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Reverse Bookings -- A Ridiculous Idea But...

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Yes, I know it's paid sex but have any of the ladies here ever entertained the idea of soliciting a booking from any of the denizens of the board? Where I'm going with this is a different sort of "reverse booking".

 

I guess my theory (or whatever you want to call it) is that there's fairly obviously some chemistry and/or healthy respect between various boy/girl posters here. You know...you read what someone writes over a period of time, get to "know" them through their words, suspect you'd get along in person, etc. I'm sure on that basis many posters here have booked girls they've got to know through PN, but has the reverse ever happened? If it did -- as a punter, if you got a post from XXXX saying "book me, I'd love to meet you" would you be offended? Ladies...if you really do like the sound of someone who posts here, would you ever approach them and suggest a meet? Or are we all too timid and polite?

 

Perhaps I have to much time on my hands for idle speculation...this was just a passing thought. Still, comments (and booking requests :-) ) are welcome!

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This happens to most of us all the time...not you?

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No, it's touting and I believe it's against the rules x

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You are deluded into thinking that chemistry nonsense matters to anyone who may tout.

 

Anyway - I think most on here realise the online personas are not what you are going to meet in the flesh.

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Yep. It's just called touting. Happens fairly often on most punting boards. Doesn't bother me, but I know many punters get irate about it. 

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I was touted only once on here - someone must have done a search on spanking and found some comments of mine and then invited me for a session, saying she was into that stuff too - nice looking woman - but £300 an hour - I stayed at home that night, had a takeaway curry, watched Basic Instinct, then spanked myself.

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Well I am going to reply ..as an anonymous WG user (that doesn't advertise on this site)

 

I get really annoyed when clients contact me to state that they've posted on the AW reverse bookings board and would I like to bid - which I am not interested  in, as I don't respond to these kind of adverts.

 

However then, I get an email saying - I've put an offer up for ***, would you be interested in bidding? No I wouldn't, as my price is ***+40, and if you are interested enough to find my page why not simply book at my usual rates in the first place?

 

I don't know why guys put in a reverse bid, then contact girls asking them to bid at their usual price? Why not just book them?

 

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Yep. It's just called touting. Happens fairly often on most punting boards. Doesn't bother me, but I know many punters get irate about it. 

 

I agree. I tend to think that sort of thing happens off the main board, via PM, as it's against the rules to openly tout.

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I've been on this board for nearly six years and it's only happened to me once or twice. It does come across as somewhat desperate.

Having said that, some of the very best encounters I have had down the years have been with women I have "met" online via this board beforehand. I think the better WGs know they can reel us in perfectly well without having to be so blatant!

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The only poster to message me wanting to meet was a fella :) Give him his due,he did give a decent explanation of what he wanted to get up to.

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You couldn't even be sure what sex your ''target'' is, no matter what name ''she'' goes by :o

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You are deluded into thinking that chemistry nonsense matters to anyone who may tout.

 

Anyway - I think most on here realise the online personas are not what you are going to meet in the flesh.

It DOES matter, lancelot. Obviously not sexual chemistry in the conventional sense, but if you come across a man on this board, who sounds sane, reasonable and calm, the temptation to drop him a line may very well be there. But, and I know I'm probably a bit "old school", online soliciting is a form of cold calling, and we all know how we feel about that, whether it's PPI, switching energy supplier, or a WG trying to drum up business. Some girls think it's a good thing to be proactive, but it just reeks of desperation to me - never attractive.

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Jeez, and I thought I was cynical. Turns out I'm a novice :-)

 

On a serious note, yeah, I realise this sort of thing would be strictly via PM...that's what I was wondering about although obviously I didn't articulate it very well. On the open boards it would clearly be touting; I wasn't asking about that.

 

I guess I am a little surprised by how little of this (apparently) goes on. Outside of "adult" boards, in other dusty corners of t'Net that I frequent (rugby, football, music, literature, politics...those sorts of boards) I've made -- and seen others make -- rich and lasting friendships from initial relationships that were established in online forums. It's not unusual. But seemingly it doesn't happen here. Oh well...

 

Subject for discussion, or not?

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It's fine for the guys to approach us just not the other way round regarding bookings.

@Girlfriday there is nothing wrong with using this board to advertise. If it was there would be no means to do it. It's where the site revenue comes from. Saying that yes I also find it a little presumptuous when a guy makes a booking through the aw system without contacting me first re availability x

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I prefer guys to phone, email or text for bookings and like to keep PMs, twitter whatever for general chat about forum stuff.

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At the end of the day this is not dating, we are offering a service. As Vindaloo said if girls go pming asking for business it comes across as desperate and you also run the risk of annoying posters in much the same way as being spammed by email annoys folk.

If you do have a bit of spark and the gentleman is near to you then chances are he will contact you and book you anyway, if you natter someone into booking you then it pressures the guy and I'm not sure it would make for a nice time.

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At the end of the day this is not dating, we are offering a service. As Vindaloo said if girls go pming asking for business it comes across as desperate and you also run the risk of annoying posters in much the same way as being spammed by email annoys folk.

If you do have a bit of spark and the gentleman is near to you then chances are he will contact you and book you anyway, if you natter someone into booking you then it pressures the guy and I'm not sure it would make for a nice time.

 

Thinking about it, you're quite right. I think my OP was far clumsier than I realised at the time.

 

What struck me, though, was that while there's clearly a lot of superficial flirting and thinly masked touting on the board (not a criticism...just an observation. I don't really care either way at this point) it's also sometimes obvious that chords are struck between people and one wonders whether anything ever comes of them. It's a pity -- or it strikes me as a pity -- that the underlying commercial nature of the transactions that form the subject matter of this board would seem to preclude the possibility of common interests being further exploited. To give a very, very poor example but just to try to make the point (something I've failed miserably to do in the thread so far), if there was a lady here with whom I had a dynamic of sorts based on board history and she held a secret desire to experience a Wagner opera, it seems highly unlikely based on the responses to this thread that she would contact me on that topic. But on, say, a football board that might -- and has -- happened to me before (someone getting in touch to further a relationship based on something other than football that they knew I was interested in). Is it the fact that the relationships on this board are driven by commerce, or is it the fact that they're driven by sex that makes this case?

 

Still thinking out loud. I will let this drop now!

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Driven by commerce I think. Its a bit different to 2 people meeting on a common interest board where nobody in the equation is selling something but the fact remains on the whole, that the ladies here are selling something and the gentlemen are after buying something and not necessarily with you just because you post on here lol. So to me rather gauche me for instance pming you and saying..'Oooh I see you like Wagner too..come book me for some nookie and then lets go listen to Wagner!'

Could be the flirting you see is because the people in question have already met for a booking in some cases?

No reason not to think aloud and post it is after all a forum where all thats encouraged. :)

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it's also sometimes obvious that chords are struck between people and one wonders whether anything ever comes of them.

Oh for sure, and then some ;)

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I think for the guys if an escort's posts intrigues him he looks her up and makes a decision whether to book her or not , based I assume on location, services, looks and price etc. I suspect that some men even go out of their way or divert from their usual criteria if a woman's posting style really wows him, which is kinda cool! 

 

With regards to escorts approaching men- personally it seems a little desperate and puts the man in the position of having to find tactful ways of saying no thank you! But I guess for some escorts if hey throw enough mud some of it sticks and they get a booking out of it! 

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I think for the guys if an escort's posts intrigues him he looks her up and makes a decision whether to book her or not , based I assume on location, services, looks and price etc. I suspect that some men even go out of their way or divert from their usual criteria if a woman's posting style really wows him, which is kinda cool! 

 

With regards to escorts approaching men- personally it seems a little desperate and puts the man in the position of having to find tactful ways of saying no thank you! But I guess for some escorts if hey throw enough mud some of it sticks and they get a booking out of it! 

 

In the first paragraph, I think you've got the essence of what I was trying to get at. For sure, there have been ladies who have posted consistently interesting, provocative or insightful stuff here that has made think twice about my own views and I've ended up looking them up because I've though "wow, what an sparky girl -- she'd be great company" instead of doing the usual search for "slim teenage brunette" (sic). It's not a posting style...it's just some people obviously are sharp, articulate and engaging in a way that you pretty much know you'd enjoy their company in person. I would have thought that would be a fairly common occurrence here.  As it happens, I did once go on a "date" (theatre, Shakespeare) with a girl I met on this board. Never saw her professionally, but had a wonderful afternoon in the circle. I don't think I approached her or she approached me...the play somehow came up in an ongoing thread (from memory...it's going back a couple of years), we were having a PM chat on the side of the thread, and we both sort of said "fuck it, let's go see it.)

 

With regard to the second paragraph, I can only say that I wouldn't think it desperate. But each to his (or her) own.

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Thinking about it, you're quite right. I think my OP was far clumsier than I realised at the time.

 

What struck me, though, was that while there's clearly a lot of superficial flirting and thinly masked touting on the board (not a criticism...just an observation. I don't really care either way at this point) it's also sometimes obvious that chords are struck between people and one wonders whether anything ever comes of them. It's a pity -- or it strikes me as a pity -- that the underlying commercial nature of the transactions that form the subject matter of this board would seem to preclude the possibility of common interests being further exploited. To give a very, very poor example but just to try to make the point (something I've failed miserably to do in the thread so far), if there was a lady here with whom I had a dynamic of sorts based on board history and she held a secret desire to experience a Wagner opera, it seems highly unlikely based on the responses to this thread that she would contact me on that topic. But on, say, a football board that might -- and has -- happened to me before (someone getting in touch to further a relationship based on something other than football that they knew I was interested in). Is it the fact that the relationships on this board are driven by commerce, or is it the fact that they're driven by sex that makes this case?

 

Still thinking out loud. I will let this drop now!

Some good points - looking at your username I probably should have given my life's interest away with the moniker of Wolfie or perhaps Papageno - still - if you've had no luck attracting a Wagner fan and I probably would have had no better luck sending me a pm begging me to go and see Die Zauberflote so I'll remain a member of the round table for now.

 

Yes I agree - this is probably the only type of board that makes it more difficult for members of the opp sex to meet up. That is because it's really a board for buyers and suppliers - but worse than that - the suppliers charge for their time - and time is the product really - so there will always be that obstacle.

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Thinking about it, you're quite right. I think my OP was far clumsier than I realised at the time.

What struck me, though, was that while there's clearly a lot of superficial flirting and thinly masked touting on the board (not a criticism...just an observation. I don't really care either way at this point) it's also sometimes obvious that chords are struck between people and one wonders whether anything ever comes of them. It's a pity -- or it strikes me as a pity -- that the underlying commercial nature of the transactions that form the subject matter of this board would seem to preclude the possibility of common interests being further exploited. To give a very, very poor example but just to try to make the point (something I've failed miserably to do in the thread so far), if there was a lady here with whom I had a dynamic of sorts based on board history and she held a secret desire to experience a Wagner opera, it seems highly unlikely based on the responses to this thread that she would contact me on that topic. But on, say, a football board that might -- and has -- happened to me before (someone getting in touch to further a relationship based on something other than football that they knew I was interested in). Is it the fact that the relationships on this board are driven by commerce, or is it the fact that they're driven by sex that makes this case?

Still thinking out loud. I will let this drop now!

Then the onus is on you to say "hey do you fancy a booking" or "hey, don't really fancy you but do you fancy a no strings evening out , a pnet social for two, not a booking" all you would get is a yes or a no.

I do know for a fact guys on here have gotten along and buggered off to a football match together or met up for coffee. The assumption is that you can't ask the girls as we are all so mercenary we will refuse if money isn't involved or assume the guy is trying to wiggle into a freebie. It's not always the case. I'm good friends with a guy member from here, nothing romantic going on in the least. It is possible

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If I were an escort, and a member of any punter related forum, I would want to find a way of "extracting" extra business through indirect marketing/promotion of my services. This would include a well targetted PM along with a detailed profile on PN and a supporting website.

 

This would form part of my overall business plan. It's business after all, not a date.

 

On other forums, this worked well and I have met and short-listed escorts when they tour in my area.

 

Having said that, I have short-listed a couple on here too without PM's so it's swings and roundabouts.

 

If the ethos/rules of PN do not allow it, then that should be respected.

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Occasionally someone has posted a question on a thread of started one and I have pm'd rather than answe in public. It's just not done to cold pm someone though, I think it goes down as well on here as automated messages do on aw lol

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