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Just wondering how many of you guys, or gals, are punting whilst in a relationship. How do you feel about it? Are you trying/tried to stop?

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Just wondering how many of you guys, or gals, are punting whilst in a relationship. How do you feel about it? Are you trying/tried to stop?

 

Married - punting - lovin' it. 

Wanting to stop?  Nah. Why would I do that? best hobby ever.

 

Now where is my to-do list?

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Just wondering how many of you guys, or gals, are punting whilst in a relationship. How do you feel about it? Are you trying/tried to stop?

In a long term relationship, but we don't have a physical relationship - not really by choice on either side, just unfortunate circumstances.

I punt because I want to have a sexual relationship. How do I feel? Not great but the desire to have sex is over ruling everything else at present. Once the feeling subsides, and it will, I'll stop punting.

How about you Frank?

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I am married but I still punt and this is my hobby. I just love having sex with different women and I cant see myself stopping anytime soon.

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Similar to Burty, in a long term relationship which is now basically platonic. However, I have no desire to give up my secret life that gives me so much pleasure nor do I feel guilty about it.

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Just wondering how many of you guys, or gals, are punting whilst in a relationship. How do you feel about it? Are you trying/tried to stop?

I punt, i am not having an Affair though. I have always punted throughout my adult life since i was 19 whether in a relationship or not. I like it in the main as long as i get good service, and i have never tried to stop or wanted to. I intend to punt as long as i can manage it.

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An affair.  Hmm...  Is punting an affair?

 

Generally, I think no.  Cheating certainly.  Not really an affair though in the normal sense.

 

Having said this I have a regular with whom I push boundaries on emotional fronts as well as sexual.  I also look to include non punting activities with her: drinks, walks (lying in the park in the sun together this week :) ).  I kind of view her as my paid for girlfriend rather than the standard WG / punter relationship I have with all the other girls I see.  This is fairly close to being an affair.

 

Mind you, when my regular raises the issue of me seeing other girls, it's almost like I'm supposed to feel like I'm cheating on her!

 

Sex with Mrs T is pretty rare though.  Wouldn't be likely to give up punting before my dick does.

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I meant to mention the affair thing in my post.....

I started punting as I wouldn't have an affair. It may be convenient thinking on my part, but I see punting as a way of satisfying my needs through the business relationship with a wg and keeping emotions out of it.

That's the theory - which is working well in the main but I've noticed a bit of emotion has started creeping in with one particular wg, and has left me with a dilemma of whether I'm going to see her again. Most of me says don't but she's so damn good at what she does that one particular part of me is saying I must! No prizes for guessing which part that is....

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I came out of a relationship a while back - and took me a round a 12 months to get my punting shoes back on!!

 

Personally speaking, the relationship I had been in - I would of never punted. However, as stated above by other contributors - if I was in a sexless relationship - then I'm quite sure I would of punted :)

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I came out of a relationship a while back - and took me a round a 12 months to get my punting shoes back on!!

 

Personally speaking, the relationship I had been in - I would of never punted. However, as stated above by other contributors - if I was in a sexless relationship - then I'm quite sure I would of punted :)

 

But the beauty of punting is you dont have the relationship stuff. Spose if you can find a sex only fuck buddy then that would work. Punting you pay, punt and leave. no strings. Lovely :)  And you get variety. Fancy a BBW this week.  or a skinny un, or whatever.  short, tall, asian, black, white, fat thin, englsih, EE. 

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im single but would still punt if i was in a relationship and  not getting alot of sex

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Married 25 years, had started punting before I met the wife, stopped when we were going at it like Duracell bunnies, but started again when sex dropped down the agenda..I will carry on punting as long as I can. It provides release; variety of experience and sheer bloody excitement that is always there from booking to end of punt.

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An affair.  Hmm...  Is punting an affair?

 

Generally, I think no.  Cheating certainly.  Not really an affair though in the normal sense.

 

Having said this I have a regular with whom I push boundaries on emotional fronts as well as sexual.  I also look to include non punting activities with her: drinks, walks (lying in the park in the sun together this week :) ).  I kind of view her as my paid for girlfriend rather than the standard WG / punter relationship I have with all the other girls I see.  This is fairly close to being an affair.

 

Mind you, when my regular raises the issue of me seeing other girls, it's almost like I'm supposed to feel like I'm cheating on her!

 

Sex with Mrs T is pretty rare though.  Wouldn't be likely to give up punting before my dick does.

My recent regular: 'Do you see other Girls'. 'No, you fulfill all my needs'. 'Do you see other men?'.

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Just wondering how many of you guys, or gals, are punting whilst in a relationship. How do you feel about it? Are you trying/tried to stop?

 

Paid sex is not relational sex, and confusing the two different activities is the cause of much unnecessary pain.

 

... and before anyone asks I charge an extra £25 for unnecessary pain.

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I am not punting : )

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I am not punting : )

 I suppose we are being "punted" ?

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I am not punting : )

I'm lost.

 

 

Paid sex is not relational sex, and confusing the two different activities is the cause of much unnecessary pain.

 

... and before anyone asks I charge an extra £25 for unnecessary pain.

Paid time with an escort is whatever you agree between the two of you.  Sex is the main, but not necessarily the only, activity available. 

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Affairs are such different leagues to punting. One is so very emotional, often on one side more than the other. Punting on the other hand, is not quite so emotional, there is the barrier of money.One is a relationship... the other a fantasy.

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Affairs are such different leagues to punting. One is so very emotional, often on one side more than the other. Punting on the other hand, is not quite so emotional, there is the barrier of money.One is a relationship... the other a fantasy.

Indeed, this applies to me, it clearly doesnt for some punters though. They mix up the two, i have done so myself on ocassion, but i wouldnt recommend it.

 

In my case when i did have an affair i nearly ruined my life, thats never happened as yet with punting fortunately.

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In a long term relationship, but we don't have a physical relationship - not really by choice on either side, just unfortunate circumstances.

I punt because I want to have a sexual relationship. How do I feel? Not great but the desire to have sex is over ruling everything else at present. Once the feeling subsides, and it will, I'll stop punting.

 

I am unable to have penetrative sex with my wife due to a medical condition on her part.     She enjoys having her breasts fondled and her nipples are responsive and she can have an orgasm without penetration.    Needless to say it does nothing for me.    Just like Burty I punt for a sexual realtionship.    Because of personality clashes I also do it for some warmth and companionship and some temporary happiness.    I don't feel great about it either but the sex is over ruling in my case as well.

 

Will you stop punting when the feeling subsides?    I wouldn't bet on it.

 

 

 

I meant to mention the affair thing in my post.....

I started punting as I wouldn't have an affair. It may be convenient thinking on my part, but I see punting as a way of satisfying my needs through the business relationship with a wg and keeping emotions out of it.

 

 

If your wife finds out about your punting she won't view it any differently than if you were having an affair.     You have been seeing another woman.    Even the sex won't be the most important thing.     You will have been seeing another woman.      You have betrayed her.    She won't look on it as a business relationship.   Neither will family and friends.     Be prepared to take the consequences.    The fact that you have been paying for it will be irrelevant.

 

If the worst does come to the worst don't expect any sympathy from any of the ladies that you have been seeing.    It would be wrong of you to expect sympathy anyway.     You have already received from them what you were paying for and therefore don't expect, because you won't get it, any tea or sympathy.    You won't be the first and you won't be the last man that they will have seen drop himself in the shit.    You will be just one of many no matter how good a "relationship" you think you have with the lady.

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I am unable to have penetrative sex with my wife due to a medical condition on her part.     She enjoys having her breasts fondled and her nipples are responsive and she can have an orgasm without penetration.    Needless to say it does nothing for me.    Just like Burty I punt for a sexual realtionship.    Because of personality clashes I also do it for some warmth and companionship and some temporary happiness.    I don't feel great about it either but the sex is over ruling in my case as well.

 

Will you stop punting when the feeling subsides?    I wouldn't bet on it.

 

 

 

 

 

If your wife finds out about your punting she won't view it any differently than if you were having an affair.     You have been seeing another woman.    Even the sex won't be the most important thing.     You will have been seeing another woman.      You have betrayed her.    She won't look on it as a business relationship.   Neither will family and friends.     Be prepared to take the consequences.    The fact that you have been paying for it will be irrelevant.

 

If the worst does come to the worst don't expect any sympathy from any of the ladies that you have been seeing.    It would be wrong of you to expect sympathy anyway.     You have already received from them what you were paying for and therefore don't expect, because you won't get it, any tea or sympathy.    You won't be the first and you won't be the last man that they will have seen drop himself in the shit.    You will be just one of many no matter how good a "relationship" you think you have with the lady.

and that is the problem... most women can;t be prostitutes in the real sense of the word so they "bleat"....

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and that is the problem... most women can;t be prostitutes in the real sense of the word so they "bleat"....

 

There is no need to bring racism into this discussion.   The Welsh have enough problems.   :D

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and that is the problem... most women can;t be prostitutes in the real sense of the word so they "bleat"....

Thats a tad unfair Inna, most women do not bleat. i think an uncareful man deserves all he gets when found out. The trick is not to get found out, that in a way aswell as preserving his own manhood, shows a measure of decorum and respect for his partner. respect that he has no wish to hurt her feeling, even if what he is doing may be morally wrong in the eyes of others.

 

Some women who have their eyes opened, definately do not bleat. Society has a lot to answer for.

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Thats a tad unfair Inna, most women do not bleat. i think an uncareful man deserves all he gets when found out. The trick is not to get found out, that in a way aswell as preserving his own manhood, shows a measure of decorum and respect for his partner. respect that he has no wish to hurt her feeling, even if what he is doing may be morally wrong in the eyes of others.

 

Some women who have their eyes opened, definately do not bleat. Society has a lot to answer for.

 

if their eyes are really open they will not "bleat" only sheep bleat, that is why they are not haram

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I am unable to have penetrative sex with my wife due to a medical condition on her part.     She enjoys having her breasts fondled and her nipples are responsive and she can have an orgasm without penetration.    Needless to say it does nothing for me.    Just like Burty I punt for a sexual realtionship.    Because of personality clashes I also do it for some warmth and companionship and some temporary happiness.    I don't feel great about it either but the sex is over ruling in my case as well.

 

Will you stop punting when the feeling subsides?    I wouldn't bet on it.

 

 

 

 

 

If your wife finds out about your punting she won't view it any differently than if you were having an affair.     You have been seeing another woman.    Even the sex won't be the most important thing.     You will have been seeing another woman.      You have betrayed her.    She won't look on it as a business relationship.   Neither will family and friends.     Be prepared to take the consequences.    The fact that you have been paying for it will be irrelevant.

 

If the worst does come to the worst don't expect any sympathy from any of the ladies that you have been seeing.    It would be wrong of you to expect sympathy anyway.     You have already received from them what you were paying for and therefore don't expect, because you won't get it, any tea or sympathy.    You won't be the first and you won't be the last man that they will have seen drop himself in the shit.    You will be just one of many no matter how good a "relationship" you think you have with the lady.

Yeah my explanation was more how I justify it to myself.....

I take full responsibility for what I'm doing and pretty much know what the consequences will be. I'm not 100% sure as my other half is a very logical thinking person and without going into too much detail the reasons we don't have any kind of sexual relationship (and haven't for a long, long time) aren't purely physical. We have no personality clashes at all, in fact we rarely even have a disagreement.

I think worse case scenario if I were to slip up - as I'm sure most punters do who are married or whatever, and I don't expect or indeed want anything from a wg except what is agreed when we meet. Least of all her sympathy if I screw up. If that happens it will be down to me and no-one else.

There's no doubt in my mind doing this is short to medium term rather than a long term hobby. No way can I see myself still punting in a couple of years time for example. Time will tell! :)

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