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The Secrecy...

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There are a lot of threads around about the obvious necessity of keeping visits to SPs a secret from other halves. But I've been left wondering if the secrecy is also a pull for some on here? Don't we all actually want a secret life that offers thrills that others don't know about?

 

Maybe it's because I'm single and therefore am not actively hiding what I'm doing -- although I'm not confessing to it either! But there is a part of me that likes the fact that when colleagues ask what you've done of a weekend, I know the real answer is: "I had a wonderful threesome/shot my load over a lovely willing lass/was fucked with a strapon*"... And that if I said it, they probably wouldn't believe me anyway :)

 

Thoughts?

 

*Delete as necessary according to poster's proclivities and experiences :)

 

 

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Good post! As a widower I am in a similar position but I definitely think you have a point.

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yes. I think the clandestine part of it is part of the thrill.  Cant say I had considered it before.

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I remember delaying meeting my brother for a night out because I was at a sex part and knowing I was going stright out after did add to it. When I arrived at the bar smiling and yet clearly exhausted he ask what I had been doing. Just said I had a drink with a work mate and ran over.  It did make the feeling last a lot longer.

 

I was single then but I don't want everyone knowing what I do with my time.

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This 'secret' has impacted my life in so many different ways.

 
I remember when I first started escorting and I was combining it with my day job, I was constantly drifting off in the board room thinking about what I had been up to and what I was going to get up to, a big smile on my face and a damp patch between my legs! Not very professional!
 
When I left my job to concentrate on escorting full time the 'secret' became rather a big problem as the nosy neighbour beneath me got laid off and was constantly at home, luckily enough though I found a lovely Soho incall.
 
Keeping the secret from my friends and family was a big burden as I am naturally a very honest person and I am terrible at lying. In the end I told both my sisters and all my friends. My sisters, of course were worried but thankfully Belle du Jour was out and after watching that and being reassured by me they grew used to the idea. I lost some friends but kept all the good ones. I will never tell my parents so it is very much a secret there a bit of a sad one for me as I hate lying to them but I know it's for the best.
 
I obviously had to keep my secret from my landlord and sometimes worry about the neighbours working it out but not unduly, I searched for the perfect place for six months before moving, it's very discrete and I don't see a lot of clients anyway.
 
It still gives me a massive  thrill meeting strangers and being other peoples secret  :D
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The confidentiality is part of the fun

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yes. secrecy is part of the thrill.

 

but also can make this a lonely hobby.

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yes. secrecy is part of the thrill.

 

but also can make this a lonely hobby.

Agree

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This 'secret' has impacted my life in so many different ways.

 
I remember when I first started escorting and I was combining it with my day job, I was constantly drifting off in the board room thinking about what I had been up to and what I was going to get up to, a big smile on my face and a damp patch between my legs! Not very professional!
 
When I left my job to concentrate on escorting full time the 'secret' became rather a big problem as the nosy neighbour beneath me got laid off and was constantly at home, luckily enough though I found a lovely Soho incall.
 
Keeping the secret from my friends and family was a big burden as I am naturally a very honest person and I am terrible at lying. In the end I told both my sisters and all my friends. My sisters, of course were worried but thankfully Belle du Jour was out and after watching that and being reassured by me they grew used to the idea. I lost some friends but kept all the good ones. I will never tell my parents so it is very much a secret there a bit of a sad one for me as I hate lying to them but I know it's for the best.
 
I obviously had to keep my secret from my landlord and sometimes worry about the neighbours working it out but not unduly, I searched for the perfect place for six months before moving, it's very discrete and I don't see a lot of clients anyway.
 
It still gives me a massive  thrill meeting strangers and being other peoples secret  :D

 

Some of what you say is spot on for me.  Some of it does not apply, but I hear you and agree about being other people's secret x

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yes. secrecy is part of the thrill.

 

but also can make this a lonely hobby.

 

This board helps....

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This board helps....

It definately does. In more ways that people realise sometimes.

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This board helps....

Definitely.

Through this forum and one or two others, I've also maintained email contact with a couple of punters and one wg who lives so far away it's unlikely we'll meet - but never say never, one of us might go on tour one of these days ;)

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Some of what you say is spot on for me.  Some of it does not apply, but I hear you and agree about being other people's secret x

 

Not into the secret thing me, my mouths too big and I'd drop myself in it within five mins.  I do take my hat off to those that can though.  How on earth they manage to juggle that bloody phone ringing 24/7 whilst raising families, doing other jobs and so on I'll never know.

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Certainly finding a discreet apartment is incredibly important and not bothering the neighbours is also essential. 

 

However as much as I enjoy meeting new people it is hard to stay secret nowadays. 

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Thanks for all the replies -- interesting to see others agree. The more I think about it, the more I enjoy having a secret life...

 

 

I remember delaying meeting my brother for a night out because I was at a sex part and knowing I was going stright out after did add to it. When I arrived at the bar smiling and yet clearly exhausted he ask what I had been doing. Just said I had a drink with a work mate and ran over.  It did make the feeling last a lot longer.

 

 

Exactly corbabb5 -- that knowledge bubbling inside has to be a buzz!

 

 

 

This 'secret' has impacted my life in so many different ways.

 
I remember when I first started escorting and I was combining it with my day job, I was constantly drifting off in the board room thinking about what I had been up to and what I was going to get up to, a big smile on my face and a damp patch between my legs! Not very professional!
 
When I left my job to concentrate on escorting full time the 'secret' became rather a big problem as the nosy neighbour beneath me got laid off and was constantly at home, luckily enough though I found a lovely Soho incall.
 
Keeping the secret from my friends and family was a big burden as I am naturally a very honest person and I am terrible at lying. In the end I told both my sisters and all my friends. My sisters, of course were worried but thankfully Belle du Jour was out and after watching that and being reassured by me they grew used to the idea. I lost some friends but kept all the good ones. I will never tell my parents so it is very much a secret there a bit of a sad one for me as I hate lying to them but I know it's for the best.
 
I obviously had to keep my secret from my landlord and sometimes worry about the neighbours working it out but not unduly, I searched for the perfect place for six months before moving, it's very discrete and I don't see a lot of clients anyway.
 
It still gives me a massive  thrill meeting strangers and being other peoples secret  :D

 

 

Thanks for this MySecretLife -- it's good to hear that being someone else's secret is also a thrill. I can imagine from your perspective it's a different kind of secrecy, although there are common elements for clients and SPs... But I think it would add to it for me if I knew a lass I'd visited felt that way!

 

I suppose there is also the temptation to blurt it out at some point which is kind of delicious. But I don't think I'm going to succumb to it!

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