Alixxx

Clients Becoming Stalkers

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Is this quite common? I've had a couple in my time; both have shown up at my home address (I do NOT work from home!!). It is such an invasion of privacy and just wondering what the hell their thought process is for this behaviour? I've been stalked online as well and many other forms. I don't see what they get from their obsession??

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Very weard! Something is wrong in those peoples mind,I understand that you get a very bad feeling.Did you got any chance to ask them what is going on?

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Well one was immediately blacklisted but the other one I confronted and he apologised profusely... just cannot understand the point of stalking someone, especially someone that you actually see regularly (both were regular clients). The amount of time and effort they'd both put in to find out everything was immense!

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To do this would be a massive intrusion and abuse. Obviously freaky and would unnerve even the toughest of WG I would think. Even the first instance should be considered a criminal offence but as ever the perpetrator really needs serious help

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Is this quite common? I've had a couple in my time; both have shown up at my home address (I do NOT work from home!!).............I've been stalked online as well and many other forms.

Recently I've become very suspicious of new members. Possibly irrationally. Probably with good cause.

In your case, Alixxx, it may well be a case of you being in the wrong place at the right time and asking the wrong question. If that is the case the I will have no hesitation in offering any apology that is necessary

Most posters, when they first appear, start by offering comments on topics started by others. Then when they have found their feet they will start a topic. At least that's the way it seems to me.

Lately we seem to have had the occasional newbie who jumps in with a stick of dynamite in hand to start a thread. The impression I have then got is that they turn out to be not who they seemed to be.

You seem to have been exceptionally unlucky as regards stalkers Alixxx.

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Absolute top post Gibbs...

Thank you Hero. See that my stalker has given me another -1. As long as it gives them enjoyment. But it only works if you care. :D

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Dynamite, how? I have been reading these boards for quite some time but never felt the need to join, or post until there was something I wanted to ask. I've been escorting for a couple of years and in that time I've had 2 hardcore stalkers - I just wanted to hear from other people as I'm a little worried how far these sorts of people are prepared to go; to say it's unsettling is an understatement. I don't understand what exactly it is that you're suspicious of?

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Dynamite, how? I have been reading these boards for quite some time..........I don't understand what exactly it is that you're suspicious of?

If you have been reading these boards "for quite some time" then surely you can "understand" why I am suspicious. I quite clearly outlined my thoughts in my post.

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I'm with Gibbsy on this one, so he gets a + from me.

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I'm with Gibbsy on this one, so he gets a + from me.

Thank you KP. As I said in my original post if an apology is necessary then it will be there for all to see. Unfortunately there have been a few miscreants appear recently and therefore although you can sometimes spot the good (and the bad) immediately lately that has not been the case. :)

I see that my stalker has been at it again. :D

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Is this quite common? I've had a couple in my time; both have shown up at my home address (I do NOT work from home!!). It is such an invasion of privacy and just wondering what the hell their thought process is for this behaviour? I've been stalked online as well and many other forms. I don't see what they get from their obsession??

 

Any idea how they got your home address?

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Took me a minute to figure this out, now I see where you are coming from Gibbs!

 

Is your real name Sherlock?

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i have been stalked in the past... a girl from school that had a crush on me (how things change LOL)... she developed mental illness in her late teens after taking too many E's and started stalking me... did all kinds of things like breaking into my parents house... that was 20 years ago but even now a mysterious valantines card or birthday delivery sometimes arrives at my parents... they've moved house but are in the same neighbourhood... it is very intrusive and frustrating... there's no getting through to her... and she enjoys any kind of interaction even if its hostile....

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Took me a minute to figure this out, now I see where you are coming from Gibbs!

 

Is your real name Sherlock?

 

i dont get it?

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i dont get it?

Gibbs suspects the OP is a troll which, in view of some of the colourful conversation here recently isn't that unreasonable.

But, I don't think the opening post is that implausible. In answer to the question about what they get from it, I'd guess it's one of those "if you have to ask the question you won't understand the answer," They're obsessed and not thinking rationally so trying to rationalise their reasons isn't going to work. If it's a problem call the police- they'll be more helpful than you might expect.

My reg had some guy doing much the same but a quiet word from the boys in blue was all it took to scare the bugger off. They were very discrete.

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Most WGs I have got to know well have experienced some kind of stalkerish behaviour at some point in their career. Perhaps not as bad as the OP's experience, but even so, it's not so uncommon that someone coming on here to talk about it is automatically a troll.

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Jesus. Can't even ask a simple question without wannabe Poirots jumping to (wrong) conclusions. Guess this isn't such a friendly place if an innocuous post can result in this. Not sure how to 'prove' I'm a genuine poster Dt. Gibbs but you are very wrong here...

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I know how one of them got my address but I don't want to post 'tips' here for any wannabe stalkers.

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Is this quite common? I've had a couple in my time; both have shown up at my home address (I do NOT work from home!!). It is such an invasion of privacy and just wondering what the hell their thought process is for this behaviour? I've been stalked online as well and many other forms. I don't see what they get from their obsession??

Sadly yes it is quite common to varying degrees. What they get is they get off on what they do, if they scare then all the better from their point of view. Unfortunately i punted with a WG who was being staked a few years ago, i saw the evidence of texts and emails this evil cunt had been sending her. There was a reason she was very reluctant to go to the police, he knew this reason too and exploited it.

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Thanks smiths. They weren't trying to be malicious. One of them persistently asked me out on dates, which I always politely declined (I don't like blurring lines) and it was more obsession as in wanting to know everything about me (possibly to use as ammo to fake common interests or something...), the other one professed his love and cried for forgiveness etc. So I guess I've been quite lucky that they haven't been threatening, but I still find it very unnerving, sort of like the feeling when someone breaks into your home and you feel violated. :s

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Recently I've become very suspicious of new members. Possibly irrationally. Probably with good cause.

In your case, Alixxx, it may well be a case of you being in the wrong place at the right time and asking the wrong question. If that is the case the I will have no hesitation in offering any apology that is necessary

Most posters, when they first appear, start by offering comments on topics started by others. Then when they have found their feet they will start a topic. At least that's the way it seems to me.

Lately we seem to have had the occasional newbie who jumps in with a stick of dynamite in hand to start a thread. The impression I have then got is that they turn out to be not who they seemed to be.

You seem to have been exceptionally unlucky as regards stalkers Alixxx.

Gibbs.................

 

I have just given you one.  I hope it was good for you..................

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Jesus. Can't even ask a simple question without wannabe Poirots jumping to (wrong) conclusions. Guess this isn't such a friendly place if an innocuous post can result in this. Not sure how to 'prove' I'm a genuine poster Dt. Gibbs but you are very wrong here...

 

You don't have to prove anything Ali - take no notice.

 

It'd definitely not that unusual and I had a similar situation years ago (when I was outcall only and advertised in the paper) which led me to stop working, as well as several more minor ones since I came back. The balance between a punter (who may be emotionally vulnerable himself rather than malicious, although there's no shortage of the latter either) getting a bit over-keen due to misread signals and overstepping the mark like this is a very fine line indeed IME.

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Whether the OP is a troll or not (I like to give people the benefit of the doubt first time out), stalking is an important issue in the punting world. It's well worth a thread discussing it imho. It's got to be a better topic than "do you chat to WGs" after all !!!

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Whether the OP is a troll or not (I like to give people the benefit of the doubt first time out), stalking is an important issue in the punting world. It's well worth a thread discussing it imho. It's got to be a better topic than "do you chat to WGs" after all !!!

Very well put.

I guess there are (at least?) two types of stalking. Those who do it out of obsession whether to scare or just as part of mental illness in which case I'd suggest going to the police, or those who do it as a demonstration of "love." In fact it's unlikely to be nothing of the sort- more like infatuation and I guess that the best way forward is to make it clear that it's not reciprocated and cut off contact. They'll get the message eventually.

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