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I'm heading to the O2 tomorrow and thought I might stop nearby or wander to Soho for a punt first. Basically, this is my first time so not really sure what I'm doing, but reading the Walk-Up thread and trying to work out what to do.

 

Problem is, without wanting to say too much, is that I'm unable to rise to the occasion naturally and have to literally pump myself up first. You may know about this from sex change programs on TV, it's generally the same thing, although I've always been male - just with an unfortunate throw of the genetic dice.

 

I've been scared off Soho for this reason, thinking that it would probably seem very odd for me to suddenly start fumbling about before hand( the damn thing sometimes takes a good five minutes or so to actually start working believe it or not). Reading the posts today, I thought that perhaps a massage with a HJ or possibly BJ (if the masseuse hasn't already run for the hills) might be better for me until I get used to the scene, and get some courage. Problem being that trying to pump myself up while getting a massage would not doubt be even more weird (and I want a back massage as well which...well, you can work out why that would be awkward at first).

 

So, to cut a long rambling post short, could I go to a walk-up or massage parlour with my 'problem', and still get service? Would they turn me away or refuse even though I've paid? I know an Indy would probably be best to start, but tbh I'm trying to save both cash and time tomorrow...and as I don't really know what I'm doing yet anyway in terms of the etiquette of punting/massages, I don't want to spend time and money on an experience if it goes badly  :(

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"Problem being that trying to pump myself up while getting a massage would not doubt be even more weird (and I want a back massage as well which...well, you can work out why that would be awkward at first)."

 

I am trying to visualise that - can't help smiling though I sympathise - also have no idea what pumping oneself up entails.

 

Surley this is a specialist job and not fit for a walk up.

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"Problem being that trying to pump myself up while getting a massage would not doubt be even more weird (and I want a back massage as well which...well, you can work out why that would be awkward at first)."

 

I am trying to visualise that - can't help smiling though I sympathise - also have no idea what pumping oneself up entails.

 

Surley this is a specialist job and not fit for a walk up.

 

Agreed.  Indie or parlour both with information in advance is the way to go IMHO.  That way at least you won't suffer disappointment or be embarrassed.

 

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Surley this is a specialist job and not fit for a walk up.

 

Shirley you can't be serious?!  ;)

 

But yes, though that might be the case, thanks.

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I have to agree with my learned friend, Holly, on this one. There are plenty of experienced, sympathetic indies who would fit the bill. Look at the field reports and you will see the type of lady best suited to your needs.

 

I am sure that those with far more experience of London will come up with some names for you.

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Problem is, without wanting to say too much...

 

Brother, this is an anonymous board. None of us know who you are. None of us care. The purpose of this board is the exchange of information, but if you DON'T say too much, none of us can help you by providing the answers you're looking for. The readers here (girls and boys alike) have hundreds of man and woman years of punting experience. There is probably no other place on the planet you could get your specific questions more exhaustively answered. So I would say SPIT IT OUT. Say too much. Tell us what the problem is...be explicit...and expect some very good advice from the denizens of this board in return. Frankly, if you can't open up anonymously and with expert help right in front of you then all the best but I doubt you'll get what you're looking for until you find peace within yourself first.

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Go   http://www.tlc-trust.org.uk/

 

and you'll be able to find ladies who are both very sexy, and also disabled friendly.

 

Wow thank you, never heard of that before, that's...can't tell you how much I appreciate the info!

 

As a slight aside, if you did want to know, basically it's like a pipette. Squeeze one bit and water flows into a tube, which is then inflated to resemble the erection. It's actually quite interesting in a way; it basically stays up until I deflate it. Problem is a) it's about as sexy as it sounds, and B) it sometimes gets 'stuck' with the valve open, so it doesn't inflate. That's when I have to spend a good five to ten minutes pumping away (so to speak) until it works. It vaguely resembles the real thing, as long as the room is dark and the lady doesn't look too closely..!

 

Thing is that I don't want to be doing all that while the lady is there. I've only been to a brothel once before - pre-op, so no experience of it yet - but she did ask for a drink and went out for a minute or so to get it. I'm thinking I could use that time to get it ready, but I wonder - would she be surprised to see me erect when she came back in? Or would she just assume that was normal? If I could do that, it would pretty much solve 90% of the problem there and then.

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My experience is that Soho girls are like most WG - kind people and trying to provide a good service. If you book them for 30 min and are honest, they will probably provide a good service - whatever your situation, they have seen worse. Emotionaly needy, physically needy, or just plain smelly.

By honest I just mean say it. If she says no, then go down a flight and try again. Or next door. (And perhaps post events here)

If you choose not to try this, same for indy, parlour, or agency - best to say what you need, and good luck.

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I don't know much about how Soho ladies are. Do be assured most offering a paid sex scene will see men of all shapes and situations. The worst thing can be someone who doesn't tell you then furtively disappears into the bathroom for 20 minutes. He's embarassed, you don't want to barge in and make it worse. I know some disabled guys get embarassed, but we truly have usually come across a variety of conditions, ability and disability.

 

ps problems with erections, performance etc are a lot more common than you'd think. I know many men think every other man is some raging stud, it's a myth!

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Wow thank you, never heard of that before, that's...can't tell you how much I appreciate the info!

 

As a slight aside, if you did want to know, basically it's like a pipette. Squeeze one bit and water flows into a tube, which is then inflated to resemble the erection. It's actually quite interesting in a way; it basically stays up until I deflate it. Problem is a) it's about as sexy as it sounds, and :cool: it sometimes gets 'stuck' with the valve open, so it doesn't inflate. That's when I have to spend a good five to ten minutes pumping away (so to speak) until it works. It vaguely resembles the real thing, as long as the room is dark and the lady doesn't look too closely..!

 

Thing is that I don't want to be doing all that while the lady is there. I've only been to a brothel once before - pre-op, so no experience of it yet - but she did ask for a drink and went out for a minute or so to get it. I'm thinking I could use that time to get it ready, but I wonder - would she be surprised to see me erect when she came back in? Or would she just assume that was normal? If I could do that, it would pretty much solve 90% of the problem there and then.

Sorry I still have no idea - do you have a penis? or what? what do you pump up?

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Sorry I still have no idea - do you have a penis? or what? what do you pump up?

 

Heh OK, it's a skin graft (usually from the arm, which is true in my case), which is folded round the tube and attached to the groin where a penis would normally be. The pump is in my scrotum - which is why it can occasionally be painful if I pinch myself!! There's a small reservoir of water which is pumped into the tube to create the erection. 

 

So it is pretty close to a penis, yes. Obviously I don't know what it's like to be on the receiving end, but hopefully it shouldn't feel much different either.

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Heh OK, it's a skin graft (usually from the arm, which is true in my case), which is folded round the tube and attached to the groin where a penis would normally be. The pump is in my scrotum - which is why it can occasionally be painful if I pinch myself!! There's a small reservoir of water which is pumped into the tube to create the erection. 

 

So it is pretty close to a penis, yes. Obviously I don't know what it's like to be on the receiving end, but hopefully it shouldn't feel much different either.

Goodness me - my heart goes out to you

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Hi Dave,

 

I can only endorse the good advice above. I know little about the Soho walk up scene, but would be surprised if it provides the best option for you right now. The TLC site looks tremendous, but if no-one there takes your fancy (it is your choice remember) I would recommend that you take your choice of independents local to you and be prepared to communicate with them fully before you meet.

 

In the nicest possible way, the best girls are likely to have been about a bit and are unlikely to be easily shocked. They are equally unlikely to enjoy being taken for a ride, so if I were you I would describe your situation as clearly as you can on making your first contact.  You may well get a few non-replies and ‘no thank you’ responses, but you will be able to tell a lot about the ladies who reply positively by the way the nature of the responses they make. There will be some to choose from. Even for us old-stagers, escort selection remains an imperfect science, but it is always a good idea to tip the odds your way.    

 

Take care and good luck!

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Heh OK, it's a skin graft (usually from the arm, which is true in my case), which is folded round the tube and attached to the groin where a penis would normally be. The pump is in my scrotum - which is why it can occasionally be painful if I pinch myself!! There's a small reservoir of water which is pumped into the tube to create the erection. 

 

So it is pretty close to a penis, yes. Obviously I don't know what it's like to be on the receiving end, but hopefully it shouldn't feel much different either.

Do you get much sensation out of it?

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Do you get much sensation out of it?

 

Oh dear the OP has left himself wide open now you nosy devil you...lol

 

Dave in some ways you can count yourself lucky, at least at some point you can get it up, believe me I've fiddled about with more than a few cocks in my time that never ever get up.  I know this is a long shot but most if not all of the women I know would not only be happy to see you but also happy to help you with the pumping.  Sometime back there was a lovely wheelchair bound guy that had to inject but it didn't stop him doing some porn.  I'm not suggesting you do that but sometimes disabilities and the unusual can actually add to foreplay..

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Dave,

 

As the Guys have said you would definitely be better off with a decent Indie, I have one in mind who is exceedingly considerate, unfortunately mate she is on holiday at the moment but next time search for "Platinum Cindy" on the forum you should find her, she should be back 1st or 2nd week of September.

 

I say considerate because I am Severely Visually Impaired and have a Four Legged Furry Guide that goes everywhere with me and I do mean everywhere, which has caused "raised eyebrows" on more than one occasion.   I'd be keen to hear what you decide in the end.

 

Good Luck and Stay Safe.

 

ANL

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Hi Dave,

 

I can only endorse the good advice above. I know little about the Soho walk up scene, but would be surprised if it provides the best option for you right now. The TLC site looks tremendous, but if no-one there takes your fancy (it is your choice remember) I would recommend that you take your choice of independents local to you and be prepared to communicate with them fully before you meet.

 

In the nicest possible way, the best girls are likely to have been about a bit and are unlikely to be easily shocked. They are equally unlikely to enjoy being taken for a ride, so if I were you I would describe your situation as clearly as you can on making your first contact.  You may well get a few non-replies and ‘no thank you’ responses, but you will be able to tell a lot about the ladies who reply positively by the way the nature of the responses they make. There will be some to choose from. Even for us old-stagers, escort selection remains an imperfect science, but it is always a good idea to tip the odds your way.    

 

Take care and good luck!

Fugazi has hit the nail on the head here. Communication in the punting field is key.If you are up front about your situation you will find the lady you choose will be OK with it.

 

Good luck.

 

P S If anyone knows of anyone like the sadly missed Micheala Minx who could help this guy please PM him.

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Sorry I still have no idea - do you have a penis? or what? what do you pump up?

Yes he has a penis.

He has a Penile prosthesis ( google for images)

OP, your best bet it to call and explain the situation or go in and have a chat, the worst that can happen is they say no, the best is that you have a great time.

Most ladies are curious creatures, I know I was the first time I came across what you have, I wanted to know more about it and how it functioned.

I got a very interesting lesson, and the gent in question got extra time as I genuinely wanted to know, but also wanted him to have a good time.

Don't over think it hon. X

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Oh dear the OP has left himself wide open now you nosy devil you...lol

 

Dave in some ways you can count yourself lucky, at least at some point you can get it up, believe me I've fiddled about with more than a few cocks in my time that never ever get up.  I know this is a long shot but most if not all of the women I know would not only be happy to see you but also happy to help you with the pumping.  Sometime back there was a lovely wheelchair bound guy that had to inject but it didn't stop him doing some porn.  I'm not suggesting you do that but sometimes disabilities and the unusual can actually add to foreplay..

I always thought pumping was something you do after penetration - not before - so that is new to me.

 

Yes I am curious - as I wonder indeed how a skin grafted prosthetic penis can have any feeling in it - a real pukka penis can be dead as a doornob at times never mind the tool that this poor chap is having to work with and I do wish him all the luck

 

I also feel for providers - it must be awkward and difficult when that happens as I can imagine it's a humiliating blow to the chap and you have to deal with that

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Yes, agreeing with all here- You'd be better off being able to talk to the escort in advance, which I believe doesn't happen at walk ups and some parlours. An experienced escort won't bat an eyelid or at least be confident enough to admit she hadn't come across a chap like you before (if she hadn't) but would be happy to see you.

 

Also, I think you'd feel better having had a conversation with the woman beforehand so you can get an idea of her attitude and that she is fluent in English. I'm fairly sure you'd feel better being able to explain it without a language barrier. 

 

i met a chap with a pump recently. Not the same scenario as yours at all, but it was my first time seeing one used in real life and whilst I was fascinated I was glad he had mentioned it in advance.

 

As an aside, I also learned how wonderful the NHS were at helping him try and get the sex life and the penis he had previously back. I never would have thought they would care past treating the initial medical issue. 

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Why don't you contact one if the ladies on here, assuming one is close to you, they're aware of your circumstance, proven to be sympathetic and are utterly discrete.

They can't advertise publicly but it just seems obvious to me that that is your best option.

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Do you get much sensation out of it?

 

 

No sensation at all from the prosthetic itself; luckily there is still some of the original penis there so I can still get pleasure from it, just takes a bit more creativity!

 

I think everyone's given me a lot of very helpful advice which I'm going to follow up on - thank you all for taking the time to help!

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No sensation at all from the prosthetic itself; luckily there is still some of the original penis there so I can still get pleasure from it, just takes a bit more creativity!

 

I think everyone's given me a lot of very helpful advice which I'm going to follow up on - thank you all for taking the time to help!

Good luck - reading about your situation almost makes me want to get down on my knees and say a prayer of thanks - I doubt if i would have your will

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I'm heading to the O2 tomorrow and thought I might stop nearby or wander to Soho for a punt first. Basically, this is my first time so not really sure what I'm doing, but reading the Walk-Up thread and trying to work out what to do.

 

Problem is, without wanting to say too much, is that I'm unable to rise to the occasion naturally and have to literally pump myself up first. You may know about this from sex change programs on TV, it's generally the same thing, although I've always been male - just with an unfortunate throw of the genetic dice.

 

I've been scared off Soho for this reason, thinking that it would probably seem very odd for me to suddenly start fumbling about before hand( the damn thing sometimes takes a good five minutes or so to actually start working believe it or not). Reading the posts today, I thought that perhaps a massage with a HJ or possibly BJ (if the masseuse hasn't already run for the hills) might be better for me until I get used to the scene, and get some courage. Problem being that trying to pump myself up while getting a massage would not doubt be even more weird (and I want a back massage as well which...well, you can work out why that would be awkward at first).

 

So, to cut a long rambling post short, could I go to a walk-up or massage parlour with my 'problem', and still get service? Would they turn me away or refuse even though I've paid? I know an Indy would probably be best to start, but tbh I'm trying to save both cash and time tomorrow...and as I don't really know what I'm doing yet anyway in terms of the etiquette of punting/massages, I don't want to spend time and money on an experience if it goes badly  :(

 

Hi Dave, Your situation is rather different from mine. In my case, I am just blind and also have erectile disfunction issues. I was hesitant to try the punting scene before but started chatting to a lovely independent lady on another site who was open to seeing a blind person. We had a long chat on the phone and I met her a few weeks later. Definitely the best time I had in a long long time. I think I would start with the listins on TLC Trust considering that your requirements are slightly different to normal. Good luck.

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