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Safety Of Massages, Lapdances, Nuru, Assisted Shower, Etc

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Hi, I am a total newbie and wanted to try visiting an escort for the first time, at a massage parlour.

 

However, I wanted to take it slowly, maybe non-penetrative sex to start with. And especially, how would you rate the safety of different sexual activities?

 

I read that the safest way to play is to always use the condom when oral, never do bareback, never let any body fluids contact (e.g. even kissing).

 

So do you think lapdances, dry-humping, massges, nuru massage etc. would be safe?

 

I truly apologize if this sounds ignorant, but I am just totally new and I am quite adamant about not getting infected in any way. But I do want to visit an escort, and pretty soon :)

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Not exactly sure what you think you might get from you having a fully clothed lapdance or a massage where she is just rubbing your body with her hands? Kissing is fairly low for anything other than a cold sore?

It is good to be sti conscious of course, most decent ladies you have to understand take it seriously as well and will get tested regularly..if they are ill they can't work after all.

Would you be as concerned to the point of no kissing if it was a lady you picked up on a nightout because after all she might not be as likely to take care of herself as a wg?

It just seems to me if you are that worried about catching things from a wg it kind of leaves you with very limited options and a fairly boring booking.

Perhaps do a bit of googling about risks of stis and decide yourself what you are happy with.

Deffo bareback is not a good idea with anyone outside of a long term relationship, sounds like for you oral without is off the menu, reverse oral with a dam, it kind of leaves an hj really..or as you say massages.

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Thank you Bibi!

 

As I said, apologies for my newbie-ness - I truly have very little clue of what to expect from a massage parlour / wg in terms of safety. That's why I am here with all my questions :)

 

Does "fully clothed" mean both are fully dressed? What if we stripped to just our underwear?

Oral with condom would be safe then?

 

To answer your questions:

I don't mind leaving out FK or not kissing at all. I'd rather not use my mouth on anything :) 

 

I think what I am seeking for a starter is to be massively teased and turned on and then released in one way or another.

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Well yes fully clothed means when you are both dressed.Not sure why you think having oral with a condom and being dressed makes it more safe than oral with a condom undressed?You will still need to get your willy out to have it sucked.You do seem to be very paranoid about stis.Perhaps you nred to have a think if this really is for you or stipulate to the girl that you really want to stay dressed,not touch and literally just poke your bits out for the covered oral or just stick to a nontouch policy lapdancing club.

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Hi, I am a total newbie and wanted to try visiting an escort for the first time, at a massage parlour.

 

However, I wanted to take it slowly, maybe non-penetrative sex to start with. And especially, how would you rate the safety of different sexual activities?

 

I read that the safest way to play is to always use the condom when oral, never do bareback, never let any body fluids contact (e.g. even kissing).

 

So do you think lapdances, dry-humping, massges, nuru massage etc. would be safe?

 

I truly apologize if this sounds ignorant, but I am just totally new and I am quite adamant about not getting infected in any way. But I do want to visit an escort, and pretty soon :)

Abstinence is the only guarantee. Are you sure that religion has not got its' claws in to you?

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Hey,

 

I am just trying to get the right picture and minimize that possibility. Just good health and thoughtfulness towards [future] family :D

 

My ideal scenario after having read everything is a naked lapdance, massage, grinding, and anything that does not involve contact with body fluids (kissing, uncovered, bareback) - and all I am asking is: do you agree that is a good compromise?

 

Let me put it this way:

If you had a family you care about (or plans for one), but still wanted to get some sexual excitement from a physical person who is not your own hand, what would you do?

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Hey,

 

I am just trying to get the right picture and minimize that possibility. Just good health and thoughtfulness towards [future] family :D

 

My ideal scenario after having read everything is a naked lapdance, massage, grinding, and anything that does not involve contact with body fluids (kissing, uncovered, bareback) - and all I am asking is: do you agree that is a good compromise?

 

Let me put it this way:

If you had a family you care about (or plans for one), but still wanted to get some sexual excitement from a physical person who is not your own hand, what would you do?

Use a prosthetic hand and pay it £10. :)

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Use a prosthetic hand and pay it £10. :)

 

Would really prefer a human :)

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Are you sure that you will be able to handle the feelings of guilt and shame after you have done the deed? This is a serious point you must consider.

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Would really prefer a human :)

Excuse me you come on the board completely petrified you will catch something off an escort who probably spend more time in a GUM clinic then some of us spent time eating  dinner. So the safest option is a fleshlight or something along those lines but remember to wash it.

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Well you could try getting sexual excitement from a lady who isn't a w.g if you think a w.g is more likely to give you and sti.

It does sound to most of us that you are so utterly petrified of stis that you may as well wrap both of you in clingfilm.

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You originally wanted to know if massage and lapdancing were safe.Again not sure what you think you may catch from stuff like that?Now you want a session that basically involves a handjob so book someone who will give you a massage and a happy ending or just have a lapdance with no touching if you feel so strongly.

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I think you should take a long hard look at this, and other related  sites, before making up your mind about entering the world of paid sex. It seems to me that you have a mind full of prejudices which will take some shifting.

 

However, in the hope that you are not a troll, I will spell out a few facts; this board has 23,400 members, most of whom have had at least 1 paid sex encounter, the majority having had many such sessions ranging from hand jobs through to extreme BDSM, Scat, WS, and a whole variety of activities. The fact that we are all still alive to tell the tale must tell you something.

 

Even if only half of us are indulging regularly there is clearly a whole lot of sex going on. From your reading here how many instances are there of anybody catching an STI?  Yes it can happen but very few Service Providers will indulge in any risky activity. By "risky" I do not mean kissing or even DFK. BB, as we all know is the greatest taboo and there are very few practitioners of that here.

 

Are you mature enough to take the minimal risks involved in mutual masturbation, kissing, or even O?

 

If not I suggest that you go to church three timers every Sunday and keep well away from women.

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Does "fully clothed" mean both are fully dressed? What if we stripped to just our underwear?

 

 

Absolutely hilarious :lol:

 

Actually....you shouldn't even look at a WG or your eyes will be infected with disease :eek:

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Hi - let me speak in peace:

I think we are either talking past each other; or some are being sarcastic. Sorry, but an internet forum is really a hard place to correctly interpret tone. In either case, what I beg you to understand is that - as evidenced by my nickname - I am completely new to this, so each of my questions are genuine. I don't find it helpful nor informative if most are just trying to be funny rather than answering a straightforward "yes" or "no".

 

I am clueless about what WGs do in their free time, I don't know what others in this forum have done, I can only double guess, and yes, it's true, since I am new most of my knowledge may be prejudice and what I read on the internet. I am also no expert on STDs/STIs. But that's why I am here to clarify all these ideas. I hope that's not a crime, nor worth ridicule?

 

Getting back to the point (and in answer to some of the users above):

1. So, if thousands of users here are STD/STI-free, doesn't that mean that paid sex is safe - especially if done the right way?

2. The reason I ask why lapdances or nuru massages pose a danger for STD/STIs is that I very vaguely recall having read somewhere that it can have carry some risks. Which risks, I don't know. That's why I was asking.

 

3. Unless the answers above were made out of sheer sarcasm, I find it hard to see a connection between wanting to prevent STD/STIs and engaging in safe sexuality.

 

To conclude: so yes, if everyone here does it, and nobody got STDs/STIs, it must be safe, so I should feel safe doing it.

Makes sense now?

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Hi - let me speak in peace:

I think we are either talking past each other; or some are being sarcastic. Sorry, but an internet forum is really a hard place to correctly interpret tone. In either case, what I beg you to understand is that - as evidenced by my nickname - I am completely new to this, so each of my questions are genuine. I don't find it helpful nor informative if most are just trying to be funny rather than answering a straightforward "yes" or "no".

 

I am clueless about what WGs do in their free time, I don't know what others in this forum have done, I can only double guess, and yes, it's true, since I am new most of my knowledge may be prejudice and what I read on the internet. I am also no expert on STDs/STIs. But that's why I am here to clarify all these ideas. I hope that's not a crime, nor worth ridicule?

 

Getting back to the point (and in answer to some of the users above):

1. So, if thousands of users here are STD/STI-free, doesn't that mean that paid sex is safe - especially if done the right way?

2. The reason I ask why lapdances or nuru massages pose a danger for STD/STIs is that I very vaguely recall having read somewhere that it can have carry some risks. Which risks, I don't know. That's why I was asking.

 

3. Unless the answers above were made out of sheer sarcasm, I find it hard to see a connection between wanting to prevent STD/STIs and engaging in safe sexuality.

 

To conclude: so yes, if everyone here does it, and nobody got STDs/STIs, it must be safe, so I should feel safe doing it.

Makes sense now?

Hi       I will reply in peace. I have no wish to ridicule you or any other newbie. In response to the highlighted text

 

1         WG's do what we all do in our spare time; spend time with their friends and families, decorate, garden, walk in the park, plan holidays  go shopping etc etc

 

2     You slightly misquoted me; Everyone here does it and VERY FEW GET STD'S. On that basis you should be very safe with Nuru and lap dancing.

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Sorry Firsttimer87, but in this day and age where lads have bad eyesight from jerking off to porn. I found it hard to believe that someone is that paranoid about the 'paid scene'. I suggest you set aside an afternoon and peruse these boards and become enlightened.

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Wgs are human beings that as porker paul says do the same sort of things that everyone else does.We have a job which is to entertain gents and indeed ladies then most of us go home to family.We are not deranged nymphos that then go round shagging all and sundry without condoms.By all means ask for reassurance and advice but try having a good read of the forum so you can ask questions that are based on informed opinions rather than total ignorance.

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Asking things like is a massage safe is akin to asking if I sit on a toilet seat after someone with hiv has been sat on it..will I get it?

A little more common sense and a bit more reading about stis and how they spread I think is required as well as getting it into your head that you are no more likely to get an sti from a wg using a condom than you are some lass you pick up on a night out before you start booking.At the end of the day how do you know what anybody does in their free time?The homely girl next door could be inject8ng heroin and going dogging without a condom every night for all you know.

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Wgs are human beings that as porker paul says do the same sort of things that everyone else does.We have a job which is to entertain gents and indeed ladies then most of us go home to family.We are not deranged nymphos that then go round shagging all and sundry without condoms.By all means ask for reassurance and advice but try having a good read of the forum so you can ask questions that are based on informed opinions rather than total ignorance.

...all my illusions shattered... :wub:

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...all my illusions shattered... :wub:

Aw sorry flower...by the way Santa doesn't really exist either... ;)

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