Humandoing

Non-Sex 'punts'

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Hi all,

 

 Would ladies think it odd if a guy requested what might be referred to as a non-sex punt i.e. maybe dinner followed by a lapdance/striptease/massage that sort of thing. I'm very interested in being in the company of glamorous, beautiful women but for 'reasons' that I'd rather go in to here, I'm not looking to actually have sex. I've messaged a few women I'd like to meet about this but it never seems to rustle up any enthusiasm.

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Hi all,

 

 Would ladies think it odd if a guy requested what might be referred to as a non-sex punt i.e. maybe dinner followed by a lapdance/striptease/massage that sort of thing. I'm very interested in being in the company of glamorous, beautiful women but for 'reasons' that I'd rather go in to here, I'm not looking to actually have sex. I've messaged a few women I'd like to meet about this but it never seems to rustle up any enthusiasm.

 

Hmm... I think I might be slightly worried that a request for a non-sex punt was from an under cover journalist.

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I'm surprised, I would have thought women would have been happy to do this kind of booking. I wonder if something you have said in your contact has inadvertently put them off or you are choosing escorts who don't work very often or who are not very professional. Most decent escorts would respond to you even if it was a no thank you!

 

Maybe get some recommendations from here of some beautiful women who are reliable and enjoy dinner date type bookings. Give us your area and I'm sure someone will be able to help!

 

BTW non sex bookings are really common. In my experience, clients nearly always want some sort of sexual contact but there are many who don't want penetrative sex, so don't think you're unusual in that regard! 

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Hi all,

 

 Would ladies think it odd if a guy requested what might be referred to as a non-sex punt i.e. maybe dinner followed by a lapdance/striptease/massage that sort of thing. I'm very interested in being in the company of glamorous, beautiful women but for 'reasons' that I'd rather go in to here, I'm not looking to actually have sex. I've messaged a few women I'd like to meet about this but it never seems to rustle up any enthusiasm.

sounds as though you're looking for a "happy ending", but not penetrative sex. That's incredibly common. I would simply book an interesting looking lady and make a dinner date appointment. No need to discuss in depth what happens after dinner. If she asks, simply say you're looking for a body to body massage, or maybe try one of the Nuru or tantric ladies?

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Bookings that don't involve sex are something that happen not infrequently, but it just isn’t really talked about very much. Most people assume that escort bookings should / do involve penetrative sex, but the reality is that many clients want handjobs, blowjobs, intimacy, massage, lapdances and not penetration. If you contact an escort there really isn't any need to tell her that you don't want full sex as it isn't unusual. The only point I would consider is to check whether the escort you choose actually offers striptease / lapdance / massage if that's what you're seeking.

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...... I'm not looking to actually have sex. I've messaged a few women I'd like to meet about this but it never seems to rustle up any enthusiasm.

 

I never have penetrative sex either.  And I've never had a problem explaining the kind of service I require.

 

Perhaps it's your approach that's putting girls off.  You could try visiting a parlour and explaining to the girl in person.  I find girls to be most agreeable, relieved even, when they don't have to have sex.  

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The girls are right.  I'd say a good 70% of bookings if not higher are non penetrative bookings.

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A WG I was with a few years ago explained that a lot of her clients didn't want sex, but wanted either for HR or some other service. Personally I can't understand why if you're with a beautiful woman and paying to have sex with her, you wouldn't, but I guess each to his own.

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I've had 4 non-sex bookings over a period of 6 years. Remainder always involve a sexual element, even if that's just being naked, kissing, oral or masturbation. No activity is compulsory and I have experience of a variety of bookings. I get plenty of sex and so long as a client turns up with the correct fee, is polite and hygienic I have no problem if he doesn't want full intercourse.

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go through the field reports and make a list of the ones where it says "she just wasn't into it" I think they will bite your hand off xx

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Humandoing, in your requests for non-sex meets, I hope you are not also seeking a reduced fee for the meeting. That would be a turn-off for Ladys. It would also tag you as a time waster.

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A social booking is exactly that... a no sex punt. Not all gentlemen are looking for some sort of sexual intimacy. Social dates are not unheard of. Some simply fancy the company of a woman rather than go out and dine on their own.

 

Just be clear on what you are looking for. It might be that they have no idea what you are like and don't want to risk going out and spending several hours with someone who may have terrible table manners etc?

 

Perhaps book an hour first and see if you get on well enough to go out together?

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Humandoing, in your requests for non-sex meets, I hope you are not also seeking a reduced fee for the meeting. That would be a turn-off for Ladys. It would also tag you as a time waster.

Not necessarily, some ladies depending on circumstances of the booking do have special 'social' time fees, this however is usually for 'public' dates rather than in private.

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A WG I was with a few years ago explained that a lot of her clients didn't want sex, but wanted either for HR or some other service. Personally I can't understand why if you're with a beautiful woman and paying to have sex with her, you wouldn't, but I guess each to his own.

Maybe because they're married and feel that penetrative sex would be a step too far?  Men with consciences do exist strangely...

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Thanks for your kind words everyone, I haven't asked for a reduced fee but yes maybe there is something in how I'm approaching it that could do with a little work. And to hear from Holly that in her estimation 70% of bookings are non-penetrative is really interesting! 

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50% of my bookings are non sex,usually just end up with message and lot of talking. i had a client came here just to sleep and when 1 hour is finished, he wants another hour, sometime i feel like a psychologist. i think lot of guy just need to get away from family and responsibility to have Private time just for himself.

 

I think some of married men when they arrived, they start to feel guilty for their family, then end up just want to hangout. 

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Many years ago my first escort dates were from agencies in Edinburgh and they were non sexual in that you genuinely paid for the girls's company. The rates were probably about twice what the girl would earn as an office worker. You booked her for a number of hours for dinner, drinks, social etc. However at the end of the time the girls was no longer working for the agency and could then offer per personal services at a fee between ourselves.. However the problem was that not all the girls did this and were genuinely purely social escorts.

As escorting became more mainstream this stopped and it became what it is now. A few agencies did offer social or personal time at differing rates but demand for sexual encounters was so high that the girls and the agencies then had just one fee for what ever happened. 

I think this is a bit sad in that businessmen away from home in a hotel would like the company over dinner and drinks  and then sex but the cost of a say a three hour encounter in this pattern is too high for most of us. I know some of the girls also preferred the "date" type scenario in that they spent some time with the client prior to bedding them.

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Bookings that don't involve sex are something that happen not infrequently, but it just isn’t really talked about very much. Most people assume that escort bookings should / do involve penetrative sex, but the reality is that many clients want handjobs, blowjobs, intimacy, massage, lapdances and not penetration. If you contact an escort there really isn't any need to tell her that you don't want full sex as it isn't unusual. The only point I would consider is to check whether the escort you choose actually offers striptease / lapdance / massage if that's what you're seeking.

 

 

A significant number of my punts dont involve penetrative sex, and it really just depends on how I feel at any particular time

 

Theres no complex rationale about it at all, sometimes its plain and simple horniness encumbered with tiredness, and its never struck me as unusual or strange, never even really considered it

 

The service I want, however, and do have, is always sexual, just not always penetrative, so I'm not turning into a fluffy "Sometimes I just want to talk or eat for £150/hr" type punter....heaven forbid   :eek:  :eek:  :eek:  !!!!!!

 

Perhaps thats the difference, does the OP want a completely non sexual service ?

 

Dont see why the OP just doesnt simply go ahead with it though, plenty of SPs out there would be happy to do this I wouldve thought ?

Edited by BillGoldberg

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I cant imagine an appointment without sex. For me its like the main course when dining but on the other hand I can sort of understand why some guys dont go for it.

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Penetrative penis-in-vagina sex is held up as the apex of heterosexuality, but plenty of people don't actually get a lot out of it. For some men, it's a sensitivity issue, and a firm hand (sometimes combined with oral stimulation) gives them greater satisfaction overall. A very considerable number of men (and women, obviously) don't orgasm from penetration, which makes it something of a detour for them, rather than the main event. 

 

Appointments without penetrative sex are very common, and appointments with very little sexual contact (say a bit of kissing and a massage) are certainly not unheard of. I have a treasured regular who likes to come over for several hours of cuddling and discussion and only now and again does he opt for a bit of hand relief at the end!

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50% of my bookings are non sex,usually just end up with message and lot of talking. i had a client came here just to sleep and when 1 hour is finished, he wants another hour, sometime i feel like a psychologist. i think lot of guy just need to get away from family and responsibility to have Private time just for himself.

 

I think some of married men when they arrived, they start to feel guilty for their family, then end up just want to hangout. 

 

Add to that a lot of men don't get on with condoms so stick to oral.  I would sometimes go a couple of weeks between using condoms because all the work was either social, hand relief or oral.

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All of my punts have involved at least some penetrative sex, although I rarely reach orgasm that way (condomitis!)...but still enjoy trying ;)

I also like the occasional punt with an element of talking and eating. i'll be meeting up with a favourite wg when she returns from holiday and will likely book something like a 50/50 social / private time punt of maybe 4 hours. She charges a reduced rate for the social part, which I really enjoy before the real fun starts. We have a great laugh, a bit of a flirt in public - she has a very mischievous look in her eyes whilst doing the flirting. I like the way it builds the anticipation for a great time back in the room - the action invariably starts as soon as we close the hotel room door, sometimes before we've made it as far as the bed.....

i suppose some would call that kind of punt fluffy. To me it is what it is. It's still a paid for encounter and one which gives me what I punt for - loads of fun and enjoyment ;)

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I have had a non sex punt before. It was a paper advert from a local paper, wanted to meet the escort first and chat.

 

Turned out a good idea. She cooked some tea and we watched TV.  She was a single mum, so had her own reasons for escorting.

 

She asked if I wanted to book again and ended up seeing her for on and off for 6 months with plenty of shagging.

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