

 

Outside of escorts (although this applies to a few escorts as well), the poor girls think it is because they are doing something wrong, or they are unattractive, which i tell them definitely isnt the case becausse it isnt, they are all really gorgeous, and i feel terrible about it.

 

Will Viagra help? Ive looked on internet but i dont know how to get any, and am worried about side effects as it says you can get an erection that doesnt go dowwn and after 4 hours then have to go to A&E, which again, isnt really an option.

 

I really would appreciate some advice, please dont take the piss, although this kind of thing would haave made me laaugh in the past, now im suffering it really is not funny.

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Ideally, you need to see a doctor in case there's an underlying cause that needs treating, but you can get Viagra and other ED medication from your local Lloyds Pharmacy after completing an online questionnaire.

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Yes really, see a Doctor, you must put away any fear you have of speaking to a Doctor.

I am 50 and it happened to me, like you and most men, I didn't want to see the Doc but in the end I did and for one thing it confirmed I didn't have any Heart or blood pressure problems - phew!

My problem was the smoking, I tried Viagra and most of the others but they didn't really work, so I gave up smoking and slowly it's getting better but I'm resigned to the fact that at my age , perhaps I'll never get as hard as I did when I was 20 or so?

Lloyds is where to get the Viagra etc, not all of them gave me side effects but one really gave me a terrible back ache I think it was Lavitra (I think that's spelt right) after sex, most will make your face flush ( get hot or go red) but that's not a problem.

Seriously, go to the Doctor, it might be something else that's causing it, I hope you get it sorted, once more - go to the Doctor!

I read recently that this can happen to men who look at too much porn, the theory is that they get so used to seeing hard or extreme porn that when faced with a normal woman who does normal sex, they are not turned on so much and can't get an erection or perhaps only a semi erection, if the woman isn't dressed seductively enough or isn' t doing extreme things that the man has come to expect from seeing so much porn then, he doesn't get turned on enough.

I have read this somewhere can't remember where, anyway it may just be that you are stressed at work or something.

Hope you sort this out.

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Go see the doc.  One of the biggest causes of impotence is cardio vascular problems so while it may be embarrassing this could be a wake up call about a possible heart attack or stroke.

 

Or it could be a testosterone problem, which can be checked with a blood test then fixed with injections or an implant.

 

Or is your stress levels off the scale?  Or are you badly overweight?

 

Please be careful with Viagra.  If there is an underlying health problem it could well make you very ill.

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There's another thread here....

http://www.punternet.com/forum/index.php/topic/30853-ed-in-thirties/

You really do need to see a GP first, and it's easy to say but there's really no need to be embarrassed.

It will almost certainly be psychological, it happens once for whatever reason, then it's in your mind it might happen again. And so it goes on, the more you worry about it, the worse the problem gets.

If it is psychological, and you can get the sort of help referred to in the other thread, then at your age that would be the way to go. I agree that taking pills for the rest of your active sexual life is no solution if you can avoid it.

However, as a short term fix, taking Levitra worked for me, and I stick by what I said in the other thread - although it definitely shouldn't be considered a long term solution for a 30 year old if the reason for your ED is psychological.

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This is very embarrassing, but i cant go to a doctor as the embarrassment will kill me but id be grateful for some advice please.

 

Iam a thirtysomething guy, i love women, and sex is my biggest hobby, but recently i am struggling to have an erection when with either an escort or a 'civvie'.

 

I don't understand, i am fit, i exercise regularly, i dont smoke, and used to get an erection merely sunbathing or sitting at my desk, but now the best i can do is be semi hard, or get an erection briefly but then losse it during sex, and the poor girls try everything to please me.

 

I have had sex with around 170 women, could it be the excitement has gone out of sex for me? Has anyone else in their thirties suffered from this?

 

Outside of escorts (although this applies to a few escorts as well), the poor girls think it is because they are doing something wrong, or they are unattractive, which i tell them definitely isnt the case becausse it isnt, they are all really gorgeous, and i feel terrible about it.

 

Will Viagra help? Ive looked on internet but i dont know how to get any, and am worried about side effects as it says you can get an erection that doesnt go dowwn and after 4 hours then have to go to A&E, which again, isnt really an option.

 

I really would appreciate some advice, please dont take the piss, although this kind of thing would haave made me laaugh in the past, now im suffering it really is not funny.

 

 

Hey dude I doubt you're ninety something seems you don't know your age correctly but you do remember you had sex with 170 women, perhaps Viagra is the best option for you or you just tried to highlight an American TV drama title in this thread?  :)

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you watch too much porn most likely.

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you watch too much porn most likely.

This is something which could be relevant.

 

Do you use porn?and if so how regularly?

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A good way to work out whether the problem is psychological or not is to first note whether or not you can get an erection alone when masturbating. If so, then the problem is not physical. If you can't, then the problem might still be psychological and the next step is to see whether you are getting night-time erections (if you're waking up with one, then you are ... another way to tell is apparently to wrap some stamps around your cock and if the perforations are torn in the morning then you've had a night-time erection, although this sounds like a fairly tricky operation if you ask me!). 

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Also ask yourself, are the escorts you seeing pretty enough to turn you on.  Not every woman is a turn on for every man.  Mebbe be more selective.

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I don't post very often but was drawn to your situation as it is at the moment,hopefully in a constructive way.

As others have said it would be a good idea to make a Doctors appointment to check your Blood Pressure.

If its ok then you are ok.

You are then free to tell him of your Willy Situation if you want and he may refer you to the local clinic where they may

Prescribe a 'boost' on an ongoing basis,Ciallis,5mg Dailly,which is what I am on.Its a slow release and has really worked wonders for me and I am in the 40something age bracket and my problem started with a throwaway line with my ex partner.

I am now back to full function without the medication but I credit it with helping me through a tough time.

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A good way to work out whether the problem is psychological or not is to first note whether or not you can get an erection alone when masturbating. If so, then the problem is not physical. If you can't, then the problem might still be psychological and the next step is to see whether you are getting night-time erections (if you're waking up with one, then you are ... another way to tell is apparently to wrap some stamps around your cock and if the perforations are torn in the morning then you've had a night-time erection, although this sounds like a fairly tricky operation if you ask me!). 

 

...but you would find out if you had a First-Class erection! ;)

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Go see the doc.  One of the biggest causes of impotence is cardio vascular problems so while it may be embarrassing this could be a wake up call about a possible heart attack or stroke.

 

Or it could be a testosterone problem, which can be checked with a blood test then fixed with injections or an implant.

 

Or is your stress levels off the scale?  Or are you badly overweight?

 

Please be careful with Viagra.  If there is an underlying health problem it could well make you very ill.

 

More on Testosterone

 

Stress can cause your body to metabolise testosterone so a low testosterone count may indicate stress.

 

Testosterone can be in 2 forms.  Testosterone Cypionate, & Testosterone Enanthate.  Different men find that one or the other work better, so you have to try one and if it doesn't work, try the other. Route can be patches, implant or intro-muscular injection (I.e in your arse cheek). Your GP should do this on NHS.

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Hello everyone, and thank you for all your thoughtful responses, sorry for late reply but ive only noticed this thread was in the health section.

 

A bit more information. I have never been to a GP, as my father is a GP and so have relied on him for minor stuff like flu etc. I am fit, my pulse is 60, blood pressure typically 108/72, i dont smoke and exercise regularly. i do have worn discs in my back from excessive sport over the years.

 

In light of the above, i cant speak to my dad about this, and if i see a doctor, they all know who i am locally, and the embarrassment would literally kill me.

 

Too much porn? Please guys, explain this in more detail. I have watched alot of porn over the years, but as i said on another thread nowadays hardcore porn does nothing for me at all, the only thing that turns me on is girls kissing girls, and they can  be fully clothed so you tube is fine. I used to always wake up with a hard on, but not nowadays, but i can play with myself in the morning, get hard briefly if i concentrate, but i just cannot maintain it if i lose concentration. i used to have to concentrate to lose my hard on to get out of bed without embarrasment.

 

i know i need to see a doctor, and people reading this will get irritated i havent been, but honestly it is easier said than done when one comes from a medical background. I guess what im asking is, if it is not health related, then how do i get over this problem? What is worrying me is if i have slept with too many women and so sex is no longer exciting or seemingly naughty as it just seems standard fare.

 

This is a nightmare i cant believe is happening, especaally as i have met someone who is keen on a casual relationship, we get on great, have great times together, but so far i just havent been able to penetrate her due to my problems. She is stunning, and it is terrible as she thinks it's because of her, and it isnt aat all, i fancy her amazingly, she is gorgeous, and a lovely person, i just dont know why i cant get hard, when for certain kissing scenes on the net i can on my own, albeit with lot of effort.

 

How the hell do i explain all of the above to a doctor who probably knows my family. As i say, i am feeling like i am in hell, so i appreciate everybody's kind advice.

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its probably just nerves, you don't really need viagra at 30

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Hello everyone, and thank you for all your thoughtful responses, sorry for late reply but ive only noticed this thread was in the health section.

 

A bit more information. I have never been to a GP, as my father is a GP and so have relied on him for minor stuff like flu etc. I am fit, my pulse is 60, blood pressure typically 108/72, i dont smoke and exercise regularly. i do have worn discs in my back from excessive sport over the years.

 

In light of the above, i cant speak to my dad about this, and if i see a doctor, they all know who i am locally, and the embarrassment would literally kill me.

 

Too much porn? Please guys, explain this in more detail. I have watched alot of porn over the years, but as i said on another thread nowadays hardcore porn does nothing for me at all, the only thing that turns me on is girls kissing girls, and they can  be fully clothed so you tube is fine. I used to always wake up with a hard on, but not nowadays, but i can play with myself in the morning, get hard briefly if i concentrate, but i just cannot maintain it if i lose concentration. i used to have to concentrate to lose my hard on to get out of bed without embarrasment.

 

i know i need to see a doctor, and people reading this will get irritated i havent been, but honestly it is easier said than done when one comes from a medical background. I guess what im asking is, if it is not health related, then how do i get over this problem? What is worrying me is if i have slept with too many women and so sex is no longer exciting or seemingly naughty as it just seems standard fare.

 

This is a nightmare i cant believe is happening, especaally as i have met someone who is keen on a casual relationship, we get on great, have great times together, but so far i just havent been able to penetrate her due to my problems. She is stunning, and it is terrible as she thinks it's because of her, and it isnt aat all, i fancy her amazingly, she is gorgeous, and a lovely person, i just dont know why i cant get hard, when for certain kissing scenes on the net i can on my own, albeit with lot of effort.

 

How the hell do i explain all of the above to a doctor who probably knows my family. As i say, i am feeling like i am in hell, so i appreciate everybody's kind advice.

 

go to another town and see a BUPA GP privately

 

http://www.bupa.co.uk/individuals/self-pay-treatments/gp-services

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I'd make a private consultation with an out of area Dr. You really do need help and this issue is compounding all the while.

I also agree with Strawberry mentioning too much porn. I for one have become desensitised to a lot of porn but there are some genres I still enjoy (quite legal I'll add).

I have just posted a relevant personal anecdote to a different thread:

http://www.punternet.com/forum/index.php/topic/30853-ed-in-thirties/?p=527509

DG

Just seen CP already offered the private advice!! :P I just posted before seeing that.

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I'd make a private consultation with an out of area Dr. You really do need help and this issue is compounding all the while.

I also agree with Strawberry mentioning too much porn. I for one have become desensitised to a lot of porn but there are some genres I still enjoy (quite legal I'll add).

I have just posted a relevant personal anecdote to a different thread:

http://www.punternet.com/forum/index.php/topic/30853-ed-in-thirties/?p=527509

DG

 

There again any GP who takes it on himself to discuss OP's case with his father should be struck off for lack of patient confidentiality.

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There again any GP who takes it on himself to discuss OP's case with his father should be struck off for lack of patient confidentiality.

Very true but unfortunately it happens. My Mum was best friends with my childhood GP, once I was old enough I changed practice.

DG

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If you get used to masterbating, being aroused by porn then that becomes your stimulus, and real life sex may not have the same effect.

 

It does happen.

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If you get used to masterbating, being aroused by porn then that becomes your stimulus, and real life sex may not have the same effect.

It does happen.

I'm the opposite, a lot of porn fails to stimulate me any more compared to romping with a lovely lady.

DG :D

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