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I Often Get Feelings For The Wgs Ive Visited,is This Normal?

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I have lots of feelings for WGS that ive seen,there is one especially that is on my mind all the time,i want her to leave the business and be my girlfriend and although i know its all fantasy it drives me mad knowing what other men are doing to her each day,I even have a girlfriend that i would leave for this particular WG.

What do you guys do when you get feelings for a WG?   

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I have lots of feelings for WGS that ive seen,there is one especially that is on my mind all the time,i want her to leave the business and be my girlfriend and although i know its all fantasy it drives me mad knowing what other men are doing to her each day,I even have a girlfriend that i would leave for this particular WG.

What do you guys do when you get feelings for a WG?   

I go elsewhere as its not fair to the WG if i am feeling like that in my view. They are doing a job and thats all i expect from them. Unless a robot it can be hard sometimes not to get attached but unless its mutual its unhealthy in my opinion.

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The only way for me is to keep it strictly business.

If you're the type to develop real feelings for the wg's you see I'd limit it to a couple of visits tops and then move on. Less chance of becoming emotionally attached.

Or for your own sanity, don't punt....otherwise it'll mess with your head. It's 99.9% certain the wg won't reciprocate the feelings you have.

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The only way for me is to keep it strictly business.

If you're the type to develop real feelings for the wg's you see I'd limit it to a couple of visits tops and then move on. Less chance of becoming emotionally attached.

Or for your own sanity, don't punt....otherwise it'll mess with your head. It's 99.9% certain the wg won't reciprocate the feelings you have.

you might be right about stopping punting burty,ive only been with a few but the last one i was with is such a lovely girl and great personality and we are laughing and getting on so well.very difficult for me actually as i know she is doing a job. 

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I go elsewhere as its not fair to the WG if i am feeling like that in my view. They are doing a job and thats all i expect from them. Unless a robot it can be hard sometimes not to get attached but unless its mutual its unhealthy in my opinion.

thanks smiths,i think you are right and i have to realise she is doing a job,difficult though as you say "we are not robots".

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You're not falling in love with your WG, you're falling for the character she plays during bookings. Its our job to be lovely, sweet, sexy and funny etc etc for clients but like all humans we have faults.

I also think you should deal with or leave your current girlfriend. If you want to leave her you should, not wait til you have a replacement lined up. It's not fair.

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You're not falling in love with your WG, you're falling for the character she plays during bookings. Its our job to be lovely, sweet, sexy and funny etc etc for clients but like all humans we have faults.

 

I think that is a great way of putting it by Lydia.

 

I don't know if I have "fallen" for a lady, but I certainly felt I had feelings I didn't think I would feel towards a working lady. I guess in many ways this is natural, due to the nature of what goes on and the fact we are all humans.

 

However, as Lydia said you haven't fallen for the lady, but the role she is playing. You'll probably never know her exact character or go through the ups and downs a natural relationship would, so I guess in someways the guy falls for the fantasy as much as the actually lady, as he'll never trully know her.

 

As much as a guy may have feelings, I think we all need a reality check now and then. 99.9% if you have these feelings it will only lead to negative emotions and outcomes, so as much as it is hard to read (and was for myself), don't go there and you should probably stop seeing the lady in question, ultimately it is not fair on yourself and not fair on the lady should your (my, any clients) behaviour become unacceptable.

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thanks for the sensible replies guys (and gals)..i agree with a lot of what you have replied,its difficult though but i do agree about what lydia said and that im "falling for the character".

i think i feel a bit protective of the girls and the one who i particularly like is only doing the job for college fees and rent and shes such a lovely girl and not really putting on a show as shes virtually new to the game.anyway ive moved away from that area now,i just wanted to get her out of the business while she has her life and self esteem still intact.

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thanks for the sensible replies guys (and gals)..i agree with a lot of what you have replied,its difficult though but i do agree about what lydia said and that im "falling for the character".

i think i feel a bit protective of the girls and the one who i particularly like is only doing the job for college fees and rent and shes such a lovely girl and not really putting on a show as shes virtually new to the game.anyway ive moved away from that area now,i just wanted to get her out of the business while she has her life and self esteem still intact.

Honey what makes you think she needs rescuing by you?What makes you think her life and self esteem will suffer?Sorry but thats pretty patronising.She is a grown woman choosing to do what she does.You say she isn't putting on an act but as has been said,you only know the girl in the room with you and what she chooses to tell you.If you do continue to punt with any lady always bear this in mind.
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Yes, I agree with Bibi, you can't assume she needs rescuing or that by being an escort her self esteem will suffer. For many women it gives us confidence and helps our self esteem. 

 

It's sweet you're concerned, but try not to get sucked in. If you want to punt then see a new woman each time to prevent you getting too attached. 

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agree with Bibi and Lydia.  You have to avoid developing a White Knight complex.  These ladies are in the profession through choice - they're not damsels in distress that need rescuing.  I believe, although obviously can't really know, that many escorts find the life empowering in a way that other jobs simply wouldn't be.

 

As for not putting on an act, well sorry to be brutal but not only is she, but an hour after you've left she's putting on the same act with someone else.  It's her job.

 

I don't mean to sound harsh but I believe these are the cold facts and  you need to come to terms with them

 

Good luck anyway  :)

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Was too late to edit the above post so having to post another.  Just to put my comments in context I was only referring to the "rescuing" bit.

 

As for having feelings for a WG, well you'd have to have a heart of stone not to.  I certainly have feelings.  In my latest feedback on AW the lady actually described me as "romantic", which is probably shorthand for being a bit of a soppy bastard!

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Many of us have been there and if there was a T-shirt we would have it.

 

Hopefully after the first time it happens you won't go there again.

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I sympathise with you Pedro. I find myself in a similar predicament. I am 20 years older than you so it makes my position even more ridiculous as I am double the age of the girl I have fallen for. I have been punting for as long as some members of this board have been alive and have never been in this state before. I have had regulars I really liked such as Sally and Carmen but I knew it was all just work. This one is different. I actually do think about her as more than a sexual pleasure. Recently when she was ill but working I did not have sex with her, even though she said we had to as I had paid ,because I was worried about her. I have not really cared for anyone since my wife died 18 years ago so it is a shock feeling like this. I have usually had fairly inpersonal sex 4 or 5 times a week but now I only want her so I am celibate when she is away and I find this very hard.

 

It is not the girls fault as she is truly lovely and not leading me on. She will cease work at the end of the year and I will be devastated when I can no longer see her. I will concentrate on my work and mass orgies of mindless sex when she goes and wonder how I allowed myself to get into this state. 

 

I do not think that seeing different women will necessarily be the answer as I only saw this girl once before I was hooked. Occasionally you come across the one and if your lucky it is reciprocated but no one is lucky every time.

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In any situation where people interact, even something as banal as buying a newspaper, people have feelings for each other, the only difference in the sex business, is the high percentage of vulnerable males, only matched by the percentage of hard as nail females,these stories crop up in the press quite often, guys losing everything due to a daft infatuation,,,,on the other hand, many of these girls are single and available, if you tick the usual boxes.. , home owner, got a job, not catastrophically boring, not headturningly ugly,,,

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I sympathise with you Pedro. I find myself in a similar predicament. I am 20 years older than you so it makes my position even more ridiculous as I am double the age of the girl I have fallen for. I have been punting for as long as some members of this board have been alive and have never been in this state before. I have had regulars I really liked such as Sally and Carmen but I knew it was all just work. This one is different. I actually do think about her as more than a sexual pleasure. Recently when she was ill but working I did not have sex with her, even though she said we had to as I had paid ,because I was worried about her. I have not really cared for anyone since my wife died 18 years ago so it is a shock feeling like this. I have usually had fairly inpersonal sex 4 or 5 times a week but now I only want her so I am celibate when she is away and I find this very hard.

 

It is not the girls fault as she is truly lovely and not leading me on. She will cease work at the end of the year and I will be devastated when I can no longer see her. I will concentrate on my work and mass orgies of mindless sex when she goes and wonder how I allowed myself to get into this state. 

 

I do not think that seeing different women will necessarily be the answer as I only saw this girl once before I was hooked. Occasionally you come across the one and if your lucky it is reciprocated but no one is lucky every time.

 

   Thanks for sharing .    A deep meaningful post .

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   Thanks for sharing .    A deep meaningful post .

 

Agree.  It's all too easy to dismiss men as selfish bastards who think with their cocks.  It's nonsense of course as we have feelings too, and you can never tell when you're going to be hit with that thunderbolt of attraction.  Can often happen in the most unlikely of situations

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As for having feelings for a WG, well you'd have to have a heart of stone not to.  I certainly have feelings.

 

I think that's a bit harsh.  I have feelings for a WG in the same way as I have feelings for the girl who serves me my coffee, but not what I would call romantic feelings.  Sure, it's not a simple business transaction and whilst I am in the room, I do connect on some emotional level, but when I leave it's just with a nice afterglow.

 

For me, the benefit of visiting a WG is that I don't need to buy her dinner first, I can go home afterwards without feeling guilty about not making a load of small talk (most times), I don't need to ring her the next day to see how she's feeling.

 

I don't think that means I have a heart of stone, maybe it makes me selfish.

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I think that's a bit harsh.  I have feelings for a WG in the same way as I have feelings for the girl who serves me my coffee, but not what I would call romantic feelings.  Sure, it's not a simple business transaction and whilst I am in the room, I do connect on some emotional level, but when I leave it's just with a nice afterglow.

 

For me, the benefit of visiting a WG is that I don't need to buy her dinner first, I can go home afterwards without feeling guilty about not making a load of small talk (most times), I don't need to ring her the next day to see how she's feeling.

 

I don't think that means I have a heart of stone, maybe it makes me selfish.

 

 

No doesn't make you selfish, because as you said you have some feelings.  I didn't define what those feelings might be in my post.  I was really referring to those, and they do exist, who see the WG as a piece of meat to be used and left.  I've seen the charming phrase "pump and dump" on another forum.  You're still relating on a human level.  Some don't  :)

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I'm not going to be as nice as the other girls and sugar coat it... 

 

Get real honey, if I had a pound for every time I was told 'your far too nice to be doing this' I would be a wealthy woman.  We choose to do this and some bloody well enjoyed it whilst doing it.  I was not ashamed of what I did and didn't need guys coming telling me I should be ashamed which is effectively what you are doing.

 

She may be sweet but this is obviously a means to an end for her and unless she is selling herself for drugs or being pimped then I doubt she needs saving.  Knight's in white shining armour and hookers don't mix I'm afraid, unless she says otherwise she does not need saving, quite the opposite in fact. 

 

Treat her with respect by all means and if you really do have any worries then point her in the direction of safe and let those in the know protect her, but it certainly is not your job.  Sorry to be so blunt, but you need a reality check and should be worrying more about your current girlfriends welfare as she is the one that's heading for heartbreak.

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I'm not going to be as nice as the other girls and sugar coat it... 

 

Get real honey, if I had a pound for every time I was told 'your far too nice to be doing this' I would be a wealthy woman.  We choose to do this and some bloody well enjoyed it whilst doing it.  I was not ashamed of what I did and didn't need guys coming telling me I should be ashamed which is effectively what you are doing.

 

She may be sweet but this is obviously a means to an end for her and unless she is selling herself for drugs or being pimped then I doubt she needs saving.  Knight's in white shining armour and hookers don't mix I'm afraid, unless she says otherwise she does not need saving, quite the opposite in fact. 

 

Treat her with respect by all means and if you really do have any worries then point her in the direction of safe and let those in the know protect her, but it certainly is not your job.  Sorry to be so blunt, but you need a reality check and should be worrying more about your current girlfriends welfare as she is the one that's heading for heartbreak.

 

I was going to say go easy on the guy Holly, but the unavoidable fact is that you're absolutely right and perhaps the best thing for him is to hear the plain truth  :mellow:

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I have become very attracted to several girls over the years and luckily have been able to see some of them away from their work situation and acting like everyday friends.

 

While some of them I really really liked, I am 'fortunate' in that I just walk away from friendships in all spheres of my life so it is easier when the lady leaves my life as I would have left hers anyway.

 

So I only really get involved in crushes, I suppose, and there is always another SP coming along that I find I make something closer than a professional friendship with.

 

I think it must be very difficult to get a fully developed attraction to an SP such as being described so I guess my immature inability to form proper normal relationships has saved me from myself.

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agree with Bibi and Lydia.  You have to avoid developing a White Knight complex.  These ladies are in the profession through choice - they're not damsels in distress that need rescuing.  I believe, although obviously can't really know, that many escorts find the life empowering in a way that other jobs simply wouldn't be.

 

As for not putting on an act, well sorry to be brutal but not only is she, but an hour after you've left she's putting on the same act with someone else.  It's her job.

 

I don't mean to sound harsh but I believe these are the cold facts and  you need to come to terms with them

 

Good luck anyway  :)

Good post.

 

I'd echo those thoughts and would also stress too that she's simply putting on an 'act', for the duration of your booking. To put it bluntly, she's sucking the cock of the next punter too and the one after that. I think once the reality of that sinks in, he'll perhaps see things differently.

 

The girl is just doing her job well, by making him feel good. The white knight mentality is a dangerous thing. Many a damaged soul through that path, including I suspect, some on here. I don't think punting is for him.

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Good post.

 

I'd echo those thoughts and would also stress too that she's simply putting on an 'act', for the duration of your booking. To put it bluntly, she's sucking the cock of the next punter too and the one after that. I think once the reality of that sinks in, he'll perhaps see things differently.

 

The girl is just doing her job well, by making him feel good. The white knight mentality is a dangerous thing. Many a damaged soul through that path, including I suspect, some on here. I don't think punting is for him.

 

At last something we agree on.

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I was going to say go easy on the guy Holly, but the unavoidable fact is that you're absolutely right and perhaps the best thing for him is to hear the plain truth  :mellow:

 

Well I can't believe everyone was being so nice when there is an innocent *the girlfriend* involved..... 

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