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Choices For Married Men. Girlfriend, Wg Or Right Hand Frustration And Possibly Divorce.

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Wives are great but sometimes we need more sex than them. Sometimes they need more than us. I used to tell my wife that "I am not a machine". She effectively raped me repeatedly. Now, many years later, the situation is reversed. I need more than she wants. She sleeps in a different room so there is not even the cuddle. The idea of taking it by force is not my style. She went that route. I know how I felt.So what to do?

Having said that I do not need the full monty. I miss what amounts to the cuddles and the body contact. I thought massage might be the answer. It's not. I need more contact.

The concept of a GF is not appealing. It involves cheating with both heart and body. I am not keen to cheat at all. I just need a body. Which is where a WG might fit. No emotions. No commitment. And in this case no fucking either. That would be going too far.

So guys and gals. Save a marriage. Help me think this through. Does a WG have any place in a marriage? It's not a new question. Where I am now it looks like a reasonable proposition.

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A wg having a place in a marriage sounds odd, and wrong on many levels but for me the answer would be a resounding yes.

My long term partner and I have no sexual contact at all, as for reasons I won't go into here, she simply doesn't have the urge. Not with me, nor for anyone else - it's gone as if someone turned the light off, and disconnected the electricity supply - and we both know the reasons why. On all other levels we get along famously therefore I don't want any kind of emotional relationship with anyone else, so an affair or friend with benefits arrangement is a non starter. I've found the paid for scenario is a perfect solution for me, and, being a big soft fluffy get, I include the kissing, cuddles as well as the full on stuff as essential requirements.

If you see a wg, you let them know what you're after, and the adage of turning up pleasant, clean, polite, and with the required fee in an envelope - you will (most of the time) receive exactly what you require within the boundaries of her personal likes. That's been my albeit rather limited experience anyway.

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@nonotouch. Can I ask what age you are?

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Quote:   "I just need a body"

 

I think we know what you meant but please... if you decide to book a wg.... do not let her know you just need "a body" or you may not receive quite the services you hope for.

 

You can have a smile and a chat.... some pleasantries at the very least.... and still use her body.

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Quote:   "I just need a body"

 

I think we know what you meant but please... if you decide to book a wg.... do not let her know you just need "a body" or you may not receive quite the services you hope for.

 

You can have a smile and a chat.... some pleasantries at the very least.... and still use her body.

I think that was an unfortunate turn of phrase. I can empathise with the OP's thoughts and if he is upfront with his chosen escort then he should get all the kisses, cuddles, mutual feeling etc that he desires. Good luck to him.

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I think that was an unfortunate turn of phrase. I can empathise with the OP's thoughts and if he is upfront with his chosen escort then he should get all the kisses, cuddles, mutual feeling etc that he desires. Good luck to him.

+1 (or should we just click the green arrow now!?!)

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Quote:   "I just need a body"

 

I think we know what you meant but please... if you decide to book a wg.... do not let her know you just need "a body" or you may not receive quite the services you hope for.

 

You can have a smile and a chat.... some pleasantries at the very least.... and still use her body.

 

While I can see that that term may be offensive, I know what he means.  He wants to be with a lady, to touch and to feel.  Which is exactly what I find so lovely about punting.

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What about a blow up doll??? Much safer all round :ph34r:

 

While on that subject....I noticed in the window of a Soho sex shop yesterday for the ladies they had an inflatable President Obama :lol:  Unbelievable the things people come up with :lol:

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Wives are great but sometimes we need more sex than them. Sometimes they need more than us. I used to tell my wife that "I am not a machine". She effectively raped me repeatedly. Now, many years later, the situation is reversed. I need more than she wants. She sleeps in a different room so there is not even the cuddle. The idea of taking it by force is not my style. She went that route. I know how I felt.So what to do?

Having said that I do not need the full monty. I miss what amounts to the cuddles and the body contact. I thought massage might be the answer. It's not. I need more contact.

The concept of a GF is not appealing. It involves cheating with both heart and body. I am not keen to cheat at all. I just need a body. Which is where a WG might fit. No emotions. No commitment. And in this case no fucking either. That would be going too far.

So guys and gals. Save a marriage. Help me think this through. Does a WG have any place in a marriage? It's not a new question. Where I am now it looks like a reasonable proposition.

Your wife probably did not think she was raping you.  She might have thought it was a sexy thing to do.  Maybe you should have told her how you felt?  Anyway................

 

It's easy is this...........

 

Choose your girl with care and then tell her what you told us on here but maybe leave the deep wife stuff out of it  -  except the bit about getting nothing at home, and still wanting to remain faithful in your own head.

 

Talk about it.  Get the message across and go for it.  It's my guess that if you meet a lovely lady you will end up fucking though...........   human nature being what it is and all..............

 

Good luck!

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What about a blow up doll??? Much safer all round :ph34r:

 

While on that subject....I noticed in the window of a Soho sex shop yesterday for the ladies they had an inflatable President Obama :lol:  Unbelievable the things people come up with :lol:

But where would he keep it?

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Wives are great but sometimes we need more sex than them.

Assuming that you have been married for a long time and are at the "mature" stage of life then I think you are wanting to enjoy the adventure before the inevitable ending. Sorry to be morbid but who wants to lie on their deathbed wishing that they had done something and regretting not doing it?

The concept of a GF is not appealing. It involves cheating with both heart and body. I am not keen to cheat at all. I just need a body. Which is where a WG might fit. No emotions. No commitment. And in this case no fucking either. That would be going too far..

Whether it's a GF or a WG will make no difference to your wife, her friends, or your family. In their eyes you will have committed adultery. Which, of course, you have. As for no fucking you are deluding yourself. Once you are on that bed with a desirable lady you will want to fuck her.

Being with another woman is going too far.

So guys and gals. Save a marriage. Help me think this through. Does a WG have any place in a marriage? It's not a new question. Where I am now it looks like a reasonable proposition.

"Does a WG have any place in a marriage"?Not as far as the wife is concerned.

"Where I am now it looks like a reasonable proposition". Well wherever you are now you are in the wrong place.

I don't know anything about your marriage so cannot offer any advice other than to say that believing that seeing a WG will save your marriage is wishful thinking. Wrong way to go entirely.

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What a bizzare way to look at a wife, marriage, sex, lust and women...

OP, If the spark has gone from your relationship discuss it with your wife, including the type of sex your having and how it is initiated. If you've gone past that stage and its just sex or companionship you're after then its your decision to see a WG. No one can tell you to do that and have a clear conscience knowing that you're married and could potentially devestate your wife.

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I'm in a similar situation to the OP.  Over past 5 years I've probably had sex with my wife about 5 - 6 times and she's just simply not as 'touchy-feely' as me.

 

I've discussed it with my wife but with no success.  I'm not interested in getting a girlfriend so WGs are the route for me.  However, if I'm honest I find my encounters with WGs good at the time but ultimately forgettable. It's the human contact I really need - kissing, touching.  Humans being humans, this inevitably leads to sex; but it's not the object.

 

I've no real answers for OP (and none for me either!).  Life is what it is and you just soldier on from where you are.

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I'm in a similar situation to the OP.  Over past 5 years I've probably had sex with my wife about 5 - 6 times and she's just simply not as 'touchy-feely' as me.

 

I've discussed it with my wife but with no success.  I'm not interested in getting a girlfriend so WGs are the route for me.  However, if I'm honest I find my encounters with WGs good at the time but ultimately forgettable. It's the human contact I really need - kissing, touching.  Humans being humans, this inevitably leads to sex; but it's not the object.

 

I've no real answers for OP (and none for me either!).  Life is what it is and you just soldier on from where you are.

Have you tried seeking out wg's who specialise in a good GFE? That's what I try to do, and only had one I'd call forgettable, with no real connection and not much kissing etc.

I find longer bookings with the right girl give me all the human contact, kissing touching etc. I find I need. Often between round 1 and 2 we just lay there talking, kissing, cuddling etc. etc. Sets things up nicely for the remainder of the booking :)

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Mmmm interesting this.    I of all people can understand that 'nobody is going to control me on a sexual level again but I still crave comfort and attention' feeling, but agree with the others.  Once your holding that soft beautiful and submissive woman in your arms, you will want all of her that's for sure.  Having said that it's not unusual for gentlemen just to want your company in this way, particularly middle aged and elderly gentlemen. 

 

Good luck with it.

 

Holly x

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Wives are great but sometimes we need more sex than them. Sometimes they need more than us. I used to tell my wife that "I am not a machine". She effectively raped me repeatedly. Now, many years later, the situation is reversed. I need more than she wants. She sleeps in a different room so there is not even the cuddle. The idea of taking it by force is not my style. She went that route. I know how I felt.So what to do?

Having said that I do not need the full monty. I miss what amounts to the cuddles and the body contact. I thought massage might be the answer. It's not. I need more contact.

The concept of a GF is not appealing. It involves cheating with both heart and body. I am not keen to cheat at all. I just need a body. Which is where a WG might fit. No emotions. No commitment. And in this case no fucking either. That would be going too far.

So guys and gals. Save a marriage. Help me think this through. Does a WG have any place in a marriage? It's not a new question. Where I am now it looks like a reasonable proposition.

 

 

 

 

Have I misunderstood something here,or is it just the way you have worded this that is strange...?

 

Look Im all for being understanding of a wifes feelings and everything,but you allow a woman to "rape" you and you said nothing..?

 

Is/was the marriage a prison..?

 

"She took by force" makes her sound like a bull queer in Shawshank or some such,...

And what does that make you sound like I dont know....

 

This will sound more harsh than it is meant to be but what happened to dialogue and stuff in a marriage,telling each other what you want and what you dont want....??,,..

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Have I misunderstood something here,or is it just the way you have worded this that is strange...?

 

Look Im all for being understanding of a wifes feelings and everything,but you allow a woman to "rape" you and you said nothing..?

 

Is/was the marriage a prison..?

 

"She took by force" makes her sound like a bull queer in Shawshank or some such,...

And what does that make you sound like I dont know....

 

This will sound more harsh than it is meant to be but what happened to dialogue and stuff in a marriage,telling each other what you want and what you dont want....??,,..

 

Maybe she was sexually dominant and he resented that.  It can feel like your being abused if that's the case, especially if your a more gentle soul, but I agree it comes across as if it's created long term sexual issues for him.

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Wives are great but sometimes we need more sex than them. Sometimes they need more than us. I used to tell my wife that "I am not a machine". She effectively raped me repeatedly. Now, many years later, the situation is reversed. I need more than she wants. She sleeps in a different room so there is not even the cuddle. The idea of taking it by force is not my style. She went that route. I know how I felt.So what to do?

Having said that I do not need the full monty. I miss what amounts to the cuddles and the body contact. I thought massage might be the answer. It's not. I need more contact.

The concept of a GF is not appealing. It involves cheating with both heart and body. I am not keen to cheat at all. I just need a body. Which is where a WG might fit. No emotions. No commitment. And in this case no fucking either. That would be going too far.

So guys and gals. Save a marriage. Help me think this through. Does a WG have any place in a marriage? It's not a new question. Where I am now it looks like a reasonable proposition.

 

 

In this case I would have to say a resounding NO!!

 

Your Solution is not going to be found in the arms of a happy nubile WG.

 

If you had said My wife doesn't want sex and I do, I would encourage this, but as a WG in this case, that is not what you are after.

 

You have made emphasis tat it is not SEX you desire, but affection, and while a Good/Great WG will be able to offer this, You also step over a line that you have stated you don't wish too.

 

When you involve emotions on this level invariably you will step over the mark, because at one point you will either fall in love with the notion whatever lady you choose can provide more than your wildest dreams, and a sharp dose of reality, will have you with egg on your face.

 

If you are not interested in Sex, or sexual gratification, then in reality there is no reason you cannot talk to your wife, and have some of the closeness of sharing a bed, without having sex.

 

You may come to see WG's for sex in the end, but with a clearer conscience that you have not replaced your wife, in your affections, which is what you will end up doing.

 

 

I understand wanting to be close to someone, but your Plea is screaming from the board, shows more than I think you intended.

 

WG are for sex & Affection, not just Affection, at least not for Married Gents.

 

We should not be a replacement for your wife hon.

 

 

Sorry

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You have made emphasis tat it is not SEX you desire, but affection, and while a Good/Great WG will be able to offer this, You also step over a line that you have stated you don't wish too.

If you are not interested in Sex, or sexual gratification, then in reality there is no reason you cannot talk to your wife, and have some of the closeness of sharing a bed, without having sex.

WG are for sex & Affection, not just Affection,

Interesting that you appear unable to disconnect affection from physical contact without intercourse.

I do not seek affection. I said that I want to avoid all strings.

I have tried to stay out of the discussion and listen to what is said, but your comments indicate that I did not express myself clearly.

My wife went to another bedroom years ago. She only wants sex every other blue moon. Otherwise we get on well. I miss physical closeness most of all. Others need cigarettes or booze. I need physical contact. Inter alia I miss all that comes with intercourse and in different circumstances would enjoy the delights on offer from a WG. However part of that package, for me, is a bunch of emotions which I want to avoid ... including affection. It's a character weakness. I like to have a bond with the girls I make love to and I don't get much satisfaction from sex without a bond. Since I do not seek intercourse I do not need affection from a WG. If there is affection it must remain at a low background level in order that it remains an NSR. For me, and some contributors to this discussion, there can be separation of the elements and affection need not enter the equation.

My thanks to all who have contributed their thoughts and opinions. It helps to see other view points which never occurred to me.

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Interesting that you appear unable to disconnect affection from physical contact without intercourse.

I do not seek affection. I said that I want to avoid all strings.

I have tried to stay out of the discussion and listen to what is said, but your comments indicate that I did not express myself clearly.

My wife went to another bedroom years ago. She only wants sex every other blue moon. Otherwise we get on well. I miss physical closeness most of all. Others need cigarettes or booze. I need physical contact. Inter alia I miss all that comes with intercourse and in different circumstances would enjoy the delights on offer from a WG. However part of that package, for me, is a bunch of emotions which I want to avoid ... including affection. It's a character weakness. I like to have a bond with the girls I make love to and I don't get much satisfaction from sex without a bond. Since I do not seek intercourse I do not need affection from a WG. If there is affection it must remain at a low background level in order that it remains an NSR. For me, and some contributors to this discussion, there can be separation of the elements and affection need not enter the equation.

My thanks to all who have contributed their thoughts and opinions. It helps to see other view points which never occurred to me.

 

 

You are quite wrong in your assessment.

 

I can Disassociate Intercourse, with affection and physical contact.

 

However you are the one station that you don't want intercourse as you need a bond, and affection will have to stay at a low level.

 

The trouble with that is, when you meet with a girl, she will combine all three talents.

 

You will have trouble in that department, do you honestly in your own head, after sitting an hour in a ladies place, having a conversation and a cuddle, that you won't see her as human and develop an affection for her.

 

Go back and do some research, it's only after years of seeing WG's gents finally get their head round not falling in one context or another for them

 

You only have to read the threads on the board.

 

Your only option is to see a different girl every time, which you have already stated wouldn't do what you needed.

 

I am not known for pandering, and wether you wish to believe it or not I have gone against the grain in this thread because I actually care about the industry and it's participants.

 

But I will sit back and watch with interest and invariably say "I told you so at the right moment." when you inevitably post on how you've fallen for a girl, or how this is so much harder and so much more complex than you give it credit.

 

Happy Playtime

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Sorry, no offence but I have absolutely no idea what this poster is looking for. I wonder if the missus has distanced herself physically from him because she has no idea either?

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I agree with what Autumn Temptation is saying.  I don't think that a working girl is the right path for the OP.

 

It may be against the grain to suggest such action on a forum like this one but I don't think marriage counselling should be an idea that's just left as a last resort.  Many couples experience problems similar to this and counselling often gets them past it.  Okay, it really is not for everyone but a working girl can be a temporary boost to the physical attention you need but it most certainly won't fix the problems at home.

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get yourself a lesbian girlfriend who wouldn't want to have sex with you in a month of Sundays as your best mate and do cuddles and companionship....... leave the family life to the wife don't bother her she wont cuddle you bec the intimacy has gone and prob is afraid you are going to want se.......x leave the working girls for the bjs and such stuff and your new lesbian friend as your cuddle bunny.

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I'm not so sure about this.  I'm certain that when they are both naked his little brain might have idea's of its own and that will be hard to control, but having said that I have done non sex skin to skin bookings without problem so maybe it would be ok for him.

 

Mind you I think it would be cheaper to just ask the wife for a cuddle..

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