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I've never understood this.  Why should a wife/gf be angry at an escort, since her significant other had slept with her?

 

The punter initiated contact with the escort, not the other way around lol..

 

Also, whilst cheating cannot be condoned IMO, the wife/gf should perhaps look at why her significant other DID cheat.  maybe it's something they did/are doing that precipitates that conduct.

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Its a girl thing. Does she think she is more attractive. Are her boobs bouncier. Is her fanny tighter. What if he falls in love with her. Why does he think Im unattractive. Does he not love me. Is he going to leave and ill have a harder life etc

 

Its basic cave girl really isnt. Fight for hunter and gatherer by making gatherer feel guilty and point out every fault with other female to make gatherer see that she is inferior to her so he should stay and gather for her not gather for another female. 

 

 

Im guessing x

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Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

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Ain't that the truth

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Now please don't laugh but I've had an irate wife on the phone this week assuming her OH is having an affair with me.  It was an extremely difficult conversation which started off with her asking if I was sleeping with her husband, 'nope' I truthfully replied, 'then if your not having an affair with him I know you must be a prostitute because he's been paying you (his withdrawals coincided with calls to my number)....

 

I almost wish I could have said I was to that question...  How can I tell her that her husband has been deceiving her for years and is actually a TV, possibly a TS in denial and coming to me for makeovers.  Now that one when it comes out is definitely going to be a marriage breaker.

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wives phone escorts usually expecting them to be someone he is having an affair with (they may find a phone number in his mobile and be suspicious) - it never crosses their minds he has to stoop to paying out for sex - when they find out the real truth it's more hurtful than an affair - contrary to what punters believe (on the basis that no feeling are involved so whats the fuss) - take a look at mumsnet if you don't believe me

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I think you have to walk a mile in the other person's shoes to get even one iota of the pain a woman feels when she discovers her husband is being unfaithful.

 I have watched a family member have a breakdown and become ill when she found out her husband was a serial womaniser. This was after she had just had their second child.    It is heart wrenching and makes the woman feel impotent and empty.  They make the call because they want to find out what has been going on.  Not only has he been unfaithful, but he has used money that could have been spent on something else.

 

It is horrible.  This is why I harp on about discretion all the time.  People don't need to be hurt like this.

 

Can you imagine how a middle aged woman who has lost her looks and her figure feels when she finds out he is fucking someone the same age as his daughter?  Unimaginable pain i would have thought, to say nothing of the disappointment she must be feeling.

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I have had two wives who were friends of each other, call me to book an appointment for their husbands, as they would much rather know who is his seeing, and that he is seeing someone who can deliver sex without getting confused about the "relationship". 

 

They both said that by making the husband's appointment it was like they were still part of the sexual giving. We would also meet for coffee and a chat sometimes. It makes the whole thing so civilised. 

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I've never understood this.  Why should a wife/gf be angry at an escort, since her significant other had slept with her?

 

The punter initiated contact with the escort, not the other way around lol..

 

Also, whilst cheating cannot be condoned IMO, the wife/gf should perhaps look at why her significant other DID cheat.  maybe it's something they did/are doing that precipitates that conduct.

 

I think initial reaction would be hurt and upset-  another woman whether an escort or not is still cheating. Once a woman established what going on with her husband,

then would be able to see that it is not an escort at fault,  but all the same cheating is cheating.

 

 A lot of situations you find are not 'cut and dried'. There is a lot more to it. There are often reasons why men seek woman out and it is not always just for sex.

 

I can not speak for the population of woman :P  but........

 

I would imagine that it is the deceit that it is behind an actual act that hurts. It is the fact that the partner/husband they have spend years with can not even sit down and say 'listen love, this is the situation, (whatever it is)'.

 

Some woman instinctively know, they turn a blind eye, some woman have got their own thing going on so it suits them with the lifestyle/convenience, some woman just would prefer not to know what that particular part of the relationship is doing, if everything else ok they do not want to rock boat/family, and some woman do know- they are just playing a waiting game to catch husband out, which is where some men get caught because they get complacent or slip up, just a matter of time. Usually though it means a expensive divorce and the man is to lose where it hurts him the most in the wallet  ;)

 

If you put the shoe on other foot- you have been faithful, loyal for many years and find out your wife has been having an affair/seeing a male escort/companion -

it would totally make most men feel like crap!  you would find yourself questioning yourself the why, whats, where etc, not only destroys the fragile ego, it would

be like a knife twisting in the heart I imagine.

 

All that said, cheating does not belong to one gender or another. Many people have their own reasons for doing what they do, and it is down to the individual

to work/find out what makes them happy.   

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I think you have to walk a mile in the other person's shoes to get even one iota of the pain a woman feels when she discovers her husband is being unfaithful.

I have watched a family member have a breakdown and become ill when she found out her husband was a serial womaniser. This was after she had just had their second child. It is heart wrenching and makes the woman feel impotent and empty. They make the call because they want to find out what has been going on. Not only has he been unfaithful, but he has used money that could have been spent on something else.

It is horrible. This is why I harp on about discretion all the time. People don't need to be hurt like this.

Can you imagine how a middle aged woman who has lost her looks and her figure feels when she finds out he is fucking someone the same age as his daughter? Unimaginable pain i would have thought, to say nothing of the disappointment she must be feeling.

Except in my case I'm invariably drawn to ladies around my own age (40's) and my lovely regular lady is 5 years older than me.

In principle I fully agree with you though, my OH would be mortified if she knew what I was up to. There are basic levels of discretion we should all adhere to but unfortunately some guys trip up as we occasionally see posted on here.

DG

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wives phone escorts usually expecting them to be someone he is having an affair with (they may find a phone number in his mobile and be suspicious) - it never crosses their minds he has to stoop to paying out for sex - when they find out the real truth it's more hurtful than an affair - contrary to what punters believe (on the basis that no feeling are involved so whats the fuss) - take a look at mumsnet if you don't believe me

"it never crosses their minds he has to stoop to paying out for sex"

 

My wife would immediately assume I was stooping .. and cut my remaining ball off and feed it to the cat.

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"it never crosses their minds he has to stoop to paying out for sex"

 

My wife would immediately assume I was stooping .. and cut my remaining ball off and feed it to the cat.

Would that be with a rusty knife?   :)

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Except in my case I'm invariably drawn to ladies around my own age (40's) and my lovely regular lady is 5 years older than me.

In principle I fully agree with you though, my OH would be mortified if she knew what I was up to. There are basic levels of discretion we should all adhere to but unfortunately some guys trip up as we occasionally see posted on here.

DG

Those ladies you see haven't lost their looks or their figure though DG?

 

Lancelot says that wives would think a man was stooping if he saw a WG.  Maybe they would think so because of the circumstances, but... a wife would automatically think he was shagging a 'stunner', and what would be worse was if she saw the woman and she had bigger/smaller boobs/better legs/hair/body/anything actually.

 

I think a woman's self esteem goes below floor level if she finds out he is straying into the arms of another.  This is why women smarten themselves up to win him back, and why men have comb-overs and a sports car :)

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wives phone escorts usually expecting them to be someone he is having an affair with (they may find a phone number in his mobile and be suspicious) - it never crosses their minds he has to stoop to paying out for sex - when they find out the real truth it's more hurtful than an affair - contrary to what punters believe (on the basis that no feeling are involved so whats the fuss) - take a look at mumsnet if you don't believe me

I would say exactly that part.They've got suspicious for whatever reasons and think he's having an affair.As for blaming the other woman.From the examples i've seen,the women love their partners a lot and don't think he'd cheat on them unless he's been more than encouraged,like she's gone all out to get him and poor hubby was helpless from her advances.You always hear that the other woman is a bitch,whore,slag etc who offered it on a plate and the bloke is just a typical bloke,led by his willy so its not his fault.

i should add,yes we know thats bollocks but when people are trying to work out whats gone wrong its easier to blame others rather than themselves ot their nearest and dearest.It's also amazing,on that premisss how many women take their fellas back.I work with a particularly blunt lady,and on being given just that type of scenario she gave them a simple five worded response,"It takes two to tango".Didnt go down so well

 

 

 

"it never crosses their minds he has to stoop to paying out for sex"

 

My wife would immediately assume I was stooping .. and cut my remaining ball off and feed it to the cat.

Now this just cracked me up :)

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I think you have to walk a mile in the other person's shoes to get even one iota of the pain a woman feels when she discovers her husband is being unfaithful.

 I have watched a family member have a breakdown and become ill when she found out her husband was a serial womaniser. This was after she had just had their second child.    It is heart wrenching and makes the woman feel impotent and empty.  They make the call because they want to find out what has been going on.  Not only has he been unfaithful, but he has used money that could have been spent on something else.

 

It is horrible.  This is why I harp on about discretion all the time.  People don't need to be hurt like this.

 

Can you imagine how a middle aged woman who has lost her looks and her figure feels when she finds out he is fucking someone the same age as his daughter?  Unimaginable pain i would have thought, to say nothing of the disappointment she must be feeling.

 

And?  Nobody is owed anything.

 

yes, cheating is wrong, but I dunno.  Cheating has and always will take place, so maybe it's monogamy that is the issue, not cheating.  

 

Even still, per your and Chloe's point, I still stand by my initial point as sometimes the "cheated on" partner has to look in the mirror.  it's not all black and white as others may think.

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I think initial reaction would be hurt and upset-  another woman whether an escort or not is still cheating. Once a woman established what going on with her husband,

then would be able to see that it is not an escort at fault,  but all the same cheating is cheating.

 

 A lot of situations you find are not 'cut and dried'. There is a lot more to it. There are often reasons why men seek woman out and it is not always just for sex.

 

I can not speak for the population of woman :P  but........

 

I would imagine that it is the deceit that it is behind an actual act that hurts. It is the fact that the partner/husband they have spend years with can not even sit down and say 'listen love, this is the situation, (whatever it is)'.

 

Some woman instinctively know, they turn a blind eye, some woman have got their own thing going on so it suits them with the lifestyle/convenience, some woman just would prefer not to know what that particular part of the relationship is doing, if everything else ok they do not want to rock boat/family, and some woman do know- they are just playing a waiting game to catch husband out, which is where some men get caught because they get complacent or slip up, just a matter of time. Usually though it means a expensive divorce and the man is to lose where it hurts him the most in the wallet  ;)

 

If you put the shoe on other foot- you have been faithful, loyal for many years and find out your wife has been having an affair/seeing a male escort/companion -

it would totally make most men feel like crap!  you would find yourself questioning yourself the why, whats, where etc, not only destroys the fragile ego, it would

be like a knife twisting in the heart I imagine.

 

All that said, cheating does not belong to one gender or another. Many people have their own reasons for doing what they do, and it is down to the individual

to work/find out what makes them happy.  

But the escort didn't seduce or seek out the husband.  she put out an advert, he responded and the rest is the rest.

 

yes, it's not strictly rational (what is in life?)  But all the escort is doing is offering a service, and not purposefully seducing a husband.

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I have had two wives who were friends of each other, call me to book an appointment for their husbands, as they would much rather know who is his seeing, and that he is seeing someone who can deliver sex without getting confused about the "relationship". 

 

They both said that by making the husband's appointment it was like they were still part of the sexual giving. We would also meet for coffee and a chat sometimes. It makes the whole thing so civilised. 

That's like giving your front door keys to  Ronnie Biggs and letting him rifle your house - don't think it would make me feel any better knowing who'd turfed my pad over

 

Odd behaviour of those women - no doubt their husbands see not only you but lots of others.

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Those ladies you see haven't lost their looks or their figure though DG?

 

Lancelot says that wives would think a man was stooping if he saw a WG.  Maybe they would think so because of the circumstances, but... a wife would automatically think he was shagging a 'stunner', and what would be worse was if she saw the woman and she had bigger/smaller boobs/better legs/hair/body/anything actually.

 

I think a woman's self esteem goes below floor level if she finds out he is straying into the arms of another.  This is why women smarten themselves up to win him back, and why men have comb-overs and a sports car :)

I get the impression that women want to believe it's an affair - as they think going to a wg is scraping the bottom of the barrel. Now I don't see it that way - but from the comments on other mum type forums - that seems to be the feeling. Still - the deceipt and covering up and continual denials seem to hurt them more as they understand they married an unreliable toe rag.

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Some woman instinctively know, they turn a blind eye, some woman have got their own thing going on so it suits them with the lifestyle/convenience, some woman just would prefer not to know what that particular part of the relationship is doing, if everything else ok they do not want to rock boat/family, and some woman do know- they are just playing a waiting game to catch husband out, which is where some men get caught because they get complacent or slip up, just a matter of time. Usually though it means a expensive divorce and the man is to lose where it hurts him the most in the wallet  ;)

 

You are making a lot of assumptions there. What is your evidence?

Even a woman who has not been touched up by the o/h in 20 years has her pride.

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Totally off track, but think about it though - married fat guy is on a diet but sneaks off to McD - is the other half going to blame him or McD?

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Totally off track, but think about it though - married fat guy is on a diet but sneaks off to McD - is the other half going to blame him or McD?

Wasnt there a case a while back with people trying to sue maccy d's for them being fat?

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But the escort didn't seduce or seek out the husband.  she put out an advert, he responded and the rest is the rest.

 

yes, it's not strictly rational (what is in life?)  But all the escort is doing is offering a service, and not purposefully seducing a husband.

 

Yes Bethom, I agree with what you say here, initially a wife/partner/girlfriend (whatever case may be) will think it is another woman at first until establishing

full picture that it is an escort- so will realise that- the fact that he could be seeing one or several escorts and yes, as you say offering a service.

 

Boys will be boys and some like to play near to the edge, but what I cant understand if a man has a loving faithful wife and getting all the needs met, then why risk losing this ?  I know its not straight forward and circumstances are different and there is more to it than that, but I would of thought most men punting now have separate phones/punting phone so not have to deal with any strange calls or questions- this would be the most logical thing to do no ? x

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Wasnt there a case a while back with people trying to sue maccy d's for them being fat?

 

Wouldn't surprise me <_<

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Wasnt there a case a while back with people trying to sue maccy d's for them being fat?

 

:lol:  :lol:  x

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Yes Bethom, I agree with what you say here, initially a wife/partner/girlfriend (whatever case may be) will think it is another woman at first until establishing

full picture that it is an escort- so will realise that- the fact that he could be seeing one or several escorts and yes, as you say offering a service.

 

Boys will be boys and some like to play near to the edge, but what I cant understand if a man has a loving faithful wife and getting all the needs met, then why risk losing this ?  I know its not straight forward and circumstances are different and there is more to it than that, but I would of thought most men punting now have separate phones/punting phone so not have to deal with any strange calls or questions- this would be the most logical thing to do no ? x

Some punters have been on here claiming they have perfect sex life with the missus - I don't believe them! It doesn't make any kind of sense. Happy contented men are unlikely to pay for sex.

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