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Long Term Punting Relationships / Regulars

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I wondered about peoples experiences with very long term regulars and how common this was.

I've been seeing the same girl for over a year now and its a new experience for me getting to know a WG so well.

Its great from a sex point of view but tough emotionally after seeing the same girl so many times and getting to knew her so well. I know its business but its a tricky line to walk!

What have your experiences been? Is it always a good idea to curtail long term arrangements to avoid feelings creeping in, or can they run for years?

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I wondered about peoples experiences with very long term regulars and how common this was.

I've been seeing the same girl for over a year now and its a new experience for me getting to know a WG so well.

Its great from a sex point of view but tough emotionally after seeing the same girl so many times and getting to knew her so well. I know its business but its a tricky line to walk!

What have your experiences been? Is it always a good idea to curtail long term arrangements to avoid feelings creeping in, or can they run for years?

 

 

You have to give yourself a good talking to and remind yourself you are a punter and she is a WG.

 

see other WG's too. 

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Varies. I once saw same girl for a couple of years or so and became vey fond of her then she disappeared. Devastation

Currently I'm seeming from time to time the same lady now for at least three years and we both love each others company and the sex is terrific but we both keep to the proper boundaries and I can't see it ever becoming a problem

You just need to take care

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Oh yes as CP says, see other girls

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You have to give yourself a good talking to and remind yourself you are a punter and she is a WG.

 

see other WG's too. 

 

This is such good advice: however well you get on with a regular you need to remind yourself that this is all temporary and could end at any time. There is more chance of a healthy longer-term relationship developing if you are seeing other WGs as well in order to avoid a sense of exclusivity which may well become stifling eventually.

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I wondered about peoples experiences with very long term regulars and how common this was.

I've been seeing the same girl for over a year now and its a new experience for me getting to know a WG so well.

Its great from a sex point of view but tough emotionally after seeing the same girl so many times and getting to knew her so well. I know its business but its a tricky line to walk!

What have your experiences been? Is it always a good idea to curtail long term arrangements to avoid feelings creeping in, or can they run for years?

Always good to find and punt with a great regular, i always get bored sooner or later though so at a 121 punt its doubtful i will still be punting with a WG after a year nowadays.

 

It can be tough emotionally in my experiences but best to not cross the boundaries for me, although thats not to say becoming friendly isnt going to happen, i just know its paid sex and try not to blur the lines of that. I know punters who have had regulars for years so it can work.

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Always good to find and punt with a great regular, i always get bored sooner or later though so at a 121 punt its doubtful i will still be punting with a WG after a year nowadays.

 

It can be tough emotionally in my experiences but best to not cross the boundaries for me, although thats not to say becoming friendly isnt going to happen, i just know its paid sex and try not to blur the lines of that. I know punters who have had regulars for years so it can work.

 

depends on what yo mean by a regular.

 

what about a punter seeing girls once a month but sees one girl every 6 months.  Is that a reg?

 

I have 4 or 5 girls i see, but not that often, and i see others in between

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Always good to find and punt with a great regular, i always get bored sooner or later though so at a 121 punt its doubtful i will still be punting with a WG after a year nowadays.

 

It can be tough emotionally in my experiences but best to not cross the boundaries for me, although thats not to say becoming friendly isnt going to happen, i just know its paid sex and try not to blur the lines of that. I know punters who have had regulars for years so it can work.

 

As Smiths says there are punters who have regulars for years so it can work. I am one of those. My regular lady I have known and visited for over eight years. For five of those years I followed the principle of safety in numbers and punted with many other ladies. However for the last three years I have only visited her. I do not have any feeling of exclusivity except to the extent that I know she now only sees her regulars (only working 2 days week). We both know the others private circumstances including home addresses. We regard each other as friends in a P4P relationship - maybe the 45 year age difference helps. We have discussed it and come to the conclusion that it works for us. 

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I have been seeing several clients for well over 12 months, try 2,3,4 and 5 years. I find if there's going to be any confusion of feelings it happens within the first couple of bookings, first few months, perhaps up to a year by which time I'll have confronted it and sorted it out.

 

There was one exception to this, the line was crossed after a few years but that was definitely a special relationship, a one off.

 

With time it's inevitable some bonds form, however remembering it's a no-strings arrangement that is kept within the booked time means it can be enjoyed to the max without causing any harm or hurt to each other. 

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With time it's inevitable some bonds form, however remembering it's a no-strings arrangement that is kept within the booked time means it can be enjoyed to the max without causing any harm or hurt to each other. 

 

I completely agree.  I have been seeing the same WG for almost 3 years.  The sex is great and we are friends and have exchanged confidences - but within the clear limit of my booked time - without trying to take advantage of one another in any way.  

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Thanks for the interesting responses.

I think you sum it up that its inevitable that some bonds form.

I'm an experienced punter so I won't fall for her, but it leaves you in a weird place caring very much about someone who you have sex with regularly! If she retired I would be gutted, though that is always a possibility.

I do see other girls but even purely on the sex side she is miles better than anyone else. This is partly why I raised the question as I was thinking about solely seeing her. Sounds like a bad idea though!

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This is such good advice: however well you get on with a regular you need to remind yourself that this is all temporary and could end at any time. There is more chance of a healthy longer-term relationship developing if you are seeing other WGs as well in order to avoid a sense of exclusivity which may well become stifling eventually.

Yes. It needs to be 'mixed up' a little, in my opinion. Ultimately, I'm sure the aim of a lot of girls must be to establish a regular punter base. I totally understand this and would do the same. I have found that this natural desire in many girls I punt can often conflict with my desire to yes, have regular girls, but often as reliable Plan B's because I enjoy the variety. Not always my modus, of course, but quite often.

Friendly with each other, but not friends. Candid on some things, but no crossing of boundaries. It isn't fair to either party as special relationships can and do happen. I find it easier when I remind myself why I chose to punt and why the girl chose to become a prostitute. Nothing to do with misplaced opinions but a good cold, hard dose of reality works for me.

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I agree with the previous advice of mixing it up and seeing other girls. I have a panel of about 4 girls who I rotate on a regular basis. When I get board - I drop one of the girls and bring a new one onto the panel. I've done this for the past 4 years and it works well. That said, one girl has been on that panel for about all of that time and I see her on average 3 times a month. I know her pretty well now as you can imagine, but the relationship is kept pretty professional - she gave me a free half hour on one occasion when I was down about work to cheer me up, but other than that I don't really think too much about her when I'm not in a punting mindset.

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see other girls, it is just sex

 

Its one of the benefits of punting.  Your reg wont care if you see other girls, she is not a gf.

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Some guys can handle long term regulars and some can't. The OP is an experienced punter so will, deep down, know what end of the spectrum he sits on. I have been seeing two ladies for years now, not hugely often (4 or 5 times a year) and it works brilliantly. I see other girls as well, sometimes lots. There again, I am not in this for companionship, although I enjoy visits with ladies who I click with.

My advice to the OP is that if he feels he is becoming too attcahed, to give it a break for a while and come back to the lady in a few months time. If everything is manageable, just keep your feet on the ground, remind yourself she is very good at her job and carry on as usual.

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I have had a lot of quite long-term regulars and enjoy the getting to know, relaxed situation when meeting not to punt and so on.

 

One such friendship lasted 20 years off and on.

 

I can get a bit clingy in my mind but not in how I behave with any of them and I am well used to them disappearing now.

 

Fortunately there's always others making friends with is fun.

 

Yes there can be dangers but after so long with being like this and girls seemingly liking it too, I am hopefully on top of my emotions and am not ever involved in laying out money over and above the session money.

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Ended up sharing a flat with my favourite Dom mistress , once we lived in the same flat we just became friends and stopped sessions , a sort of perfect relationship , i never raised an eyebrow , she never judged my predilictions . I went home at the weekend to my wife and all was well.

Happy days ...

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I am looking forward to seeing a girl next week, that I first met in 2004, but have not seen many times since. That's how i like it, I had girls I saw regularly earlier in my punting career, but I have now decided that the first time is often the best and if you leave sufficient gap the encounter goes back to being like a first time again. I know only one exception where the girl has been equaly randy and inventive every time, but for others the intensity drops a bit.

 

I suspect the first time might be special for some of the ladies I have seen as well.

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I suspect the first time might be special for some of the ladies I have seen as well.

Judging from the guffaws of laughter from behind the door as I leave, I am sure I am in the same category :D.

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Judging from the guffaws of laughter from behind the door as I leave, I am sure I am in the same category :D.

Good one KK. :D

 

In my limited experience I think that there are big variations with how you may experience a regular.  Most regulars are just healthy relationships built on a mutual understanding that you can enjoy each others company without it going beyond a purely commercial relationship.  A pleasurable hour or so that is good enough to want to repeat on a frequent basis.

 

There are then those rarer occasions when it becomes somewhat more than this.  There are no rules, or universal laws that dictate what can happen between two adults in an intimate setting, now matter how much some will argue that they know better.

 

I currently have three girls I would class as regulars. 

 

Two of these are just about spending a very pleasant time with girls who seem to feel very comfortable with my company and with whom I can genuinely relax and chill out. 

 

The other regular goes a bit beyond this, but is a rarer situation in that she has left the profession to all intents and purposes, but we still meet once or twice a month and somehow every time we meet we can still push at new boundaries.  I consider her more of a 'paid for girlfriend' than an escort now.  We know more and more about each others' lives as time goes on, but somehow we still manage to maintain both a sense of affection towards each other and a commercial detachment at the same time.  An experience I find unique in my life and quite enthralling. <_<

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For me I have found that the sex is always better with repeat visits to the same lady.

Some of which is down to me being more relaxed having known the lady and premises previously and perhaps her knowning what I enjoy.

 

As such I tend to see a small group of ladies, broadly to ensure that when the need takes at least one is available

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Agree with the above Jules. I have seen a few regulars this week and we are pushing each others boundaries (in a good way) as we learn what we each like.

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I am quite happy seeing a particular WG on a regular basis. When the sex is good and raunchy, the limits pushed a little now and then, new sensations and scenarios explored and discovered it all adds to the experience. This stems from knowing each other as people. In a way it can be inevitable that two people sharing the most intimate activity together become close. There are boundaries and provided these are clear, openly discussed and respected then game on !

I have been seeing the same WG for nearly two years now with very few exceptions in the meantime. She knows about them just as much as I am aware that having sex with other men is her profession, but that hasn't detracted from the fact we share share many common likes and dislikes and have become friends.

I am more than happy for things to continue in a like manner as we are both grown-ups with no illusions or hang-ups. The fact that the sex is also incredible is a more than welcome bonus for us both.

It can be a brilliant journey if you accept it for what it is.

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For me I have found that the sex is always better with repeat visits to the same lady.

Some of which is down to me being more relaxed having known the lady and premises previously and perhaps her knowing what I enjoy.

 

I agree totally with this, but have found very few among the Asian escorts whom I want to see over and over.  In fact, in the past decade, there have only been two whom I saw more than 4-5 times.   Furthermore, as they only tend to stay for a couple of years (or less), long term relationships such as some noted above are simply not on the cards....and we Asian devotees know it from the outset.  So, it is perhaps less of an issue and we simply enjoy it while it lasts.

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