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Losing Your Virginity To A Punt?

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One of my friends is a few years younger than I am, and is 23. The topic of punting came up, and he mentioned he's never tried it. I strongly recommended it - good experience, saves a lot of time scouting for girls, you become the chooser rather than the chosen, etc. He got quite excited about it, and said he was going to do it. But then he mentioned he's a virgin. And I thought 'well, you should probably think twice, how is tit going to feel when you're 50 and you know you've lost your virginity to someone you paid for, rather than someone who cared about you and who you trusted?'

 

But then, I've always been a bit of a romantic. It's none of my business , of course, what he chooses to do, but I don't want to unnecessarily talk him down, or up. Have any of you lost your virginity to a punt? How do you feel now about it? Would you prefer to have lost it to a girlfriend?

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One of my friends is a few years younger than I am, and is 23. The topic of punting came up, and he mentioned he's never tried it. I strongly recommended it - good experience, saves a lot of time scouting for girls, you become the chooser rather than the chosen, etc. He got quite excited about it, and said he was going to do it. But then he mentioned he's a virgin. And I thought 'well, you should probably think twice, how is tit going to feel when you're 50 and you know you've lost your virginity to someone you paid for, rather than someone who cared about you and who you trusted?'

 

But then, I've always been a bit of a romantic. It's none of my business , of course, what he chooses to do, but I don't want to unnecessarily talk him down, or up. Have any of you lost your virginity to a punt? How do you feel now about it? Would you prefer to have lost it to a girlfriend?

Check out the posts from nntt.

 

David Niven lost his to a prostitute.

 

My thoughts: if he chooses carefully, and I'd suggest an indie, it could work, but even then might give him a biased view of what happens when one has sex.

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If you do look back like this at your first time,  you will quite probably wince at the awfulness of the girl you had at the time.

 

If it was a WG you will probably have better memories.

 

This has a long tradition and is probably a good idea.

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Will do; thanks. Curious why the suggestion about an indie? Not trying to challenge you; it's just that my experience with agency girls has been very similar, but I think that's probably mainly because I make it clear from the outset what I like, don't like, etc, and they just take their lead from me. I imagine he probably won't be as forthright!

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I lost my virginity to a woman I ended up married to. I sure wish i'd found punting first now :lol:

 

More seriously though, he needs to have a good think about his morals over this. As said, he could end up regretting paying for it first for the rest of his life. But on the other side, getting the "virginity" deal over with may make him relax more about getting a real girlfriend rather than trying to chat up a woman to lose his virginity.

 

Tricky scenario.

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I'm not sure how much romanticism comes into people losing their virginity. I'd say only a tiny percentage of people stay with or marry a partner for life that they lose their virginity to.

I wonder how many actually remember with any fondness their first time if it was in a none paid way and how different it actually is to see an escort? If cost is the factor, well I'm sure dating etc does also cost. And is everyone madly in love when they lose their virginity as I suspect many people are young and not sure of their feelings or even worse may be drunk or carefree, etc. Whether you see an escort or not I guess you can equally make bad choices.

So I tend not to go down the route of "what will I think when I'm 50" because I'm sure I would have felt worse had I been smashed and lost it in a nightclub toilets or something weird like that, not that I would have actually been at a nightclub you understand!

I will say it is down to the individual though. I don't see a greatly different moral choice to see an escort whether it is your first time or otherwise, but you should be aware of the emotional choice which I do think is different, but that clearly varies person to person. I'd say 23 is still young, but I guess some people lose their virginity in their early teens so may see 23 as late, it's just down to the individual to make the choice at the right time for them.
 

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I'm not sure how much romanticism comes into people losing their virginity. I'd say only a tiny percentage of people stay with or marry a partner for life that they lose their virginity to.

I wonder how many actually remember with any fondness their first time if it was in a none paid way and how different it actually is to see an escort? If cost is the factor, well I'm sure dating etc does also cost. And is everyone madly in love when they lose their virginity as I suspect many people are young and not sure of their feelings or even worse may be drunk or carefree, etc. Whether you see an escort or not I guess you can equally make bad choices.

So I tend not to go down the route of "what will I think when I'm 50" because I'm sure I would have felt worse had I been smashed and lost it in a nightclub toilets or something weird like that, not that I would have actually been at a nightclub you understand!

I will say it is down to the individual though. I don't see a greatly different moral choice to see an escort whether it is your first time or otherwise, but you should be aware of the emotional choice which I do think is different, but that clearly varies person to person. I'd say 23 is still young, but I guess some people lose their virginity in their early teens so may see 23 as late, it's just down to the individual to make the choice at the right time for them.

 

 

Too much. Losing my virginity was only memorable for the fact I lost it.  As a sexual experience I definitely would not want to relive it.  I don't know about others but I suspect the same is true for many men and women.  That being so, losing it to an escort is probably as good a way as any other - and at least one of you will know what they're doing

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I'm not sure how much romanticism comes into people losing their virginity. I'd say only a tiny percentage of people stay with or marry a partner for life that they lose their virginity to.

I wonder how many actually remember with any fondness their first time if it was in a none paid way and how different it actually is to see an escort? If cost is the factor, well I'm sure dating etc does also cost. And is everyone madly in love when they lose their virginity as I suspect many people are young and not sure of their feelings or even worse may be drunk or carefree, etc. Whether you see an escort or not I guess you can equally make bad choices.

So I tend not to go down the route of "what will I think when I'm 50" because I'm sure I would have felt worse had I been smashed and lost it in a nightclub toilets or something weird like that, not that I would have actually been at a nightclub you understand!

I will say it is down to the individual though. I don't see a greatly different moral choice to see an escort whether it is your first time or otherwise, but you should be aware of the emotional choice which I do think is different, but that clearly varies person to person. I'd say 23 is still young, but I guess some people lose their virginity in their early teens so may see 23 as late, it's just down to the individual to make the choice at the right time for them.

 

Hello again nntt. Nice to see you back and I hope you didn't mind me referring to you.

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I have seen a couple of virgins this year

when i carefully ask why they chose an escort the answer was simple

 

"they know what there doing so can guide me" :)

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Am not quite sure what the big deal about virginity is. The most important thing is to lose the damn thing so u dont feel like a social misfit. 23 is pretty l8 in life 2 stil b a virgin n a WG is the easiest n best way 2 so something about it.

 

The only thing that losing your viriginity to a WG can do is increse your confidence :D

 

I wonder how many (non-WG) girls lose their virginity in a punt.

 

I would b responsible 4 a few of them :ph34r:

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More seriously though, he needs to have a good think about his morals over this. As said, he could end up regretting paying for it first for the rest of his life. But on the other side, getting the "virginity" deal over with may make him relax more about getting a real girlfriend rather than trying to chat up a woman to lose his virginity.

 

Tricky scenario.

 

^this, and I agree it is tricky.

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I have seen a couple of virgins this year

when i carefully ask why they chose an escort the answer was simple

 

"they know what there doing so can guide me" :)

 

Q1) Did they say how old?

Q2) How long did you spend with them?

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If your friend is ugly then I suggest a punt. I lost my to the street scene when I was 26 and I was devastated. However now I can't even remember the deed. I'm glad I did it now because my drive was so high I couldn't converse with women without the member getting in the way. Now what I would give for a tenth of that drive. :eek:

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Q1) Did they say how old?

Q2) How long did you spend with them?

in there early twentys

both were two hour bookings

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I've seen a handful of virgins- most usually have the attitude that they just want to be 'rid' of their virginity and feel it would give them confidence in the future with women.

 

I like seeing virgins, I feel all warm and glowy when the deed is done and like the fact they will probably remember me for a long time.

 

I would advise a first timer to research a bit and find someone well reviewed and established. Not saying new girls wouldn't be great at this, but I think for a first timer it's worth not running the risk of selecting someone who isn't great or works from a dodgy environment or something else that will intensify his nerves or cause him to bottle it!   Taking riskier punts is for further down the line in a man's punting career I think! Make sure he can speak to the woman in advance to to help sooth any nerves and be able to explain directly the position he is in. 

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I did it that way with a large black lady.

 

Looking back it was quite a perfunctory event but ushered the elephant out of the room and when not long after I was involved in my first proper relationship, it was good to have gained some experience.

 

Without porn or much else in those days, there was I guess the chance of not knowing something rather fundamental and err screwing up.

 

So no regrets.

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I remember reading somewhere that in France many a father would take his son to an escort for their first sexual experience. I got the impression that it was a practice that was quite wide spread.

 

Maybe the French are more pragmatic in these matters.

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I lost mine to a working girl and regret it - though it was back in the 90s, and due to the lack of the internet / knowledge of the sex industry in general, it was in a Soho walk up, and was a cold and mechanical situation (though the lass in question was perfectly pleasant) - but it gave me a very negative (and false) reaction to sex, I couldn't believe that's what all the fuss was about and was very disappointed in general.

 

I'd suggest your friend waits a few years, and tries to build up his confidence with women in real life. Be it putting himself in situations where he meets them naturally (a book club, perhaps, or some other hobby?) or via work, etc.

 

That all said, I've a friend who's 38 and is still a virgin, and all of us think he should just hire an escort and get it out of the way once and for all.

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I've had a number of clients who were virgins and they're all doing it for the same reason - to 'get it out of the way'.

I don't really understand why it's seen as such a burden for a young man, given it's not likely to hurt or cause them any trauma the way it might most women. Strangely enough all of them have have been fairly attractive young men and could easily have gotten laid on any Saturday night out.

But I only see virgin clients it they're willing to book at least 2 hours, I don't think it's ideal to lose your virginity in 30 mins to someone you haven't had a conversation with. We usually have a drink and chat and some drawn out foreplay - because really, if you're just going to bang it out and leave what did you learn or gain anyway? That's not going to help you next time.

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I lost mine to a working girl and regret it - though it was back in the 90s, and due to the lack of the internet / knowledge of the sex industry in general, it was in a Soho walk up, and was a cold and mechanical situation (though the lass in question was perfectly pleasant) - but it gave me a very negative (and false) reaction to sex, I couldn't believe that's what all the fuss was about and was very disappointed in general.

 

I'd suggest your friend waits a few years, and tries to build up his confidence with women in real life. Be it putting himself in situations where he meets them naturally (a book club, perhaps, or some other hobby?) or via work, etc.

 

That all said, I've a friend who's 38 and is still a virgin, and all of us think he should just hire an escort and get it out of the way once and for all.

 

 

I still remember vividly - more than 30 years later - a bloke who was in this situation - he was the brother of a girlfriend of mine. He had been brought up in a very strict RC family, and as the only male offspring seemed to have had these ideals instilled into him in a way his sisters had escaped.

He was just so frustrated it was palpable - a frustration that merged into a generalized depression, and taking the working-girl way would have beem just unthinkable for him. I've often wondered what happened to him in the end.

That said, my girlfriend once told me she was convinced men could handle virginity (or abstinence) better than women. She spoke from her experience of being educated by nuns, most of whom she thought were complete freaks. Whereas men (or some men), she thought, could find ways of channelling that need in other non-sexual channels.

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I lost mine to a wg, didnt have a clue what I was doing but was fun I can say ;)

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I've had a number of clients who were virgins and they're all doing it for the same reason - to 'get it out of the way'.

I don't really understand why it's seen as such a burden for a young man, given it's not likely to hurt or cause them any trauma the way it might most women. Strangely enough all of them have have been fairly attractive young men and could easily have gotten laid on any Saturday night out.

But I only see virgin clients it they're willing to book at least 2 hours, I don't think it's ideal to lose your virginity in 30 mins to someone you haven't had a conversation with. We usually have a drink and chat and some drawn out foreplay - because really, if you're just going to bang it out and leave what did you learn or gain anyway? That's not going to help you next time.

 

I think the highlighted point boils down to gender roles, cultural influences and how humans interact. I actually think society in the past and as it stands, rightly or wrongly, actually puts far more burden on a male to be experienced than a female.

 

I guess you could apply the same point as regards say why is cosmetic surgery on the rise, why do so many ladies have breast augmentation, for example. It comes down to a range of cultural factors which yes men are also subject to, but in different areas.

 

As for the trauma aspect, well if you accept humans are social creatures, a void in that area is always likely to have a mental impact. I think anyone distressed because of a situation or something holding them back can be subject to a depression and that is certainly an illness which causes trauma.

 

I think the belief that all virgins are fat ugly people is as defunct as the belief all working ladies are desperate drug addicts, the reality on both is very much different. Indeed, one could argue, to some degree, what role does attractiveness have to some relationships, look at the average footballer and then his girlfriend, for example, and you may not see a strong correlation! :)

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I lost mine that way - I would like to have had it first time out in a mutual loving relataionship - but as I never - to this day - had any such thing - it makes no difference to me.

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I lost my virginity to a girlfriend (I was 19 and she was 17 and not a virgin) and the only things which made it memorable were:

 

1. She convinced me the condom had come off inside of her (she actually pulled it off as I withdrew and I hadn't noticed) - she kept that charade up for about a week.

2. That my bed squeaked and my parents and sister heard me

3. She asked me 'Did I want to fuck?' before hand

 

as for the actual sex I can't remember anything about it. Not the most romantic first time but now, 8 years away from 50, I don't really care - in fact it makes me laugh looking back on it.

 

If your friend wants to lose it to a WG then why not? Who knows what they'll be thinking when they hit 50. I've never really understood the whole 'romantic love' thing around virginity - it's sex.

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I remember mine clear as day. She took the lead. I remember slipping into something wonderfully warm and incredibly slippery that completely enveloped my cock (no condom - long ago) in a grip that I could never have imagined. It was also the only time I came 4 times in an hour. Also I found out a few weeks later she had a way of pressing her thumbs into your plevis that made you get hard again whether you wanted to or not.

 

I think an experienced Indie who is happy to see virgins would be a better shot than a fumble with someone who might not enjoy the experience specially if she is a virgin too. It could put you off if it goes wrong.

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